#polyam culture

[polyamorouscultureis]

Polyam culture is getting SO excited when your new-to-poly partner tells you about some action they got while you were away for the first time

[actualalivecreature]

shhhhhhh shhhh it’s okay. t4t polycule cuddle time, ok? shhhhhh

[cloud-based-and-rainpilled]

Hey since Izzy is the unicorn are Stede and Ed looking for a third— *gets shot*

[ratt-teeth]

Lemme tell you about my favorite bit i do that my partners absolutely can not stand

So for context, two of my partners are married to each other, and their wedding was a few months before i met them. A mutual friend, Mae, who's company they enjoyed, but neither were exceptionally close with at the time, was in the wedding party as a last minute fill-in.

Now you see, i am an annoying little imp, and gently fucking with the people i love is one of my greatest joys in life. i love pushing buttons in a way that people cant help but laugh at how irritatingly stupid it is.

So without fail, whenever their wedding is brought up, i put on my best passive aggressive voice and loudly complain about how my dearest friend Mae was invited to the wedding, but i, their beloved girlfriend, was not.

It usually looks a little something like this:

*Girlfriend shows me a picture from the wedding*

"Aw, that looks so fun! I wish I could have been there but. Y'know. I wasn't invited. Which is totally fine, I get it, like I'm not mad or anything.

...

I just think it's funny, y'know, that Mae got to be part of the ceremony and I didn't even get an invite. No, like I know, I get it, I'm not even mad, it's just kinda funny, y'know? That she got to stand up there with you guys, but your own girlfriend didn't even make the guest list. Just kinda weird :)))"

"WE LITERALLY DID NOT KNOW YOU YET"

But what makes it my favorite bit is the fact that Mae is 100% in on it. Anytime i make this joke in her presence, without hesitation she will jump in like

"it IS funny, isn't it??? Like I didn't even know them that well at the time, but I got the invite and you didn't? Interesting :)"

And both of my partners lose their fucking minds every time and it makes the little jester in me that much stronger. Its been 5 years and it hasn't gotten less funny

[midnightfantasizing]

Question to poly people. How did you meet other poly people, past partners, current partners, and just other folks you share that in common with?

[rainbow-neko-main]

Hi I'm still very knew to certain things in the LGBTQ+ community as I only learned about it like 4 years ago. So I was wondering if you'd explain polyamory to me

Polyamory isn't that hard to explain, it is simply the practice of having more then one consenting romantic partner. The issue is that it's been sexualized, and villainized, in every peice of media i've ever seen- up until recently where it feels like polyamory is more accepted then before.

The biggest thing we poly folks are accused of is "cheating with extra steps" and truly the people who accuse us of such don't understand why cheating on your partner is so bad. Without the consent of your other partner, romantic acts with someone else is going behind their back, breaking their trust, and lying to them- cheating on them. This is not what Polyamory is.

I was dating my boyfriend Ben for 3 or so years before we met Collie- we both decided we liked them and after messily confessing and talking it over- polyamory seemed fine to all of us. When me and Collie fell for our 4th boyfriend Elio, we both made sure it was okay with Ben to date them. This can (and has) keep going so long as the partners in the romantic relationship are all okay- by communicating our issues and getting consent before anything else. We all love each other very much and while i cant speak for everyone- I am very happy with how my life with them is going.

Polyamory is a welcoming and loving and talkative identity. I am happy that it's part of mine. I am happy they're part of my life. <3

[musings-of-a-kiwafruit]

You are:

Mine.

My love.

Not as in a possession of which I am the sole owner.

But as in the love, the lover, one to which I belong. Am invited to. Get to celebrate and enjoy. Get to share in.

And together we build Our Love.

[doctor-of-war-and-heartache]

Hey all! I need some advice from fellow polyamorous folks.

Here's the situation (tdlr at the bottom): my partner and I are both poly but in different ways. I find myself desiring relationships with others where my partner is also involved, like a throuple. My partner desires relationships with others where I am not involved at all.

We've tried dating other people as well as each other but separate (my partners way) and it was extremely detrimental to my mental health. So I decided that I was going to only date my partner and not even look for or entertain anything or anyone else, but my partner was still going to date others.

This hasn't been working for me either. I find myself getting jealous and bitter about these other people, two emotions that I do not want to be having in the slightest. I have voiced these opinions to my partner and we're going to talk more about it but I wanted to see if anyone had any advice for me for this conversation.

Tdlr: I know that theyre my person and i want to stay with them but i also want my partner to be able to love others the way that they do but am having negative emotions about it. Does anyone have any advice for other ideas for compromise or how else we can approach this in order to get what we both desire out of our other relationships?

Even if you don't have anything, could you consider reblogging so that it gets to the right audience? Thank you!!!

[chinbiz]

There’s not enough polyamorous memes to show other polyamorous people so here’s one (obligatory disclaimer that this is based on my own experiences and you don’t need to fully relate to it to be polyamorous)

[trixiedjinn]

Sex is only as important to y'all as it is because you're desperately starved for emotional and physical intimacy, and think it's normal to limit how close you can be to someone based on whether or you're fucking them.

If you were less insane lil weirdos, you'd like sex the way you like drawing a picture, and you wouldn't care anymore, but you'd probably be having more of it too.

But keep listening to classically Abbey and Tate tho or whatever.

🌺

[mystorii333]

#Polytips

When the couple wants to find the right person to complete the poly triad they want, firstly, you have to set boundaries on what is and isn’t okay for one another. Every dynamic will be different due to what both people in the couple want but you know what you want and don’t want, so voice it as frequently as you feel & vice versa, open, honest communication is what’s needed in a polyam relationship.

Secondly, dating them separately so you can get to know them individually. it’s a red flag if the couple or joining person only wants to date or have physical encounters together. In a poly triad there are individual relationships between the three along side all involved being in one together also.

[polyamorouscultureis]

realising that you're polyamorous after hanging out with two of your friends you thought would like each other and watching them get along and realising that oh my god i am full of love and realising that when you're in a romantic relationship you want that too.

This is almost exactly what happened to me lmao

[actualalivecreature]

today i had a very pretty trans woman tell me to get on my knees and spit jameson into my mouth. hello i am very gay

[disaster-cryptid]

Just gotta say "our girlfriend" is one of the best phrases in the English language

[theblasianwitch]

DnD Group? Oh, you mean my polycule?

[shameshamesh]

No, i didnt have my new years kiss,

BUT i managed to projectile vomit in front of my favourite bar for ten minutes straight while my (then) boyfriend (now ex) facetimed our girlfriend so she could watch too🤞