#shout out trans men

[shit-my-asexual-friend-says]

So, I recently reblogged a post about the asexual experience and realized that my addition was twice as long as the two other comments combined. This feels a little weird, since of the three posters, I am the one who is not asexual.

However, I am fairly confident that I know why.

The asexual community is regularly shunted to the side in other sex-positivity and queer-positivity movements, which is horrible. One of the side-effects of this, though, is that allosexuals who experience these same types of love and lifestyles - for example, my own bisexual queerplatonic ass - are not only shunted to the side, but basically invisible to the community at large. This isn't just harmful to me. If you read the post, I talk about @why-are-the-allos-like-this and my's shared experience of feeling that our relationship is lesser than any romantic relationship I might be a part of. Which is bullshit. It's not.

Love is love is kind of the slogan of the entire Queer community, but I know I'm not the only one who has had this experience. So I'm telling it to everyone: love is love is a radical idea. Love is love applies to everyone. It applies to me as a bisexual woman who is in love with a man; my love for him does not negate my bisexuality. It applies to me as an allosexual person who is in a queerplatonic relationship; my asllosexuality doesn't destroy that relationship.

When you shunt one part of the community to the side - asexuals, bisexuals, whichever trans identity we're villainizing today (it's always somebody), people who have detransitioned but remain allies, literally anyone - you are erasing a lot more experiences than the ones you have decided are lesser or unimportant. You're also erasing the ones that you literally do not know exist, because you never made a space for them.

To be clear, it is correct and important to give special attention to people who are going through specific extreme challenges. It is also important not to pretend that all of our challenges are the same; I have never faced violence in the way the trans women I know have, for example. Amplifying voices that need amplifying does not need to come with a side dish of invalidating and shouting down the voices that you don't think need amplifying.

[2pacula]

yo fyi im a feminist, trans women count as women and women that don't support other women are bad feminists. Terfs shut the fuck up

[honeynclove]

do u guys think I’m anons fav faggot

[just-a-little-trans-chaos]

Last night I stayed up way too late taking gender quizzes, and a lot of then ended up saying that I'm a DemiBoy/BoyFlux/GenderFaun.

So now I'm wondering if maybe one of those (or a similar) terms might fit me better then just Trans Masc.

[aquaticallyartistic]

Binary MEN DO NOT INTERACT

Hello, my name is Evelynn and I'm 21 years old. I am 32 months hrt and a lesbian. I live in Phoenix! This is myside blog where I'm horny and down bad for hot women 🥵 My dms are open, please dm me and if I'm horny I'll open them and have a convo~ (I'm a slut so it's really easy to get more revealing photos than these from me~)

Btw my discord is evewhowalksthesand

I am a verse top and this is my side blog for my sapphic cravings. I can be submissive or dominant, but I always want to be the top.

(i don't feel its right for me as a non bottom dysphoric trans woman to claim the stone label but I do not personally want to be penetrated due to trauma reasons!)

I tend to value slightly kinky but largely vanilla sex but my kinks include:

Breeding

Rope play

Breath Play

CNC

Corruption

Biting

Body worship

Power bottoms

Monster fucking

Feminization

Intox

My hard limits are MTF detrans, Scat, diapers, farts, necro, hard gore, hard abuse

Binary Men do not interact

( this is not because I unironically hate cis men as people but because almost all of my sexual trauma was dealt by cis men and being sexualized by them gives me the ick)

Nbs, he him butchs, lesbian boys are more than welcome here

Terfs do not interact

Minors do not fucking interact

[feline-evil]

Getting into anything new also means getting to do a fun little treasurehunt afterwards to find the people drawing gay trans art of the new thing Saluting our bravest soldiers (the people making queer art of my often kind of dudebro-y interests)

[yearning-mlm-hours]

stop and reflect.

trans is not the way to go. you need to love your self in the body and soul the divine created for you. please do not trans. trans not a solution. only to love yourself. only to accept. no more trans. please 😤😤😤 ps damn pookie …shout-out to my boy big H

I think my favourite part of this ask is you shouting out to your boy big H like you had to pause being transphobic to shout out some guy who will never see this

[guidetothegaylaxy]

feminine trans men are the LEAST accepted trans men in general society and I'm tired of people pretending otherwise. I've even had trans people tell me "whats the point if you're just going to act like a girl" no im a little gay boy get your shit together

[yourheartinyourmouth]

massive shout out to Northern Boys for reminding everyone that older people are nb too and it’s not a new thing

also shout out to a group of older guys who aren’t afraid to be sluts <3

[thetincangremlin]

by the way, stretch marks are HOT, pass it down.

Like, try and tell me the one on the right is hotter than the one on the left.

I rest my case.

[moreclaypigeons]

Shout-out to everyone who writes femslash. There's not as many of you as one could wish but I'll be damned if you're not mighty and working your asses off 🙏

[scrambleseggy]

It took me some time to learn this since I haven’t even had my first HRT appointment yet but I do think transmisogyny is an issue that is more directly targeted and severe and while I think trans men deal with a lot of shit I do think trans men who end up “passing” (whatever that might mention) have some responsibility in protecting their trans sisters more readily due to the societal shift they CAN experience based on appearances. I don’t like some of the rhetoric I’ve seen that does play these games of “but we can have it just as bad!!” Because quite frankly, even if that’s true, it’s not really what you should be parroting around if you have even a shred of empathy for some of the pushback and violence we’ve seen against trans women specifically for so long and Im not AT ALL saying trans men don’t experience transphobia, but mainly that I don’t trust peoples politics when they seem to derive heavily from a victim complex and personal anecdotes solely and never from any of the stories and lives that surround us. Doing backflips to talk about yourself as a marginalized person can just feel a little off to me considering the bigger things at stake. I do think there’s a lot of people on here who need to pull their head out of their ass and realize the ways they specifically can be privileged compared to others as well. I find when people aren’t capable of this, they tend to be the most unnecessarily conspiratorial and also usually the most online —- might be a bit of a rough take, but I have some some straaange MRA rhetoric on here since exploring trans men resources specifically on tumblr. The support system being trash is a problem in itself that I wish was addressed more. And I can see how this can domino effects into toxic masculine attitudes as well.

[bugbuoyx]

One Year Anniversary!!!

Here's my post op timeline! The order is 1 day, 3 months, and 1 year (too lazy to find a 6 months lol). I was using scar cream to help the scar fade but I realized I actually want it visible.

[propheticfire]

Men are just...so sexy... 🤤

[swamp-spirit]

My ideal gender is like... guy, but for girls, you know? Not a real guy. A boyband guy. Somebody’s blorbo. A guy written at 5 AM by somebody whose been shotgunning fanfic for ten hours.

[a-luran]

Holy shit thay is absolutely rotten behaviour. You should tell someone so they can go rock her shit because she needs it. A friend or colleague or anything, family, boss, random grandma, it literally doesn't matter but someone needs to go and have a word with her if yours won't work. You're not a coward, anyone would want to avoid that sort of interaction, I'd run from the entire building. That woman is fucking vile. I'm so sorry about this

i appreciate it. some of my friends know because they overheard and I explained. unfortunately there is not much to be done. the friends that do very deeply mind have been very helpful in listening to the details and helping me work out how to move past it. I would love to believe that one day she'll face some kind of consequence, if not for this then for her bigotted attitudes and her callousness towards other people but i really hold no illusions about what people see when they see her and how little people actually care to rock the boat.