#older sister syndrome

[yuhlobster]

Our favourite Disney princess 💕😍

[golden-letters]

why do i keep wanting to achieve can't i just exist?  can't i just contribute nothing to society and simply live in my own mind? i'm so exhausted.

me

[henry-fox-biggest-stan]

The older sibling urge to not be an older sibling. To be a younger sibling instead. To have an older sibling who took care of you and loved you when you needed it. Who tells you about their experiences in high school and the things they do and did with their friends. Who hugs you when you’re upset and who understands. Who defended you, who helped you grow up. Who enjoys spending time with you, and who, inevitably, will fight with you. Who will be there for you.

And then realizing than that “older sibling” is just parents. Wishing to have your parents present, instead of having to raise yourself, like you did.

[onedumbho3]

Is there anyone here who is an older sister but does not relate to the “older sister syndrome”? Cause I don’t relate to it.

Instead, I’m the older sister that has no life experience, feels lonely all the time even when she’s with her closest friends. My younger sister has more life experience than me probably more then I’ll ever have. My life revolves around school and whenever I’m on break I feel like I have no purpose in life, I don’t have any hobbies, I stay in my room all day and talk to no one. I just scroll on my phone or I’m on my laptop watching stuff.

I have always had to ask my mother’s permission to go out with my friends and her answer back then was always no. So I’ve kinda just stopped going out, but when I do go I always have to be back at a certain time or she’s texting me throughout the whole hang out which makes it less enjoyable for me.

All my friends are the youngest sibling in their families so I can’t rly relate to them or talk to them about this cause they don’t really share the same experiences of being and older sibling and the unfairness that we have with our other siblings.

It took me 20 years to realize how unfair I am treated with my 16 year old sister. It took another family member living with us to tell me that my mother is much harsher on me than my sister. My sister is younger and the favorite so she is able to get away with more stuff whereas I am always being controlled. I’ve been controlled and hovered over to the point where I can’t rly do things for myself without my mother holding my hand. I think I have been very codependent on her.

I’m 20 years old and haven’t had any major key life experiences such as being in a relationship, or making new friendships in college, because I don’t know how to do that and I’m also very shy so it’s harder for me to meet new ppl. And because I don’t have any friends in college that I am close to, as soon as I’m done with my classes I go home. So I miss out on the experiences that come with college cause that also falls under the “I have to ask my mom” umbrella.

It also makes me feel lonely and like that nobody rly truly needs me. Even in my small friend group (there’s 4 of us including me) I feel lonely when I’m with them, it not like before where we could talk to each other and relate to each other about anything and everything. I get that we all have our own stuff going on in our lives and that we’re all now adults but I think the enjoyment of hanging out with my friends are gone because I feel excluded and I feel like if I wasn’t in that friend group it would be fine.

I feel like if I just left (not like deleting myself but just like running away) all my problems would be gone and my families life and my friends life would just continue on regularly with out me.

To whoever is reading it, I hope u found some comfort in it knowing that someone has the same feelings as u or there are some aspects that u can relate to whether your an older sibling or a younger sibling.

[azaleasdaylight]

The story begins with Katniss reaching for Prim within the crowd to stop her from being reaped; and it begins its end when Katniss once again reaches from Prim through the crowd but, this time, she cannot take Prim’s place.

[smutinlove]

anyone else feel like their younger sibling is ungrateful?? Like motherfucker I raised you. You wouldn't have a personality without me. You wouldn't know anything without me. I GAVE EVERYTHING TO YOU CAUSE I WAS FORCED TO. MY PHONE, MY LIFE, MY SANITY, MY MENTAL HEALTH IS DESTROYED CAUSE OF YOU. Like that little shit is getting on my nerves. If he calls me an "asshole crack bitch" one more time or says "fuck your asshole", I'm grabbing a knife and shoving it down his throat.

[queerteakeyboard]

Uh Oh! Both people involved in argument are complaining to you and neither are in the right!

[cthulips]

Do you feel like your whole life you’ve been taught to become a people pleaser and as a result have become a haven for crazy people

[vampbatsy]

most ppl watch fleabag and relate to her, I'm different and I relate to Clare.

[jellyfishinajamjar]

My ideal aesthetic is ‘moody but loving older sister in a mid ‘00s horror movie with older sister syndrome’ but I have absolutely no idea with that looks like.

I feel it in my bones but my bones have no fashion sense

[cherryywavees]

why must i always be perfect and happy even when im not?

[chrollohearttags]

I just know luffy would be so insufferably spoiled by (y/n). As if Ace wasn’t bad enough gushing over his little brother, his girl is even worse. You’re always buying him food, clothes, the little beetle encyclopedia you found..literally anything you think he may like. Grown man be damned. You could be out somewhere, on a date even and you’re ordering an extra meal for him (or two!) ace acts like he’s against it.. “..he’s a grown ass man, (y/n). You don’t have to bring him gifts every time we go out, ya know?” “Why are you in our business? Hush.” But he really thinks it’s adorable. Also, he’s just as bad. Family is everything to him and the fact that you adore his brothers just as much as him, makes him happy and the feeling is mutual. Don’t even let him think about coming over without (y/n) in tow or visit the firehouse and you’re not there as soon as he enters the door. “Where’s big sis?!” He just adores his sister in law so much.

[liexpressway]

But once he is gone who will I have?

tiktok / icarly / unknown / @/mothman / An Oresteia: Agamemnon, Aiskhylos / Bumble Ardy, Maurice Sendak / icarly / A Little Life, Hanya Yaragihara / The Fall Of The House Of Usher, Steven Berkoff / A living Chattel, Anton Chekhov

[senliin]

why was this the first thing laios asked. i know what u are

[roisanerd]

[amaryllis-astra]

Eldest Daughter Gothic

Your youngest sibling is in tears. You do not know why. Is it your fault? 

You are doing the dishes. You are always doing the dishes. You never finish. 

She loves you. She hates you. You’re her favorite. She only cares about your siblings. She never wanted to be a mother. She loves you.

You have a headache. Again. You are starting to forget what it feels like not to have a headache.

Everything is too much. You are going to shatter. But you cannot. 

If you give out, so will everything else

She is angry, ranting about something you said. You do not remember the last time you spoke. She is still angry.

Your younger sibling is ten years old. No, that can't be right. You are ten years old. They must still be an infant. But they’re graduating fifth grade now, and you realize that you are in high school. You did not notice the change.

She keeps yelling. You wonder if she is yelling at herself.

You’ve heard that 3am is meant to be unnerving. For you, it has only ever meant the comfort of being the last one left awake. Is there something wrong with you?

This is all you have ever known, so why does it feel so wrong?