#navigating work relationships

[shreeisspecial]

Navigating relationships in the modern world can be both exhilarating and challenging. With evolving societal norms, increased access to technology, and shifting gender roles, modern women face unique dynamics in their personal and romantic lives. This blog will provide practical advice for modern women on how to build and maintain healthy, fulfilling relationships.

[ginpotts]

DOCTOR WHO: THE NINTH DOCTOR ADVENTURES Big Finish Presents ✧ STAR-CROSSED ✧ 2024

[sarabethsilver]

Jess and Rory were bound to fall apart in S3. They were two teenagers living in a crazy town that put ALL kinds of pressure on them, they were headed down very different paths, and Jess wasn't ready for a relationship at that point. They had to go their separate ways for a bit.

But what really makes them tragic? Is that all of the adults - and eventually Jess and Rory themselves - come to understand their relationship's demise as entirely Jess' fault. And this narrative is really bad for both of them.

We all know Jess' mistakes in this relationship. The show makes a point to blow them up and examine them thoroughly, often with multiple characters chiming in to talk about how terrible Jess is. A single missed phone call, concert tickets purchased for the wrong reason (??), a poorly-timed black eye, a fight with Dean, the fact he left town. All of these choices are discussed and framed as solely Jess' fault. Jess' behaviors get no context. It doesn't matter that he was working late, that Rory yelled at him throughout that dinner, that Dean threw the first punch, or that Luke kicked him out. S3 decidedly concludes with Rory, The Poor Victim and Jess, The Jerk Who Broke Her Heart. The show never re-examines this perspective.

But if you pause and examine Rory's choices throughout their relationship, she doesn't look that good. Their relationship starts with a lie: Rory kissing him, demanding he keep it secret, and then ghosting him for two months. She's really angry with him when she returns, having sincerely expected him to wait around for her while she continued to date Dean. She withdraws her friendship while Jess dates Shane. She yells at him in the street, joining the chorus of townsfolk who publicly dislike him. She eggs his car and mocks him about it. She runs away from their first real kiss with zero explanation. She scolds him for kissing her in public, prioritizing Dean's feelings over her boyfriend's. She lies about Dean repeatedly. She gives him the silent treatment after a single missed phone call. She tricks him into attending dinner with her grandma, then yells at him the whole time. She spends the entirety of Kyle's party mocking Jess while ignoring his increasingly desperate pleas to leave.

Does any of this make Rory a terrible person? No. She's a teenager, and she was in a really complicated, no-win situation concocted by her mother and a slew of Stars Hollow adults who are far too obsessed with the love lives of teenagers. Rory's a people-pleaser and she was desperate to spare everyone's feelings, unable to accept that by nature of this situation: somebody was gonna get hurt no matter what. But in trying to protect everyone, she ended up hurting Jess the most. She doesn't trust him, she doesn't prioritize his feelings, and she doesn't communicate with him. She ultimately follows along with the town narrative that Jess Ruined Everything.

The really sad thing is that this narrative is bad for both of them. Jess ends up feeling like the world's biggest failure, fleeing town without a word and ending up totally alone. Rory ends up feeling like a helpless victim, utterly lacking agency in her own relationships. She is told, over and over again, that her relationship problems were not her fault. That it's normal to sit back, make no effort, and expect to be treated like a princess by a guy who has to read her mind and do absolutely all the work. You can draw a straight line from Rory being Blameless in the Jess breakup, and Rory having an affair with her married ex a year later.

What I would give for an effort to re-examine their relationship toward the end of the series! It would have been good for both of them to understand that they were both kids, they both made mistakes, but they both tried their best. There were no villains here. Just two flawed humans who cared about each other and tried to have a relationship before they were truly ready.

[moraent-keys]

Seeing other aroace people who ship Radioapple is the best

It’s like, no matter which way you ship it, you get it. Like some deeper sense of understanding we all have?? Does that make sense?

[anticidic]

I wrote 1729 words of a TBD space au with xenoscientist Chuuya and alien Dazai and I have nowhere to put it because it's still a very early wip so here you go, have an angry Chuuya feeling rejected and Dazai learning the meaning of rejection

[cator99]

out of curiosity, would you consider yourself butch?

used to be a blonde underweight twink and now I'm a based jock still got the chanel bag and the sick albeit matured mind of a suckpig to prove it so I'm gonna let you decide whether you wanna call me that word just cuz I got a pussy and short hair. I promise you that there have been enough advancements made in the art of lesbian sexual dynamics in the past 50 years to broaden the vocabulary used to describe the plethora of types of masculine females.

[danothan]

Just reading some comics and saw a panel I thought you might like. :)

ah fuck, characters reminiscing always get to me ;__;

but i will never ever get over that fond way these two talk to and abt each other. especially when they’re poking fun, you can just hear the love in their voice it’s SICK.

the halbarry love language is annoying each other, but even more than that, it’s being each other’s exceptions

[simcardiac-arrested]

growing up is like, every single thing you thought would be so complicated and unmanageable and unthinkably difficult turns out to be, actually, pretty simple. and every single thing you thought was so simple and easy to understand and how come adults don’t get this turns out to be painfully hard to deal with, to actually understand and internalize.

the thing you thought you had all figured out—somehow, you forget the right way to handle it. the thing you thought would dictate the course of your entire life, the thing you thought would ruin you forever—you move on in 2 months. the worst thing to ever happen to you hasn’t caught up yet. maybe it never will. maybe life shouldn’t be based on which worst thing happens when.

a hobby you thought would be a silly one-off becomes an all-time favorite. a genre you could never see yourself getting into can offer you the best story you’ve ever experienced. an inherent belief you thought you’d never budge on starts getting cracks. a person you’ve only ever seen in passing and had short conversations with can become your closest three, five, seven years later.

everything you thought about yourself can turn out to be wrong. you’ll get better in ways you didn’t know you could. you’ll slip and fall just as much, get new scrapes along the way as you survive yet another mess of a job, a situation, a relationship. it might be fear, or it might be happiness when you’ll look at yourself in the mirror and not recognize who it is.

so yeah, i guess, if i had to describe what growing up feels like, i could say i’m closer to figuring my life out, or i’m even more lost than before, or that it’s like a rebirth, i’m becoming a new person, i’m finally getting to know myself, or the many, many other things people say when you ask them.

and they’re all right, of course—the future you dreamed for yourself at age 12 is no longer there to guide you anymore, but sometimes it does feel like you see things clearer, like the pieces occasionally click in your head even if you can never comprehend the puzzle. you’re still who you were at your core, but you’re also starting to peel back the layers, to find such things that you never even imagined could be you.

so yeah, i guess, growing up is all of those things and more. it never stops to wait for you to realize it’s happening. it’s changing, changing in a way you can never anticipate, changing in a way that will simultaneously ache deeply and make you the happiest you’ve ever been. it’s the most complex, most intricate experience a human could have.

but, like most complicated things, it’s also actually pretty simple.

i mean—it’s just plain fun, isn’t it?

[cent-scratchnsniff]

HI CAN I BEG FOR MORE NETSOD CONTENT ON MY HANDS AND KNEES I LOVE THEM I LOVE YOUR ART AND I BEG OF YOU KILL YESOD WITH THE BEER MAN. "I think I'm dying" was too funny. he would think he's dying the nanosecond he realizes heartrate rises not just with work anxiety, but affectionate social anxiety. valentines is going to send him to the ER watch

i was going to make a smaller post abt it. a simple shitpost. but it ended up being longer. about 9 pages or the sort in total. i tried to have it out during the literal date for it but most likely it will be out in the next hopefully at most 30 hours ... .. answering this now so you dont think im ignoring it. the actual finished result be posted in a seperate one. as you can see. dialog/planning plus four pages are done art wise already though!!

small sippets from progress plus yesod from the warmup doodles as a peace offering .. . ..

[eyebulb]

Helluva fandom rant incoming!

I have mostly been hanging in the Stolitz tag for my daily dose of helluva until now... cus they're my main focus atm and makes me happy. Now during con times I've been on the Helluva Boss tag instead and my god... that's not at all a fun place to be. What's with haters insisting on still using the normal tag?.. It's not for you, go somewhere else. I've been in a lot of fandoms over the years.. I'm 30 years old and started using the internet early.. I've seen a lot of anti's over the years. But.. I can't remember one this intense... At least not one that you saw everywhere you go.. And not on this kind of morality police cruise they're on. Like sure, Undertale got a lot of hate when it got popular but it was mostly just about the cringe factor and how overrated it was (Which I don't agree with, still love that shit) But it's just.. these people refuse to accept that their view of the show is not universal.. They accuse the show of glorifying rape and abuse and whatever and try to gaslight anyone who disagrees into thinking that it's OBVIOUSLY the case you're just too stupid to see it.. or whatever.. It's like they believe that we who love the show have been brainwashed into it or something.. instead of accepting that maybe.. you're just reading too much into it and projecting your own version onto the show? I've seen so many excuses about how "If Viv didn't want us to think that, why did she write it like that?" and it's just... not a true statement.. cus a LOT of people didn't at all see what you see. a LOT of people actually got the same impression that Viv and the crew has stated they wanted to show. YOU and a group of people insist that it's Viv's fault that you think the way you do but it's not even close to a universal take so how does that make sense? I'm sorry, but you're on your own.. it's your own mind making those decisions and that's fine, whatever.. but leave the rest of us alone. Trying to make everyone hate the show isn't gonna do shit for morality as a whole. Just leave it the fuck alone. And I'm so fucking glad that Viv actually don't take those criticisms to heart cus imagine her changing the show based on what those who HATE it feels? Way to make us who love it also hate it. If you hate it, your opinion means nothing and you should seek some therapy to find out why you care so much and why you want to ruin other people's fun... Or if you wanna continue to hate and rant.. do it with the rest of the anti's.. stop using the tags shared by those who love the show and just want to share their appreciation with people.

[crow-talks-hockey]

this has seriously been the worst week of my life. random stomach pains all week. i lost my childhood dog who i haven't known life without and i've spent the last three days miserable because the house somehow feels so much quieter and i keep on remembering how he died and i miss him so much i hurt. and then on top of that mikko gets traded. away from the only home he's ever known the past decade. and there's nothing that can change it. they just don't care. he's gone. he's not coming back. and i am so tired.

edit: oh and now my huge nosebleeds are back. yay. goody gumdrops.

[marco-the-vampire]

I'm intrigued by Your Charname and Dynaheir ship, tell me more about them! How did their relationship develop, how do You picture her reacting to the news that Charname is a bhaalspawn?

There are so many things! I have to start out with the fact that I prolong the time between bg1 and bg2, so I give them about two years insted of technically the duration of bg1 almost exclusively and that my Charname is non-binary/trans and very Queer and uses He/Him and They/Them pronouns.

I like to think that it was really slow process, both of them just observing and figuring each other out from a distance, noticing things like nervous ticks, habits and things like that. (this is before finding out about the Bhaalspawn thing)

After finding out, everything comes to a halt by my Charname because feelings about being a monster and evil, etc... And they distance from the whole group.

I have a scene in my head that when my Charname reads the letter from Gorion he literally rans away to a watchtower of Candlekeep where he used to hide when he was a kid and was upset. There is where, with Imoen guiding her, Dynaheir finds him and console them. They have a big talk where MOST things are revealed, mostly that they very genuinely care for one another and that given all the good deads they have done on his command Dynaheir doesn't think he's inherently evil and that his actions are more important than the blood running through him.

There's still a lot of doubt in my Charname's mind, about what it truly means to be a Bhaalspawn and if Gorion actually cared for him. Though this last one is kind of nonsensical even if at the start Gorion mostly saw them as a project for the Harpers but grew to care for him like a son.

From there it's just time, they kill Sarevok and stay in Baldur's gate for a bit. They help out around, when the dust is settled and most issues caused by Sarevok are fixed they start adventuring again.

How the actually get together is bit tricky for me, I don't think either of them are much for such a big declaration, though with Imoen pushing them my Charname could.

It's like an open secret, everyone knows but most don't want to interfere.

I've played around with the idea of one night when my Charname is on watch duty, Dynaheir can't sleep at all. So she comes out of her tent and they sit by the fire in sleepy silence for a bit. After a while they start talking about tomorrow's plans and routes to take, but when Dynaheir yawns and is very clearly too tired my Charname gives her some herbs to help her sleep (Given to him by Jaheira because of his nightmares and dreamless nights) It acts so quickly that he has to help Dynaheir back to her tent and tucks her in.

In her sleepiness Dynaheir makes him stay for a bit, holding him down with her demanding him to stay and even lay with her, he agrees though a bit reluctant and when he thinks she's asleep he tenderly confesses while caressing her face.

After that he accidentally falls asleep and for the first time ever has a very normal and happy dream.

The next morning is a bit awkward, given that Dynaheir vaguely remembers the whispered words and that they woke up cuddling together. After being pushed some more by Imoen, she thinks they did more than sleep, they go to a clearing near water and talk about "it". That's when they get together.

AHHH!! This is so long already! Sorry for any grammatical errors, I'm half asleep and English isn't my first language, I wish I could get my insanity into better words.

[ixioideae-letters]

How do you end a 6 years long relationship based on... nothing? I've been unhappy in this relationship for a while and I don't think I am in love with him anymore. I see so much of this relationship as a chore because there is always something I have to do.

I don't feel excited to see him anymore, I still care about him so much but I have no idea if it's because I am feeling responsible of his emotional state just how I feel responsible for everything in this relationship.

I feel like I communicated multiple times about my needs and how I don't like things he does, but if I was to just end it I know I would feel do guilty.

I don't know how to proceed. Maybe I am too much. Maybe I expect too much, maybe I really am a bad person. I don't know what do to.

[moonzzzzi]

Very Important People is genuinely my favorite Dropout show and as much as I love their catalogue I think nothing they have truly get close to it

[marinecorvid]

blorbos from my brain

[commsroom]

Do you enjoy t4t eiffera headcanons because I just think they have t4t vibes

oh, i feel SO guilty for this one... i've actually been trying to write a post about why eiffel/hera as a cis guy/trans woman relationship resonates with me... like, the things that make hera read as trans to me are canonically things eiffel does not experience and is often kinda ignorant about. a big part of their relationship development relies on eiffel learning to decenter his own perspective and recognize that certain things will impact hera more profoundly because of who she is. eiffel reads as especially cis to me in a way that not many characters do, and part of it is... it's not that his backstory, lack of self-awareness, or various other faults could only belong to a cis guy, but those things would read very differently if they were written with any other intent. in eiffel's pop culture worldview, he conceptualizes himself as the everyman, the 'default' person, and i think there's something very intentional that's being deconstructed, with that context.

that said, though: i know how personal trans headcanons can be, and if you resonate with eiffel in that way, i think that's wonderful.