#relationship of equals

[keylimeart]

if anidala has no defenders im dead

[causalityparadoxes]

The Doctor and TARDIS are perfect for each other because they both have the same terrible taste in partners <3

[ddejavvu]

Tonys controversially younger gf is so funny to me, he so randomly doesnt pay for things just to mess with her💀

oh fuck anon you hit me right where i needed it.

you're not overly demanding with his money, so when you ask nicely for something and he says, 'no. i'm starting to think you're using me for my money', you're at a total loss.

you've got this little pout on your face as you figure out how to respond, because no, you're not only with him for his money, but damn, it's nice to have at your fingertips. you can take the rejection, you just don't understand why he's saying no, because if anyone in the world is made of money it's tony stark. he loves watching you grapple silently with the 'no' because you don't want to come off as entitled or a gold digger so you don't confront him about it, but you're clearly bothered by the situation because he totally could buy it for you but he's not going to so does that mean you did something wrong?

he watches the wheels turn furiously in your sweet little head and probably has already purchased whatever it was, not that he'll tell you until it arrives. he's just a shithead that likes to mess with you.

[inkskinned]

in internet posts it is easy to cut them out of your life. they are hurting you! they aren't listening to you!

they held your hair back. they lent you lipstick. they held your hand at the train station and got you home safe. they rounded on your bully, got loud, said get fucked, spitting-mad in your defense.

they also cut the hair off again. told you that you should really think twice before wearing something like that. took you for granted. took your insecurities and threw them in your face again.

you know logically it should be easy. all the internet advice comments always read it will feel better. like an equation - if a person is rotten, you just remove them. you pull the tooth that's hurting.

but it was never a big flare-up moment. you don't live in a sitcom. they never tried to take your boyfriend or steal from your apartment. they showed up to birthdays and they wrote songs about you and bring you water without you asking. once you found out they carry an emergency inhaler for you, even though you haven't had an asthma attack in years - just in case.

where is the line? people fuck up. sometimes they fuck up badly. sometimes people have raw personalities, like a powerline, and being around them is dangerous. addicting. sometimes they can't help themselves, but you know they're trying. sometimes they are just rough-around-the-edges. sometimes they don't even realize how they sounded when they said that. sometimes it's just - you've both loved each other for so long now, the way this thing hurts goes back to the root.

and that's the fucked up part. you have pushed your fingers against the sweetheart of memory. things these days are electric, tense, harrowing. they didn't used to be. there were a lot of good days in there. sometimes you want to just close your eyes and say can this be over yet? do we still need to be fighting?

doing that would give up any chance you get of getting an apology, but you don't always know that you need an apology, you love them. once they flaked on your birthday party. once they told you to get over it, people are always dying. they also let you crash on their couch for a week after the breakup, handfeeding you when you were so sad you couldn't eat. they are also judgmental about everything, occasionally react to banal statements with an attitude that is weird and fiery. they also love you like a lighthouse sometimes, so strong they cut the storm like lightning.

but the problem is that you might be storm. you might be the thing that needs breaking. what if you are two forces who are desperately, horribly drawn to each other, shaped by the other person's passions, and both good for each other and bad in equal measure.

what if you're both just people, and you're no saint neither.

just cut them off! swallowing the saltwater, you catch yourself in the mirror. you've been shaking more than usual. there's an ache in you that is oblique, loud, impossible to soothe. is this what it looks like? when life is "easier"?

your mouth will always have a hole, is the thing, if you remove the tooth.

[eelektrossfan]

tug of war

[thewistlingbadger]

Season 1 put such a heavy emphasis on the idea that Jinx and Silco were family. We saw them hug each other, we saw silco cradle her as a little girl, we saw her climb in his lap like she was a little girl, we saw silco kiss her forehead, and not only did we see all of this physical behavior, we also had tons of dialogue that backed up this theme.

"Who, Jinx? She works for him. She's like his daughter."

"Let's just say I didn't always see eye to eye with my old man. She'll come to you when she's ready."

"This is for your own sanity. I once had a daughter."

"fear haunts us all, child."

"Is there anything so undoing as a daughter?"

"You're my daughter Jinx, I'll never forsake you."

So clearly season 1 wants us to know that Jinx is Silco's daughter and Silco is Jinx's father. So why was this completely abandoned in season two? In season two, NO ONE refers to jinx as Silco's daughter, Jinx herself NEVER refers to herself as his daughter, and she never refers to HIM as her dad. No no on the contrary, when Vander comes back she's calling him dad left right and center despite the fact that she never called Vander dad when she was little, when he was still alive. This is so odd to me because I'm fairly sure that Jinx spent more time with Silco than she did Vander.

[sowhatnotcreative]

Imagine being in one of those 50/50 marriages and you want to make a really nice dinner. You make it every night as well because your husband explains to you that you should only do what you're good at and he simply "isn't good at cooking", in return though, he will take out the trash when you remind him. Because this is a 50/50 household after all and he WANTS to pull his weight.

So you plan the dinner on your free time, then you take the shared household bank card that you both fill up with the same amount of money each month - 5% of his salary and 50% of yours because it's equal and how is it his fault that you chose a low paying job? This is 50/50!

You buy all the groceries, come home and clean up after your husband who doesn't work longer hours than you but he has explained that his job is more mentally exhausting so he will be more tired than you when he comes home. You wouldn't understand that with your physically and emotionally taxing job, you don't need that much rest. Besides, It doesn't even bother him that it's messy!

Then you prepare all the food for an hour or so, while it's in the oven you take the trash out because you've asked your husband to do it three times already and it's still there because he is simply too exhausted right now. You also load the laundry with both of your clothes, and fold the clean one because if your husband did it it would just be destroyed or never folded. You set the table, bring out the food, pour the drinks and when it's done you do the dishes because your husband simply "isn't good at doing dishes".

This is equality for men btw.

After dinner your husband sais he did a good job cooking the meal.

This is what dads who claim to have made their children sound like.

[bidotorg]

Today, we take a moment to celebrate a historic milestone - the anniversary of South Africa legalizing same-sex marriage. 🇿🇦🏳️‍🌈 On this remarkable day, South Africa not only became the first country in Africa to recognize love in all its forms, but also set a precedent for human rights and equality across the globe. This day serves as a reminder of the progress we've made, and the work that still needs to be done. Let's continue to fight for love, acceptance, and equality for all. Today we celebrate love, human rights, and the beautiful rainbow nation of South Africa. 🌈❤️

[nellasbookplanet]

An interesting aspect of Laudna and Imogen's relationship and how it has developed is the fact that they got together early in their campaign, long before either of them had any chance to work through their respective issues. Vax confessed his feelings for Keyleth early on (relatively so; c1 had been going for a while before it started streaming), but she explicitly turned him down at the time, and they didn't actually get together until she felt she was ready, later in the campaign. Percy and Vex didn't get together until after Percy had worked through his figurative and literal inner demons. Jester and Fjord didn't get together until he had moved away from Uk'otoa and his self-worth issues, and she from her romanticized ideas of romance. Yasha and Beau didn't become a couple until both of them had moved away from their self-destructive tendencies and Yasha had let go of Zuala and Beau of Jester. Caleb and Essek didn't get together until the epilogue, when Caleb finally let go of the past and embraced the future.

When Laudna and Imogen got together, Laudna was at one of her lowest points (and has since started digging), having just invited Delilah back in, and Imogen was (is) still struggling against the temptation of Predathos. While Imogen has since gone great strides in growing, Laudna has regressed, using her feelings for Imogen as an excuse to further give in to Delilah to protect her. She's too bogged down by her own self-worth issues to uphold a healthy relationship, and keeps hurting Imogen by hurting herself, not realizing how or why this upsets Imogen.

And I can't help but wonder, would Percy and Vex's relationship have been as destructive had they gotten together before or during the Briarwoods arc? Jester and Fjord if they got together during the pirates arc? Yasha and Beau if they got together before or just after Obann, when they were both self-destructing massively? Caleb and Essek if they got together while they were still low-key manipulating and honeypotting each other for information?

But even without the romance, Laudna and Imogen likely wouldn't have escaped the situation they're now in. They started out already kind of co-dependent, and remind me of Vax & Vex and Caleb & Nott in that way. But whereas the twins and Caleb and Nott's arcs had them learn to question each other and embrace love for other people rather than isolate themselves, Imogen and Laudna has only gotten more entrenched in each other's issues, and more unwilling to push each other to grow.

[chronicowboy]

i'm so tired of this push and pull we have every now and then over who would be the suave casanova and who would be the gameless loser when buck and eddie first get together. like i get it's fun to think about but it's just unrealistic. there is no world in which both of them aren't reverting to a teenager giggling and fumbling their way through their first meaningful relationship. they are both becoming the most pathetic men alive when they get together. eddie's never been in a relationship that hasn't felt like a performance and now he's staggering through this play without his lines improvising against someone saying "no but" instead of "yes and" because buck has never been with someone who means this much to him, who loves him this much, who he absolutely cannot lose. so he's following a script to which he only knows, or hopes he knows, the ending to (happily ever after) but he's just guessing his lines along the way. they're both going to be accidentally flustering the other a hundred times a day just by existing. they'll be in a permastate of blushing to the point of inventing new shades of pink/red. they'll both be pulling the most cringeworthy moves out there and laughing until their sides hurt about it. but crucially this is doing it for them both Big Time. they're getting sooo horny about how lame they are for each other. it's all about the give and take. it's about the balance.

[meteortrails]

I think part of the reason Mel and langdon have such a compelling dynamic is bc it’s just incredibly clear in every interaction the amount of respect and faith they have for each other. the degree to which they trust each other is kinda insane when you remember they’ve only known each other for less than a day, but neither of them ever fails to deliver on the trust the other places in them. Mel trusts him enough to go to him with her patients and her questions and her suggestions, and in return langdon genuinely listens to what she has to say and has her back when she gets upset or confused without ever making her feel less than bc of it. they never question each other’s competency or dedication and its what allows them to work better together than like half that damn ER. and it’s also very obvious that for both of them this is like, the first time anyone has had this sort of unquestioning faith in them??? langdon has never had someone this willing to learn from him, and Mel has never had anyone so confident in her as a student. it’s honestly hard NOT to be compelled by that level of instant chemistry

[beesinmymoth]

Dog of the military

[wiseabsol]

The Ithaca Saga is banger after banger, but what makes me sob every time I listen to it is Athena's part in "I Can't Help But Wonder." Like DAMN is her arc amazing, especially in parallel to Odysseus'. And the gentle sadness of his response makes my heart ache.

[the-crooked-library]

does anyone else think about Spike and Giles looking at each other and seeing a personification of the most despised and vulnerable aspects of their own past or is it just me

[afterschoolcrewz]

thinking about chimney and eddie as brothers-in-law because they would be SO silly. their dynamic is already perfect but add in that extra sibling component? Mayhem. eddie would be 10x more torturous to chim, chimney would be 10x more indignant to eddie, AND they’d both bond over their shared buckley love interests. also there would inevitably a scene at some point where chimney nudges eddie and goes “buckley’s, right?” and eddie laughs along before both maddie and buck turn around to give them a Look that leaves the both of them begging for forgiveness. i Need it.

[sunny-knight]

MASSIVE DELTARUNE SPOILERS

I need to talk about that ending.

Correction- WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THAT ENDING-

This is…such a genius scene that seems so simple, but HAS SO MUCH BAGGAGE WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT IT. When I first saw it I felt the weirdest combination of emotions ive ever felt in my entire life and now I can’t stop thinking about this moment, so heres an attempt at putting those thoughts into words!

What makes it so interesting is that… yes, it is VERY FUNNY, AND an epic win for Soriel shippers…but…it feels so WRONG,

Kris and Susie were presumed MISSING well into the night, and Toriel seems to not even notice because of her drunkenness. Its incredibly irresponsible on her half, as she’s so distracted by “just having a little fun” (Queen Mom theorists be winning, Toriel has a drinking problem confirmed/hj)

The entire time I was laughing while going “oooooo….” Toriel thats not it girl. And when Susie left, the way Sans completely dismissed her and went “party back on yippee” also felt very off. Kris’ reaction to everyhing makes me so sad and put on edge by the whole thing, IT IS A GREAT SET UP TO THEIR OPINION ON THEIR HOME LIFE, THATS FOR SURE. At some point when Susie looks at Kris, they look away too, and when Toriel falls down they just walk away and refuse to go anywhere but their bedroom. which is just UGHHH I feel so bad for them, they’re tired of this shit

Tenna saying “We’re a happy family RIGHT KRIS???” and the whole Dark World in their house being centered around ACTING and being an ACTOR… hm.

AND DON’T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON PAPYRUS- This bits more my own biases, but it makes me sad imagining him being all alone in a messy house all night like this poor bastard 😭

theres just SO MUCH TENSION from Kris’ end, its so…ugh. The entire thing screams irresponsibility. It is insane tonal whiplash, but not for the funny reasons some may think on first viewing i think. From my perspective it went from somber pain, to more like…oh god. this sucks. so hard.

My opinion on Soriel has never been strong in either direction, but now I am just FASCINATED cause from this scene it feels like- toxic??? they’re enabling each others bad habits, like on the surface it seems innocent but in hindsight its incredibly irresponsible on Toriels half, and only maybe on Sans’, we still dont know his and Papyrus’ whole situation or anything.

But yeah I love when relationships are complicated and not always healthy! gives ME MORE TO ANALYZE