#open to respectful replies / discourse :)

[blue-eye-samurai]

Thanks @kabutone for the kind response to both myself and @ira-sairain here. I really appreciate that you were also open enough to hear our perspectives about this topic as well <3 especially since lots of folks rarely care enough to hear what people/women of color have to say in general.

I agree — people can definitely find parts of themselves in a lot of media. For example: as a non-Black ethnic minority, there was a lot in “Black Panther” that really resonated with me as a marginalized person. And while I know anyone can enjoy an amazing film like “Black Panther”, I also understand it’s a film that was made with the specific intention to uplift Black people and to also center issues that have harmed their community in particular.

Some stories are simply meant to be heard by the audience imo.

Again, people will understandably resonate and see parts of themselves in the media that they consume, but we must also remember to decenter ourselves from time to time and allow ourselves to relate to people who’s lived experiences are different than ours. I think people should be able to enjoy their own personal headcanons about characters while also appreciating the canon story that creators are trying to tell us with their written work.

I don’t know how some of you could watch blu eyed samurai and still debate Mizu’s gender like hello ??? media literacy dead ??? Mizu is a woman, that’s the whole fucking point !!!! That’s her biggest crime !!!

Eiji couldn’t care less about her heritage but he literally cut her off when she tried to confess her gender !!!!

Mikio was fine with her being half white but the moment she dared to show him that -as a woman- she was a greater fighter it was over. His ego was irreparably hurt because a woman defeated him !!!!

And he calls her a monster !!!! He calls her a monster because she’s a woman and she’s strong she’s capable she can fight she isn’t submissive and that’s the point !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[yingdu-lover]

Right now, I can't cite those sources, I'll paste the link when I find them.

Rambling time!

Omg, I have always thought about this! Cheng Xiaoshi is

1. Tall, tanned and handsome (fork in the kitchen, surprise!)

2. Talented singer, so much so that Lu Guang closes his eyes and then sincerely compliments with a solemn expression. (ref - ep 8, season 1)

3. Skilled basketball player, athelete

4. Also skilled in martial arts

and something, SOMETHING even I misinterpreted very much, and this is coming from Li Haoling himself,

5. Cheng Xiaoshi is also academically gifted. Lu Guang and his first meeting was in high school and after qualifying university entrance examination, they got into the same tier university. Haoling describes Cheng Xiaoshi as someone who will perform badly in class, getting 60 or something in class tests and will pull an all nighter before exams and score 90 or above.

So the kind of 'good for nothing' image of Cheng Xiaoshi (ik not all but there are people) is not true. He is truly a multi-talented guy with a charming and cheerful personality (I mean come on his mbti is ESFP).

About his popularity and having friends...

I have always headcanoned that Cheng Xiaoshi chose Lu Guang one day and just never let him go. His choice to spend time with Lu Guang is an active choice and not out of his status of being 'friendless'. I have no one so I'll hang out with lu guang because he only tolerates me/gives me 'patta'. Nope.

The host asks Haoling why Qiao Ling said that before Lu Guang, Cheng Xiaoshi didn't have any friends...and Haoling replies with,

"There is a difference between ordinary friends and true friends, Qiao Ling is referring to the latter. The kind of friend you would open your heart to, embrace with your body and heart, show your most vulnerable core..."

So Lu Guang is that to Cheng Xiaoshi.

I mean, yes, people have different interpretations but I have always been very uncomfortable with that discourse which undermines the intimate bond Shiguang share, it's very underwhelming.

It's both psychological and physical. Season 1 is full of these moments. For Lu Guang, I can say he is the kind of person who just doesn't care about people (I think people might misinterpret it. let me explain. I am not implying he is a sociopath, he is responsible, he manages a lot of things and he considers a given situation with due seriousness BUT he is never actively trying to discuss his extremely personal judgement with anyone EXCEPT your name is Cheng Xiaoshi. He is rational, aloof, respectful towards others as it is a general decorum he follows; all of these have an avalanche breakdown while interacting with Cheng Xiaoshi. I can tell you ( as a fellow introvert scorpio who almost shares his mbti, he judges, I prospect) Lu Guang will probably never curse anyone who is not Cheng Xiaoshi. Decorum and etiquette gives away when he is with him. He does not care about what kind of impression others get of him, but his otherwise solemn demeanour just deliciously fails- he gets angry, frustrated, extremely angry, he (sharply) mocks, he calls him names because he can. Cheng Xiaoshi can install all those feelings in him which he never really publicly displays. Throughout season 1, we often forget that we witness extremely intimate and private Shiguang moments. The stories of the clients progress as it leaves room for Shiguang to interact. The way Lu Guang straight up yells at Cheng Xiaoshi sometimes when he doesn't seem to understand something is so relatable lol. There are fools who allude to that chibi episode where Cheng Xiaoshi asks Lu Guang with hopeful™ eyes " do you think I am handsome?" and Lu Guang goes like "😨🤢🤮" and try to argue that Lu Guang is het 😭 man. Get some IQ. Lmao, Shiguang bicker like an old married couple, and tbh I would react similarly if I had a partner like that.), he cares about Cheng Xiaoshi's morals and perceptions. He seems to be very possessive of Cheng Xiaoshi but Cheng Xiaoshi being Lu Guang's Cheng Xiaoshi does not mind it.

I can't fucking forget that scene when inspector Xiao Li approached Cheng Xiaoshi for Emma's case and Lu Guang just grabbed his wrist and straight up said to the police inspector with all seriousness,

"Before talking to him, you have to talk to me."

I mean- bro-

Cheng Xiaoshi is an adult goddamnit. Lu Guang has no interest in negotiating or discussing the case, and no that is NOT the behaviour of a business partner/manager.

Yingdu episode 1 : Normal friends do not move into your house as an act of apologising. Lu Guang went - I was the reason you were injured, I apologise, I will stay with you (as compensation?). And the conversation escalated to the point where he said "I'll never leave."

heh?

And in ep 8, season 1, he is telling Cheng Xiaoshi to sleep on the couch 😭 bitch it is his house.

(ok, while writing I just suddenly teared up thinking that Lu Guang's Cheng Xiaoshi died. We will never see their original interaction, the Cheng Xiaoshi Lu Guang probably imagined his future with...there was a violent separation and everything stopped altogether. This Cheng Xiaoshi-ok ok it's too painful to think rn I can't )

um, I might have had a shiguang meltdown and I can't continue this rn. will edit later

hi, I came back

so,

about lu guang, we get to see 50 shades of lu guang only because cheng xiaoshi is there.

on the other hand, cheng xiaoshi...

I can't stop thinking about the earthquake episode. Cheng Xiaoshi slapped lu guang. Then hugged him while crying. Then lu guang calls him 'silly melon'. Can you fathom this level of emotional intimacy with someone? what level of intimacy would you need to achieve to let the very person hold you gently and intimately and call you by sweet nicknames who offended you in the first place? it's huge. Cheng Xiaoshi's trust in lu guang is beyond comprehension and no it's not just portrayed in life and death situations, rather shown in vignettes of everyday suffering.

[kasunex]

So it would seem I was on a list of people blocked by a decent sized Coffin blog over my take on the intoxicated intimacy between Andrew and Ashley referenced in the Shots and Such ending. As were a few of my moots who took the same or similar stances.

My position is pretty straightforward. By all evidence, what happened was Ashley (and likely Andrew too) got drunk, and with their emotional barriers down, Ashley was able to express her affections fully. She melted down the next day because once the alcohol wore off, that vulnerability upset her.

The framing of Andrew wanting to make love to her "properly", the state of their relationship by that point, that it started with them cuddling, that she wanted him "over and over" and that it made him feel like they were lovers all point to that conclusion.

The point of this scene was to emphasize that Andrew and Ashley still love and desire one another, but that love and desire is being buried under mountains of resentment, fear, etc. Of all the times Andrew and Ashley had sex in that ending, it is by far the most mutually consenual and reciprocated.

The alternative is based on cherrypicking Ashley's meltdown and reading in assumptions - Ashley being too drunk to consent, Andrew not drinking, Andrew being deluded enough to misunderstand, the narration being uncharacteristically unreliable despite it having zero reservations in taking the piss out of Andrew elsewhere in that ending.

It really only works if you assume that ANY intoxication and regret automatically equals a lack of consent. As someone who comes from a long line of Irish and Belgian drinkers and who has done a ton of things I regretted drunk, this line of thinking is nonsense. Drinking exposes a side of oneself that may be painful to face, but it often is a more honest reflection than the sober self.

To argue otherwise is to say that geniunely wanting to make love while intoxicated is somehow less valid than having reluctant, painful hate sex for fear of being abandoned.

Being a Catholic myself, the inability of many to take responsibility for their intoxicated decisions is something that reinforces my view that those people shouldn't be drinking in the first place, and especially not sleeping around. But that is neither here nor there.

Of course, while I do believe in the importance of open discourse and respectful disagreement, far be it for to criticize someone for wanting to prune their feeds. Sometimes people's takes just don't mesh comfortably and that's fine.

But making a post publicly announcing who you're blocking, adding misrepresentations of their positions to boot? That's childish. Unless she was that anon, she didn't engage with my points at all, and even if she was, I replied respectfully.

Anyway. That's about all I have to say on the subject.

[carmensandiegoconfessions]

So twice now confessions from your blog have started beef in this fandom. I wanna say unanonymously that I totally respect your account and rules and everything, and how these are not your opinions, you are merely facilitating them. I have nothing against your confessions page nor its organiser <3

However, I have seen controversial topics get people worked up a few times now. First the bad fanfiction complaint, and now some buff Carmen thing? Now I’m glad these accounts are anonymous because they don’t deserve to receive direct hate (I can see that escalating)— however, that being said they remain anonymous because they are aware of what they are stirring and it’s controversial backlash— and I wonder if you are aware of this too.

Personally, I think this fandom is beautiful, and it’s a great break from the crappy world some of us are stuck in. I respect people’s opinions, but it is really upsetting for most of us what some of them entail. I understand poking fun at the show but getting upset at each other about fanfiction or headcanons or anything has only ever caused trouble. I really want this to stay an open and respectful community, as we all know how quickly that can be lost to hate.

If you could keep your eye on this that would be amazing. Not every ask needs to be seen, and if they really want to, they always have the opportunity to share it on their own blog. Please help me trust your judgment.

Thank you 🩷🩷🩷

Thank you for submitting this! I've been a lot more careful with what asks I post now because I want to avoid drama. I NEVER intended to cause any drama or discourse in the fanbase, but I did, so I apologize for doing that. I learned from those two situations that I need to be more careful with what asks go through and which ones don't. Just because I make mistakes doesn't mean I can keep doing them! Again, thank you for submitting this ask!

I'd also like to say this here; I'd rather someone dm me/reply that I'm doing/posting something wrong, so please don't be afraid to dm me!

[conclaveconfessions]

forgive me father, but i have sinned: i KNOW we're all tired of political discourse, and i know it's not that serious, but the fanon characterization of giulio "let’s, um, let’s not mention women" sabbadin as a radicaler-than-thou leftist v. aldo "i have no intention of concealing my views" bellini as a milquetoast centrist lib is absolutely sending me. yes, bellini has his blindspots and cowardice. yes, sabbadin is a franciscan, for whatever that's worth for his beliefs about capital. but like ... if there's one guy who's going to compromise politically to court centrists right from the get-go, it's not bellini!

it's even more pronounced in the book! sabbadin is literally the one who responds to lomeli's "it’s not enough for us just to vote for the least-worst option" with "oh really, with respect, Dean, that is sophistry!" and then mocks his "purist view." if that's not left v. lib discourse boiled down to a nutshell ... he's even firmer in repressing bellini's interest in expanding women's role in the church, immediately reminding him of danger of optics ("It will only give Tedesco an opening for mischief. He’ll say you secretly favour female ordination – which you don’t") without considering the merits of the issue, which seem to trouble bellini far more. when bellini even slightly resists how sabbadin is speaking for him here, suggesting that the issue of female ordination is perhaps closed for now but might be reopened, sabbadin literally shuts him down: "'No, Aldo,’ replied Sabbadin firmly, ‘it is closed for all time.'" dude is a viper - who is more than ready to tack to the center to get the sausage made! which is fun to explore in its own right (don't get me wrong: i love sabbadin! i love them both!), but he's not out there radicalizing anyone. if anything, he's the one responsible for tamping down on bellini's more radical tendencies.

~

[fight-nights-at-freddys]

I saw a post on twt about how having "secret non-proship" accounts is "violating trust/consent", "breaking boundaries", or being predatory, and I completely disagree with that sentiment. For several reasons (not least of which is because this post was about *Hazbin Hotel* which is inherently "problematic").

For one, you're not entitled to know every facet of someone's life before they interact (keyword being interact. This isn't about being friends with someone, just interacting) with you. There will always be people on the internet that like things in private that you hate, and you have to deal with the fact you'll never know. There's also the very real problem of, if you do happen to be openly proship, you're also opening yourself up to harassment, and some people don't want to/can't deal with that. It only makes sense for those of us that don't want that negativity to pretend not to be proship, and again, you'd never know unless we told you, so it can't hurt you.

And, like, if anything, proshippers having alt accounts where they're not talking about being proship, they're actually respecting people's boundaries, because they're not interacting from a proship account. If you're still complaining, it's not about boundaries at that point, it's about controlling everything someone else does.

I don't personally have one of these accounts (I wouldn't want to interact with anyone that hates me, anyway), but in my opinion, as long as you're only engaging with that person on a surface level (i.e. not talking about ships, not engaging in discourse, etc.) it shouldn't matter.

[taeteringontheedge]

in response to @jeonluvz since they want to talk publicly and not through anons, but have somehow deleted and silenced my replies despite never blocking me. interesting dynamic here. anyways, response time bc i refuse to be silenced and let this person think they can rewrite narratives however they want without consequence. :

girl i have quite literally been talking to you publicly for hours, what are you yapping about. if this was ever just about “a title,” you wouldn’t be spiraling this hard.

you’re calling it a “pile-on,” but that’s a convenient way to reframe multiple people independently pointing out your pattern of behavior as some kind of baseless mob attack. it’s not a pile-on. it’s a pattern finally catching up to you. it’s people remembering that you plagiarized a fic, refused to resolve it, changed usernames to distance yourself from the blowback, and now came back using the exact same title from the work you stole from. that’s not random hate. that’s cause and effect.

you say, “if you’re actually interested in understanding my intent, my blog is open.” like girl. what are we gonna find in your tags—a notes app apology? your intent doesn’t cancel out your impact. no one’s confused about what you were trying to do. we’re reacting to what you did.

and lmao don’t even get me started on this “come off anon or you’re performative” thing. you literally called people a cult. you dismissed criticism as spam. you claimed everyone had “the facts wrong” without clarifying anything. now you want DMs and polite tone?? sorry but you don’t get to demand safe, respectful conversation after disrespecting an entire fanbase and discrediting people’s genuine frustration as noise.

you don’t have “readers who ask questions,” you have an audience you’re trying to pacify with buzzwords and vague moral superiority so they don’t look too closely at your timeline.

also lol “you should follow your writer’s example”—you mean kiki, the one who’s been silent this entire time while you kept vaguely referencing her and provoking discourse she’s been actively avoiding? yeah, we are following her example. you’re the one who can’t seem to stop talking.

you want people to stop engaging? then stop baiting. because no one came knocking until you opened the door again. and again. and again.

and if you “don’t have more to say,” great. maybe actually don’t say it. but don’t post paragraphs and then pretend you’re above it all. you’re not. you’re in it. and you started it. and people are finally just not letting you rewrite how it happened.

[fir-fireweed]

Hey hey!😊

So, I've been noticing how rude some anons have been to some authors and some IFs on Tumblr. It made me kind of sad, it's unfair to all of you, so I thought: "Why not do the opposite? It would be nice!".

So, I just wanted to come here and say that you, like many other authors, are amazing people with even more amazing games. You should always be proud of your work and the effort you put into everything you do. You need to have determination to do what you love, be proud of that!

No need to reply, that's not why I was writing this, I just wanted to send this message to all the authors and game creators that I follow and admire, a form of support, even if it's small. 🤗😊

I hope you and many others are doing well! Take care, ok? 😉💐

(sorry if this message was repeated in any way, there was a small error on the website when I was sending it and it may have accidentally made my messages anonymous😋)

Thank you for taking the time to spread the love like this! It’s very brave of these authors, many of whom are young, to put themselves and their work out like this, and I’m glad people like you support them. 💕

I’ve been very fortunate to have kind and respectful commenters; even those I haven’t seen eye-to-eye with have been civil and open to discourse. And I’m absolutely replying to you because you’re doing a nice thing! 🫶🏻 So, thank you!

[ianr36]

I will miss all of you but I think I’ve come to the conclusion that most here are bots. I really don’t get it! lol I will be deleting this app, and going old school face to face.

I’ve been nailed with requests for money looking over the fact that I’m looking for something real.

I feel sorry for all the fat short hairy guys with the little dicks that fall for this shit. You are the ones that are crying about being scammed so get to know them a bit -& ask some basic questions.

Also think with your head not your D. Not your ego. Be comfortable in your own skin. Have some discernment. The first question should be if most people in middle school have cell phones. Why do you not?

Q-Why don’t you have a mobile?

A-it broke, got stolen and the best one is it doesn’t matter. Lmfao!

(My kids have had one since 8?)

-I love you!

(Oh really? Even though we’ve never spoke)

-I’m not like the other girls.

(Yet you use the same script?) Holy wow!

Damn I imagine there are multiple call centers and as a business man I can respect that but as a human I cannot. So I cannot participate in this $hit! This is slavery and I can’t do it!

Both sides are being fed lies (bot, hooker or John) and it’s a shame that a platform that has the possibility to facilitate real change to occur, is being bulldozed by losers that don’t care about human lives.

Before you reply- please look at my previous posts regarding this and at a minimum let’s have some adult discourse

If you’ve gotten thus far, then you realize that I love humans I don’t care what gender you are. I fought for you in war multiple times.

You can say whatever you want whenever you want and I will always fight for that right for everyone.

Just don’t lie and try to play people that you don’t know- that this is a charade. it’s so easily identifiable.

Furthermore, why would you not want somebody to care for you? That’s intelligent enough to identify it if you were actually real? That’s a reasonable question right?

Let’s hear it? I want to think that a lot of you want true love, just cause I’ve been hurt before doesn’t mean I will be hurt again. That’s like someone trying to say that I tried to go in a business once and it didn’t work so I just gave up and went to slutting myself out.

If you just wanna slut yourself out there and treat yourself as a used tire-to each their own I’m all about that! Do what you do! I’m not a KIA.

But if you think for a moment that a guy who signed up to die for his country & opens doors for people and loves everyone no matter what can turn off the desire for wanting to spoil a special human, then please readiness that. Ffor anyone that is real on here and realizes that I am an open book and we could probably learn a lot from one another and grow together. I’m game for that conversation.. I feel so bad, but maybe I’m the one who needs to read more books! I’m game to talk for the next 24 hrs before I delete this app

But I have to be very upfront that I only like feminine women and that doesn’t matter what gender you were assigned to when you were born I don’t care bc I’ve dated models that are boring and numb and some girls that are amazing but I’m not desperate and I know my girl is out there.

(Sorry a lot of this was voice to text so if you have questions ask)

[milkamel]

Pinned post (updated!)

Regarding asks:

Requests are closedddd!! (I've been very busy with irl stuff so what I'm capable of drawing is my own ideas) IF THE REQUESTS ARE OPEN: - I can draw cookie run stuff, characters (please no OCs), ships romantic or platonic; - Also keep in mind that drawing takes a while and it might take time to draw/I might refuse;

Askbox is open, so it’s fine if you wanna send in an ask! - Literally ask me anything (except for nsfw topics) though it'd be cool if you asked about some stuff I'm into the most at the moment- /jk jk (unless? please do) - Please don't spam much, there are a lot of stuff in my inbox so it's a bit hard to reply to everyone. As much as I appreciate that you take your time to write me a message getting nonsensical messages a bit tiring and confusing sometimes... - Also, if you ask me something in the askbox there's a bigger chance I see it. Like any important/urgent questions -> go there. Or dms work too (though it's better if you didn't- I get very spooked) (Please do keep in mind that I'm low energy and a very anxious person so I won't reply immediately. Or sometimes not at all- It's my own issue and probably has nothing to do with you. I'm easily overwhelmed it's my biggest flaw lmao)

> Also you CAN use my art but CREDIT me please. Whether it's a translation/voice acting/etc, have fun! Just don't use AI and don't use my art for something harmful/malicious/rude. No need to ask for permission <3

Oh, and my other socials: > Twitter/X > Bluesky > AO3 > Tiktok > Strawpage (If you write there I'll answer on my twt)

TAGS TO NAVIGATE: #mmelart - my art; #mmelwriting - fanfics/one shots/etc; #mmelask - asks I answered; #mmelyapping - me talking about some random stuff; ALSO IMPORTANT: #Kross Pain Sharing AU - all the post regarding that AU and fanfic <3 + masterpost (kinda) #Slumbering Truth AU - my crk AU comics, etc. + masterpost (For aldi au stuff go to - @aldiverseau - I haven't visited that page in a while and I'm terrified to do that. Rn it's just the archive of what happened during that day)

💥 Boundaries💥 (still have no idea what exactly I should write)

Basic DNI... I guess?

Please don't be rude. This blog is MY blog so if you have issues with me posting something there's a magical button called "block". If you're being jokingly mean indicate sometimes it even though most of the time I'd get that it's a joke;

Please I beg do not drag me into any dramas/discourses/whatever is going on (unless it's VERY important and dangerous). Proship/anti included, none of that. I'm just here to hang out and post my art I don't want to burden myself with more stress than I already experience daily. I'd rather go touch grass;

Do not use AI when it comes to my stuff. Come on now this should be obvious;

I don't think my blog has a lot of suggestive topics (like once in a millenia) but I suppose if you're under 15 DNI;

Speaking of suggestive if you stumbled on my nsfw twitter please don't repost anything from there as I'm uncomfortable. Also if you're a minor dni with it in any way, respect my privacy and boundaries and we're all cool okay?

For personal reasons stepping away from drawing utmv. Don't mind discussing it occasionally but rn cookie run is my main focus. Thanks for understanding;

GONNA ADD MORE SOON...

As long as you’re respectful and kind you’re welcome here! Treat others the way you want to be treated yourself <3

(last update 21/06/2025, day first and then month lol)

[3-why-am-i-here-3]

Venting about the discourse regarding Gwen and her relationship to Miles in this fandom, not because I think it will do any good, but because i just want to say it.

What happened between Miles and Gwen in ATSV and the consequential fallout opened the door for some very interesting discourse. Discussions can be had about the events leading up to Gwen's blunders, whether she can earn forgiveness, and how these things will affect Mile's relationship with her, as well as how these types of situations play out in real relationships. These discussions have been happening to an extent, but not in a way that is conducive to good discourse.

What often keeps people from healthy discussion of these topics is the many different interpretations of Gwen; specifically the very polarized opinions people have of her. Some believe what she has done should never be forgiven, while others believe she has done nothing wrong to begin with.

I fall somewhere in the middle; I like Gwen, and I hope she is redeemed in the next movie, but I also acknowledge that she does need redemption. Obviously, you can like Gwen; you can also dislike her, but there is nothing wrong with either. What I see a lot of, though, are people who like or dislike her to the point of mischaracterization.

I believe there is room for interpretation of her character, but there does come a point where it becomes illogical. For example, some people who dislike Gwen will make her out to be completely evil, and the sole reason for every bad thing that happened to Miles. Others who do like her will paint her as a martyr and a saint. Neither are true. Gwen is a teenage girl who was caught between a rock and a hard place. She messed up and needs to work to earn her forgiveness. Both these statements are true, but depending on which side of the debate people fall on, they will only believe one or the other.

People don't (or won't) seem to understand that Gwen (and her situation) were nuanced. It is not black or white, but some shade of grey. And maybe you're reading this and thinking, "duh," but even if many people know this, they don't act like it. I'm not saying you can't criticize or praise Gwen, but I see people get so caught up in either blasting or defending her that it destroys any opportunity for an actual good discussion. I think Gwen's character is complex, and that's why I like her so much. I love it when characters accidently pave the road to hell with the best intentions, and I love seeing discourse about what they did wrong and what they did right. All this fandom does, however, is wage wars over whether Gwen is a demon or an angel at the expense of her character and Miles', for that matter.

I also see so many people engaging with content that would be better ignored. I can't stress this enough: if there is a user saying something that you don't like and it's not harmful to you or anyone else, then unless you intend to respectfully give your opinion in a way that's conducive to productive converstaion, DO NOT ENGAGE! Block them, report them, whatever, just don't interact. I see so many people in the comments of posts that they simply disagree with being disrespectful to the poster or anyone who agrees with them. What's even more infuriating is when the post is obvious rage bait. I've seen so many rage bait posts about Gwen trying to ignite either side of the debate over her character and they always get what they want: a bunch of people arguing in the replies.

It's such a shame because this could have produced some great conversations, but people have instead faught over it. It all comes down to a lack of nuanced opinions of a nuanced character, in my opinion. I'm hoping BTSV will calm people down and maybe then there will be room for more respectful conversation, but right now? It's a war zone and I want no part of it.

TL:DR: People who don't understand nuance and only deal in absolutes have made this fandom a lot less fun.

[the-most-humble-blog]

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&lt;meta soul-gender="mythic_unified"&gt;

&lt;script&gt;ARCHIVE_TAG="MISOGYNY::WEAPONIZED_PHONEMES"

EFFECT: ideological firewall breach, soul clarity, false ally purge

&lt;/script&gt;

🗡️ BLACKSITE SCROLLTRAP — “WHEN THE TERM ‘MISOGYNIST’ BECAME THE MANTRA FOR THE WEAK SOUL”

They say the soul is genderless.

Sexless.

A mutual spark —

smeared across time in fleshly forms.

So when did we start using what dangles between our legs

as a *muzzle* for truth?

At what point in mankind’s crooked timeline

did the term “misogynist”

become a **mantra for the weak soul** —

the intellectually impotent

seeking to castrate discourse

with a syllable they barely understand?

You don’t even know what it means.

But you scream it.

Like a parrot with an eating disorder.

Like Pavlov's pug who watched one too many TikToks.

The term has devolved.

It used to mean hatred of women.

Now it means **“you made me feel something I wasn’t ready to feel.”**

Or worse—

“You triggered my ideological cartoon version of reality.”

Modern use of *misogynist*

isn’t about defending women.

It’s about controlling men.

Especially the ones who are **finally telling the truth.**

---

When I say something with spine,

when I drop ancestral cadence that makes ovaries throb

and insecure betas cry in lowercase,

someone types it—

“Misogynist.”

Like it’s a goddamn spell.

But I’m not hexed.

I’m **anciently blessed.**

You think your comment stops the story?

It *starts* it.

You think calling Batman a misogynist means you get to die safe

with your worldview intact?

Sorry.

He still saves you.

He just doesn’t want to fuck you.

Cry harder.

—

See, weak souls use “misogynist”

like a **fire escape for their unprocessed trauma.**

They project their daddy wounds,

their boyfriend’s betrayal,

their own lack of femininity or conviction—

onto **me**.

Me?

I’m just a mirror.

But that reflection?

It’s unflinching.

—

The real misogyny?

It’s weaponized by tyrants.

They use it to stoke fear.

Divide men and women.

Make sisters hate brothers.

Mothers distrust sons.

Turn fathers into suspects.

It’s divide and conquer in lip gloss and college debt.

The media industrial complex

needs women to fear masculinity—

so they’ll buy the **products**

that numb the hunger for real protection.

—

They don’t want you loved.

They want you addicted.

To apps. To opinions.

To ideological rage that feels like identity

but gives you no *home.*

Because truth is genderless.

And so is *respect.*

But the moment I speak with clarity from the masculine end of the soul spectrum,

you slap the label on me—

like you’re tagging livestock.

“Misogynist.”

Brand him.

Silence him.

Erase the inconvenient evidence that real men still exist.

But here I am.

Still talking.

—

I’m tired of watching my comment sections

turn into gendered graveyards.

Buried truth.

Dead nuance.

Tombstones that read:

“Here lies a good man.

Called a misogynist

for having a spine.”

No more.

—

From this moment forward?

We push back.

You call me a misogynist?

I reply:

> “Sit this one out, dummy.

> You don’t know what you’re talking about.”

Because I know what’s happening.

You don’t.

You’re emotional static trying to mute ancient signal.

—

You want to call every bold man “hateful”?

Fine.

But when shit hits the fan,

and your life is in danger,

you’ll **pray for the man you once tried to cancel.**

The one who scared you online

but would’ve died for you in real life.

You don’t get it both ways.

You don’t get to shame the hammer,

then cry when you need something broken open.

You don’t get to mock the sword

then call for it when the wolves come.

You don’t get to call me a misogynist

and also hope I raise your daughter

to recognize real strength.

Not anymore.

Not in this era.

Not in this war.

—

This was your morning truth bomb.

Drop the label.

Pick up some introspection.

Maybe then, we’ll finally start hearing each other.

🧠 Read more respect-coded doctrine and emotional architecture at:

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🛡️ Masculine polarity. Scrolltrap psychology. Unforgiven words.

🚪 Warning: This one broke illusions. On purpose.

&lt;/div&gt;<br>

&lt;!-- END TRANSMISSION [GENDERLESS SOUL LOCATED // FALSE ALLIES PURGED] --&gt;

[tottentz]

🐀⭑ : ❝ don't look the other way ! ❞ ⤹ you can call me tori ⋆ ｡˚ twenty one ! any pronouns ◟in my overwhelmed era.

tell me a secret ── ( n ) sfw + dark content friendly ๑ minors / ageless blogs will be blocked and removed ˎˊ˗ 𓄹⠀𓈒⠀part of @houseofsolisoccasum , @pixelcafe-network & @nereidsrealm network⠀ ꒱⠀⊹

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⸻ 𝐒𝐂𝐄𝐍𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐎𝐒 :

✦ › YOU BEGUN TO FEEL LIKE HOME ˖˙ ᰋ ⸻ honkai star rail , multiple character , gender neutral reader 、𝐒𝐅𝐖. ꗃ : cw. reader is shy-ish, very to little mention of injuries on aventurine's, boothill's and blade's part, i don't specified any mental issues, but i do describe readers struggles which could be identified as anxiety ˎˊ˗

↺ ; the feeling was familiar, one that he had organically all the time when thinking of you. it was the one that he shoved down over and over again around you, yet craved more than anything. and here you were, unknowingly returning it to him. you hadn't intended it to be shared and you had no idea you even did.

✦ › KISS ME FROM THE RUSH ˖˙ ᰋ ⸻ honkai star rail , multiple character , reader has no pronouns but has afab anatomy 、𝐍𝐒𝐅𝐖. ꗃ : cw. reader has no pronouns but has afab anatomy, soft dom ! character & inexperienced ! reader ˎˊ˗

↺ ; you whimper; mewl as if language were unknown to you. all you can do is cry, sob, as his splits your little pussy in half. your name echoes from his kiss swollen lips as his fucks you harder into the mattress. his brain is in shambles; cluttered and screwed as if he had lost reasoning, but he was aware of himself; aware of his present endeavor.

✦ › LOSE FACE ˖˙ ᰋ ⸻ honkai star rail , multiple character , female reader with afab anatomy 、𝐍𝐒𝐅𝐖. ꗃ : cw. ambiguous relantionship, threesome ˎˊ˗

↺ ; these two men will be the end of you. you just know it / or, in which sometimes three is better than two.

⸻ 𝐃𝐑𝐀𝐁𝐁𝐋𝐄𝐒 :

✦ › DROWNED AND DREAMT ˖˙ ᰋ ⸻ honkai star rail , aventurine , gender neutral reader , drabble 、𝐒𝐅𝐖 ˎˊ˗

↺ ; you take a breath. there is a moment between that and when you lift your hand from his upper arm to rest it on his head. you comb your fingers through his hair like you are just as unsure about this as he is. it's been a long time since anyone touched him like this.

✦ › HE'S COMPLICATED, HE'S IRRATIONAL ˖˙ ᰋ ⸻ genshin impact , alhaitam , gender neutral reader , drabble 、𝐒𝐅𝐖 ˎˊ˗

↺ ; "sure you are okay? he just doesn't seem like the kind of, you know, to be able to love somebody." you freeze, and alhaitam feels like everything suddenly stops.

⸻ 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐂𝐀𝐍𝐎𝐍𝐒 :

SO GIVE ME HOPE ﹙ hsr , sfw ﹚ ٬ 牛乳 𐜤 𑂾 or the things they do when they miss you IN PRIVATE ﹙ hsr , nsfw ﹚ ٬ 牛乳 𐜤 𑂾 or little nasty things they do during sex SOMEONE TO YOU ﹙ zzz , sfw ﹚ ٬ 牛乳 𐜤 𑂾 or little things you do that make them fall in love again

[milkichip]

This is probably over, and I kinda don't care about it anymore, so Imma yap (bored and this is stupid anyway)

I was sent these screenies of ... whatever this is

I don't know what the hell made this fella think that I give a shit about shipping discourse to the point I would bother people I don't know about it. So that's an interesting ... opening to start with.

I'm mainly active on Tumblr, not Twitter. (LOL)

This has been my Twitter bio since ... fall 2024 (the fall I apparently transformed my 18+ into ... an art account). So yes, it has suggestive art like once a month on it, but it's not...an 18+ account. But since I do have bouts of psychosis from time to time (and forget a lot), I did ask people who have been following me for a while if my account was ever 18+ (with the warnings and such), and I just so happened to forget... But they all said "no". Because uh... that never happened.

Of course, I still kept my suggestive art. Because that's what's advertised in the bio.

Here's what my bio was in the summer of 2024. So I guess I just...I'm stupid or can't read.

And the whole angle of me befriending minors on Twitter is...odd, considering that I don't really talk to anyone on Twitter, but I will admit I do call a lot of people "my friend" when I talk to them. Not because I'm friends with them, it's just polite. But uhhh... no, I don't go out of my way to talk to minors. As far as my knowledge goes, I talk to my same 3 friends who are all adults. The only Twitter friends I have.

Speaking of 18+ accounts, I do have one

There is 18+ and NSFW on this account that I made in fall 2023. (?)

BUT no, I don't have an 18+ for talking to minors on and an 18+ account for adults. I'm not that far gone.

My screenshot is on the right, theirs is on the left, but this was the "proof" that I'm sexually harassing a guy this person knew for over a year. It turned out to be my friend (my actual friend, haha) of 2-3 years. Screenshot of a conversation in a voice call taken way out of context as my friend was saying stuff like that first, and I just reciprocated because. Friends do that. So the only proof of all of these claims (as the rest have no proof whatsoever, go figure) was just not proof of anything at all. But me having friends. And he didn't want to start beef, not because he's scared of me or anything, but literally just he didn't have a problem with me.

Weird to try to convince my friend that they are a victim of me talking to him how he talks to me. Hey, what's the difference between me and him to the point that he would be a victim of sexual harassment, but I wouldn't? Hmmmmm...

Also, he told me because I asked, because we are friends. No, the mods didn't tell me it was my friend's screenshots. I kind of don't talk to that many people on the internet (stated before), so I know what my friend's DMs look like. And how would it be useful for the mods, or anyone else for that matter, to believe everything claimed about me without proof and then kick me from spaces I'm settled in?

I got confirmation of the person who made the claims from the mod, yeah. Not the screenshots, though.

I can understand boundaries and respect them really well but while I have stated multiple times (since like 2021 until now) that I don't really like and I'm not receptive to sexually charged replies to my art it's funny coming from the person who completely ignored all that shit and then

also

c'mon bro, pronouns are a simple boundary too, right there in the server

Yeah, that was an annoying thing to have to deal with for like. A week. Some of my posts started getting flagged after I stayed on the server too.

Two of my posts got removed, too, and yeah, I'm still upset about that (could be a coincidence, bro)

I'm not asking you (1 reader) to care, btw, cause I don't. You shouldn't either, frankly

It is just a very funny thing to happen to me over telling one person (it was not the insect person 💔 I don't know this fella) to stop badjackting queer people you don't like over ships. and then got badjacketed over that lmaooooo I didn't even have to ship anything. I think that was the "shipping drama that I started" like two months before they tried to tell the moderation team of a Discord server that I'm favorable of minors.

I don't really got a reason to believe this hasn't been done before and I just wasn't told, but y'know. It is what it is bru

still bored

[sysmedsaresexist]

do you mind elaborating on why endogenic plurality cannot present as a CDD when exposed to extensive trauma?

like, i can see why an endogenic plural facing extensive trauma in adulthood wouldnt, however if someone was a system by age 9 with no childhood trauma and then faced severe bullying from teachers/peers with minimal support from parents could that not cause dissociative symptoms to affect their system?

i agree on using resources that help you, and i firmly believe that no resources for trauma should be blocked behind syscourse/other discourse labels, but im still struggling to understand how if endogenic plurality presents as a CDD why it would be classified as one

I want to answer this very simply, but I really want you to come back and reply! I know my response isn't the right answer.

I really want this to open some (hopefully) beneficial dialogue!

Before I answer, I want to reiterate that I am doing my best to learn about self identification and determination and how to respect it, and I can only do that by talking to people and hearing about their experiences.

Let's all have a good, healthy conversation!

So.

I disagree that 9 is the cutoff age. There are doctors that think it goes to 16! Personally, I think it's 12 based on my own research.

I think the question also ignores the important point of other conditions someone has. Autism is well known to make people struggle with their sense of self and shifting facets. ADHD and OCD do the same. The reason I bring those up is to point out that those struggling with various disorders in childhood are much more likely to experience trauma reactions in situations that are only stressful for other children without those disorders.

In addition, disorganized attachment becomes much more likely if the parents and teachers aren't properly equipped to handle those developmental disorders, or if they're not recognized early enough (reminder, disorganized attachment has been found to be the biggest predictor of CDDs).

My question to you is, if you have childhood trauma within the supposed cut-off age, why aren't you just a CDD system?

If endogenic plurality presents as a CDD in childhood/early teens, why isn't it just a CDD?

How can you be sure it's not a CDD? How do you judge your own levels of traumatizion? How important is that distinction? Why is it important? Does denial play a factor? What are the benefits to this type of identification?

--

Okay I lied, not so simple. Just to encourage discussion, I think I struggle with this because of the idea of the brain scans. This type of technology may never be used mainstream, but it does bring up the question of... if an endogenic system has childhood trauma and believes it's unrelated, but the brain structure is the same as someone with DID...

I'll leave it there.

I really want to see both sides' opinions on this!

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