#soooooo phobic

[angrygreengxrl]

I'm watching Blue Eye Samurai again and Akemi is treated like an item, called a pig, discussed like an animal for sale when she is still in the same room. Woman has no right to travel alone, can't enter a city just bc there is no man with her. Mizu is beaten and told she is weak boy, but she knows she is in fact a weak girl, she looks in the mirror with disappointment and sadness bc she thinks her weakness comes from being a woman and mixed race. Women are a bargain and pleasure item only valued in brothel. They are expected to just accept everything and humbly take it. Mizu dresses up as a man to hold power and rights she cannot touch as a woman.

And yet some people are like nag this is about gender disphoria.

[averagegaydndnerd]

You know when you need a reason to cuss someone out publicly and embarrass them. That shit make me so mad because if I say anything imma seem like the bad person cause I’m a black Muslim and he’s a white rich boy but this fucker is soooooo aggravating he’s all the phobics and isms while pretending to be a ally. He is a coward hiding in shadows of those stronger than them while taking to 14 year olds when he’s about to be 16 next month. I CRAVE JUSTICE AND I SHALL GET IT WITHIN THE YEAR

[void-tiger]

Mom: [enjoys seeing the goldfinches eating from the coneflowers AND the feeders and a squirrel just munchin’ on a tree ear from the bottoms in OUR yard.]

Mom: [wants to transplant and replant shit for next year]

Me: [hyperfixates on Habitat&Foodstuff Plants that look nice for Ideas (but. uh. not the Pollinator Attractors if I can help it)]

[discos]

this is a reminder don’t touch me or my blog if you’re an ace inclusionist

[gaygraviturgist]

thank u tumblr soooooo much for putting a super transphobic and nonbinary-phobic blog in my for you tab :) :) :)

[bigfatscience]

I saw the anorexia ask recently. Part of the diagnostic criteria of anorexia is a low BMI. You can absolutely be overweight and have a restrictive eating disorder and you absolutely deserve support and treatment for it, but it doesn’t fall within the clinical definition of anorexia unless your weight is also low. If your point is to create a discussion around whether this should be included in the diagnostic criteria, I support that but please don’t share disinformation about diagnosis.

Despite your fat phobia, you are wrong.

The DSM-5 updated the diagnostic criteria for anorexia. There is no absolute weight limit anymore.  This is the relevant diagnostic criteria:

Restriction of energy intake relative to requirements leading to a significantly low body weight in the context of age, sex, developmental trajectory, and physical health.

This means that clinicians SHOULD take a person’s individual predisposition to be larger or smaller when determining whether they are “underweight”. They should consider the body size trajectory they were on prior to becoming ill, they should consider the weights of (non-restricting) family members, and they should use that to determine whether they are underweight relative to their own, unique, healthful set-point. They should also consider whether the person is experiencing physical signs of undernourishment at their current weight, even if that weight is high.

There is also a sub-category of anorexia called “atypical” anorexia which, in practice, means a fat person with anorexia. And fuck that fat phobia too, but it still supports my point because “atypical” anorexia is still fucking anorexia both from a diagnostic standpoint and from a treatment standpoint.

So all of this means that a fat person can ABSOLUTELY be diagnosed with anorexia, with or without caveat. But in practice, many clinicians in ED treatment are fat phobic a-holes who seem to think there is some valid reason to segregate fat people with anorexia from their thinner counterparts. So fat people are rarely diagnosed with the condition. And we suffer worse health and treatment outcomes as a result.

PLUS... just because I am feeling feisty today... A BONUS RANT... there is very obviously a technical, diagnostic definition of “anorexia” and a colloquial usage, and my original ask did not specify which usage I was adopting on my internet blog that is very clearly not a peer-reviewed journal article on the topic, soooooo I think you should self-reflect about how your fat phobia makes you scared and angry to imagine that fat people can also be anorexic, rather than projecting that shit onto me. kthanksbye

[lennonsmccartney]

ive had this blog for an age and a lot of the blogs i follow don't post the beatles anymore and im reaching out for more ppl to bless my timeline soooooo like/reblog this post and ill give you a follow???? lit no pressure to follow back lmao my timeline is just STALE

as long as ur not lgbt+phobic, a massive nob or a bully then that's swell

[onewiththedemons]

yeah I am like all myseterious and alt and stuff and then I open my mouth and I sound like an anime girl, both with my voice the way I speak soooooo (thamnk you) ahh it is the worst, but I just think "hey no, that's rude to other trans guys, stop that." Or if my brain tells me I'm just being a lesbian and I'm not really a guy I just go, "uh oh, that's homophobic and we do not stan." Like those are the literal words I say in my head (an exerptfrom a convo with @Catamelon) (honesly same)

behjdjfjdbfl literally same tho my brain invalidates me in the most homo/trans phobic ways and i’m like not cool dude not cool we do not stand indeed. and also because positivity ur valid 😎 and yeah... idk

(you’re convos 10/10)

(ajsjjejfjt)

[drwhoamst]

Quick vent

For a quick reference, my amazing partner is non-binary and my mother and step-father have proven to be wildly trans-phobic since the start of our relationship. When I first told my mother about my relationship with them they asked me if I was sure that I wanted to date someone so complicated and the most disapproving tone you could imagine a parent could muster. I’ve told her time and time again to either say “they” or just don’t use pronouns at all. She respected that for a total of one minute and made it a point to say “she” as much as humanly possible. I was talking about one of my roommates with her today and used they as a pronoun because idk I can. Singular they is a thing and like my roommates gender is at all important to the conversation. She immediately starts grilling me about how i’m wrong and that singular they isn’t a thing. After repeated attempts to reiterate that singular they is in fact a fucking thing, she just keeps on saying it isn’t so I give up on that. I didn’t think too much of that because i’m used to her being that shitty. But the kicker is when she got my step-father in on the conversation to joke in front of my face that I know nothing and they know everything because they’re old. They did their best to convince me that I wouldn’t get accepted to any of my internships or any future jobs if I used singular they because they’d apparently think i’m soooooo dumb for using it. All while basically laughing in my face.

TL;DR My mother is a trans phobic ass and i’m dying 

[confessionsofa-roleplayer]

People on this hellsite are in deep, muckity-muck DENIAL of the real reasons why the RPC is now a flopping fish on a dry dock, and it hasnothing to do with the porn ban. “How’s my Portrayal? Please let me know!” –Well, I don’t know because you’re never on, don’t answer your IMs & Discord, and when you are on you only post aesthetic posts for your muse. “I need memes, asks, threads!” –Well, you never answer ANYTHING that’s sent to you so I don’t trust you anymore.  And you drop threads after 2 reblogs, tops. So, no not sending you a thing until you produce something. “WHY do all my ships and threads get dropped??????” –Again: You’re NEVER HERE. You disappear for months at a time and are a chronic muse maker, so you abandon all your blogs forever at a time. People. Move. On. Muses get sick of your muse’s vanishing acts too. “You all are just narrow minded & hate on female muses, poc fcs, trans, etc. and “woke” muses that’s why the RPC is dead!” –No. Be honest. It’s the MAJORITY that is present in the RPC now, be real. Most of it’s disingenuous, fake, trend-filled, crazy, poorly constructed lip-service examples. And YOU spend 90% of your rp experience shoving all that shit down everyone’s throat, and now you’ve created a negative place that is uninspiring and frigid. You FORCE *anything* and creativity and will to write, dies horribly. “If you ship or write X or Y you’re phobic, racist, problematic, toxic, evil incarnate, need to die, etc. etc. PS: the only good male muse is gay and hates women, but YAY women empowerment & the future is female! Except when female muses ACTUALLY get love and ships with male muses, or show competency and softness, then they’re just a toxic representative of the patriarchy and need to be erased!!! Let’s form a call out and post all kinds of hateful slander & lies about her character so the mun takes the hint and changes her to a male muse we can bastardize and never write a cishet/bi female muse again!! –Shut up. Just SHUT UP. And get therapy. Many, many years of therapy.

“Why don’t people reach out to me I’m on all the time asking for interaction? Why do people unfollow me all the time? Why don’t I get followers? Oh, I see, since I don’t make my blog “aesthetic” like you elites I’m not good enough, huh?!” –Well, when all you DO is shit post, scream about your shitty life all day, blog constant chain letter style posts about some new “Gofundme” thing, or “reblog or THIS will happen to you!” posts,  hate on so many people/character types in the rpc openly, vague, & post SO much on your blog that has NOTHING to do with your fandom or muse, that it’s basically a personal blog with the occasional character stuff? You’re showing that you’re not here to rp. Yeah, sure, you can “Post whatever you want, it’s your blog,” but be fucking honest. Who the hell wants to wade through all that mess to find your muse and threads? What is your characterization even about anymore?? We’re confused and you junked up the dash with pure crap. It’s like hoarding: blog edition. JUST make a side-personal or rant blog, and keep that junk in its box. “I am soooooo tired of elitists that don’t open up and take chances on people anymore, THAT’S why the RPC is dead, too!

–AGAIN: People are selective because of the flakes, the stalkers, the soapboxing, the disappearing acts and faux-writers here. THAT is why people became selective. You find a selective bunch? They. Actually. RP/write. And. Stay. Out. Of. Drama.

[zarrycheri-blog]

!!!ZARRY FIC REC!!!

I’ve read some fics this past month or so that are THE GREATEST but I feel are very underrated and deserve way more reads so I decided to make a fic rec. Enjoy!!!

This list (like my life) is NOT in order.

Those Heavy Days in June by Blueghosts (81,740)

Summary: There’s a certain spark that doesn’t ignite until now, bubbling and tingling away underneath the surface of his skin that needs just the inconsequential touch of a palm, or a brush of a knuckle, or a kiss to explode, and the only fear in Zayn’s mind, the most important and dire and breath-taking thought, is if Harry feels it, too; if he senses the pops between the surges of blood in his veins before they fall away into nothing but an aftermath of withdrawal, and it’s too late. Otherwise, they’re both on the road to Russia, with nothing but a past of what could have been’s behind them, and Zayn knows he’s going to go home with a hole in his chest that Harry will never get the chance to fill again.

(Zayn is heading to a funeral, whilst Harry is heading to a wedding. Zayn is great with words, and Harry is awful with them. Harry thinks Zayn hates him, and Zayn isn't sure how he feels anymore.)

GUYS THIS FIC RIGHT HERE IS UNDOUBTEDLY ONE OF THE BEST FICS IVE EVER READ. IT WAS SLOWBURN AND OMYGOD THE FEELS I JUST- I CANT EXPLAIN IT ITS SO GREAT JUST PLEASE READ THIS FIC YOU WONT REGRET IT.

dissolve by fondleeds (15,097)

Summary: He doesn’t remember the first time Harry kissed him. It might have been at the bungalow, an empty vodka bottle spinning between five scared-shitless boys who knew nothing about anything at all. It might have been in a dark hotel room with the television glowing red-hot and grimy, spilling shadows between the wet space of their mouths. It might have been on the bus, on that couch, four in the morning with their eyes half-closed and Harry’s laptop ebbing Patsy Cline like a third pair of eyes.

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A night in New York.

THIS IS SO WELL WRITTEN AND I LOVED EVERY SINGLE PART OF IT. IT WAS JUST REALLY BEAUTIFUL PLEASE READ IT.

Coffee, Confessions and Other Trials of Being A Secret Service Agent by The_Wavesinger (18,344)

Summary: In which Harry Styles is a Secret Service Agent, Zayn Malik is the President, and all they do is talk, really. (Oh, and flirt awkwardly. There's that.)

Or, there's not much plot but the backstory makes up for it?

THIS WAS SO FLUFFY AND CUTE I JUST LOVED IT SO MUCH.READ IT PLEASE IT’S AMAZING. (AND ALL THE FLIRTING- AHHHH SO CUTE)

In me, you can by manticoremoons (17,959)

Summary: "In order to fight monsters, we created monsters of our own. We needed a new weapon. The Jaeger Program was born. Two pilots, our minds, our memories connected. And in the machine, we become one."

It's 2064 and the world is a scary place. The kaiju have returned, and the humans have marshaled their defenses to fight back once again.

THE CHEMISTRY BETWEEN HARRY AND ZAYN IN THIS STORY IS SO FUCKING STRONG OMYGOD AND THIS STORY IS JUST SO HOT AND AGHAJNSJAAK I JUST CANT EXPLAIN IT WELL ENOUGH ITS SO GOOD READ IT!!

Hear Your Heart by purpledaisy (78,217)

Summary: “That collective groan leads me to some more rules: do not cry, do not complain, and do not be embarrassing. This isn’t an easy job by any means but you all chose it. If you didn’t, get out now.”

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Written for the prompt:Harry and Zayn are first year surgical interns.

The summary reminded me of Grey’s Anatomy so ofc I read it and LET ME TELL YOU- THIS FIC MAKES YOU FEEL PAIN AND LOVE JUST LIKE GREY’S ANATOMY DOES AND IT’S JUST SO FUCKING GREAT AND IT MAKES YOU FEEL EVERYTHING SO MUCH (IN A GOOD WAY) AND ITS JUST- AHH READ IT!

We are who we are (when no one’s watching) by darkzarrie (26,253)

Summary: 11.) He’s afraid of flying.

Harry’s never told anyone that he’s afraid of flying, just because it sounds lame. He isn’t phobic or anything. It’s not like he can’t get on a plane. It just… he prefers to be on the ground, is all.

He goes to pick up the laminated safety instructions and begins to read. He’s only disturbed when the person who’s assigned to sit next to him excuses himself so he can pass by and take the window seat. Harry goes to move and looks up at the stranger.

His world stops right in front of him at the sight of the man. He's the most beautiful man Harry’s ever seen. And he’s seen Ryan Gosling in person, mind you.

He was about to go introduce himself to the lovely stranger beside him when he hears Gigi’s voice through the speakers. “Thank you for flying with IMG Air. Please fasten your seatbelt, our flight is about to take off.”

Harry gulps at that and adjusts his already-tight seat belt. The announcement enough to distract him from the beautiful stranger. He’ll have to talk to him later.

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or, Harry tells a complete stranger all his secrets and he finds out later he’s the CEO for the company he works for.

also, a secret relationship AU that no one asked for.

OK THIS- THIS STORY AAGHGAGHAHHG FIRST OF ALL, I FUCKING LOVE ZAYN SM IN THIS FIC. SECOND, HARRYS SO CUTE AND SOMETIMES OBLIVIOUS I LOVEEE IT. THIRD, IT’S SO FUNNY OMG AND ITS JUST GAHHH I LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS AND I GENUINELY WITH EVERY PART OF ME HOPE THE AUTHOR COMPLETES THIS STORY JSJSJSJ.(READ IT!!)

Drowning Shadows by Purpledaisy (99,265)

Summary: AU: Harry Styles, executive recruiter, finally meets his match in Zayn Malik. Or, Harry builds walls and Zayn breaks everything.

THIS MADE ME FEEL SO MUCH AND I LOVED LOVED LOVED EVERY SINGLE PART. I JUST LOVE THIS SO MUCH AND IT DESERVES SO MUCH MORE READS AND KUDOS SO PLEASEEEEE READ THIS.

We’re still Roaming by Catholicschoolgirl (39,065)

Summary: "Zayn gradually discovers that Harry Styles is, in fact, the devil. And, like the devil, Styles is exceptionally charming and probably very well-intentioned. He brings baked goods to their Events meetings. He smiles a lot and wears tight jeans that are very distracting. On the surface, he is everything that the Co-Chair of a Parent’s Association should be. But what Zayn very quickly ascertains is that Styles can be all of those things and also somehow manage to embody every single horrible stereotype about PTA parents at the same time."

Zayn's bored and decides to volunteer for the PTA at his daughter's school. He may or may not come to regret this decision.

OK I AM A SUCKER FOR KIDFICS AND ENEMY TO LOVER FICS AND THIS WAS BOTH IN ONE AND ITS JUST SO SO SO SOOOOOO WELL WRITTEN AND ITS JUST CO AMAZING! PLEASE READ IT AND IF YOU’VE ALREADY READ IT, WELL READ IT AGAIN.

Your Lips Taste like June by stephaniereads (12,317)

Summary: “See something you like?” Harry teases, his voice loud enough that everyone notices.

All the eyes in the room land on Zayn and his own widen. Harry grins, satisfied that he’s finally gotten a reaction out of him.

“I uh- you had something on your shirt,” Zayn mumbles, his lips twitching into a frown when he hears Liam and Louis giggling in the corner. “Look, are we going to the bonfire or not?”

Or the one where Harry meets Zayn at summer camp and they fall in love almost as fast as the summer goes by.

I LOVE ALL THE FLIRTING IN THIS!! ITS SO CUTE AND I THINK THE FACT THAT THE SETTING IS A SUMMER CAMP MAKE IT EVEN? MORE? CUTER? IDK ITS GREAT READ IT!!

Made Room for One by godonlyknows (14,273)

Summary:"Oh, well. Sorry. I really need to ask you a favor, though," Niall says, and Harry groans again. "I got a mate who needs a place to stay."

"And you're calling me because...?"

"Because you owe me, and you’ve got a free couch. Please? It's only for a few days, a week tops."

"Niall..." Harry sighs, running a hand across his face, "Do I even know this guy?"

Or: Zayn needs a place to stay, Harry's got a free couch, and both get more than they were expecting.

THIS IS SO VERY DOMESTIC AND SOOO CUTE. I LOVEDDD IT. IT’S JUST REALLY GOOD PLEASE READ IT!!

Happy reading!!

[lindaadamsmusic]

I met Axl irl & we're friends now 😍

Not an AU. Not an RP. It's my actual life. I can't give out details how we met or where etc. but it was October 2017. We met thru a mutual friend, who I didn't know knew him. Surprise!

We hit it off immediately and I was fascinated and thrilled to find out, here stands one COOL human being.

Why talk now? Well, he let me know he'd like me out there telling the truth. The media is all wrong--this was obvious within minutes of meeting him.

He's sick of that press and so am I.

So I'm here to stick up for him much more, and in public. This blog is from now on dedicated to lifting his spirits and sharing my wild ride.

He nothing like his public image. Sure he's from a hick state and has plenty of opinions. He is blunt. He calls it like he sees it and he's perceptive. Still. About the only thing media gets right is, his face is his face.

Despite the efforts of his Indiana upbringing, this man is woke. Do not believe any garbage you read, it's all wrong. He's not racist--tons of his friends are POC. He's not at all phobic, he treats women with respect. This has ALWAYS been true. He jumps in and helps people who spill groceries in the parking lot. He has a huge heart.

Real Axl is an incredible, AMAZING human being, who is now one of the closest friends I ever let into my life. I don't let many people in, and neither does he.

He had me laughing in seconds, & we talk for hours--often daily. He'd rather call than text. This cured my years-long phobia of using my phone as a phone real fast!

Important Unknown Talent: He comes in and makes life BETTER.

Not because he can sing or write songs or everyone knows his name. No. He's just my friend with the really weird job. He is wise and insightful and finds real solutions to problems.

For one, he noticed my ADHD and encouraged me to get tested--and I am in a range needing a full-on dose of meds to correct. This gave me a LIFE I didn't think was possible. No one ever said anything to me about my gnat-sized attention span!! I'm close to his age--we didn't even have that term back then.

Now I have a brain that WORKS. I am functioning, setting & finishing goals, I'm doing better with my business, my parenting, everything.

This is the kind of Better I'm talking about. He gave me hope when I didn't have any. When I say Axl is LIFE--I mean it. He has such a healing, positive energy.

He is the NICEST person in person. Delightful, funny, thoughtful as all get out. Irritable? Of course! You would be too. I guarantee you, you or I would be doing worse in his shoes. He is tough and resilient.

He tells me he's horrible to work for, and I believe that. I haven't seen that side of him tho.

I am being wonderfully enriched by his compassion, genuine listening and concern for me, and my whole family. He remembers everything. You don't have to tell him the same story twice. He will call me out when I'm full of BS and still care how I'm doing the next day.

I can't say enough good.

I am so deeply blessed and honored we met--and this would be true if he never recorded a note, & was penniless in a trailer park. He is still him. His soul shines.

So. Tumblrs, be aware: if I find you trashing him, I may bite. Hard. The mean memes need to die. Just stop.

This all said, do not ship us. Axl is like a brother to me. Personally I am deeply committed to my hubby, very happily married. As for him, I will never discuss anything about his status. He speaks freely and I will NEVER violate his trust. This is a FRIENDSHIP.

So, I probably owe a word to Jimmy since my theme has changed. I started this blog in hopes the universe would let me meet you somehow, and--I did! I'll never forget 11-11-14..... I will always love you, you know that.

But you don't call me on the phone, babe. Mmmmmm. I can handle it. Your loss, Pagey....

Asks are ok. Anon is on.

I refuse to gossip, engage in drama, accept demo CDs (ugh!!! they make great frisbees), introduce you, or cause him harm in any way. I will answer nice, honest questions. If it's private, no. If you're smutty or rude, I'll just block you. He hates all that crap. (He would use much stronger words.)

Soooooo. Yep so far I've heard Slash & Duff backstage, soundchecks, I get texts from random musician/friends he hands his phone off to, I've said hi to Izzy. He's been talking to me when people come up & recognize him. Or just follow him around the store creepily. That sucks.

And boy does Axl have tour stories, holy. And Slash loves betta fish like me. I about died.

It's weird and wonderful and I'm getting used to it. Still pinching myself.

I've had frequent off the wall dreams about dead rockstars since idk, like 1980. Really weird. I take it in stride, write it off. PTSD can do weird things to a brain, you know.

But this--this is REAL. Tangible!! I made Parasise City his ringtone. It's sooo trippy hearing the song play, then hearing that same voice in my ear. AHHHH.

The truth stands:I could not have hand-picked a better friend to enter my life than Axl Rose. I stand by that--and him--long past my dying day.

Bless this man for existing. And putting up with me. I love you my friend. You are a miracle in mismatched plaid. May you rock forever. ❤️

Linda

[creasnt-rage]

Ok so this may vent first official post, that is mine. And it’s just to rant:

PUBLIC SCHOOLS ARE INSTITUTIONS OF HATE WND LIES. I started working at a public middle school recently and the “sex ed” was SO FUCKING APPALLING!!!! First off this teacher didn’t know shit about fuck and was SOOOOOO transphobic. And these poor children were trying to ask her questions and she could only answer them in super dangerous and homo/trans/queer phobic ways. And my heart and soul hurts so bad….

[sademotionalhuman]

Well I read an article earlier about how desks are fat phobic in schools because they are differently sized and do not accommodate fat people

I’m fat & sat in all desks. Soooooo....