#my identity is not up for debate

[ohgreat-moretapes]

-Tim

[fandomwave]

Pardner and I have been working on a canon divergent au and also I wanted to play around with fuckin hair construction :3 Top left is Atem/Yami and how he looks to Yuugi, Top right is classic flavored Yuugi Bottom is how Yuugi looks to everyone when Atem/Yami is driving (Minus the eye on most occasions. Sometimes you get lil a mindcrush. As a treat)

[sforzesco]

Slavery and Roman Literary Culture, Sandra R. Joshel

[fistfuloflightning]

There was a time before I knew what you’d become.

Shen Yuan can’t believe a world like PIDW that could spawn the scum villain could also create someone like Shen Jiu. He doesn’t know they will soon be one and the same.

[thefluxsystem]

Thoughts on Innerworlds:

They’re not physical locations that system members actually live & walk around in, but the brain may make them perceive it that way.

When we front, we can “remember” what happened in our innerworld while we were there. Since we share a brain, we all have the same “storyline” there, which has created consistent “memories” from within our innerworld over the years.

We’ve had things happen there that have helped us process & recover from things that happened in the outerworld. (It’s why it’s used as a therapeutic technique.)

There’s a fine line with it. It’s possible to rely too heavily on the innerworld to escape the stress of this life, which, for many CDD systems, was the only way they could survive. Once it’s safe to do so, it is important to draw up a healthy distinction between innerworld reality and physical reality. But, on the other hand, entirely denying the legitimacy of innerworld events can greatly hinder healing.

Oftentimes, innerworld happenings are metaphorical. They occur because there’s something the brain/system needs to work through. For example, a “physical fight” occurring within the innerworld may represent clashing morals between two system members, and signify that the misalignment needs to be addressed.

So, are innerworlds “real”? Maybe not in the way the walls of my house are, but it’s real in that it’s a significant part of how my brain functions. To deny that reality entirely is to deny the very thoughts in my head, simply because I can’t touch them & other’s can’t see them.

[carnage-cathedral]

yea okay I'm still mad about this. I don't care if it's the "problematic" side of the debate. you can try and rationalize it any way you want, but doubles do exist, in one form or another. if you introject an alter from something in popular media there is a near 100% chance that another system has also introjected something from that source, and those alters, while not carbon copies of each other or in any way inherently the same, are still entitled to setting boundaries around/being uncomfortable with sharing their source with somebody else. this does not make them "problematic" or unhealthy or "too attached to source" or selfish or anything! by enforcing these unfair rules upon fucking system alters- who are inherently, by nature, traumatized people- you are perpetuating the idea that traumatized people need to put other people's needs or the Greater Good above their own comfort. if someone says they are uncomfortable with "doubles" or sourcemates (or whatever sysblr decides is the Proper term for it this week,) respect that fucking boundary. I don't care if you think it's not a fair one. the idea that you can choose a boundary's validity based on how problematic you think it is is complete fucking bullshit and is completely unfair to the other systems you're enforcing it upon. if you disagree with someone's take on the issue, then don't interact. this is a trauma disorder. we do not need to be policing and regulating the personal (and completely harmless) choices and boundaries that traumatized people are making. you cannot pick and choose when it is and isn't okay to decide when people can set boundaries around who interacts with them based on how excluded you feel by it. people are entitled to having boundaries that exclude certain people, even if that includes you. yes, even if they seem unfair. yes, even if it offends you. if you take away someone's right to creating a comfortable environment for themselves on the basis that they are "problematic" in the way they're doing it, you are becoming an oppressor, and forcing people (in this case, system alters) into situations where they are uncomfortable simply because you prefer things to be controlled by your personal ideology.

sincerely, a Will Wood introject, who is very uncomfortable with other Will Woods interacting with him. ya wanna know why?

BECAUSE FORCING ME TO DO THINGS THAT MAKE ME UNCOMFORTABLE JUST BECAUSE YOU LIKE THEM THAT WAY VIOLATES MY FUCKING CONSENT AS A FUCKING HUMAN BEING. THIS IS, AND ALWAYS HAS BEEN, A SIMPLE MATTER OF FUCKING CONSENT.

anyway. point made. send post.

[queeringclassiclit]

Éowyn

from The Lord of the Rings series by J. R. R. Tolkien (1954-1955)

submitted by anon

[dafpork]

dafpork is like a modern day speakeasy to me because everyone comes in like it’s forbidden but since it’s the modern day it’s perfectly normal. Little secret club

LMAO YES!!! THIS IS A REALLY GOOD ANALOGY.. AND SEE IT'S SO FUNNY because i'm like I DON'T WANT IT TO BE FORBIDDEN... i'm such an accidental hypocrite in that regard because i'm like "i want more people to talk about them i want people to be loud and proud it makes me sad to hear that people might have been initially embarrassed to ship them there's so much to love :(((( anyway here's my SHITTY ART of these people i HATE i'm so EMBARRASSED thanks for putting up with me in my SHAME CORNER UGH i'm so EMBARRASSED they're so EMBARRASSING i SUCK they SUCK it all SUCKS" LOL and i do mean it in a joking manner... mostly... but i'm kind of now at the point where i'm like. Okay well you're going to have to put in some more legwork if you want people to talk about them. (but, again, just the fact that people talk about and support them enough is so great! it's so weird and wonderful to me that people are calling it on dafpork on platforms other than this one, people who may not know i exist... it's cool hearing a term you and your friend came up with in a private discord be used, it shows how much growth there HAS been since there really used to be nothing!)

a dafpork speakeasy sounds so cool though oh my god can you imagine Porky and Daffy themed cocktails...............

COME JOIN US AT THE DAFPORK SPEAKEASY. which, you are not supposed to advertise that a speakeasy is a speakeasy. but it's subversive. like Daffy. or something. this is your sign to play pig and duck with us. yes you

[phightingconfessions]

Holy shit I love that this community is so supporting of chubby characters! The horrors of fat phobia I've seen in other fandoms is crazy especially the regretevator discord server the mods there are just scary..

EXACTLY!!!! like obviously theres still gonna be those people that get some violent rage and hatred over seeing someone draw a character fat but ive noticed theyre mostly.. a minority in the phandom? not even a VOCAL minority i just barely even see them and ngl its actually really refreshing

[gayeilgeoir]

As a butch, I’m actually so tired of getting told I have “internalised lesbiphobia” because I use he/they pronouns. Like I beg you go talk to literally any older lesbian and they will tell you about he/him butches they met in the 80s and their femme girlfriends. Like dear god, you don’t know me, everyone who actually knows me remarks on how openly lesbian I am.

[eclipsesalign]

fully came to terms with being nonbinary last night and im gonna be sooooo real. crazy how nice it feels to have a real concrete label about it

[stowaway-society]

I shouldnt have to compromise and ignore my own gender identity to conform to people who cant be bothered to respect me.

I hate realising that I'm putting my identity and comfort aside so people dont have to "go out of their way to respect it". My pronouns are They/Them and I shouldn't have to accept He/Him from ANYONE because its "simpler", thats the same bullshit excuse I kept hearing when people would use She/Her, "because it was easier".

Like, I'm not gonna ask some German dude in his 60s to start using pronouns he's never heard of because this language didnt HAVE them until fairly recent years as far as I know, but istg if I see one more person KNOWINGLY only use He/Him because they say its "easier" I'm going to explode, especially cause its usually people that know how to use neutral pronouns in both languages. And I'm not talking about slipping up or just not having picked up how upset I am about it, I'm talking about people REFUSING to use them or learn them because its "too complicated" and "too hard to remember". Because I would rather not be referred to at all than be referred to without the respect my existence and identity deserve.

It's just about the blatant disrespect to my identity. I have so many so much bigger problems, but it still infuriates me on a daily basis. Because it's still misgendering. Because it's still disrespectful to who I am as a person to refuse to learn how to refer to me. Because it's just as bad as still referring to me with She/Her. It's still a constant reminder that I am not in a neat little box and therefore apparently do not deserve the same respect as those who are.

[ricks-fallen-angel]

Anyone start thinking about their gender cause you don’t hate the one you were assigned at birth but it doesn’t seem to fit quite right, like a dress that is almost perfect but needs a slight hem and perhaps the waste taken in a little and while we’re at it can we just shorten the sleeves? But then you consider alternatives like the opposite gender or nonbinary but those don’t seem quite right either so maybe you think about agender or genderfluid but no that’s not it either so maybe you just don’t do anything about it, after all hearing your current pronouns doesn’t bother you too much although you still feel like correcting people every time they refer to you as “a woman” but you don’t know what you’re correcting them to and all this thinking is driving you crazy so in the end you just shrug and decide that your gender is none of your business

[teriiblog]

Sometimes I have an urge to make sideblogs but I never get to them. Idk on one hand I like having my things organized but at the same time... Eh..... Sometime it get confusing.

[leon-on-the-froggy-chair]

my mom signed my christmas presents with year with dante/my dead name and yknow what. thats progress.

[autisticlee]

the whole "you shouldn't identify as X, don't form an identity when you can't/don't know yet, you're too young, what if/you might change your mind!" etc etc. it's so silly when you think about it. what's wrong with changing your mind anyway? why did we all decide that gender/sexuality identity has to be static and can never change? why did we decide that it's a bad thing to change? because the old generation tells us change is bad? because they (mostly conservatives) want to conserve "the good old days/the way things are supposed to be" in their minds???

WHO CARES if someone says they're gay then realizes 5 years later they're bi. WHO CARES if someone says they're a girl and realizes after trying it out they're not. let people explore who they are until they figure it out even if they go through every lable available to them! maybe none fit and they make up their own! who cares! who cares if they change it every year for the rest of their lives! humans change. that's the only constant about us! why is it a bad thing, even taboo, to accept change and exploration within sexuality and gender specifically?

there's always so much shame that comes with someone realizing they were wrong, changing as a person, or discovering something new about themselves. i've seen people afraid to explore themselves more or afraid to talk about a change in identity, for fear of the queer community pushing back on them the same way they're afraid to come out to the cishets in their life who are trans/homophobic. that's just not fair that their own community can become hostile towards them, too. being in a closet within a bigger closet essentially. everyone is always told to figure it all out first before claiming an identity, because then you're locked in it for life, apparently. you can't change your mind after that. why though? what's the point of that really? why can't we embrace fluidity a bit more? why can't we accept that humans do change all the time? why is making and trying to prove that these identities are static/unchanging/innate the only way to validate them? why can't they just, I don't know, BE VALID. without reason. why must we jump through hoops to be valid when we should just automatically be valid because we are human. stop letting the cishets gatekeep everything, leading to us gatekeeping each other!

I am sometimes very hesitant to talk about my own identity. I identified as a gay/biromantic trans guy for like idk 8-10 years? transitioned and everything. then like a year or two ago, I realized/decided that doesn't fit right anymore. now i'm a nonbinary, but also kinda fluid, aroace person. sometimes I don't like to talk about that because of the stigma behind changing your gender/sexuality identities. but you know what. i'll talk about it anyway and people have to learn to accept it.

what were the consequences and bad parts about changing my mind/identity like that? none. absolutely none. (outside of people being weird about it for no reason) but the benefits are feeling more comfortable with myself, and that's no one else's business.