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[zodiactalks]

How Much Zodiac Girlfriend CARE for PARTNER’S FEELINGS?

You’ve just started going on a few dates with a beautiful woman. She seems everything you’ve ever dreamed of, and you’re starting to feel like it’s a little too good to be true. What if she doesn’t care about your feelings?

What if she’s only in it for the free dinners, the presents, or the prestige of dating you? You can find out a lot about how caring she’ll be about how you feel by her Zodiac sign, so just ask her when her birthday is and you’ll know everything you need to know.

Aries

To put it plainly, Aries women only care about themselves. They are too egotistical to look beyond their own interests and understand that their partner has feelings too, and that they should consider them before making a decision. They are quick to act.

They might be so rash so as not to stop and consider how their actions may affect their partner. They have good qualities for sure. They are strong and independent and won’t require much hand holding. But if you’re looking for someone nurturing and caring, you’re better off looking elsewhere.

Level 1/10

Taurus

Taurus women have in their favor how grounded they are. They pay a lot of attention to the facts and tend not to make assumptions about what you feel. They stay present and they will consider your feelings as a factor.

They are slow when making a decision and they will definitely take you into account. They get a few points off for how stubborn they are. If they get attached to an idea, they will get their way no matter what. How that makes you feel will be totally irrelevant.

Level 6/10

Gemini

Gemini women can be pretty careless about their partners’ feelings, sometimes to the point of being unintentionally cruel. They care more about thoughts and logic than about feelings. To be fair, it’s not personal, they don’t even place that much stock on their own feelings.

But their lack of emotional intelligence and empathy can certainly be a recipe for disaster. If you still want to date her, take into account that you’ll have to be patient with this aspect of the relationship. Pay attention to whether she’s receptive to learning and growing. If she insists that logic is always the way to go, perhaps it’s better if you part ways.

Level 1/10

Cancer

Cancer women are among the most caring and nurturing of the Zodiac. Not only will she care about your feelings, she will sense them from a mile away. You’ll feel emotionally looked after like you’ve never been in your whole life. She will think about how every little action or word of hers might make you feel.

She’ll know when she offends you without you even having to tell her, and she’ll constantly communicate about both your feelings and hers, so the relationship can be solid and no party ever gets slighted. Honestly, she’s a catch. She’ll make an excellent partner who will stick with you through thick and thin.

Level 10/10

Leo

Leo is another rather selfish sign. They are all about their own emotions and expressing them, and they’ll expect you to be the epitome of a caring and empathetic partner, but there are double standards here, and the same rule doesn’t always apply to themselves.

They are not completely helpless, however – they will encourage you to express your own emotions in an assertive way, and they’ll teach you to express yourself in more efficient ways.

Level 4/10

Virgo

Virgo women are very devoted to their partners, to the point that they put their wellbeing first. They pay a lot of attention to how you feel and how they made you feel. They will often even take responsibility for your emotions when they’re not at fault at all.

They’re absolutely selfless and they’ll do anything to lift up your mood if you’re sad. It doesn’t get more caring than this. Virgo women are amazing partners, and you’ll never be alone when it comes to processing your emotions if you are partnered up with a Virgo.

Level 10/10

Libra

If you’re upset, Libra will be desperate to make you feel better. They can’t stand being the cause of someone’s despair, especially their partner. Keeping you happy is one of their number 1 priorities, to the point that they’ll feel responsible if you’re sad because your boss is disappointed in you.

They will work hard not to ever hurt their feelings. They will be quick to apologize if they do. They are also all about diffusing the tension with humor. They will put you first, sometimes to their own detriment.

Level 9/10

Scorpio

One of Scorpio’s priorities is your emotions. Their ideal relationship is one where both parties are deeply interconnected emotionally. They always know how you feel just by being in your presence or by the tone of your texts. They understand that making you feel comfortable when it comes to feelings is the key to your heart.

They do get a point off because they might use their high emotional intelligence to purposefully hurt you. If they feel like you’ve wronged them, it’ll matter to them that you end up feeling as poorly as they did.

Level 9/10

Sagittarius

Sagittarius women are too wrapped up in their own adventures to notice how you feel. They are not emotionally illiterate, but you’ll have to remind her to consider that factor, as their mind is elsewhere.

If she doesn’t receive any guidance or feedback from their partners, they’ll act as if emotions don’t exist at all. They are teachable, but their emotions lie elsewhere.

Level 1/10

Capricorn

Your emotions (and their own, for that matter) might not even make the top 10 of Capricorn’s priorities in a relationship. Both of your careers, financial standing, success, ambition, and dreams precede emotions.

How you feel is just an afterthought for them. They might even judge you if you are too emotional, to the point that your emotions are starting to get in the way of your performance at work or university.

Level 3/10

Aquarius

Aquarius women rationalize their emotions and they have a hard time feeling them themselves. Asking them to take into account the emotions of their partners might be too much to ask. It’s not that they don’t want to, it’s that emotions are like a foreign language to them, one that they aren’t 100% fluent in.

They get one extra point for having good intentions, but they are honestly disastrous when it comes to taking into account the emotions of their partners. If you need a caring girlfriend who’s also rational, might we suggest a Virgo woman instead?

Level 2/10

Pisces

Pisces is one of the most empathetic signs of the Zodiac. They absorb your emotions like sponges. If you experience negative emotions for too long, they’ll end up exhausted, and they might need space. They care about your emotions because they can affect them, both negatively and positively.

The thing is that they might seek their own self-preservation if your suffering is too great. They also tend to be rather scatter-brained and live in the clouds, and they might miss a few of your emotional clues just because they didn’t pay enough attention.

Level 7/10

Do you agree with our list or would you change a score or two?

Tell us in the comments!

Is it important for you to have a partner who cares about your feelings, like a Cancer or a Virgo, or can you compromise and have a partner that prioritizes other things, like a Capricorn?

We look forward to reading what you have to say.

[yallalreadyknowitsunderale]

Stupid Rambling/theory I guess

Kris and their Soul

Something that I don’t think I’ve ever seen discussed when analyzing Kris’ behavior in deltarune is that, when Kris removes their soul from their body, they gain full control of their body yes, but it might be at the expense of their compassion

What if, when Kris is soulless, we assume that they are similar to Flowey in Undertale. They are incapable of feeling (or find it extremely difficult to feel) compassion for others. The rules might work differently, but the soul is still referred to as “the font of our compassion” in Deltarune’s world (although in context this is just speculation, not a hard fact)

That’s not to say Kris is a bad person, I think it’s the exact opposite. I think Kris is inherently good natured, but I think a lot of their more out there behavior might make more sense if you consider the idea that some of those decisions might have been made when they lacked their soul.

I think a good example is the intermission between Chapters 1 and 2

In between Chapters 1 and 2, Kris remorselessly eats the entire pie that Toriel left out to cool for them to share

But then, not even ten seconds later, if you make Kris take five dollars out of Asriel’s dresser drawer, five dollars that have probably been sitting there for months and clearly doesn’t mean all that much, Kris feels so bad about it that the language makes explicit that they are reluctant to do this and intend to pay Asriel back

But then, Kris later slashes the tires on Toriel’s car.

The key difference between these 3 actions though, is whether or not Kris is in possession of their soul

We don’t know why or how Kris knows what to do when they remove their soul, but a common theme is that the actions they take are actions that require a lack of compassion. Kris is not the kind of person who would slash their mother’s tires under normal circumstances, but if they are incapable of caring, that changes.

And I think this logic can apply to other strange things about Kris’ behavior.

My personal belief at current is that Kris, for some reason, has been living without a soul for a very long time. Maybe their entire life prior to Deltarune.

Noelle, despite being so close to Kris that they know each other better than anybody, repeatedly comments that she doesn’t even know if she and Kris are even friends.

Kris has apparently never even said it out LOUD before

Without a soul, maybe Kris was just unable to understand why that would be important to mention. Maybe because of their lack of a soul, despite how close the two became, Kris could never truly connect with Noelle on an emotional level. They couldn’t FEEL for her, no matter how much they tried.

Kris is also repeatedly surprised whenever Susie assumes that they don’t like her.

Kris is never scared of Susie’s threats, and might have just assumed they were playing around.

Kris might have not even realized that Susie was trying to hurt them. If they’re the kind of person who has trouble feeling or understanding empathy (without their soul, I mean) Susie’s words might not have had any impact on them. They just. Didn’t understand. They COULDN’T understand.

At the end of chapter 2’s weird route, the thing that Noelle distinctly points out as the most abnormal thing about Kris’ behavior is that they keep visiting her dad in the hospital. Rudy himself is surprised that Kris came to visit him in the hospital.

It’s not as if Kris never visits the hospital, they do, very often in fact, to play the shitty piano

It is specifically going out of their way to see Rudy that’s strange. And I think it could be inferred that it’s strange for Kris to do this because that is an act of pure compassion.

Kris might just not have been able to understand why it would be important to visit Rudy in the hospital.

Before chapter 1, Kris seemingly doesn’t talk to anybody other than their mom, they don’t do much of anything except go to school and come back home, they don’t really have any friends, their side of the room is completely empty, not from neglect by their family but because Kris seemingly didn’t care to have anything at all.

A lot of people have wondered why Kris’ actions at the end of a normal and weird route are the same despite Kris clearly being horrified and afraid of the player’s actions, and I think the explanation is right there. They remove their soul before they take those actions. They have removed the part of themself that feels these things.

And I think Kris is slowly realizing that they don’t want to live this way anymore.

In Chapter 1, Kris is repeatedly described as looking bored, or like they don’t care. Their dialogue options are incredibly basic at best and distinctly annoyed sounding at worst. They give off the impression that they want all of this to be over as soon as possible.

But in Chapter 2, their responses are starting to become more playful, they’re becoming more personally expressive, they’re enjoying the time they’re spending with their friends.

And I don’t think Kris wants to have to choose between their compassion and their autonomy.

I think it’s important to remember that Flowey was initially so depressed from his inability to love or care about anybody that he tried to erase himself from the world.

I think this is one of the things that’s so scary for Kris. It’s not just about control, it’s about becoming whole again.

[kuruk]

i think half (not exaggerating) of the people here have never been in a relationship so that's why the results of any relationship poll are always a bit skewed. nothing wrong with that ofc but I've noticed people answering these questions as if they are some kind of logical problems and not something that's mostly irrational urges and feelings

that's true and like yeah nothing wrong with that, I did see that a lot of responses seemed to be from an outsider's point of view and separated from any emotion which makes sense as to why they were quick to judge people for not having the same "logically right" answer. able to see it as objective because they just have never dealt with actually applying that and realizing relationships aren't as straightforward and perfect as you would think they're "supposed" to be based on what you've read from like tumblr posts highlighting what a healthy relationship is..

like if you've never dealt with embarrassing or ugly emotions it's easy to see it as kind of formulaic. because a lot of people responded to the wrong question and instead answered about a different issue on a wider societal scale rather than even remembering to ask themselves what they personally feel like not even addressing their own emotions and for some it almost seems forced because they already have a correct answer in their heads and they're afraid of the deterioration of their own self image as seen by others and it would have them question their worthiness to be loved lol. like I saw some people call themselves crazy and insecure for having a boundary that I've known literally tons of offline straight women to also have like sorry... and that's *without* paying for it..

actually not even just that they were like "I don't care about porn but if my partner was directly privately sexting an e-girl that obviously isn't cheating but I think I'd be a little sad because I'm too jealous and insecure and irrational.." Like I think it's probably normal for plenty of couples to be open about porn and include it in their sex lives and I don't think that there's something seriously abnormal about the people who want that but on a wider scale I think some people are too scared to even confront whether that's their wish as well and they don't address the emotions that would get them labeled negatively. I know most people in our tumblr circles here are gay but this feels like it has a lot to do with misogyny sorry help like I've seen a lot of straight and bisexual women trick themselves into thinking they're too crazy because their boyfriend is just devoid of such empathy so they drive themselves crazy thinking they're just being hysterical no matter the level of maturity that they've handled it with. which to be fair I'm sure handling it maturely is more difficult in the first place if even the emotions alone are considered wrong. like experiencing feelings that already affect your self worth obviously get harder to manage when by even having those feelings you are now considered part of a group of undesirable and unreasonable women. so yeahs

[beansprean]

Your post about Nandor and alexthymia actually goes with a theory that I've been thinking about. The theory is that ALL vampires, when they are turned, lose their empathy, along with outgrowths of it, like theory of mind and understanding of emotion in general. This lack mostly applies to humans, but it can also extend to vampires.

Throughout the show (and a lot of the movie), all the vampires have trouble fitting into society. Not because of their fangs or grey skin, but because they are painfully socially awkward. Vampires not only flout social norms, but also seem to be unaware of them. You can see this with Nandor at the gym. He doesn't pick up on modern gym norms, and instead enacts the norms from when he was human.

That's one of their methods for fitting into society without theory of mind. When they turned into vampires, they lost the ability to pick up on human social cues, so they think back to when they did have them, and instead of remembering the way they read humans, they simply remember the rules. They don't feel anymore, so they use rules to compensate. This is when they try to fit in.

When they don't try, they don't bother with the pretense. They are completely unable to put themselves in humanity's shoes. You can see this in the movie, in a particularly memeorable moment. The vampires like to play tricks of the visitors by turning spaghetti into worms, when the guests are eating it. There are two guests, and right after she saw the vampires play the trick on the other guest, they try it again. Now, this was played as a humorous moment, but it does exemplify the vampires' inability to conceptualize human minds.

But, vampires are capable of change, as we see in the show. The vampires actually show a rudimentary form of empathy to Guillermo on occasion. I'm thinking of Nadja's moment of empathy with Guillermo, right after she lets his family go. She says something like 'I suppose I didn't like it when my family was murdered, so I guess Guillermo won't like it either'. That's empathy, that's perspective-taking, but it's rudimentary—it sounds like a thought a toddler would come up with, when first starting to conceptualize other minds. Their sense of human empathy has been reversed and stunted.

This is one of the main reasons for vampiric immaturity in the show. We don't see any of the elegant, manipulative vampires that are so prevalent in other media. They are evil, yes, but out of carelessness and inability. None of them can manipulate a human to save their lives. The vampires are also unable to empathize with other vampires, to a lesser extent. Because when a vampire dies, and other vampires are horrified, the horror stems from logical self-preservation. The reaction to these deaths is overwhelmingly 'meh' and 'against the code'. There's some rituals of grief (that memorial from the Theatre, for example) but they lack emotional subtext. This selfishness and lack of grief can also stems from an underdeveloped sense of empathy.

(A note on Nadja and Lazlo: they do have a persistent understanding of each other, but that still tends towards the simple. Note Lazlo killing Jeff because he makes Nadia sad. Also note Nadja brushing past Laszlo's objections to the UK by making a surface level read of his motivations: the vow doesn't matter because now they are more powerful. Luckily, this works for both of them because the receptive partner sees it the same way. This is an example of this rudimentary empathy expanding to their own minds as well, i.e. alexthymia)

There are a lot more examples of this in the text, those were just the ones I noticed. But anyway, this is why I agree with a lot of the fandom wanting to give prizes to the vampires for basic human decency. Because they are not human, their minds have changed and made decency a lot more difficult. Few people realize how much we depend on those centers of our minds for functioning in society and being in relationships; we only notice when coming upon the glaring lack of those centers. And there is a lot more to say about this, but this is really long already. I might write an essay.

This is SUPER INTERESTING

I would counter, however, and I'm not sure if this was your intended meaning, that these things do not automatically happen to vampires upon their turning. Instead, their sense of empathy is damaged and warped by hundreds of years of disassociating themselves from humanity, generally facing no consequences for their actions, and needing to kill to survive.

Kinda like billionaires

[shakertwelve]

the obvious defense of this point would be that Victoria is simply supposed to be Wrong About It, which I would love, except that the narrative very carefully bends to make sure that Victoria is Always Right, and ESPECIALLY Always Right about Cape Science

[ context: the quote we're talking about: “I guess it doesn’t make sense as a thing powers would do.  Powers tend to steer clear of the suicidal, the helpless, the invalid, or people who are limited.” ]

my best guess as to what wildbow meant, if he put any thought into this at all? this is ward's version of the scene in worm that goes out of its way to make clear that labyrinth is not autistic and had a "normal" mind before her trigger (and the similar clarification about bitch). wildbow didn't want to write about developmental disabilities, probably because he thought he didn't know enough about the subject not to mess up and get in trouble for writing something offensive, so his solution was to just state that no one in parahumans is meant as "representation" of that demographic and avoid the issue altogether. this at least makes some kind of sense, if you are wildbow.

the obvious issue here is that this quote doesn't just single out developmental disabilities, but is phrased broadly enough to apply to almost any kind of illness or disorder. worm presents superpowers as explicitly tied to a traumatic event and as a metaphor for the effects of trauma, and experiencing other forms of illness and distress make someone much more likely to process an event as a trauma, so logically, mentally ill and disabled people should be overrepresented in the parahuman population (feeling "helpless" or distressed enough to be suicidal are common elements to many parahuman triggers), and the ways capes tend to act in the text of both books consistently reflect this. the only other explanation i can think of is that we're using an extremely restrictive definition of mental disorders (i.e. we're being the guy who thinks adhd isn't a real neurotype, so imp and kid win don't count, and low-empathy is just code for being a bad person, so cradle doesn't count, and so on...), and even that doesn't explain why we're claiming physically disabled people also can't get powers, when wildbow has written about it happening plenty of times (thank you @john-cherry-the-6th for bringing up this wog about triggers in suicidal people that includes the trigger event of a coma patient). also, we've seen that powers can cure illnesses as part of the trigger (see: vikare, famously the first hero ever, whose powers manifesting cured his cancer) if they really need to (they don't even do it all the time if the host isn't dying and can still fight with the power, like genesis), so why would they care if a prospective host is disabled? but whatever--let's disregard all evidence to the contrary and assume that all capes were 100% Mentally Normal (a very objective standard) before their triggers, so their erratic behavior after triggering must be purely the influence of their superpowers.

of course, now we have to go back to the first part of the quote. victoria claims that she doesn't think it's likely that finale's powers would affect her mental development after she manifested them, because powers want their hosts to be able and ready for action. so that can't be why capes like labyrinth and bitch exist, either; powers avoid choosing "limited" people as hosts and they also don't want to make their hosts limited, therefore all parahumans must be healthy because shards want healthy hosts. except there's absolutely no way any scientific study of parahumans in this world would come to this conclusion! scores of therapists run themselves ragged dealing with the various complexes of just the heroic capes, and capes on the "villainous" side are understood to be, on average, even more unstable! victoria has been working with jessica yamada, who definitely knows this, for ages! what the fuck is she talking about!

CONCLUSION: ??? wildbow got confused while writing about his own setting's alien brain parasites and started describing yeerks instead

[scaly-freaks]

“It had happened to him. He wanted to know if she felt just as bad as he did.”

….when I tell you my jaw DROPPED!! I had to put the phone down and stare at the wall for a couple of minutes. it’s so shocking cause from the beginning it was established that Amara was a victim of CSA but when you revealed he too was a victim oh my god, and I love it cause sometimes it is automatically assumed that the female is the only one who could suffer from this type of abuse. Ugh That just broke my heart. My brain was screaming it better not be fucking Daemon!

We’re going to see them be some pretty toxic people based on the warnings, but now that what happened to them is revealed and this picture of their childhood is painted, it almost acts as an excuse. At least for me. Some may see childhood trauma as the reason of toxic behaviours in adulthood but I always tend to see it as an excuse to these behaviours. It’s like seeing a bad person but then you remember them when they were a baby and you can’t stay mad. At the same time I know that’s not a good perspective to have because people need to be held accountable. Sorry if that made no sense. Man, sad children are my weakness, this story is going to be a struggle.

Anyway thanks for sharing your talents with us I’ve always loved your writing!!

It is sad that females are assumed to be victims of such abuse but the culture around masculinity and the pressure on little boys to conform keeps them quiet on what constitutes sexual abuse for them. Girls are told to be careful, to watch out, that someone might hurt us even when we're not sure who or what this Big Bad is. But little boys aren't told the same way, especially not once they're past the dangerous age of being small enough to be whisked away in a van. Teenage boys are sexually abused too, but by then, the masculinity chip is embedded powerfully deep, and the chances of them reporting said abuse diminishes.

Some things in their behaviour are definitely a throwback to what they've suffered. But certain traits in Aegon as he gets older and has the choice to go to therapy aren't excused by what happened to him in the past.

It's one of those enduring cycles of 'the abused becoming the abuser.' There is a little bit where Alicent brings up the time when he was eleven, touching other kids his age sexually and when the parents complained, she herself didn't know how to explain it because she still doesn't know what happened to him. At the age of eleven, it's still not an excuse for him to scar other children, but we have the reason.

However, the older he gets, there are hints dropped here and there he is the one who prefers to be in control, to the detriment of the people he's having sex with, or is being sexual towards. His view of sexuality was mangled the second his abuser touched him, but it doesn't erase the people suffering. His abuser convinced him what they were doing was 'right' and that Aegon wanted it, he just didn't register that properly. Aegon's taken that logic and applied it to sexual encounters where the other party was not as willing as they should be in an ideal scenario (Amara being the most obvious example).

The sad truth is, in fiction we can sit and digest these behaviours and point to what the character suffered in the past as providing a map.

But in real life, people are less forgiving, and most of them don't know what kinds of abuse others have suffered - they just see irrational behaviour and make a passing cruel comment or avoid the person. It takes a very big heart to always be open to potential empathy and not letting emotion take over when it comes to someone's irrational/annoying/bad behaviour towards yourself and maybe figuring out why they act that way. But there isn't much time for that usually so most people choose to forego it and I don't blame them. Life is what it is. The occurrence of abuse can feel so irrational, and bring up the why me, why me, why me aspect of it, especially when no one is held to account for what happened. But that's life in a nutshell I suppose. You take it on the chin and try to move on (and not hurt yourself in the process).

Fiction is probably the only space stuff like this can be processed because it's done at the writer's own pace, and digested at the reader's own pace too.

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hi! I need to ask about my enfp mother's behaviour. Is there cultural reason why she believes so strongly in highly superstitious, almost witchcraft like things despite growing up in a religious and conservative household? I understand a lot of superstitions can exist in Asian culture, but there's something especially strange about your mother accusing your romantic love interest of using love potions, curses, or spells on you to win you over all because he isn't attractive in her eyes.

For more context: my dad passed away a few years ago, and ever since then I feel like my mom's been a different person. I originally thought she was clinging onto religious beliefs to cope with the grief, but I now feel like it's gone beyond just using religion for comfort. It has absolutely dictated her life, all because she believes there's something malicious after me and my sibling, and she feels obligated to protect us from what this is. Whenever we ask her what she's protecting us from, she doesn't really give a straight answer.

What's more, recently I've noticed she's been describing a lot of strange beliefs that resemble, for a lack of a better description, witchcraft. I honestly have no idea where this came from, but it seems like this is something she grew up learning about. I can't really find a lot of information about Vietnamese witchcraft, so I honestly have no idea if this is pure delusion, or actually a part of the culture. I'm really trying to understand where she's coming from, but it's so hard when she doesn't want to open up about anything.

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I'm not a member of Vietnamese culture and don't know anything about Vietnamese folklore, so I'm not sure why you believe I can answer anything about that. The only thing I can say is that certain psychological characteristics/issues make some people more prone to adopting fantastical or conspiratorial beliefs. For example:

- Struggling With Trauma: Losing a loved one, especially the central relationship of one's life, is a very traumatic experience. Such grief is very difficult to process and endure, psychologically. When someone isn't able to accept and understand a traumatic event, they can't help but seek out answers, and this makes them susceptible to any beliefs that might bring some measure of emotional relief. Perhaps you have underestimated the depth of your mom's trauma and grief. If that's the case, empathy is called for.

- Struggling With Self-Esteem: People at low levels of ego development are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem due to often making more errors in judgment. There are healthy and unhealthy methods to boost self-esteem. One unhealthy method is to find ways to feel superior and/or to feel more unique than others (both points are likely to apply for ENFP). Thus, some people are drawn to odd beliefs because it makes them feel smarter or it gets them special attention, which provides temporary relief from deep-seated fears about being inferior or ordinary.

- Security Through Simplicity: The world is a very big and complicated place with lots of stuff going on. It's easy to feel scared, powerless, helpless, or cynical in the face of human suffering. It can be very difficult for a caring or sensitive person to make sense of all the bad things in the world. If a person lacks the intellectual skills to understand complex issues (e.g. due to lack of educational opportunity), they are more likely to reach for easy answers or answers that provide a sense of certainty. Fantastical or conspiratorial theories provide easy answers because they do not require any justification or evidence. The explanations can seem logical on the surface, so it's easy to get sucked in by them when one is already emotionally primed to believe.

- Cognitive Biases: By default, the human mind is riddled with cognitive biases that distort perception and judgment. For example, many people don't realize that they mistake correlation for causation. A person with good logic knows that, just because two things occurred together, doesn't mean that one caused the other. It could be the case that both were caused by some hidden third factor. You have to take extra mental steps to properly prove that causation actually happened. When people aren't aware of their cognitive biases and don't work to counteract them, it is very easy for them to fall victim to bad logic, and they won't be able to detect the logical errors in their own belief system.

- Dependence on Intuition: The fact of the matter is, as one person, you can't know everything. There are many situations where you have no choice but to fill in gaps in your knowledge with "gut feelings" or random ideas that seemingly come out of nowhere. The more heavily someone relies on gut feelings without being aware of it, the more likely they are to make errors in judgement, because they are not giving enough consideration to concrete facts and evidence. For example, when you have experienced one senseless and unfair tragedy after another, it becomes more and more difficult to avoid thinking that you're being singled out for punishment, which easily leads to believing in curses. Of course, people with a dominant or overactive N function are very likely to trust intuition a little too much.

In some cases, these issues can be remedied by providing more and better learning resources to people. For example, you can help people overcome their cognitive biases by teaching them the critical thinking skills they need to analyze issues systematically and break down complex problems into more manageable steps. It's also important to nurture intellectual humility and intellectual curiosity in order to be open-minded enough to entertain being wrong.

However, deep and unresolved emotional or psychological developmental issues are much more difficult to resolve, which is why such individuals usually need counseling or therapy. It sounds like your mom could have a combination of cognitive and emotional factors contributing to her adoption of such troubling beliefs. If she's refusing help or won't open up, there's not much you can do but keep trying to provide an emotionally supportive environment in the event that she finally decides it's time to talk. You can lead her to water, but you can't force her to drink.

Your tone is somewhat judgmental, probably because you are feeling exasperated, so I have to warn you that, if she picks up on it or has already, she won't believe you are a safe person to open up to. From what I know about East Asian cultures (through studying cross-cultural psychology and Eastern philosophy), people are extremely reluctant to discuss psychological issues because of social stigma and the fear of becoming a social pariah. And this might also contribute to you treating her as an inconvenience rather than a human in pain. If you are battling against such deep cultural currents, then it's imperative that you can guarantee a safe, supportive, nonjudgmental, and empathetic space for her to explore what's really going on, deep down.

[clockworkspider]

So like... there's like... different approaches to characterization I do take when writing fanfic, esp with more minor characters.

The more common one is to apply empathy and common sense and human psychology. As in, "if this character is real what would make them behave this way" and ignore all descriptors like "crazy" "smart" or "evil" cause they describe the effect not the cause.

And I think these work great when the source material still function by some level of normal logic but the characters you're writing are not as focused on or well rounded due to genre. You can get some real interesting characterization out of a set of tropy behaviors. You kinda work backwards.

And like... I think some works are really wild but the characters can still functions via human psychology, with some zanyness. Like, for YGO, once you get over the fact that TCG is the objectively most important thing in the universe, most of the characters are sane and you can dissect them via human psychology.

But like... at the same time, for a lot of works you just gotta keep in mind that they don't function via real world logic (still ygo), and if you do apply real world logic too much then things breaks down. Like... enstars characters are very complex but not in a realistic way, but in an elevated way. And if I'd do a realism take it'd never get pass the "Wtf" stage.

[stuckinapril]

do you know how to get rid of the mentality of being needlessly competitive/constantly comparing yourself to people? and i don’t mean this in just “oh everyone is better than me” because when you hear that someone’s comparing themselves to others, that’s usually what people think, but my problem is more like… “i’m clearly better than them so why i don’t have (xyz)” etc. i know it’s a shitty mentality to have and i’m sure it’s due to bitterness at stuff that’s happened to me in the past and logically, i know that statement doesn’t really make sense and it’s just hurtful in the long run but i can’t stop :/ it’s this weird superiority that comes with being really insecure and constantly wanting to be better than everyone around me which just pushes people away (understandably) and makes me an absolutely unpleasant person to be around at times when i perceive that i’m “losing”/that someone is “unfairly” better than me.

OOH okay as someone who was raised to be competitive, i feel like i can adequately answer that question. it’s by competing w yourself instead of others. healthy competition is wanting to be better than you last were. competing w others can also be good motivation to improving your performance, but not if it’s to the point of you being insecure due to other people’s accomplishments/not being able to clap for them when they win. there has to be a foundation of respect that prevents this. if there isn’t one, it can lead to constant comparisons & a negative perception of both yourself & others.

hurting when you lose should no longer become about other people, but about not putting in your all. that’s how you know you’re mainly, and above everything, competing w yourself instead of w others.

people are dealt different cards. they grow at different rates. it doesn’t mean one person is inherently better than another; it just means they’re different. one flower may take longer to bloom than another, but both bloom. don’t compare yourself to people who were given different means and have different obstacles to content with. focus on you. focus on being better than you last were. competition can be a very good thing if you apply it the right way.

stop associating losing w “bad” and winning w “good.” having a growth mindset helps so much w this. losing means you get to work on something and grow even more. & how exciting is that. ultimately it should be about pushing yourself, not about outsmarting others.

insecurity plays such a big part in this. you need to give yourself validation instead of finding it through external things (such as winning). this is easier said than done, but it’s 10000% possible.

recognize that being happy for others builds interpersonal connections. put yourself in their shoes & exercise empathy. their successes aren’t about what you didn’t do, but about what they did.

no one is exactly like you. and so no one deals w the same things in the same way you do. it’s like being a lily and comparing yourself to a rose. it’ll never be the same, so there’s no point pretending it is.

[psychewritesbs]

In a story about how the strongest sorcerers have the strongest sense of self, I got to wondering about Naoya the worm manifesting a Domain Expansion.

Think of the irony... 

Naoya, everybody’s favorite misogynistic worm in Jujutsu Kaisen...

... manifests a Domain Expansion full of feminine symbolism...

Not only does his Domain Expansion physically resemble a literal cursed uterus he must have been on his period, I do hope the cramps and mood swings were awful, but the domain’s name includes the word Moon (which is itself a feminine symbol) and the kanji in the name alludes to the womb amongst other things.

But I head canon that more than making fun of Naoya for his misogynistic attitudes, I wondered whether Gege was actually saying that, in death, Naoya finally came to terms with who he really is. In other words, like the strongest sorcerers in Jujutsu Kaisen, Naoya re-defined his sense of self and manifested a Domain Expansion true to his sense of self.

The dude basically might have been very fem and totally hated himself for it and repressed those aspects of his personality.

This is, of course, assuming that there is a correlation between the sense of self and Domain Expansion. In other words, if this assumption is true, you can’t manifest a powerful domain if you have a weak sense of self. Note that this logic might not apply to simple domains.

So to me, if the above is true about Domain Expansions, Naoya must have come to terms with his ego’s propensity towards feminine qualities in order to manifest a domain.

Why? In Depth Psychology, an extreme attitude or behavior, like misogynism in this example, is an overcompensation for inner insecurities or unconscious conflicted attitudes directly related to the topic in question.

Put in different words, while Naoya behaved one way on the outside, I wonder wether Naoya had not only absorbed the negative narrative around women in the Zenin clan, but also had deep insecurities around his own inner femininity. 

In other words, Naoya being a misogynist turd is actually his ego self over-compensating for his own ambivalence around his own feminine tendencies. 

We’ve already seen proof that the Zenin clan isn’t exactly the safest place to express what are typically considered stereotypical feminine qualities like vulnerability, emotions and/or empathy, just to name a few.

This is, of course, not to say that women should act one way and men another. 

Rather, that is exactly the mistake that Naoya made when it came to his sense of self. In a clan that put down women, he must have learned early on that not only he better behave “like a man” or what he saw as an overwhelming example of masculinity...

Naoya’s first crush... half the fandom gets it Nao, don’t worry.

It also wasn’t safe for him to explore the feminine principles that make up a human being regardless of gender.

This, compounded with the fact that Naoya’s sense of self was greatly influenced by how others saw him and what they expected of him...

... was the perfect recipe for a sense of self that could not hold both masculine and feminine qualities. The perfect recipe for rejecting who he really is at the core.

And the best part of it all? Because Gege loves poetic justice:

“Any woman who can’t walk three steps behind any man should get stabbed in the back and die.”

Makes sense, right?

[nautilusopus]

while i’m giving writing advice i may as well touch on my actual least favourite thing to see ever: 

past the age where they’re basically just fat flightless parrots (scream for attention, capable of mimicking speech, no real concept of good and evil, just barely clever enough to utilise all three of these to get food and love), kids are just extremely sheltered adults with little to no emotional regulation skills, or impulse control. younger children also won’t fully understand that other people have feelings and relate to things differently than they would. depending on one’s neurotype*, that might be something that you naturally grow to understand with age, or it has to be something you consciously learn and make an effort to note as you mature

*(before y’all jump on me, the empathy thing is not even a one-size-fits-all thing with autistic kids, for the record -- some struggle with empathy and never really quite grasp it, some have an unusually heightened sense of it to the point where it sometimes gives them anxiety. generally speaking, though, you learn on a conscious level that yes other people have feelings that might not be yours, which is a fundamental fact that young children genuinely do not understand. again, sheltered.)

as they get older the emotional regulation skills get a bit better but the impulse control and grasp for long term consequences doesn’t really arrive until the late teens. getting naturally less sheltered comes with age. as a side note, this is why depression is such a huge problem in teens and some tweens-- on top of the mental illness impairing their ability to imagine that they will ever have something worth living for, they physically are not able to see as far down the road as someone maybe five years their senior, but still have brains developed enough to notice things like, say, the crushing weight of capitalism. 

vocabulary varies. i was talking at six months, einstein famously was nonverbal until the age of four. HOWEVER, there is a goddamn DIFFERENCE between someone that just has undeveloped language skills that is otherwise learning a mother tongue, and fucking goddamn caveman speak. there’s a lot i could get into here but just in brief:

DO:

have little kids hyper-regulate verbs. at this age they have naturally acquired the ability to recognise patterns in language and apply it to words they don’t know, but might not know specifics to rules. a native speaker that hears the word “run” when they know that past tense for look is “looked” and past tense for “talk” is “talked” is going to automatically assume “runned” is correct. someone being taught a language would be told something like “ran” from the beginning with their adult brain. 

compensate for limited experience in the world by have them categorise an object as something they know. referring to all sauces as ketchup, lumping animals into whatever category seems best (”look at all those chickens!”)

DON’T

have your goddamn six year-old refer to themselves with the wrong first-person pronoun. i swear to god if i hear one more goddamn cro-magnon furby of a child go “me hungy! me love you!” i’m going to come to your house and bludgeon you with your own keyboard

have your child be freakishly good at reading the room and then saying super insightful shit. “mouth of the babes” happens because kids are fucking blunt and will also project their own feelings onto what’s going on because they don’t know any better, NOT because their Pure Innocence lets them sense the pain in your soul

don’t do this. i’m begging you. please. 

anyway i hope the takeaway here is that kids are also people with their own inner worlds and shit with their own actual thought processes and logic behind their actions, but also they have underdeveloped brains and no world experience. the same goes for writing FOR kids, something people, and especially fucking celebrities think they can do just because they have kids but actually is one of the hardest things to pull off! i will add that kids usually know almost immediately when they are being talked down to and they fucking hate it. 

just stop doing caveman poetry furbies. i’m begging you. please you’re killing me.

[project-wildcard]

Personalities!

Just as a disclaimer, I will refer to each form as though they are a separate person, but they are all still Charlie and so most of their base personality traits will apply. It's just easier to separate in my head this way.

Also pronouns for each form cuz gender does flow:

No suit: They/them

Diamond♦️: He/they

Heart❤️: She/her

Club♣️: She/they

Spade♠️: He/him

No suit: Charlie has a strong sense of what they can tolerate in a person and will be quick to cut people off if they're consistently upsetting them. They are very close with the people they trust and do still spend a lot of time hanging out with their friends and going to parties, even after becoming a superhero. They are scared to lose their friends because they never really had people they were close to and who they could trust before them. They like to believe that luck is always on their side, and take a lot of risks, however they do quite a lot to be in "control" of their luck, and as much as they pretend that they're just lucky and that's why things go right for them, they're terrified when they have no control over a situation.

Diamond♦️is very flamboyant and makes Charlie feel much more confident. He likes to be the centre of attention and always wants to have his good deeds recognised, even if it's not really the time to be handing out praise. He will also often choose to do even riskier things if it means they will look better or get more attention, even if it might not be as helpful as something else they could be doing. They have a lot of confidence in their abilities, and often overestimate what they are capable of. They are fine to leave the spotlight to someone who obviously did much more than them, but in a group effort kind of situation they will absolutely want to be the one who gets the glory. They like to stand out in a crowd more than Charlie normally does as he believes if he should be known for anything, it should be his diamond form. Charlie thinks Diamond is the best form because they feel so much better about themself when they are in diamond form.

Heart ❤️ makes Charlie very caring and empathetic. She wants what's best for people and wants to keep people safe. She knows she is capable of doing so and is quite confident in her abilities, however she doesn't always like that fighting is people's solution to every situation. She isn't the biggest fan of hurting people but will do it if she has to, as the story progresses this might change as I do plan to have the different forms become more polarised in terms of personality as they see more use. She has empathy for the villains and will always try to understand things from their side before just accepting she has to fight. She is very much a mom friend in heart form and will put others before herself no matter what. Her love of animals grows even stronger in this form as one of her powers is Animal Empathy which allows her to communicate with and understand animals to the same level you can with other people and so she will spend a lot of her time helping stray or hurt animals.

Spade ♠️ makes Charlie aggressive and lose his temper easily. He is headstrong and will rush into things, believing the first solution he can think of is most likely the best solution (by the logic of Occam's razor). He gets frustrated very easily and is definitely one to take his anger out on nearby walls, streetlights, trees or anything else he can hit. He is happy to fight and will attack to keep his allies safe as a first defense, sometimes starting a fight that may never have happened had he not been so eager to attack. He's kinda hard to be around at times because he's more volatile than usual but that's not to say he can't have fun. He's much more sporty than usual and despite the frustration he's not a sore loser and understands that he can't really do sports like wrestling and boxing with normal people. He'll still play sports that he has an obvious advantage in because of his powers with friends but he won't use them in any way that'd put them in danger.

Club ♣️ is very confident in her abilities, however she believes that she has to do everything she can to protect her friends. When they are in club form they see it as their responsibility to not let anyone else get hurt. They will put themself in dangerous situations even when they know they can't handle it because of this and will let their friends dump their issues on her even if she knows it's too much at the moment. After a tough fight she will sometimes feel burdened by her powers, knowing that because she has to be the one to take the hits she will be in real danger a lot of the time. She is still usually confident, as she feels very important in a team. Charlie doesn't like being in club form as they understand that because of how much they rely on luck, it can be risky to consistently take hits, although they don't doubt they can take it. They also know that they take too much of their friends' issues and once they go back to normal it becomes overwhelming.

[maschotch]

not to be annoying about semantics or whatever, but i think jj does have quite a bit of empathy, maybe not much cognitive empathy, ie logically thinking about how other people would feel n all that. but she would have affective empathy, ie being ‘in tune’ with what people are feeling and being emotionally affected by those peoples emotions. and i personally dislike her because she *does* feel empathy, but chooses not to show compassion sometimes, and ignores her common sense. she seems to have a lot of affective empathy for victims & victim’s families & other innocent people, but is absolutely blinded by her own anger & disgust when dealing with Unsubs or anyone else in the wrong. and i get that, i know she’s probably very upset. but that’s the profiler gig: not letting emotions take over, acting based on logic rather than emotion. not saying this all to be a nuisance, just saying it cause i think a lot of people equate low empathy with being angry or irrational or evil or violent or annoying. and that’s not really true so i’d really like that anon & many other people in the world to see that.

tbh i dont really know the specific meaning of the word, but when i say “empathy” i mean the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understand emotions/events/actions from their perspective. i dont think she would really recognize or value someone’s emotions unless it aligns with what her own would be in that situation. so if someone is upset, she wouldn’t really give a shit unless she would be similarly upset in similar circumstances. like.. for all intents and purposes, she’s capable of empathy, she merely lacks the capacity to bother if it’s not someone she already agrees with. and even then, most of the time when she “connects” with someone, she’s projecting her own experiences rather than comparing them

in your terms, she has affective empathy, but she casts value judgements before the empathy registers. it results in her pitying others (or, even worse, believing they deserve it) rather than actually empathizing. i dont think someone who is truly empathetic would assign moral weight before considering circumstance, which is something she does constantly. i guess… how am i trying to put it…. real empathy isnt conditional. you can feel empathy and still be critical, but you cant decide to not be empathetic bc you already decided you dont like someone or that you disagree w them. i guess its still technically empathy, but picking and choosing when to be empathetic is the part i get held up with

but yeah i totally agree ab low empathy not meaning violent or aggressive or whatever. again idk the specifics, but i think there are a lot of ways people can be low empathy. i think someone can be capable of empathy but have some other cognitive block, conscious or not, preventing them from connecting w people (like w jj). i think someone can have difficulty processing their own emotions, and by extension be incapable of understanding others’ (like w reid). i think someone can have limited capacity for emotions, rendering them unable to intuitively understand the emotions of others but still have the cognitive awareness to logically figure out what a person typically feels in that situation (like w emily). and a lot more probably lol but those are the ones i think apply to the cm chars. i dont think you need to have empathy to be a good person, and i dont think having empathy automatically makes you a good person. it’s just… a skill used to connect w people

[thekidsare-not-alright]

very quick "lesson" in rhetorical analysis that might come up sooner or later, idk:

when someone posts something, you're going to read what you think might be a flaw in the writer's logic. that they have spoken without stating every detail, like they left something out. this might be the case! but it also might be that they were writing to their audience. There's a decent chance that they're aware of this detail, but it didn't make sense to include it because it wasn't part of their point/focus. Or perhaps it was something they did want to talk about, but knew that it would be too much information on a conversation-starter post. So when you go to reply, don't make assumptions about what the poster knows -- they might be a couple steps ahead of you, and you should take that into account.

I think a lot of tumblr realizes this on some level (especially when they make their own posts) but then they don't apply it to future interactions, and it's frustrating to watch OPs explain why they "left x detail out" when their main point is completely left behind. Consider why they might have chosen not to mention it or why they might've summarized it differently than you'd expect. They are writing to an audience and drawing on previous experiences with said audience, they are catering to someone (catering here does not mean pandering, by the way).

I'm just some college student not bothering to edit, so this is a terrible explanation and there's never going to be a tumblr post that can substitute for a real lesson in this, nor will it somehow fix the internet, but hopefully it makes you curious! Basically, always put yourself in someone else's shoes, because we tend to give ourselves the benefit of the "situation" whereas we assume others are acting purely on "personality" (situation-personality blah blah). Empathy strikes again!

[kuuyandere]

Maybe u could try to replace your reason for living from 'her' to something simple & noble. When I lost this guy, living w/o the thought of having him in my future was v tough, so I diverted my focus on other ppl/helping ppl/making my family proud. Idk but I think to live for 'yourself'/ keeping the drive as your own self for living seems smth like.. Well, smth at least I wouldn't be able to do. Idky but it just seems too selfish/unreliable since we ourselves are supposed to be like the handlers/caretakers of our own selves in this world that keeps on attacking us w one expectation or the other. If u think this applies to you too, then u could try this instead. Keep your own self completely out of the equation unless u wanna have a revenge bod or smth.. Idky but whenever I see ppl (mostly the ones of our gen) whose sole focus is themselves, they seem unnecessarily unhappy and struggling. Are going above n beyond to prove themselves to the world, when they could just keep their jobs/appearances/etc. As smth completely external (not a part of them) n instead focus on how much they can simply give to this world. Like I, since Ive been a pretty much of an idiot with most of my decisions, can listen to ppl without judgement n can sympathise with them well.. They just feel comfortable around me so I also try to be an easy person around em instead of putting myself on a standard. I think whenever u feel worthless, u should try n be simply grateful for whatever u r, how much investment have been made to u (if u wanna be logical) n ultimately try n give the world back in whatever ways u could.. Like for eg, if you're a caretaker, be even more better. Take the focus off from u n your own problems, and think of how much blessed u r in a position to help those in need n find worth thru that help. There are some not so fortunate domestic workers, construction workers, sooo many people, whose shoes if I wear, I'd instantly feel this huge struggle for life n would wanna instantly wanna give up. Yet they accept their lives n always show up to their work which is surrounded by ppl w huge TVs, comforting rooms n whatnot. Now these are the ppl who know v well that comparisons w others/expectations with their own selves is smth which will bring unnecessary self-loathing only. So they just try to make the best of the lives they've been given. But most importantly, they still provide w whatever they got. It's just all about perspective n how you choose to view menial stuff.. You just have to realise the world is bigger than you, certainly much bigger than your darling!!.. Now I tbh do know how to live with being told that from my person😅(we have a history so that day, my long-awaited interaction w him was a bit problematic from my side) which made him ultimately say that. It hurt me, but didn't break me. Or reduced my worth (though atm I was questioning it a lot😅lol). I don't think there's anything more comforting u could say in addition to what u already said - v. helpful!! to make that better🤗I think it just has to pass🤔 u don't have to answer that "how to live with it" part😊 it doesn't affect much now tbh. (also⬆️ is just my way, works for me, doesn't have to 'right', may/may not be helpful to u)

I am glad you are doing better than before, you are a very strong person. :)

That is good advice, it is difficult to live for yourself and helping others is a noble cause. And you are right about perspective playing a large role in You have a lot of empathy and understanding for other people.

In my case, I have a tendency to be a people pleaser and help others to the point of neglecting my own wants, needs, and boundaries. I guess when I say that I want to live for myself, I mean that I want to advocate for myself more instead of living and basing my entire self-worth on how much I can give (to my darling, parents, etc.). I don't want to completely depend on other people to feel happy, if that makes sense.

[divinesara2022]

A Level Of Reality In Check, How Ever You Know Or Not It Exist, Guess What If You Missed It, I'll Clear It Up Completely In A Way Only I Can, Exactly Now, So Not Being Bound To A Design Or Laws Holding Me To What Is Everyway I'm Not Bound To, Just Because This Crapshoot Of A Design Can Apply To Someone, Here Is Everyway It Can't, Fact 1. I'm HyBrid That Means I'm Not Reachable Even By Death To Change What He Clarly Can't Reach, Varible And Fact 2. If I See I Can Protect Good, I'll Do That Anyway Sane Or Insane Stablized In A Way It Should Not Be Possible But Is With Me, Varible And Fact 3, I Don't Gotta Be Concerned Of Any Way I'm Seen That Cleary Is Part Of A Design Im Not, I Can Have Empathy And Will In Situation I Know I Should, Here Is The Difference Tho, Just Because I Do That, Don't Mean I Gotta Fallow A Bullshit Design I'm Not Bound To Telling Me I Should In Any Variation I Know I Clearly Don't Have To, Fact And Varible 4, The Scary Level Of Protection For Good That Now Exist That Bad People Cannot Stop, Basicaly I Can Hold Guns I'm Not Suppossed To Have Or Even Be Allowed To Use, But Now I Can When I Can't Even Prosecuted In A Logic Way That Makes Sense, I'm Telling What I Clearly Know Exist, Because I Can And Well Why Allow Confusion When It Don't Gotta Be There lol, So Anyway, Everyway You Know I Am Untouchle, You Don't Gotta Tell Me How That Is In Anyway In Existance When I Know Every Varible Not Confermed In Every Variation Now That I Know Even My Full Impact, Just Because It's Not Told To Me, Don't Mean I Do Not Know, Because I Do Everyway I Don't Have To Explain, So Yeah It's Shift That Much To Good In A Way Bad Can't Change Anymore, Because The Timeline Fucked Up Where Clearly It Shouldn't Of A Destinatically Burnt Me Alive In A Forked Version I Shouldn't Even Know Every Varible I Do That Is Dead On, So Yeah I'm Not Bound To Your Bullshit I Don't Gotta Fallow, But If You See Me Doing It, Just Know I Know Clearly I Don't Have Too Anymore ;) , I'm Free To Express Every Varible To Extreme Self Expresssion I Know Can't Be Stopped, And Will Protect Good Anyway I Can That Goes To A Level Of Protection Like This: I Can Rip A Soul From A Bad Persons Body And Nothing Can Change In Any Way Stopping Me From Insanely Protecting Good When I Can Sanely At The Same Time Knowing Everyway It's Right To Do Just That, And Any Logicality I Can See Not To Do That, Well Obviouly If I Don't Gotta Do That I Won't, But Still In No Variation Means I Can't Exactly As I Know I Can Even Tho I Have Destinatic Immunity Makes Events Nulliffied That Clearly Wasn't Able To Be Prior Now Has To Be Seen Destinatically, Allow Me To Explain Even Tho Clearly I Don't Have To, So Basically I Time Compressed Both Realitys Togeather In A Way That Everything That Happen There Now Even In Magic Form Can Here Too, Makes UnAllowed Things To Be Set Right Regardless, Basically That Is It ^_^