#stupid discourse

[bethanydelleman]

I keep loving this writer:

Elisabeth Wheatley

[theothergal]

Another "let women be feminine" discourse on Twitter (not X) hotd. We cannot go for one week without this bullshit, am I right?

This time, it's because and artist made a (very very cool) fanart of Alicent and Rhaenyra as Romeo and Juliet and Rhaenyra has *gasp* short hair and an armor.

[my-raging-whoremoans]

i know it's cheap to make fun of the stranger things sub, but it's such a "baby's first fandom" community.

an appreciation post for a ship in a fictional tv show, normal fandom behavior.

the response:

moving past the weird homophobia, why do they react like this to such a normal fanon ship?

i don't understand why these people gravitate towards fandom spaces. they know shipping exists, they have misogynistic insults locked and loaded for anyone who participates.

even some posts theorizing about the upside down get insulted for "reading into it too much"?? as if this isn't r/StrangerThings. what else are people supposed to do there? sorry not every post is a steve/hopper glazefest

[courgowr]

if this backlash to the backlash to "problematic media" turns into everyone bullying anyone who expresses discomfort about presence/handling of sensitive topics i'm going to absolutely lose my shit

[confundida25]

I saw the most baffling claim like guys... Gals.... Uraraka didnt betray toga by longing for Deku, like at the moment toga had been death for 8 years!!! Are you kidding me???? I May not be the biggest izuochaco fan but come on! Can we please dont hate the only mayor female caracther in the show??? Can we???

[l1ttles3am0th]

I thought I’d share my thoughts on this one, because DEAR LORD, is this a subject…

In my honest opinion, Flag Discourse is completely and utterly stupid, and half of it is just speaking over certain groups. There are real-world issues affecting queer folks that are leagues more important than if xyz flag is “problematic” or whatnot. Yes, there are some legitimately problematic flags, such as the Labrys, but I’m not talking about those. What I’m talking about is stuff like the debacles with the “toothpaste” flag, pan flag, etc.. Speaking of toothpaste, as a lesbian, WE SHOULD HAVE NEVER BEEN ALLOWED TO SPEAK ON THAT. OH MY GOD, were mlm spoken over to the high heavens on that one. (Fun fact: when I called out a bunch of twitter users for speaking over mlm about this discourse, they asked if I was mlm, which THEY WEREN’T EITHER.) In my honest opinion, I would much rather focus on the worsening discrimination against us worldwide than if a gay person’s flag “copies” my own.

[radio-vampire]

bruh I find the fob fans getting mad at MCR fans for not liking fob so funny like it’s not that deep some ppl just don’t like a certain band deal with it it’s not cus their bad people or mean or just don’t get it literally chilllll (this is coming from an MCR and fob fan lmao)

[st-dionysus]

I think it's fine when trans women call cis men eggs, actually. It's not like they're going up to cis men in real life and saying "I think you should transition because of XYZ", they're saying "This person is doing the things I did before I transitioned, and they might be trans, and I'm suggesting they think about the possibility because it might make them happier and healthier" or their silly jokes about fictional characters.

And Noah fence, but I don't see any of you calling me out for calling fictional women transgender men. I make jokes about female celebrities being transmasc and jokes about cis male celebs "who are clearly going to come out as they/he in two years" because yeah guess what people relate to other people and make jokes about it.

It's not about you, and honestly it comes off as you all panicking "oh no they are trying to forcefem cis men" the same moral panic that FOX NEWS likes to spread. Consider the amount of attacks trans women get because they are accused of transing people. Consider that some of them might also be satire about that very accusation.

It's not a big deal. If it makes you uncomfortable, you are very capable of using the block button and filters.

And honestly, sometimes trans women saying these things, does crack actual eggs who go "oh, I never considered that an option but if these trans women support me and I feel connected to their experience, maybe I should experiment more with my gender".

Me and the trans women I know in real life make these jokes to ourselves all the time and they harm no one and offend some. Those that are offended or have a moral panic about it or choose to put words in trans women's mouths about what they're actually saying can get over themselves.

[necarion]

That stupid "$10M or $1000/day" post is going around again, and it remains really dumb that people keep saying $1000/day. Even setting aside questions like "can you rely on this to continue" (anything that craters the value of your $10M is likely to do the same to your odds of getting the $1000) and "how long are you going to live", even relatively low inflation erodes the value of the $1000/day.

At 2% inflation, the total inflation-adjusted lifetime value of the $1000/day is effectively $365,000 * (1 / 0.02) = $18.25M.

If you put the $10M into a savings bond that keeps up with the 2% inflation, you end up with approximately 93 years of $1000/day before your principal runs out. You get approximately 27 years with "under the mattress" interest rates, or you could also get yourself 27 years of inflation-boost (+2% per year) on the $1000/day payment.

Lastly, if you can find something that gets you even 3.7% interest (which most index funds can do) you're never going to run out.

* In reality, 1/1.02 = 0.9804, but this is close enough

[rikuyrk06]

BG3 has been released over half of a year. Why do we still have hilarious arguments about Astarion' sexuality and his oversexualised fanart?

I mean he likes you regardless of sex and gender so he just being pan. He can be with anyone. I said many times so don't want to emphasise again.

Although I dislike some fanarts like gangbang(I don't mind him in threesome though) and shipping him with Cazador, but why someone blame artists and fans to oversexualised him? Does these people kill your aunt lmao?

He is not real person. He cannot appreciate you to help him. Why they want purity art and expression huh? I mean someone dislikes some debauchery themes, it's fine because I may agree too. But why try to repress the others art? I don't think it's a good thing.

[girl-with-bones]

I've noticed everyone here frames their opinions with what people are "allowed" to do. Even if it's a pretty open, freeing opinion, like "trans people are allowed to call themselves what they want", it's still always phrased as a rule.

We're very principled on this site. There doesn't ever seem to be much room for relative judgements. And there's a lot of moral purity.

Every other post is somebody proclaiming to the world what rules we all should or shouldn't live by. And I'm not so sure that gets us anywhere.

There isn't a call to action or a big thumping statement here, because I don't want to add yet another rule. I just think if we frame it a little differently, we might be able to start having productive conversations on this site.

Not that we ever did in the first place 💀

[penis-essay]

I don't think transmisogny is when a trans women has a really bad opinion and recieves backlash

[i-looove-dillydallying]

Remember when people genuinely started arguing that only pedophiles in disguise could be attracted to women with small boobs? Yeah that shit fucked me up

[honeyed-lemonade]

I’m starting to think some of you “you shouldn’t enjoy reading toxic relationships in fiction” types just really hated the scarlet letter

[zeeph-containment-zone]

having a neurotypical explain symptoms of your mental illness that you live through EVERY DAY IN REAL LIFE to you like you have no idea what they mean because you said "mental health isn't an excuse for shitty behavior" was an absolutely crazy thing that happened this week. Some people online are wayyyyyyyy too comfortable telling people with conditions they don't even have that they actually don't understand what it's like to be living with the thing they've been living with (and in my case medicated for) for years.

[mtg-player1]

just saw someone say something like "you can't traumadump on a post about oppression 😡😡😡". like homie, what do you think oppression is and does? of course oppression is traumatizing sometimes. and of course it's relevant to talk about anacdotal oppression on a post about oppression.