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Efficient Tools for Working with Large Messages
Introduction Working with large messages can be a daunting task, especially when it comes to optimizing performance and improving data processing capabilities. In this article, we will explore some of the best tools available that can assist you in effectively working with large messages. 1. Apache Kafka One of the most popular tools for handling large messages is Apache Kafka. It is a scalable,…
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every time i see what the Duolingo owl is up to or whatever Arby's latest crazy crossover is i get war flashbacks to the Denny's tumblr circa 2012ish. we could have stopped this. we saw a fish evolving legs and kept shoving it back into the water and it kept coming back and now we're drowning in legged fish. we should have stomped it into paste.
#i got a message in 2014ish from someone who said they were on the dennys tumblr team#and they followed my blog specifically as one of the handful of “popular” blogs to get a handle on the posting style#i checked her blog and her bio said she was 20 at the time and interested in online marketing#i think about her a lot. there's a pretty good chance she's behind whatever the duolingo owl is up to now.#she said she waited until after the dennys tumblr “experiment” was done to contact me bc she legally couldn't b4 that
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on a completely separate note; shizun luo binghe with a disciple shen yuan who fell into the abyss??? *thinks about LBH canonically stealing SQQ's corpse for 5 years* he'd hallucinate i think. like, like visual and audial hallucinations.
Keeps thinking he's seeing SQQ in the corner of his eyes, or wandering between the trees, amongst a group of disciples. Thinks he hears him calling for him, but its just the wind or another disciple.
Gets Xiu Ya reforged but patently fucking refuses to make a sword mound. Because his disciple Is Not Dead :))) There was No Body. He's Not Dead. And If You keep Insisting That He Is, He's Gonna Skewer You :). He's holding onto Xiu Ya so he can return his most favored disciple's sword when he returns. It's on his hip right next to Zheng Yang where it's supposed to be.
Also this motherfucker?? does not sleep btw. He has the image of SQQ, wide eyed and hysterical and standing at the mouth of the abyss burned into his fucking eyelids. Can't use the dreamscape to escape it either because he keeps trying to save him and either he does and it's an incredibly cruel trick to wake up to, or he doesn't and he gets his heart broken in several different pieces again.
There is no convincing this man that Shen Qingqiu is dead. Absolutely nothing at all. He is buried so deep in denial that moles would be jealous of how deep he is. He keeps making tea for two in the bamboo house only to remember that it's just him. SQQ's fans are hiding everywhere, little reminders of his presence. He goes to wake up SQQ on the mornings he sleeps in-- only to find the room empty.
#svsss#luo binghe#svsss au#scum villain#scum villian self saving system#shen yuan#shen qingqiu#disciple shen yuan#lbh. visibly exhausted and with twitchy eyes: im fine :) | everyone else: ho no the fuck you ARENT.#SQQ was hysterical not because he found out LBH was half-demon but bc he was having a long-awaited mental breakdown over his autonomy :)#or (limited) lack thereof. he was having a sudden onset crisis of mortality and was handling at quite literally the WORST time. oops#im thinking very hard that LBH would never push his disciple into the abyss especially with no system to force him to. so SQQ either#had to goad him into it (failing always) or throw himself in. he ended up doing it himself but not before some very impressive hysterics.#BUT ALSO. IF THIS HAD BEEN WHERE SQQ WAS THE HALF-HEAVENLY DEMON INSTEAD IT WOULD'VE BEEN SO GREAT.#and by great i mean horribly angsty bc SQQ is NOT doing too hot and has. in very SY-like fashion. convinced himself that LBH will kill him#when he finds out he's a demon. so when it comes out i have this mental image of him lunging at LBH and LBH flinches back. but SQQ wraps hi#hands around the blade of Zheng Yang and yanks it up so the tip of the blade is digging into his chest where is heart is. LBH can't yank th#sword away without risking slicing into SQQ's hands. SQQ's hair has fallen out of its tail/bun and is now messily spilling down his#back and its NO helping the kinda deranged look he has going on. he's visibly shaking and his eyes keep flittering away and back at LBH's#face. SQQ is looking at the messages from the system warning him that he has to go into the abyss or punishment will occur. he's like.#rambling though. talking about how shizun doesn't *like* unclean things and there is nothing more unclean than a demon. like he is#INSISTING. LBH can't?? get a fucking word in. actually. SY isn't listening that much either anyways. too overwhelmed with the system and#the amount of stress he's under and his crumbling mental state and the innate and primal desire to live even when he's standing in front of#his own executioner. it all ends with him sitting on the ground at the lip of the abyss with his hair falling in his face. he looks so#unkempt and fallen apart and so distinctly *non-Shen Qingqiu* that LBH feels physically ill over it. tears are streaming down SQQ's face#and despite everything he is smiling. its not a nice smile. its a very frayed falling apart at the seams about to crack smile.#he tells shizun not to worry about staining his blade with this disciple's filthy blood because this disciple will take care of it himself.#and then he falls into the abyss before luo binghe can so much as grab him. the only reason LBh doesn't literally jump in after him is bc#he was numb with shock and the abyss was already closed before he could feel his legs again :]
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Making Incorrect H:SR Quotes Until I Run Out of (hopefully) Original Ideas - Pt. 6
[Pt. 1] [Pt. 2] [Pt. 3] [Pt. 4] [Pt. 5]
#hsr#honkai star rail#hsr incorrect quotes#hsr textpost#hsr memes#honkai star rail memes#hsr meme#honkai star rail meme#boothill#hsr boothill#argenti#hsr argenti#sunday#hsr sunday#aventurine#hsr aventurine#black swan#hsr black swan#argenhill#boothill x argenti#i love their 'guns n' roses' ship name a whole lot but im not trying to unintentionally put this in the actual band's tag lmao#i dont have a good concise title for this one its just like. 50% Boothill and 50% my other fav hsr men. thats it thats the theme#also. dont fuckign come at me like 'but the 6th one isn't accurate! he wasn't born in a test tube!!' listen. i know.#he was found abandoned in the snow or smthn idk i haven't dug into his lore leaks yet but i Know. the first half isnt all that accurate#but the overall vibes of it are funny enough to me that i had to make it anyways. let's all just learn to suspend our disbelief a bit#for the sake of laughs. also also. hopefully it goes w/o saying but if something ever lacks a source it's bc i found it like that#i always leave the op's handles even if they dont fit the characters but sometimes the posts i find have already had them cropped out#which irks me bc i Try to be a stickler for giving credit. but anyways. enough overthinking the making of these silly memes#also. some of these are prob a bit more accurate only if you've seen some of Boothill's voiceline and message leaks but eh its fine
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Marble hornets x Slendermansion AU but instead of Hoodie and Masky being proxies they also live in a small cabin in the same woods and are constantly trying to sabotage the creeps plans. Hoodie learns Jeff is supposed to kill some random family and follows him there to purposely set the home security system off and Masky jumps out of the closet and tackles Jeff. They all run away to their own homes afterwards when the cops are called. The Operator/Slenderman could put a stop to it if he so pleased, but finds the shenanigans amusing.
#creepypasta#marble hornets#mh#masky#masky marble hornets#Tim Wright#hoodie#hoodie marble hornets#Brian Thomas#Jeff the killer#Do you think Alex is a proxie in denial who keeps having to get dragged back to the mansion#Since Brian's alive so we might as well resurrect the rest of the cast#Is Jay in this small cabin or is he just desperately wandering around Rosswood with his camera trying to find these two homes#Since Totheark has started posting vlogs about how he beat up random local serial killers that have been evading the police#For months. Years. Decades perhaps#The video starts off a peaceful nature documentary#It starts off peaceful nature documentary#then three seconds later the blaring distorted sound of the alarm is is in your ears#And Masky is on the ground beating up Jeff#And ofc there's ominous codes and messages implying that there is a mansion they live in in Rosswood#And what about what happens to Tim after he finally returns to his normal state#Does he still stay in the cabin? Does Hoodie bring him to wherever Jay is staying for the night?#Cause clearly leaving him unconscious in the woods with a bunch of serial killers is a bad idea especially with their history in this au#Who knows really#I'm stuck on the imagery of a very tired EJ having to handle dragging Alex back to the mansion#Cause he keeps trying to kill Proxies “in training” (aka the ones infected with Slender Sickness)#And yes I copy pasted these tags from a reblog I made for another reblog on this post#I felt they belonged here too
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my queens <3 arya, sansa, & dany
ok before this starts controversy the crowns were so fucking random you have no idea. dany's is just the classic, arya's is a lineup of wolf teeth bc why not, sansa's is intended to be a wolf face with wings lol. pls dont ascribe secret hidden meanings to the crowns bc there is none i have no agenda and 0 horses in this race. i chose for aesthetics not for fandom discourse propaganda
anyways i love all 3 of these girls and it was fun to draw them older than their canon ages :)
#i now realize in hindsight the crowns could be giving the wrong message but there is no message... sorry#(that isnt meant to be a qitn crown and that isnt meant to be a eyrie crown AT ALL)#(i dont see sansa as lady of the eyrie personally)#(qitn predictions i would not discuss even if my life was at stake)#valyrianscrolls#valyrian scrolls#sansa stark#arya stark#daenerys targaryen#asoiaf#asoiaf fanart#sansa stark fanart#daenerys stormborn#arya stark fanart#if i get hate bc of this i will genuinely livepost my mental breakdown#i am going THRU it irl i cannot handle more turmoil. LEAVE ME ALONEEEE#also i accidentally made aryas face disproportionate but. i couldnt fix it. so im rlly sad. pls ignore it#asoiaf art#stark sisters#some requests will be finished soonish btw im just struggling w drawing ships in cute poses lol#and as far as what they are intended to be the queens *of* here. idk. queens of my heart.
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Thinking about how Riddlish is handled in cannon and in fics. I've seen people just put random things that happen to ryhm anytime they want someone to be speaking Riddlish and it's like, a minor pet peeve of mine? But every time we see Riddlish spoken in cannon, it kind of makes sense in a way? Like, if you think about what is said, and try to piece together any symbolism based on context, you can kind of understand what they're saying. Like Maddie said, "Riddlish is not an exact language". Putting together the metaphor and symbolism gives you the general idea of what they're getting across. And whenever a fic does this well, it's like an instant favorite.
Let's look at and dicect some cannon examples (I've always kind of found these facinating):
"Feathers and Friends, together alone!"
"Feathers" could refer to Raven, since she's named after a bird. She also has feathers fairly prominent in her character design, so it'd make sense for Giles to say this even though he doesn't know her name yet.
"and Friends" probably refers to Maddie, since she's known him for a while and is presumably his friend. It could also refer to their friendship, and maybe even be a way of including Raven in.
"together, alone" They're here with him, joining him in his solitude.
Putting it all together we get "Raven and Maddie, you're here! You came to visit me!" Which lines up pretty well with Maddie's translation of "he says it's nice to have us here!"
"Can a musical chair change its tone, when the tablet of granite is inscribed with a bone?"
"Can a musical chair change it's tone" The music in musical chairs is integral to the game, yet the song played does not come from the chair, but from the people playing. The tone of a musical chair is something fundamental about itself, and also something imposed by something outside itself. Can it change? Can something change something about itself that someone else has decided is fundamental?
"When the tablet of granite is inscribed with a bone?" A tablet of granite inscribed with something is literally that thing being written in stone, another reference to destiny and inevitability. And what's written on that stone is a bone, is death. Death is what is written in stone. Death is supposedly inevitable here.
From Raven's tone and terrified body language when asking Maddie to translate for her, it's fairly clear that the thing that wants to change is referring to Raven.
Putting it all together we get "Can Raven change from what others have said she's supposed to be, or is death the inevitable consequence of that like we've been told it is?" Which lines up pretty well with what Maddie was asked to translate: "What'll happen to me if I don't sign the book, am I really gonna disapear?"
"The king that sings with pages of sky fears too much the dawn that rises with lies"
"pages of sky" is in reference to the book, and maybe the fairytales themselves. The sky is often used to symbolically reference heaven and the divine. The book, determining people's destinies, fits fairly well into that category. It's almost like he's referring to the book as being from above.
"The king that sings with pages of sky" would then be Headmaster Grim. He's in a position of authority over the students like a king is to his subjects. He "sings with" the book/the stories with his constant insistence that people must sign the book and follow their stories, speaking in unison with them.
"fears too much" this part is fairly clear, Milton's paranoid. The consequences he thinks are inevitable aren't as inevitable as he claims.
"the dawn that rises with" would mean something like "the consequences of" or "the fallout from". Then there's one of two ways the rest could be. "lies" could refer to that which is contrary to what the stories say will happen. If you take the stories as "truth" then changing the stories would be "lies". Or, "rises with lies" could mean the consequences coming from Milton's lies being brought to light. The dawn rises as Milton's lies rise.
Yet the whole thing sounds rather foreboding, giving the impression that something is seriously wrong.
Bringing it all together, we either get "Headmaster Grim told you to follow your destiny because he's paranoid about what'll happen if you don't. But those fears are unfounded. Also something is very wrong." or "Headmaster Grim told you to follow your destiny because he's afraid of what will happen when people find out why you don't need to (and its emplied that that reason is something very bad)" This lines up fairly well with Maddie's translation of "There's something wrong with the book, and if you don't sign, your story will continue... I think". I like the touch that Maddie wasn't as confident in this translation, since the last phrase is more ambiguous. It's not really clear how the foreboding tone integrates into the message without more context than Maddie has, so Maddie doesn't really know what it means.
"The baby bird flies. The snake, it slithers. But the cage holds both, to die and to wither."
"The baby bird flies. The snake, it slithers." The baby bird and the snake are two very different creatures, they move and interact with the world in two totally different ways. Most people also would look more favorably on the baby bird than on the snake.
"but the cage holds both, to die and to wither." the cage doesn't care what is inside of it, it will indiscriminately hold them both captive. The things that make the baby bird different from the snake, and the adorable charms of the baby bird will not free the baby bird from the cage, nor will they protect the baby bird from the grisly fate that awaits it in the cage.
The context is also relevant, since she's talking to Alastair and Bunny, two of her subjects who have just been arrested, but also two of her daughter's friends.
Putting this all together we get "Yes, you enjoy privileges that others do not have, but my affection for you will not compromise my judgement. You are not above the law. I am not above punishing you like I would anynother citizen." While we don't have a cannon translation to compare this to, it seems to make sense. Its immediately followed up with her letting them off with a warning, and despite this interaction, Bunny later tells Lizzie that her mom really is a good queen, but that the curse has stressed her out. I think the Queen of Hearts probably made exploring illegal to protect people from the curse. If she really is a good queen, then this type of objectivity ("I don't care if you're my daughter's friends, crime is crime") would make total sense.
#i just think Riddlish as a language is so fascinating#and i really appreciate how the cannon handles it#how it always seems to make sense#and can be used narritively for forshadowing#in like a criptic message kind of way#i really wish more fics treated Riddlish more like a criptic message and less like random rhyming giberish#i dont blame the fic writers though#sometimes Riddlish sounds like gibberish and its easy to miss the whole communication through criptic messages thing#eah#ever after high#riddlish's posts#text post#madeline hatter#giles grimm#queen of hearts#wonderland#ever after high wonderland#Riddlish
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giving tim drake the illness. that boy doesn't have a spleen and when he gets the Normal Human Flu he is out for like two months. no one has ever been worse at being sick. his text chain with dick is just like
tim 8:07 pm
when i die do you want my playstation
dick i thought about it some more and im gonna give it to bart he likes games more. sorry I hope this doesn't hurt your feelings
i measured my heart rate and it's 83 but that seems high. that's too high right?
Cleveland clinic says asplenia can cause heart problems maybe i should call leslie
DONT TELL BRUCE BTW. HE DOESNT KNOW I'M SICK
or about the spleen thing either haha.
wait I told you about the spleen thing right?
haha
tim 9:12 pm
nvm I drank a gatorade All Good Boss!
(1 missed call - Dick Grayson 10:37 pm)
(1 missed call - Dick Grayson 10:38 pm)
(1 missed call - Dick Grayson 10:39 pm)
dick 10:40 pm
timothy drake I am at your door. let me in.
WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR SPLEEN.
tim if you don't let me in i will call babs
tim if you don't let me in i will call babs and also I will tell her about your spleen
TIMOTHY!!!
#crucially babs knows about tim's spleen and has for years. it's noted in his file and everything!#“do not send on biohazard missions”#bruce also does know tim is sick he assumes tim is handling it. he is correct comma sort of#dcu#tim drake#also crucial to note tim wanted to delete those text messages but his brain isnt Working Great atm#at the height of his illness he left a really weepy voice memo for bruce about the honor of being robin#luckily he couldn't figure out how to send it unsecured. two days later he found it and deleted it in a fit of Incredible embarrassment
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People on tiktok infantilizing curly from mouthwashing and saying that him becoming crippled was his punishment. Killing u. With my teeth.
#decades of begging to not be infantilized when we're dependent on people and tiktok ruins it#also the “divine punishment” thing is disgusting but it was probably what the developers intended idk#eyelids burned so hes forced to be a passive observer. legs gone so he cant run away. flesh laid bare and vulnerable#it's a fucked up rhetoric still. people dont become disabled because theyre bad people we become disabled just bc it happens#also curly is not a great perfect person whatsoever. his need to keep things friendly between the crew is what doomed them all#but people CANNOT handle a morally gray character.#tbh what was curly supposed to do? giving anya the gun while she was breaking down would be stupid#but he couldnt just turn around the ship and drop off jimbalaya or file a report. a big message in the game#is that corporate doesnt care if they live or die.#not saying curly didnt do anything wrong#mouthwashing#mouth washing#character analysis#captain curly#curly mouthwashing#cripple punk#disabled
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okay but the way negotiations between mark s and his outie immediately fell apart. and why wouldn’t they? mark s has only known an existence where he’s been used by his outie. he woke up in a room where a voice asked him sixteen times who he was, and he told that voice he’d kill him. he knows every single way helly’s going to fail at escaping because he tried it himself. two years pass in this endless hell scraping by and his outie doesn’t take his resignation and he can’t escape the building because his outie just walks back in. And then suddenly his outie needs his help and he’s meant to just fall into line and kill himself for him. that conversation started with mark s wanting to believe his outie so bad. He was apologizing for what he did to him. He was sorry. but now he just wants to take what little life he’s built and kill him. reintegration is just tossed to him as a scrap of a promise and outie mark is lying as he does it. He didn’t reintegrate because he felt that this was unfair to his innie. He reintegrated because of Gemma. Mark S’ entire existence is utility for Gemma. He was created to help Mark Scout grieve Gemma and he’s supposed to die to get her back. But his outie can’t comprehend that his innie has something similar to lose. He condescends about his relationship with Helly, gets her name wrong, and then tells him that what he has with Gemma is Helly times a thousand. Mark Scout wants to sacrifice Mark S to save Gemma but never considers that Mark S would do the same to him to stay with Helly
#severance spoilers#something something the parts of themselves that transcend severance#Irving’s a message driven person and thought that his anti lumon agenda would transcend severance but instead Irving b was a fervent#believer until he lost Burt. Helena thought Helly would fall into line and serve Kier the way she did but it’s her headstrong entitlement#that stayed consistent.#any version of mark is willing to sacrifice his other for the person he loves#he loved Gemma so much he split himself in two to handle the grief of losing her#and his other self refused to rejoin those two out of love for Helly#they’re the same person with the same priorities forced into conflict#severance#mark scout#mark s#Helly r#Gemma scout
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does anyone else relate to dis btw. I keep thinking about it since someone posted it around the same time I was having this realization about myself
#talkys#i was thinking about it especially when i still thought id be moving out bc i worried missing my family but when#i was in college in another city i didnt miss any of them at all#i went over a year ish without convo with my best friend because well i assumed she was too#busy to chat and i otherwise can handle being alone#i havent seen my other close friend in maybe half a year and sure when they come down we have fun but i also#forget abt them until they message me (bc they dont respond to messages LMAO they decide when we talk)#i made another close friend recently and they went on a 2 week trip and during week 1 i was like i rly wish#i could message em right neow! but then by week too i kinda Forgot until they returned#and were an active presence again#out of sight out of mind if i dont already regularly talk to you daily (which is only 1 person rn)#*week 2#like if ur someone i talk to daily i get excited to talk and send messages but otherwise i forget#i guess its also the vibes. i do wonder what one close friend is up to but not the one i know wont give me a response etc
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I have been following your work since the beginning. At first I just really liked your sense of humour and analysis of MDZS, but with time I started to really enjoy watch your progress in this drawing journey. I just watched your animatic and just wanted to say that I'm really happy for you, you're a really inspirational person.
I usually don't comment in anything and it's just because I'm really awkward about commenting. But I'm always accompanying your posts and seeing your notifications always make me smile, please continue with your good work!
(English isn't my first language, sorry for any mistakes)
Thank you very much! I've seen you around for a long while; I sincerely appreciate your support, no matter what form it takes!
#ask#fersona#(Posts that got stuck in my drafts...Pooh bear in the wall style. Stuck so long we're decorating it's ass).#As a fellow lurker and anxious person who struggles to write comments - I really understand the effort this took to write and send.#It's also an incredibly sweet message that I will certainly be looking back on when times get tough.#Thank you for being here on this journey with me! And I'm not just talking air here - I do recognize your handle!#From the other side of table - even a little comment does mean a lot. As awkward as it feels (especially if the person doesn't always reply#That little 'haha' in the tags *is* still seen and deeply appreciated.#At the same time! Not to make anyone panic but...we see you. I see the regulars who've never commented but like every post.#Artists do feel the love even if it is quiet.#So thank you for coming along for the journey! I am so glad to have made you laugh B*)#Please look forward to all the funny jokes I have in the future and the long road of art I have ahead of me!#Especially now that I've been getting into animatics...please send your energy my way as I will be shrivelling up like a prune.#Cheers! And thank you for brightening my day!
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collecting these like infinity stones. every day my power grows stronger
#the pitt#lauren feels things#my sister asking if she can handle the pitt was mainly about the grossness levels#I told her if you can get past the first three episodes#nothing is really grosser than that (the degloved leg is the worst imo)#and YES I still use tumblr messaging to communicate with some of my friends#wHATEVER
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#18.05.23#3357#hi addendum i got a message about difficulties t read the text sometimes#so i will attempt to get the habit of doing a thing i should have bee ndoing i.e. add image descriptions#i dont fully know how to handle those best so. hope thats decent
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Figured I'd try my hand at some Redacted character post/text edits!
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Credit to @/sainthowlzon for all the Listener icons, and to @/elisacaleisa for their google drive with all the canon icons!
(slightly alternative version of the Solaires' GC edit below the cut bc i had a lil too much fun with what Vincent would name his contacts)
#redacted audio#redacted asmr#redacted memes#redactedverse#redacted sam#redacted darlin#redacted vincent#redacted honey#redacted guy#redacted azmidi#redacted sweetie#redacted david#redacted asher#redacted treasure#redacted porter#redacted alexis#redacted william#*slaps post* *flextape meme guy voice* now THAT's a lotta characters!#good Lord these were hard to figure out ALT text for. anyone more experienced with describing images feel free to lmk if i did it wrong#i'm trying to both give credit to the images source (when there even is one. text screenshots are usually source-less when i find them)#And to explain what the original images said. And how I edited them. And who's speaking in what message and aaaaaaa ...i Tried#breaking away from my old style of edits by actually changing the OP's handles to suit the characters. but i'm not creative enough to think#-of cool ones so it's just gonna be their names most of the time probably lmao. but i'll leave the original ones unedited if they happen-#-to fit like the Darlin' one did. and sometimes there Is no handle/url in the image to begin with so. i'm playing it by ear#still gonna put credit to the OPs in the ALT text when i can tho. anyways. that's enough overanalyzing meme edits for one night#i spent way too much time on these so i sure do hope that some of y'all find them funny#and as usual with these kinda edits i really hope i'm not accidentally making any that have been done before!#if i ever make a duplicate of someone else's i swear its not intentional i just dont have time to scour the fandom for every existing edit#also i know that's not how iMessages are formatted but i had to find a way to make it clear who's POV we're seeing the convo from so yeah
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I was just looking into the notion that widowers only had to mourn for 1 year after their wives' deaths, during the Victorian era, while widows had to mourn for two. because I've heard that a lot, but it seems to jive more with the Pop History version of the era where mourning existed because Imposing Rules On People Is Fun and All Marriages Were For Money than with the real version, inhabited by real people who idealized love matches and theoretically practiced formal mourning to show that they were going through something and needed gentle treatment
what I've gathered from a brief search for period sources seems to be:
one source from 1839 mentioned the "widows = 2 years; widowers = 1 year" thing
every other source I read (about 7, from various points in the era) implied or stated that the minimum normal period of mourning for widows and widowers was the same
That's a small sample size, but I still think it's significant
men's clothing could often be harder to visibly alter to reflect mourning, relying heavily on things like black cufflinks and collar studs that could be trickier to notice at first glance than. you know. a bonnet with a black veil over someone's face
a lot of sources talking about mourning clothes were fashion magazines aimed at women, and thus would be more likely to talk about women's mourning attire than men's
so my takeaway is that while some people at some parts of this 60-year period felt it acceptable for widowers to mourn for half the period of widows, many others at other times expected any bereaved spouse regardless of gender. obviously, in a highly misogynistic society, women's adherence to ettiquette could be much more scrutinized than men's; a widower who married six months after his wife's death would be looked askance at, but probably not subject to as much censure as a widow who did the same. and obviously, things don't go according to plan and the formal mourning system could of course backfire- forcing a woman into months of social seclusion for an abusive husband, for example
but.
the overall goal was to convey "handle with care" to the outside world. for many people, widowers were expected to need as much care as widows- and therefore to mourn for the same length of time
#victorian#victorian mourning#history#social history#a friend in my costumer circle said she wished she'd had a better way to signal her bereavement when her father died (she was 17)#because nowadays there really isn't a way to convey the same 'handle with care' message#so she really saw the utility of codified mourning signals
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