#providing personal advice

[uncanny-tranny]

A lot of cis people may not want to hear this, but here goes:

You are going to have more in common with trans people who have a similar gender identity to you than you think. Trans people are reliable narrators of their own experiences, and whether you like it or not, we will have similar or even identical experiences to yours. Cis people don't have a monopoly over their gender or the experiences people have as a result of their gender.

[starry-bi-sky]

i have... ✨Danyal Al Ghul Headcanons✨ but specifically for my yaelokre danyal oneshot

There's also the tumblr post here but I recommend the link in the title because its the ao3 version, and that one is edited and has some stuff in it that's not in the tumblr post, and will be the version I'm using.

So for summary: this Danyal is also from a Demon Siblings Au where Danny is five years older than Damian. However, things turned out a bit differently, and Danny and Damian had a fantastic relationship with one another. Danny loved music and regularly came up with songs to sing to Damian with. Specifically the folk band Yaelokre's EP "Hayfields" (seriously go fucking listen to it its sooo good. Harpy Hare is the second song but its my favorite. Special shoutout to @gascansposts for introducing the band to me)

He falls off a train when he's twelve and Damian is seven while the two of them and Talia are on mission. He ends up with magically induced amnesia and wakes up in Arkansas while the Fentons are on their yearly Divorce-iversary visit to Aunt Alica, and since he can only remember his name, he ends up being taken into their care.

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Yaelokre Danny has the same facial scar as Things in Threes Danyal, since he was initially another version of him where things turned out better. I'm debating on whether or not I should take it away however, and give him a different scar (maybe from when he fell off the train?), just because the scar is a pretty key identifier for Ti3 Danyal.

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Danny frequently visits Aunt Alicia in Arkansas! Well, only after he gets settled in and stuff. He doesn't really like the city that much and prefers the countryside where Alicia lives. I know she lives in a cabin but I'm changing it to a farm, so she puts Danny to work and gets him to help her.

I don't want to confine his hobbies to only being star stuff, because people tend to have more than one hobby and I feel like it reduces him to one-dimensionality, so he likes to garden, and learns guitar. His room becomes filled with plants, and he turns their roof into a rooftop greenhouse right below to OPS Center.

He has a complex relationship with the weapons from his past, but he's not... like... appalled by it? When he finds his weapons in the Fenton attic all he thinks is that they're his weapons, and he starts carrying a knife on him afterwards. Essentially he becomes fascinated with weaponry because its one of the few physical ties he has to his past, and while he's not training like he is in the League, he allows his strong muscle memory to guide him through his katas.

Danny likes climbing things. This causes Problems For Everyone Else.

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Danny was not the "kinder Al Ghul" in the League. His kindness extended to his brother and family, and that's it. To everyone else he had high expectations out of them, and the pride you'd expect from the grandson of Ra's Al Ghul and trained by its top members. While he wasn't like, unnecessarily cruel or anything, he wasn't merciful either.

This transfers post-train fall as him coming off as no-nonsense and unforgiving. He's not fond of the idea of giving people second chances, and is skeptical of the idea. He's disgusted by incompetency and views it as an unforgivable offense, especially if he thinks that the person should know better, although he's not sure why. Some egocentrism for the soul.

He doesn't like being touched by anyone who isn't family, and gets irritated when anyone grabs him or holds onto him for extended amounts of time. Dash has gotten hit so many times. With Jack Fenton's tendency for abrupt physical affection, it doesn't make it any better. I'd argue it'd make it worse because Danny doesn't want to be touched more often than not.

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Danyal had a red scarf in the League that he wore on his last mission, it came off before he fell off and caught itself on the roof. Damian still has it and took it with him to Wayne Manor. He's got it locked in his room and takes it out when he's alone and missing Danny the most. One time he forgot to put it away before leaving his room, and Dick was visiting the manor for something and found it. Damian found him holding it and freaked out.

Dick could only say "I've never seen you wear this, Damian, this is really pretty--" before Damian shoved him to the floor and stole it out of his hands, before screaming at him; "Don't touch this! You don't ever touch this! This is mine! You hear me!?"

It caused such a commotion that the rest of the family present came to see what the fuss was about, and Damian kicked them all out of his room. Dick is the one brother Damian's the closest with, so the fact he reacted so strongly shocked them all.

This is likely what leads to the "Danyal" conversation.

[carmen-berzattos]

I keep seeing posts of people saying that not using words like growled, boomed etc as dialogue tags is bad writing advice and that these words are not meant to be taken literally, but poetically. That is all fine and good and true. But! The reason that you're often discouraged from relying on such descriptors isn't because the readers will take it literally, but to encourage writers to find more interesting ways of conveying emotions without these tags. The idea here is that you use precise description of external environemnt to convery mood, use internality as a way of hinting and hightening said mood, and, MOST IMPORTANTLY, have your dialogue stand on its own that its tone and function in the character interaction is self-evident. Basically, you want to reach the point where adding the word "growled" feels like an overkill because the text already conveys the tone. And even then, I wouldn't necessarily say never use these descriptors, but I will say make them so sparse that the reader stands at attention when they're used. Because they know you mean business

[galedekarios]

the way some ppl go out of their way to actively seek out appropriately tagged content to get upset about to the point of making several posts in a row abt it... it's like that guy on bike meme tbh

[jacquesthepigeon]

You talking about the lack of variety in lb merch reminded me of how annoyed I get by the lack of official Luka merch.

He's my favorite character and I 100% would buy a Luka or Viperion figure if I could find one but fuck anyone who wants one with a character outside the season 3 finale squad

Here’s how u can get a Luka/Viperion figure:

1) Purchase a hefty amount of polymer clay

2) Try to get good at polymer clay

3) Cry bc getting good at polymer clay is taking too long

4) Meditate, Luka would want you to

5) Settle for a poor quality figure made with love, sweat, and tears. But most importantly love.

Congrats, you now have a Luka/Viperion figure

[dream-beyond-the-fantasy]

I think I might be autistic. This revelation is stressing me out. But the more I read and after talking to a friend who went through the same thing, the more things make sense to me.

I'm posting this here because it's my blog and I need to get it down on something and out of my head. If I keep it bottled up inside, I know things will be worse for me. I need to come to terms with it.

[coquelicoq]

i have so many strategies and policies for writing work emails. and the thing is i used to think they were all super self-evident, until i started training people who did not do ANY of this and it all had to be explained. i was like, i don't know why clients love me, maybe because i'm adorable? but then i discovered i actually had to tell my coworkers to say "thank you" in emails and was like hmmm. maybe it's because i'm adorable AND i say thank you in emails. further research is needed.

[themandylion]

There's unfortunately a tendency in a number of parents to not really see younger children as people. They ignore the personalities of little kids as being just that (personalities), instead writing them off as "cute child behavior." Then, when those kids turn into "people" (teenagers), parents act shocked/betrayed/disappointed because what. Since when do their offspring have personalities of their own? Since when are they individuals that exist separate from their parents?

When parents insist that their kids completely changed with puberty, it's rarely (if ever) a case of the teen actually changing. It's usually a case of the kid finally getting old enough/big enough/loud enough that they can't be ignored and written off as a cute accessory. If your parent thinks your personality did a complete about-face when you hit your teen years, chances are there's nothing inherently different about you—your parent just hasn't had the respect for you that they should have had from the start.

Your personality hasn't changed. Your parent just can't ignore that you have one anymore.

[glitterandgoldrush]

had a couple of asks lately that makes me want to reiterate this:

as a fancontent creator, I do all of this for free in my spare time. writing thousands of words for fics, compiling mood boards, making those “look inside” things, these all take a lot of time and energy out of my personal life. I have a full time job that can be very stressful and I also have an entire personal life that I’m balancing with this stuff.

Don’t get me wrong, there are so many amazing people in my ask box and commenting on my fics and they outnumber the bad quite considerably. I feel very lucky that people engage with my content and i LOVE making and writing things for this fandom

but I think some people have blurred the lines between traditional content and fan content. I don’t get paid for this. YOU don’t pay for this. So it’s not really fair to criticise work in the same way you would for something you paid actual money for when it comes to writing style, characterisation etc. I’m not a professional writer! And I have my own characterisations of characters! If you don’t vibe with what I put out, you can just scroll on. There’s literally no need to be coming into my ask box and insulting me.

I want to keep my anons on because I love getting asks from people but I’ve had quite a few just plain nasty ones lately so just wanted to put this out there as a reminder!!! there is one (1) person behind this blog! I do as much as I can in my spare time but unfortunately sometimes things take a while or don’t get done. I’m trying my best over here

anyway!! on a lighter note, I’m almost finished the new glitch chapter so that should be out this week!! then I have a few new fic ideas to work on - including some missing scenes from OOUIB! 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[quill-of-thoth]

Letters From Watson, The Noble Bachelor

Part 3: The Fun Bits

- Holmes did NOT have to make this a dinner theater, but he did. Because Watson is trapped at home by the weather? Because Lord St. Simon is footing the bill? So Hattie and Francis would get a much-belated wedding dinner?

- He also appears very ready to argue St. Simon down from his anger. And the feeling is valid but anything St. Simon would do stemming from it would do nothing but make the lives of innocent people more difficult.  - Missing, presumed dead is a trope, but it’s a lot easier to achieve believably in these days with travel and sending messages far more difficult. It’s made more believable by Victorian attitudes about the USA.  - Holmes’ visit to Hattie and Francis is also interesting to imagine. He’s a detective, but he knows you didn’t do anything wrong, you just... planned hastily. Everybody will feel a lot better if you all meet in secret at his place to talk it over - he’ll even provide a nice meal to celebrate your wedding! You mustn’t mind his roommate.  - Hattie must care enough about St. Simon to want this to go as least-terribly as possible for him. And this route does save her father a lot of grief too. St. Simon is... not so quick to cooperate.  - Holmes’ ideas regarding a US/UK global empire are, uh. You know the kind of retrofuturism that is so hopeful but also so fucking cringe? Yep. My dude. I have some READING for you to do. (How long do you think it would take to radicalize a victorian?) - After all this we skip the wedding dinner, which Holmes appears to have attempted to make enjoyable... if all went as he planned, would St. Simon and the Moultons be friends by the end? Does he think he can show off a little, feed everyone a nice dinner, and happily, instead of bittersweetly, resolve what is ultimately a case where nobody is to blame, or at least, nobody acted with malice? He doesn’t get a lot of those. - Love the actual evidence-finding in this case - the recipt. The prices alone narrow it down quite a bit, but were doubly lost on me when I first read this, being a modern american. I’m triply at sea because  the prices here are also so low that they’re really impossible to ballpark using only inflation calculators. The prices of food and lodging do not correspond to inflation anyway, as basically all of us are aware. Maybe I’ll add some historical comparison of wages vs. expenses to my projects along with the ongoing amended timeline. - Holmes gives the Moultons some “paternal” advice. Of note he’s like, barely thirty: Hattie is in her very early twenties and Francis presumably similarly aged. On the one hand, sir you are a hypocrite, on the other hand, I’m thirty and twenty-two year olds are kids. Especially if the solution to the problem is “you need to get over yourselves and talk this out.” - Holmes’ closing comments regarding that he and Watson are unlikely to ever be out both a spouse and an income in the same day are very, very hilarious if you, like me, presume that Holmes is aroace. I have legitimately told friends and acquaintances relating tales of romantic trouble (not theirs! I have some sense of when to shut up!) “Wow, glad I’ll never have that problem.” Also, when one remembers that Watson is weeks away from his own marriage, this could also be a clumsy attempt by Holmes to reassure him. This won’t happen to you, old chap. You’re the first and only person in Mary’s heart. 

[yourheartinyourmouth]

you know. i get that people offer empty platitudes when they don’t know what else to say. but when that’s the only thing you get back, it starts to be fucking patronizing and it really starts to piss me off. it’s fine if you don’t have anything to say!!!! just don’t say anything! just say “i’m sorry you’re going through this.” and leave it at that!!! i don’t need the Soppy Sympathy Express to show up every time i express frustration over my situation!!!

[goblins-and-gloves]

Angry at parents hour!

Undiagnosed autistic fuckers are delulu.

[bigbadlesbiab]

are we fucking for real

[amethiosspouse]

to the anon who just sent me an ask, please give me evidence of those things happening. idk how to respond to your message and i need actual proof that those things have happened in the past

[sidhedust]

My biggest advice when it comes to art networking (in my limited experience) is to avoid people who want to be big shots/worship indie bigshots and avoid people that aren't making anything but want to be your friend/give advice/be in your circle. And if they're both of these types, run as fast as you can.

I find that these types can't even hide the fact that they want a connection without doing the work to...connect...it's like a mixture of clout chasing and wanting an ego boost at the same time. It's that desire to be able to say "look at me, I'm friends with (guy who Made It Big)!" or "I helped (This Bigshot I knew as a nobody) make their work with my advice!" while not really engaging with you or your work as a person/piece of art, because they really don't care and just want the boons of the connection.

Connections are a must, and I get that it's almost inherently self serving (a neutral trait/aspect of it-self serving =/= horrible reasoning or that one is a bad person), but when making connections I think it's important to still care and devote time to knowing the person/their work or line of work, instead of feeling entitled to the connection without that time and care. If you don't care about the person's work or line of work, you can't be mad when they detect this lack of care and go elsewhere/stop coming to you or feel dissatisfied with the connection.

Avoiding people that show signs of not really desiring to connect (and really CAN'T connect with you since they aren't making much of anything) can save a lot of time and bellyaching by recognizing people going nowhere. Take it from someone that learned the hard way. I'm happy it happened though, since now I know better and have a more healthy circle art wise, and I can inform others on how to avoid these people as they connect to others on the web over their art.

[charliesinfern0]

absolutely love taking characters that have so much potential to be dynamic characters and… give them character