#middle support autistic

[sunkern-plus]

i put myself down too much literally just for traits that come from being too autistic to do things like draw really well/other traits that come with good motor skills, have near perfect social skills, masking, and functioning in daily life but not autistic enough to not do education

[spooksforsammy]

Autism is disability. Autism is disability. Autism is disability. Autism is disability

If autism doesn’t disable you, then most likely not autism. By definition, it disables or impair your day to day life. Doesn’t matter how big or little, is disabled.

Can call autism neurotype. But if say only neurotype and not disability, then you erase experiences, especially of those with medium/ high support needs and level2/level 3 ASD

Autism is disability. Always has been, always will. Stop saying isn’t one. Wrong wrong wrong when say!

[disabledbutchblues]

able-bodied neurotypical people want quiet disability. invisible disability. they love it when we don’t complain and don’t shove our needs in their face. they love it when we stay home and die quietly instead of trying to live (but they don’t like it when we stay home and need caregivers).

[paragraph about self then next ones on more general and important things] i recently realized that i make many people uncomfortable irl because i talk about my symptoms. i wasn’t aware it was wrong, because i’m autistic and struggle a lot with notions of public vs private space, and what can be said to whom. i’m very open about my disabilities and struggles, both because i don’t realize i’m saying something i shouldn’t, and because i don’t have a choice and often can’t mask (i am not high masking. not low masking either tho). i don’t wear unnoticeable noise cancelling headphones, they’re not good enough for me at all, i wear big obvious ear defenders with a fluorescent part. i sit down on the floor of a store if my legs hurt. i don’t sit normally anywhere, including at school, because i can’t, i can’t sit correctly and not move, it’s painful. i don’t hesitate to tell people i have terrible executive dysfunction. i openly say i am in pain and need to rest, even if it’s abnormal for a teenager to not have a healthy strong body. when it seems relevant to the conversation, i share the fact that i struggled with an eating disorder and self harm and that i recovered/am recovering. when someone asks me how i am doing, i tell them i’m feeling terrible because i am in pain or because i am suicidal or because i am overwhelmed— this is partly a choice to be open about my disability, partly the fact that i don’t notice until it’s too late that they don’t want me to be honest, and party the fact that there are many things i cannot hide. i tell people that i am not independent, can’t cook, can’t go to new places alone, can’t shop, can’t maintain hygiene and that i don’t shower enough or brush my teeth regularly. when someone asks if i plan on learning how to drive i say that i don’t want to right now because my processing issues would be dangerous and i would get in an accident. i tell people i have meltdowns and shutdowns at school. i hit myself in public sometimes.

yet i am not visibly disabled. i’m very lucky and privileged within the disabled community. i am visibly weird and there is visibly something wrong with me but i am only visibly disabled to someone who spends some time with me and sees me unable to process informations or unable to do IADLs. strangers don’t know i’m disabled until i tell them— they mock a symptom or ask why i can’t do something and i say i’m autistic, i’m disabled, i’m in pain. and they already hate that i tell them. they say it’s private. they say my struggles are something personal. something to talk about with doctors but that no one else should have to know about.

some people are way more disabled than me, visibly disabled, disabled at first glance. some use mobility aids, full time or not. some have intellectual disabilities, some use an AAC device, some have a physical disability that cannot be concealed or an intellectual/developmental/mental disability that very obviously affects the way they move or communicate. some people don’t have a choice to mask or not to mask, don’t have a choice to be visibly disabled or not. strangers will immediately notice that these people are disabled, even without engaging in a conversation with them. and they hate it ! disabled people are supposed to be quiet and invisible and going outside with ear defenders or a mobility aid or anything, no matter if it is a small or a huge accommodation, is too much. but the bigger it is or the more you need help to do a ‘basic, easy’ thing, the worse it is. they stare at me in the street because of my ear defenders, but they don’t just stare when someone is in a wheelchair, they touch and break and don’t have any respect.

ableists think disabled people shouldn’t be in their way because they think we shouldn’t exist or that we are worthless. having an accommodation or an aid in public is already activism for them, already disturbing, already forcing them to see that they are privileged and that the world is not accessible.

to exist as a disabled person is beautiful. it’s brave. it’s something to be proud of. not because it’s inspiring that you are strong enough to live with your disability, not because "someone else would have killed themselves already in your situation," not because "i could never be like that ! you’re so courageous !", but because ableism is everywhere and it’s so hard to live in this world where they don’t want us to exist. it’s so hard to advocate for ourselves.

and for those who are not visibly disabled (like me), or at least not always ; for those who have low support needs ; for those who know how to mask : point out inaccessibility. force people to see their own ableism. make them uncomfortable. it’s also our job, our responsibility. if someone mocks me and calls me useless because i can’t do IADLs i say i’m disabled, stay very calm and inform them that many people are unable to perform BADLs without help and that they deserve just as much help and respect as anyone else. if someone points out how annoying my ear defenders are i ask why the place isn’t accessible for people in a wheelchair. etc etc. listen to people with higher support needs than you and amplify their voices. but also act irl.

we can all do better and force society to be better to.

and remember that accessibility for you doesn’t mean accessibility for everyone.

a place that accommodates sensory issues might not have accessible toilets. so it’s not good enough. an autism support group meeting has stim toys and ear defenders and happens in a quiet place ? that’s wonderful ! can a nonverbal person participate ? are caregivers welcome ? we can’t just think that "something is better than nothing." yes it is, but it’s not good enough. if a place or an event is accessible for one thing but not for something else, then it’s not accessible. and we need to be loud about it.

[autisticdreamdrop]

it's a "visible" disability for a lot of mid to high support needs autistics but same for the autistics who have it as in "invisble" disability. we are all autistic. we are all valid.

[dreamdropsystem]

Since we are a mid to high support level system shoutout to the autistics that :

can't clean themselves correctly (+ too scared to ask for help)

can't wipe correctly (+ too scared to ask for help)

have a hard time dressing yourself (+ too scared to ask for help)

have to be reminded to bathe

have to be reminded to wash your hair

have to be reminded to eat

have to be reminded to brush your teeth

have accidents

wet the bed

don't have great hygiene

[anothersssarchive]

Since we are a mid to high support level system shoutout to the autistics that :

• can't clean themselves correctly (+ too scared to ask for help)

• can't wipe correctly (+ too scared to ask for help)

• have a hard time dressing yourself (+ too scared to ask for help)

• have to be reminded to bathe

• have to be reminded to wash your hair

• have to be reminded to eat

• have to be reminded to brush your teeth

• have accidents

• wet the bed

• don't have great hygiene

[laurapalmerz]

i think we as a society should talk about audrey more. next to shelly and laura, she's one of the most mischaracterized throughout the entire show. an endlessly fascinating case of existing often just as ship material or stripped down to aesthetics instead of exploring the rather horrendous abuse that she and her brother have faced living in the horne household.

the fact that her father plays a pivotal role for a while in terms of her self worth is really depressing, especially given she doesn't receive much attention from him in the first place. her jealously of laura stealing the attention away from him at parties also foreshadows a lot of what she'll go on to experience as she gets older. it was unfounded, since it wasn't as though he was favoring laura as a "daughter" over audrey, but was attracted to her from that moment onward (as we find out in laura's diary when she's eventually hired at one eyed jacks). this lack of attention and care toward her might explain why she behaves the way she does and has a tendency to seek out comfort in the arms of older men (see her attraction to cooper and that one guy she eventually gets with, jack? i think his name is?). her family despises her. not a lot of people take her seriously. she's ignored and shoved off until she enters one eyed jacks and is used as leverage as blackmail against her father, who nearly has sex with her unknowingly. it breaks her further to know that her father had a relationship with laura, that it was potentially him that could've killed her (before her real killer is revealed) all because she was going to expose his secrets rightfully. there's layers of complexity to her that people blatantly ignore because "uwu aesthetic!! she's SO lana del ray coded". i cannot tell you how many times i've perused youtube edits or amv's of twin peaks and seen audrey set to songs by lana del ray (who is a known zionist and racist). one of which being "lolita" which just makes me wanna vomit because that song misses the ENTIRE point of the novel but that's a discussion for another day. she's not two-dimensional, her struggles are just as valid as laura's and she deserves to be respected as a character. she's not a sex symbol, she's not an aesthetic, she's a girl who just wanted to be loved by her father, but ended up in the margins as he sought power and relationships with underage girls at a business he and his brother ran off to the side illegally. no one loves her, and thus she acts out, even though she doesn't want to.

[natjennie]

cap helping alison with the wedding decorations is so good but particularly that part when he holds up his stick to the chair rows and is like "just line that up, splendid" or whatever like he's measuring them... he's soooo silly goofy what does he think he's doing. I love you captain.

[spidermanifested]

doing a lot of posting this afternoon but. man. if theres anything that sets off my alarm bells its whenever i see a post thats like. Sticking It To Those Dumb Motherfuckers Who Complain About/Can't Just Suck It Up And/Don't Know How Great It Is To Engage In [INSERT SOCIAL CONVENTION HERE]

i know when i see one of these posts im going to go in the notes and see people calling op ableist, maybe in a way that comes off mean, and i know the op is going to respond calling them all terminally online sjws because of their tone, and/or playing the "so you think all autistic people are the same?? you think no autistic person can navigate social interactions like everybody else??? look at all these autistic people agreeing with me" card. the old "No You" Switcheroo

And its just, really exhausting, knowing they probably mean well but theyre operating on such faulty defensive logic that you can see from a mile away when youre in any way educated about disabilities. because the thing about disabilities is that theyre disabling. and when "difficulty with an ability" is a symptom of a disability. and then you insult people who find that ability.... difficult....... like i dont know how else to show people how to put these 2 puzzle pieces together. i dont know how else to explain that "people who cant do this one thing experience less of the full scope of humanity than me" is never a progressive statement to find yourself making

[lupins-hehim-pussy]

i want top neuvillette who's still femme and a crybaby my god is that so hard

[sunkern-plus]

People (both allistic and low support/high masking low support autistics) don't realize autism is a developmental disability and even in cases where the autistic person isn't intellectually disabled, they will still have (sometimes obvious) areas in their development that are blatantly out of place for someone their age

Like with me for example, my vocabulary and abstract comparisons skills are consistently high, yes, but my reading comprehension is significantly lower (putting me at the level slightly above an associate's in English when I have a bachelor's), as well as my ability to read tone and intent. I am also extremely emotionally behind, to the point I am often infantilized because nobody can expect someone who's emotionally around the ~17 year old range to feel sexual and romantic attraction to others, though to a lesser degree than both neurotypicals and people who aren't ace spectrum or aro spectrum (and that developmental delay in understanding romantic and sexual attraction to the point I only realized I was bi at...probably 19 actually all things considered was part of the reason I identify as quoisexual, gray ace and gray aromantic). I also lack developmentally typical interests; even with other autistic people who will have more common interests of their age and gendered group, I tend to gravitate towards kids media and cartoons (and street fighter for the most part until vi counted as this) and complex medical texts, complex literary analytical things and queer and disability studies with no in between. And that's not even getting into my lack of job preparedness, my lack of time management (which is partially because of ADHD) and my lack of interest in "mature" conversations such as politics unless it's something obscure like fat liberation or queer anarchism or anarchofeminism and anarchopacifism and anarchochristianity and anarchocommunism like....

Yeah. autism believe it or not is a developmental disability and just because you, as a fully speaking, neurotypical passing high masking autistic don't think you're developmentally disabled doesn't mean that I, who is hyperverbal and hyperlexic but was believed to never be able to even graduate HIGH school when I was first diagnosed, am not. We are not the same

[chthonic-pain]

having an absolute hell of a time being autistic today because I came home from a movie and I wasn't feeling well, then I started to make food, then I tried to sign into Hulu unsuccessfully for about fifteen minutes, then I went to check on my pasta and it was all sticking to the pan and I started crying and having a meltdown

[disabledbutchblues]

so so so proud !!!! survived without mother (caregiver) almost 24h without other adult caregiver. first time. with few friends/teenagers (5). not do much, let them cook organize etc (feel bad about this), not shower or clean because no energy, did cry a lot, isolate, feel bad, almost almost meltdown but calmed down !! and 5h sleep. unfamiliar place some unfamiliar people (1 friend other almost strangers) no true caregiver. very proud ! is so much for me. really much.

[spooksforsammy]

Wish could follow more account but can’t follow them if not talking about my interests. And can’t even follow people do art and bats, have be disability related :|

Follow some people, post mainly about life and what do in day even if not about disability, but get so overwhelmed when see those because care but can’t seem show. Like yes, explain your day. What happened that made you mad/ happy/ upset. I care. But it’s not about disabilities so it’s so much harder to care.

There’s so many people that account view, and in mind is like “wow, agree and like hearing about what go through daily. Should follow.” But then do mini scroll through account and not all about disability or daily life with disability and can’t bring self press follow.

Most definitely upsets me. Wish could follow people even if not in interests. Wish didn’t have special interests, that they didn’t determine day and what view.

[theokusgallery]

I freaking love your au and your latest comic because MAN

I FELT THOSE LAST WORDS AND I WAS LIKE "OH FUCK"

First panel was already a bit unsettling itself - like you get it's just intimate manners as you do as a couple but he felt so possessive already and

Sunny's inner thoughts

I'm sure 100% his abandonment anxiety will increase drastically the more he stays with nick and honestly slay

I mean it's kinda obvious

But like I felt that

Yeah

Nick is unhinged

Nick is crazy

Y'all are gay for him

Good 😵💥

Sunny has soooo many issues. So many of them. He's so vulnerable and he makes himself vulnerable to Nick while still being intimidated by him, it's... Dude's got some problems.

[whiteacropolis]

every so often i remember the "laois is too autistic to have a gender" and like girl the finnish trans clinics would love you <3333333333