#the expectation and breaking of stereotypical roles to be more specific

[maraschinotopped]

ive been staring at the naqtube channel page just doing analysis thoughts in my head for like 15 minutes and ive just been hit with the realization that Damn this is not normal. normal people dont do this. either the mental illness or the mild sickness is doing something to me right now.

[blood-orange-juice]

About Childe and his weird gender again, expanding on this post.

I think it has a lot to do with how gender is constructed. Male gender has very clear-cut prescriptions, mostly it's everything that is considered "good" or "human" in current culture. The expectations it places on a person may not be realistic or achievable but they are very clear. Great importance is also placed on separating itself from Everything Female. Things That Are Too Much. Things that break the current culture meaning-making procedures.

Women, while having quite a few prescriptions of their own, also deal with whatever falls through the cracks. Someone needs to ensure the world still functions and reality is never completely covered by whatever official model of the world we currently have.

So women deal with the things men have the luxury not to notice. Mostly bodily and psychological aspects and societal injustice that are not supposed to exist in the ideal picture of society men have imagined. (to be fair, it happens to anyone oppressed and othered. the task of not letting the oppressors meet with reality is delegated to them. I'm just talking about women specifically in this post. but there's a reason oppressed minorities always have ties to supernatural in folklore)

In a way, feminine women are very scary. Walking semiotic horrors.

And I explain all this to say that Childe can be perceived as feminine in two ways.

First, with his disregard for all and any societal norms he just doesn't follow the normal gender prescriptions. He plays a superhero/knight role because it's shiny and it reminds him of the stories he loved as a kid. He doesn't suppress his love for his family because it brings him joy. He looks pretty because looks are a weapon too. He does all these things that would be either stereotypically masculine or painfully unmasculine for anyone else who cares about what society thinks, but he doesn't really see any difference between them. He truly, genuinely doesn't care what others think.

Second, he's also painfully aware of the dark and insane parts of the universe everyone else has the luxury to ignore. He also knows no one cares so he dances around the things a normal guy would never have to deal with (it's such a stereotypical female experience. sometimes I wonder if that's why women rarely like Lovecraft. his brand of scary isn't scary or exciting to them, it's just Tuesday).

But that's just our perception, a trick of light. These are not necessarily gendered.

He also gives an impression of someone extremely vulnerable, yes, but I don't think he handles his vulnerability in a feminine way. He just doesn't hide it and we are used to labeling everything vulnerable as feminine.

He also doesn't really do anything feminine-labeled in a characteristic female way. He isn't really in contact with his emotions (despite having a lot of them), him caring about people takes the form of "protector and provider". his cooking... have you seen his cooking? He doesn't look for support and doesn't try to build things that last. He's self-sacrificing in a very male way too. Because he was there and because he could and because it's a cool thing to do.

So he's just that. Himself. Someone outside of gender.

(or rather his gender is knightcore)

If we perceive him as feminine it says more about how our culture perceives gender than about who Childe is.

Also, quoting my previous post, it's a part of him being full of contradictions. For every thing that he does he also does the exact opposite, and this holds for gender too.

Yes he lives the male power fantasy. He also does it in an incredibly feminine way. I think this was Hoyo's original intention and then it blossomed into this human disaster we see.

And to end up on a joke, surely you all have seen that leaked art that is theorised to be Skirk but could have also been an early design of Childe before Hoyo decided to make him a guy.

[watching-pictures-move]

Put On Your Raincoats | SexWorld (Spinelli, 1978)

This movie, about a resort that caters to your deepest desires, does something I'm not normally not a fan of in that it cuts between the different sex scenes while they're in progress. But the effect here is less of deflating the eroticism in a given scene than of layering the different scenes on top of each other. Each scene is a character taking part in a fantasy catered to their specific, often taboo, desires, and rather than mining these only for indulgence, which the movie certainly does, it uses them to reveal deeper truths about the characters, both individually, and when layered on top of each other, collectively. This is about characters coming to terms with their desires and what they entail, or in the case of Annette Haven's character, learning to articulate them at all.

The movie does deal with potentially dicey material, but it finds ways to interrogate them. John Leslie plays a racist whom SexWorld's operators present with an interracial scene with Desiree West, and West repurposes the expected stereotypes to taunt him and challenge him, eventually doing away with his defenses and his prejudices. The movie actually shows some optimism here, as Leslie by the end seems to be on the way to overcoming his racism. There is also the case of Kay Parker and Jack Wright, a couple with incompatible kinks whose sex life has flatlined, and by the end Smight maybe learns to adjust his bedroom behaviour.

Other outcomes are more pessimistic. Kent Hall and Leslie Bovee play a couple visiting the resort to indulge in their separate fantasies. Hall indulges in his, a threesome, and out of insecurity asks Bovee not to indulge in hers. But she does so anyway, in a lesbian scene with Abigail Clayton (whose presence in this is one reason I decided to finally check this out, along with my interest in Anthony Spinelli's filmography) as her fantasy of a woman next door, the one she's been painting portraits of. The scene is undeniably erotic in the way it superimposes that painting over the sex and uses dissolves to evoke the sensual qualities of the performers' bodies, collapsing fantasy and flesh into one. But as they're set to leave, Bovee is in tears, realizing they might not have a marriage to go back to. One might be tempted to read this as sex negative, but I think Spinelli instead understand that sex has consequences, and is interested in exploring the effect on those who explore their fantasies and the possible fallout. I think it's an empathetic view.

This is very much a straight porno, and fails to explore the gay fantasy it has a character articulate, which is likely its biggest flaw aside from muddled racial politics (which it at least tries to challenge). As a porno, I do think it works on a prurient level, in that it casts a number of stunningly beautiful actresses who have never looked better. That element of beauty, of feeling beautiful, proves integral to the most moving arc here, that of Sharon Thorpe. She plays a lonely woman who has no friends, who spends her time going to X-rated movies, and gets choked up explaining her desire for someone to be nice to her.

Early on, we see a flashback of her getting dressed up for an erotic phone call where she'll roleplay as a nineteen year old. She has on a blonde wig, a bit too much makeup, and tacky looking shoes. In another movie this outfit would be to cater to the fetish, but here, it's about how they make her feel desirable. But when her caller tells her wants to fuck her, she hangs up. The outright expression of his desire overwhelms her, perhaps because she can't grasp someone actually wanting her that badly. When she finally partakes in her fantasy, she's visited at first by another guest who has maybe fallen for her, and we spend time with her contemplating whether to break the rules and let him in. But eventually she's visited by Johnny Keyes, reprising his role from Behind the Green Door, an erotic image that's lingered with Thorpe finally coming to life, and she wipes away her tears and gives herself to him. During all these scenes, the emphasis is on Thorpe's face, so we can see how much this all means to her. I found this deeply moving.

[ask-an-enby]

Hey, im looking to understand more about non binary people. I am strongly feminist and support equal rights etc, but im stuggling with understanding an aspect of people being non binary.

What is the difference between being able to present and exist freely in any way one wants, while still being male or female, and being non binary?

I have been wondering if it is the standards and expectations of each gender that is too limiting, making people feel like they have to break out of the gender to be the way they want. It seems i might get pushback on this, which is okay. But i wonder what the difference is between being a man or woman who dresses and acts in any way they like, and a non binary person?

The one worry i have about the internet "culture" of different and specific gender labels is that especially girls who dont feel like they fit in society's very limiting definition of "girl" will remove themselves from the gender rather than be a part of widening the definition.

Could you give me your thoughts on these things?

hi!

the difference is that one is about expression and gender roles, and one is about gender itself. a feminine man and a nonbinary person aren't the same because the man is a man and the nonbinary person is nonbinary. a masculine woman and a nonbinary person aren't the same because the woman is a woman and the nonbinary person is nonbinary. you get the idea.

if you look at the nonbinary community, you'll find us to be a diverse bunch, with many of us actually strongly embracing masculinity or femininity, even in accordance with what's expected of their AGAB, i.e. a nonbinary person who was assigned female at birth being very feminine. this should be proof enough that this is about something deeper than presentation and gender roles. it's about our internal sense of who we are, which unfortunately is something that can't really be explained. it's one of these "if you know it you know it" things.

it's not that uncommon for nonbinary people to have interests, follow gender roles, express themselves in a way that traditionally aligns with the gender we were assigned at birth. this argument is already operating based on the misconception that all nonbinary people are "masculine afab people" and "feminine amab people" when this couldn't be further from the truth.

if you can accept transgender men and women as their gender because that's who they say they are, that's how they feel, the same logic should be applied to nonbinary people, but we tend to be held to even higher standards of having to explain and justify our genders because they're even less comprehensible.

the vast majority of the "girls" who remove themselves from girlhood/womanhood simply aren't girls and you shouldn't call them that. most of the time it has nothing to do with limiting definitions but with simply not being a girl. this argument implies that nonbinary people are women (or men) who change into something else, when we were never women or men in the first place. nonbinary people aren't removing themselves from womanhood or manhood - we were never really there in the first place. society said we were because of gender stereotypes that go as deep as the very bodies we live in, but there's that difference again between gender stereotypes and actual gender.

there are plenty of women and girls out there already who are widening the definition, cisgender butches very much exist but are invisibilised. someone who is actually a gender nonconforming woman or girl rather than a nonbinary person will be more than happy widening the definition of femaleness. these are usually the people who are the most confident in their gender because they thought about it and explored it more than your average gender conforming cisgender woman - and came to the conclusion that they are very much female. there is no shortage of GNC cisgender women. nonbinary experiences are very, very different from that.

i can tell you're coming from a good place, but you should really try unlearning that last part, as that is treading awfully close to TERF territory.

TL;DR: the difference is that men and women are men and women, and nonbinary people are nonbinary.

[demigods-posts]

I’ve only read PJO and HoO so idk if this is still the case but I don’t like how the Hypnos cabin replaced the Aphrodite cabin as the butt of the jokes. Does there really have to be ‘that one cabin’ that everyone makes fun of?

Initially in PJO the Aphrodite cabin wasn’t taken very seriously and they were kinda seen as useless in comparison to the others. Obviously Selina disproved the stereotype and getting Piper’s perspective/ journey in HoO further established them as a respectable cabin. But it feels like as soon as that started we got the brand new Hypos cabin to fill the role as the comic relief?

Like sure Clovis tries to help Jason with his amnesia and he helps carry messages but most of the time Clovis is mentioned he’s just falling asleep and waking up at comical times. He doesn’t get a enough recognition imo

And the Hypnos cabin is just sleeping all the time?? I get that they navigate the dream world and stuff, that’s important. But shouldn’t they train as well? In the Lost Hero, Clovis is described as looking ‘like he’d never lifted anything heavier than a pillow’ which is obviously hyperbolic. But still! A huge part of CHB is teaching campers to fight for their lives in case they need to fend off the literal monsters that can smell them and track them down? Seems pretty inconsistent that the Hypnos kids wouldn’t be able to defend themselves

And I want to know more about them! Why are they sleepy all the time? When Percy was about to get the blessing of Achilles, Nico put a bunch of skeletons to sleep which made Nico very tired, is it like that? Are the Hypnos kids using their powers every night to help the insomniac demigods get some rest? Are there other powers they can have besides putting ppl to sleep and navigating the dreamscape? ‘Cause it seems like Nico can sorta do those things a bit as well. Is there anything specific Hypnos kids?

Sorry if I’m going on and on but I’m just so curious about this very underrated and vaguely-described cabin.

You have very valid questions that I don't have the answer to, lol. But I do agree with you that it seems inconsistent that chb is designed to train demigods to fight for their lives, yet some demigods just...don't? why wouldn't they at least train, you know, just in fucking case lmao. and also, i don't see why certain cabins are the butt of the joke either. i'd argue it's for the sake of the plot, something to pace the story by giving the reader a break when the tension is thick. but the demigods making fun of other demigods? like, come on now. y'all's life expectancy is way too low for y'all to make fun of each other :|

[bravebrains5000]

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[friend-of-a-cat]

Gender crisis update: I'm even more confused than I was previously. I've done some more research because at one point I didn't feel like agender really fit because I still felt 'gender', it just wasn't a gender that, like, exists, if that makes sense? I thought I felt a general sense of gender without it being targetted towards a specific gender. Like, I can look at someone and be like 'oh my god, they are so gender and I need their gender' but when I think about it I'm like... eh. Maybe that's just aesthetic attraction talking. Anyway, I did some research about all of this and found some terms but like... I don't know. It's a lot. And I also don't know if I care that much. I mean, I do care, because I'm someone who loves problem-solving and figuring things out (also I have OCD and anxiety so it's been nagging at me) so it's a bit frustrating not knowing what exactly my gender is. But also... I feel like I shouldn't overthink it, you know? It's breaking my brain. Right now, my gender is a question mark. I certainly don't feel like I fully connect with being a woman. At one stage I felt closer to being a guy, because if gender is based on stereotyped interests and behaviours and roles and traits (the only definition I can really understand regarding what gender actually is, because I still don't fully know), I know that I relate more to the idea of being a guy than I do being a woman in that sense (mostly in terms of interests). But I also don't feel like a guy lol. Then I felt a little bit like I could be genderfluid, because I feel like a mixture of masculine and feminine and also neither of those things, but at the same time I still don't 'get' or 'feel' gender, and think it's stupid, and I would rather unsubscribe from it. I also don't relate to being nonbinary (or transgender, for that matter). Which sounds more agender than anything else, but I can't shake the fact that I also don't fully feel like that, at least right at this moment. Probably the feeling I'm feeling is me 'relating' to all genders on the basis of me just thinking that nothing should be gendered in the first place, but then mistaking that for feeling like I am a gender. Who knows? Certainly not me.

So anyway. I'm me, I guess. I think that's all that really matters. I've been trying to figure out what label fits because I thought it might be useful for others to know what I feel and identify as, but the process of finding one has been, frankly, annoying and overwhelming, so I'm just going to leave it for the time being. Though... when someone asks me my gender or my pronouns, what do I say? I guess I'd say that I don't know, but like, where's that on official documents and forms and the like? I wish I could draw an extra box to tick and the box says 'I don't know and I don't care'. Gender is not really all that important to me. Maybe that's a sign that I am, in fact, agender, but I don't know. Might talk to some people about it - not sure yet, because I'm a bit nervous about doing so lol and I don't know if people will get what I'm talking about. But yeah. Honestly, I don't expect anyone to read any of this stuff and I don't mind in the slightest, but hey, it's giving me an excuse to write out my feelings, so take this as a kind of journal entry that I just so happened to publish on the internet for a bunch of strangers to read lmao.

[dandelionh3art]

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[weirdnessxmagnet]

Super late: 14, 1

1. What would completely break your character?

Not much! She's long mastered using anger to prevent herself from crumbling. The one thing that comes to mind is a senseless tragedy taking away her kids permanently (especially Eli, given everything she's put in to get him back). She's lost her kids before and it didn't break her completely, but she had some very clear figures to blame for that. There was somewhere for the anger to go. Something to do. Something as senseless as Eli being taken out by a random asteroid strike (asteroids can destroy souls for the purpose of this example because it's really hard to stop her just deciding that she's gonna fix things) would break her, because there really is just nothing to do with that. No one to blame, nothing to fix. Nowhere to put her anger, so she'd just have to deal with the grief instead, and she would do so badly.

14. How does the image your character tries to project differ from the image they actually project?

Not that I need to tell you, since you did this on purpose, but this is complicated. To say Toni doesn't care how people see her is inaccurate, but she only cares insofar as the perception of her is useful. To that end, how she tries to present herself depends on the intended audience and the circumstances, and how that image is perceived depends on the observer and what information they're working with.

Literal essay of examples below the cut.

Normal:

This is how Toni tires to portray herself in most daily situations; normal by the standards of her present audience, whatever that audience may be. For most mundane interactions this means angels and demons are allegorical, vampires are for halloween, and while God may answer prayers with signs, if her audience is so inclined to believe that, He certainly isn't showing up for an in-person chat if you start banging pots and pans in his house at 2am. Of course, normal is relative, and so the stranger her audience, the stranger she can be.

This lands perfectly with strangers and passing acquaintances in one-on-one interactions; She lived an ordinary life once, she knows what the expectations are, and in the short term they're easy enough to maintain. The longer the association or broader the group, however, the more the cracks will start to show. She is weird even by most supernatural standards, and eventually that's not possible to hide.

Living Dead Girl:

This is a variation on Normal intended specifically for people who knew her before she got involved in the supernatural (usually immediate family). Critically, this is always woefully unsuccessful; for example, while a Normal Person can still have anger issues for entirely mundane reasons, 20 year old Toni didn't. The girl she was is, as Toni puts it, dead twice over. It is not someone Toni knows how to convincingly be any more around people who know exactly what it should look like. Even at her best, the result leaves her audience with a deep sense of the uncanny valley.

The Doll: 

At its most basic, The Doll is what happens when Toni plays on the stereotypical perception of the tiny, skinny, doe eyed white human girl (which of those categories are relevant is audience dependant). The presumed non-threat, innocence, and naïvety. A soft, weak, and harmless thing. Depending on how premeditated the role is, she will play this up with almost-conservative dresses, often in soft pastels or white, an exaggerated doe eye, and even making herself appear younger now that she's mastered her glamours.

This usually lands perfectly on the audiences it's targeted at; Specifically, those already primed to see themselves as more powerful than her in whatever arena she plans to contend in. It lures the target into a false sense of security, and ends with her getting all kinds of access, information, and opportunities that would never have been available if they'd taken her seriously from the start. Of course, there are groups and individuals who are already primed to be suspicious of exactly this kind of act. For most of these she just doesn't bother with it at all, but in some instances, such as interrogating certain terrorists  with Han, the juxtaposition between the persona and the situation is enough to be deeply unsettling in a way that still takes the target off their guard, if for entirely the wrong reasons. In which case, well, whatever works.

The Vixen:  

Her personal favourite, because the targets just make it so damn easy, Toni can go from the Doll to the Vixen with nothing more than a change in body language. Frequently this persona is called on the fly, but if there's opportunity for a premeditated costume change she'll really lean into it. In fact, given her unique capacity to worm into her target's mind and then glamour herself according to their preferences, her portrayals could be oddly specific and detailed for a sufficiently significant target, though she's yet to have cause to go so far.

The targets of this persona are primarily lonely straight men who are eager to take any positive attention from a woman at face value, and this group specifically has a near perfect success rate, to an embarrassing extent, like even when they know exactly who she is and should really, really know better (we're looking at you @texastrickshot, or indeed any goon Han has given the honey trap talk to who could still be convinced to fall for it). Has also been used on some not so straight men and queer women, but these groups are at least marginally more suspicious on average. This persona has also become more difficult to convincingly pull off long-term since entering a committed relationship, as there are now lines she won't cross so casually. However, given sufficiently high stakes she would expect her former sex-cult-member husband (and suspiciously invested demonic bestie) to understand that sometimes you do what you have to.

The Hunter:  

The trouble Toni had when she was first trying to learn to navigate the sudden appearance of demons in her life was it was really difficult to be taken seriously by the kinds of people who claimed to know what to do about that kind of thing. Frustratingly, it was also near impossible to move towards being someone actually worth taking seriously without first getting a foot in that door. So then the plan became to use what she did have - uncanny observation skills and unholy stubbornness - to fake it till she made it.

This persona, ironically for one that involves the most significant departure from her personal aesthetic preferences, appeared the least concerned with appearances. Rough ponytails and messy buns are the norm, as are well-worn thrift-store jeans and soft flannel shirts, practical boots, and the bare minimum of makeup to not look like she was outright haunted by horrifying nightmares, but not quite enough to make her look well-rested either. This was where she learned to appear resigned rather than desperate, and shoot straight whiskey like she'd been weaned on it (despite being underage the whole time). It was never quite perfect at the time, but it got her far enough to get a chance to learn that the solution she was trying for wasn't one that suited her at all. These days this persona comes out mostly to mislead real hunters to get them of hers and a friends tail, and it works better now than it ever did back then.

The Advisor:  

Toni is more than aware that she has a rather dominant personality. Often this is useful. When working in a position where the job is to support Mara's authority, it risks becoming counterproductive. Mindful of this, Toni intentionally subdues herself both in personality and visually when acting in her capacity as advisor, especially in settings such as a council meeting where they will both be in attendance. She won't contradict Mara directly with an audience; if something is significant enough to debate immediately, it can be done telepathically, leaving Mara free to pass off any reconsideration she might make as entirely her own idea, or else it can wait until they're in private over a cup of coffee. She will publicly ask Mara's permission for things she doesn't truly feel she needs permission for, and has even suggested actions that directly benefit her, such as redistribution of her more extraneous responsibilities, be portrayed as a "punishment" for one of Toni's more unpopular "personal" projects (even as that project benefits the realm long term. Ah, politics...) in order to bolster Mara's own authority and reduce Toni's. 

In terms of appearance, contrary to her natural inclination towards bright reds, bold blues, and gold, Toni's wardrobe when acting in her role as the advisor has gradually shifted not only towards purgatory's colours (blue, grey, and silver), but towards using jewel tones as accents when Mara uses them as a main colour, and being entirely greyscale when Mara uses colour as an accent. She even aims to make her hair less elaborate, and her heels short enough to hide that she's naturally a few inches taller (or at least was, when Mara still wore a physical host).

The Regent: 

Toni has, over the past few years, regularly had to act in the capacity of purgatory's regent. Sometimes in a officially sanctioned capacity, and at other times less so. This plays far more naturally with her true personality; assertive, bold, dominant, and composed. It also plays well with the after effects of possession; while Toni could mimic Mara convincingly even early on in their friendship (they are worryingly similar people in many ways), these days Toni can speak, act, even move as Mara almost as naturally as she does herself. For the most part when acting in her capacity as regent this is the tactic she uses, adding full use of their shared wardrobe to appear as much of a Mara clone as possible, the Queen's personal understudy, convincingly covering any personal doubts she might hold about her own qualifications.

...There is however an occasion where she has acted as regent and very much not been Mara's clone that is worth discussing. You might have noticed that I haven't said anything about how either the Advisor or Regent personas are received. That is because it's uniquely impossible not to discuss these two together; their intended audience is identical. Both personas are used to influence perception of purgatory's residents, especially the palace staff and representative council. Both personas are directly contradictory. Therefore, how they are received depends entirely on which one an individual finds more convincing. 

Add to that that after Hell's terrorist attack on Purgatory's central power source, Mara took some extreme actions that Toni felt hurt them politically and of course were just morally problematic, but that's hardly a point worth arguing with a demon, or even a former demon. During Mara's subsequent breakdown, Toni chose to act as regent (she felt justified, Mara was clearly unstable, but it was not sanctioned at the time), going out of her way to style and carry herself as bland and business like, as practical as her Hunter persona but without the rough edges. This was a conscious effort to distance herself from Mara in order to run political damage control on her own terms.

Add to that that while changes have been frequent enough that there might not be many staff or councillors currently present who remember it, there will surely be at least a few who remember that the first time Toni chose to act as regent, Mara was not even the reigning monarch. There was an heir available who should naturally have been the next in the chain of command while his parents were indisposed. Yet while Toni claimed said heir was in charge when asked directly, anyone with eyes knew that was a lie.

"...if I am the one who looks most in control out there tonight it will not help your position or my sanity..." - Toni to Mara before a recent diplomatic ball.

Neither persona is real; Toni is as uncomfortable in the Regent persona as she is restrained by the Advisor. However, years of practice have made her far better at hiding when she feels in over her head, while hiding her controlling impulses does not come so readily. Therefore, she is acutely aware of how moments like the one in the quote above tip the scale decidedly one way, impacting their long term political situation.

The Demon:

Machiavelli's The Prince states that if you must destroy an enemy, you should do so absolutely, so that his retribution need not be feared. Unfortunately, it is often quoted missing the much needed context that destruction should be the last resort, as you cannot change course later, while gentler means leave many more options open to you.

For Toni, The Demon is the personality of last resort, where stubborn ruthlessness reigns supreme.

A number of people might believe they've seen this persona in a moment of casual cruelty, but generally that's just a crack in her "Normal" persona revealing that she's a deeply unsettling person with serious anger issues. The Demon is also not worth using on the vast majority of people, as anyone inclined to believe another persona will believe this one is bluffing. Then, instead of getting what she wants, she has to make good on her threats to prove she isn't, which, while it will make them inclined to believe her next time, isn't actually productive in the moment.

There are only two people I can think of who have been on the receiving end of her full blown "do not doubt my willingness to be colder then you ever imagined" demonic persona; Hale and Malcolm.

Hale has been on the receiving end of this only once, when he threatened to devour her children after Han's first failed extraction attempt. She told him outright that she had survived their deaths once and would do so again, but he wouldn't. She was of course sobbing the whole time behind the scenes, but he didn't need to know that. She had a record to back her up, and she meant it. It didn't solve the problem; Han did that by "kidnapping" Hale's own son (with somewhat suicidal consent), but he believed her enough to hesitate.

While most of the time she's mostly her honest self around him (in so far as she's her honest self around anyone), Malcolm Brockway is perhaps the victim of this persona more than anyone else, largely because he's not inclined to believe any of the others. He knows she's not normal and he knows her games, but he has expressed, time and again, that she is as callous as Mara or worse. This makes it particularly easy to strong arm him into falling in line when he's in danger of growing too much of a spine; he never makes her prove it. He already knows that if she's making a threat, she's willing to follow through. It still hurts her to be seen that way so easily, but it benefits her too much for her to ever try to repair that perception.

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gene and louise headcanons bcuz why not

despite being a physically affectionate person gene doesn't really hug or touch louise unless he's specifically invited to bcuz he knows she doesn't like that (sensory issues and touch aversion) so he's always surprised when she randomly hugs him bcuz he isn't expecting it lol

louise is VERY defensive of gene despite being younger than him and gene isn't usually very big into arguments or conflict but if he hears someone being mean to louise or feels like she genuinely can't stand up for herself he goes into big brother mode and tells them to leave her alone (as seen in that one shrimp episode) but he has an anxiety attack about it for like 20 minutes after esp if its an older scarier kid. he never regrets standing up for her tho

gene and louise have sleepovers in each others bedrooms all the time, either bcuz they're bored or one of them had a bad day or they're just doing it for fun :) they used to have these in gene's bedroom but since louise got her loft bed they're usually in her room, they'll stay up late playing games together stealing snacks and talking until they eventually pass out and their parents find them sleeping on the floor together the next morning and they're like wtf

they frequently and regularly just leave class to hang out together in the hallways at school and they have a special signal they use when this happens, they enjoy sneaking into bathrooms together or messing around in the teachers lounge!!!! louise has fun causing trouble but gene just likes hanging out with his sister (and getting out of doing schoolwork) (they would invite tina along with them but she feels bad about skipping class and breaking the rules)

gene actually does feel protective of louise and feels responsible as her older brother. this rarely if ever comes up but he does view her as his little sister and thinks of himself as her big brother (but more often they're just tina's younger siblings and act more like twins. they have been mistaken as twins on several occasions when they were younger)

they have like a million random games they play together whenever they're bored and don't know what to do or just whenever. they're always starting random shit and it annoys everyone but when they're like waiting in line at the bank w/ parents or going grocery shopping working at the restaurant etc they have games they play. throw louise is definitely one of the stupider ones but it usually involves coming up with a pointless challenge or competition (we see on the show that they do this A LOT just bcuz they're bored and its fun like with the jawbreaker)

when they're in detention together without tina (which happens somewhat regularly with all the trouble they get into) they pass notes back and forth and play games like hangman and tic tac toe together until frond catches them and they get in trouble, at which point they still do it just secretly :) they also have a game where they try to draw or write the stupidest thing to make each other laugh without getting caught

louise obviously is not a huge fan of doing feminine or girly things but gene loves doing that stuff and vice versa!!! they have an unspoken understanding that if one of them gets like a present from extended family like gene getting a tool set or louise getting a princess costume or makeup that they trade with each other and get something they actually want, also applies to birthday parties and school projects etc

^^ neither of them judges each other for not liking things stereotypically associated with their gender and its actually comforting to have a sibling who doesn't really act like they're "supposed to" regarding gender. tina is obviously very supportive but she's more feminine than louise and sometimes its just nice to talk to someone who gets it. they frequently rant about how annoying gender roles and expectations are to each other

also related when louise is old enough to start receiving stuff like razors from relatives as a right of passage or hint that she should start shaving she just gives them all to gene, who is very happy to start shaving EVERYWHERE and honestly same goes for makeup. gene loves wearing makeup but louise not so much (tina is alright with makeup but doesn't wear it all the time and usually goes for natural looks vs gene who goes crazy with it)

louise DOES enjoy painting her nails black and gene helps her with doing that when she's old enough bcuz he's pretty much an expert and she is very impatient. transgender sibling solidarity

louise is not somebody who lets anyone win games bcuz she feels bad for them but after learning that gene feels like a failure bcuz he doesn't win games and everyone is so much better than him she does OCCASIONALLY let him beat her when they're playing board games or something similar. more often she goes out of her way to help him get second place even when they're on opposite teams (she will deny this if asked)

louise finds gene's music really comforting esp when he's playing his keyboard at night before they go to sleep. she loves listening to him play and thinks he's talented, when they're older gene will give her a mixtape of some of his music to listen to when he's away so that she doesn't miss him too much <3

they do always get each other something for their birthdays!!!! ever since they were babies, louise would find a small rock for gene's birthday and then gene would give louise an old stale cookie he found under the couch for her birthday. they're usually just silly little gifts that don't cost much (if anything) but they always keep them!!!!! louise often gets gene a flower bcuz she knows they make him feel pretty. when they're older they start giving each other cards too (that they stole from their family's unused holiday card drawer)

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Someone recently reblogged this with the tags ''#because queer love is much deeper in my opinion #Flourishing or fleeting it eats the soul whole''

And of course it happens to be that I recently mentioned this in an essay (the essay was about the film Queer, but that doesn't have much to do with it). Here's what I wrote on the depth of queer love and why it feels so much more genuine and real, even if it's unhealthy.

''-As if someone is placing a hand on your windpipe and constantly applying a little pressure. A film that hurts because of its raw authenticity. There is a panicked desperation that lingers throughout the entire movie. Dirt on clothing, shame, addiction. Vulnerability—that’s what did it for me. A male vulnerability that was refreshing yet so uncomfortable at the same time.

Queer introduces something here that you don’t see very often. Guadagnino focuses on their imperfections. Lee lies trembling in bed, crying simply because Eugene drapes his legs over his. He longs for touch and connection, but he is unable to truly achieve it. Lee is a deeply vulnerable and emotional character, and this is reflected in precisely these scenes.

Connection is what makes not only Queer but also many other films with same-sex relationships so compelling. The bond between the protagonists of Queer feels authentic and tender, despite the violence and uncertainty that comes with their relationship. The absence of power dynamics and predefined roles creates a bond that goes beyond mere attraction. When the entire costume of expectations and stereotypes becomes irrelevant, a unique form of understanding emerges. This is what makes the relationship not only between Lee and Eugene, but also between same-sex relationships in general, so powerful.

There is a certain kind of alienation that you must learn to live with when you fall outside the norm because of your sexuality. You are already “different” anyway. You see the world through a different lens. It is a side effect of being “queer.” I think Guadagnino wants to express with this film that being queer doesn’t just mean being attracted to men or women, but possessing an attraction to the unusual and the strange. A complex love for small imperfections in the world that lurk in the dark as taboos. They exist, but you can choose to pretend they don’t. I believe that accepting yourself as queer means not being afraid to seek out those specific things. Consider, for example, how many horror films, psychological thrillers, and arthouse films exhibit aspects of queerness more than other genres do. If you are already breaking certain societal norms within yourself, why wouldn’t you also embrace the rest of the world’s madness?

That form of connection, of acceptance and tolerance, is what it means to be queer, and that is something this film portrayed beautifully for me. Lee and Eugene embark on an expedition into the jungle to find a drug called Yage. A drug with telepathic powers that allows two people to communicate without words. “I want to talk to you, without speaking,” Lee confesses in the first half of the film. He is searching for a deeper connection. The climax involves Lee and Eugene literally crawling under each other’s skin. They completely understand each other and know they cannot save themselves. Their fear of their own identity is too great for that, but still, their bond is life changing, and way deeper than it might have been if the two main characters had been a man and a woman.

That's the beauty of queer love. It automatically contains a certain kind of understanding. Being of the same gender adds onto that, but this is also the case because you accept the other on a different level. Queerness often ties with intellect. With being open to understanding others and being respectful to all, since queer people know how it feels to be perceived as outcasts. Queer love is pure, because there's no ulterior gain to it. A man will never fall in love with another main for the mere sake of having children. A woman will never fall in love with another woman for the sake of living up to societal standards and expectations. Queer love is, hypothetically speaking, pointless. Not useless, but pointless. For that reason it's the purest kind of love there is. For it is love, without expectations, without a blueprint, without rules.

Queer love can only really be love, and nothing more or less than that.''

(thank you @wooliosheep for reblogging and inspiring this post :) )

It's so hilarious to me how in queer media that actually accurately represents queer people (adults) there's always some kind of murder or other unforgivable mistakes involved??? Like, yeah that's my favourite genre, but why is queer cinema always some kind of psychological thriller/horror, especially the old stuff. Give us a minute to BREATHE please. Someone always DIES. I can name so many examples on this I'm actually going to write a paper on it asap, because I just think it's both so funny and interesting but also disturbing.

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Women in leadership roles have made significant strides in recent decades, despite the historical barriers they have faced in gaining access to positions of power. Traditionally, leadership has been associated with male characteristics, and women were often excluded from top decision-making roles in politics, business, and other sectors. However, the increasing number of women rising to leadership positions globally has shown that leadership is not gender-specific. Women in leadership bring unique perspectives, skills, and approaches that contribute to the success and growth of organizations, governments, and communities. Their leadership style is often collaborative, empathetic, and inclusive, which fosters environments where individuals feel supported, valued, and motivated to work towards shared goals. The leadership qualities that women exhibit are often deeply rooted in emotional intelligence, empathy, and strong communication skills. These traits allow them to build strong, trusting relationships with their teams and colleagues. By nurturing these relationships, women leaders create a positive and productive work environment that encourages open dialogue, fosters collaboration, and promotes innovation. In addition to emotional intelligence, women leaders tend to prioritize ethical decision-making and social responsibility, ensuring that their actions align with the values and interests of the people they serve. These qualities make women in leadership positions not only effective but also deeply influential, inspiring those around them to act with integrity and purpose. Women in leadership roles also bring a different approach to problem-solving and decision-making. Research has shown that diverse leadership teams, which include women, are more likely to make decisions that are both creative and effective. Women often approach challenges with a focus on cooperation and consensus-building, rather than simply following traditional hierarchical structures. This ability to engage multiple perspectives and encourage collaboration leads to more well-rounded solutions that benefit a wider range of stakeholders. In political leadership, women have demonstrated a commitment to policy reforms that prioritize social welfare, education, healthcare, and gender equality, making lasting improvements in the lives of their citizens. The presence of women in leadership roles also serves as a powerful symbol for future generations. When young girls see women leading in business, government, and other fields, they begin to understand that their gender is not a limitation to their aspirations. Women in leadership positions serve as role models who inspire and motivate others to pursue their ambitions, regardless of societal expectations or stereotypes. By breaking the glass ceiling and challenging the status quo, women leaders pave the way for future generations to envision themselves in leadership positions and contribute to a more equitable society. However, despite the progress that women have made, there is still much work to be done to ensure gender equality in leadership. Women continue to face challenges such as unconscious bias, unequal pay, limited access to career advancement opportunities, and societal expectations that place additional burdens on them in balancing work and family life. These obstacles hinder women from reaching their full potential and limit their opportunities to assume leadership roles. Therefore, it is important to continue advocating for policies and practices that support women’s advancement in leadership, ensuring that women have equal access to opportunities, resources, and mentorship. Women in leadership roles are demonstrating every day that leadership is not defined by gender but by qualities such as vision, resilience, collaboration, and a commitment to making positive change.

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The Modern CEO: Does Having a Tattoo Matter?

In the contemporary business world, the image of a CEO has evolved significantly. Gone are the days when a suit and tie were the non-negotiable uniform of corporate leaders. Today, CEOs are as likely to be seen in jeans and a t-shirt as they are in traditional business attire. This shift in sartorial norms is emblematic of a broader cultural change, where individuality and authenticity are increasingly valued. One aspect of this transformation is the acceptance of tattoos in the professional realm. However, the question remains: does having a tattoo matter for a modern CEO?

The Changing Perception of Tattoos

Historically, tattoos were often associated with counterculture movements, rebellion, or specific subcultures. In the corporate world, visible tattoos were frequently frowned upon, seen as unprofessional or indicative of a lack of seriousness. However, this perception has been shifting rapidly over the past couple of decades.

A growing number of professionals, including those in leadership positions, have tattoos. This change is partly due to a generational shift, with millennials and Gen Z being more open to body art than their predecessors. These generations value authenticity and self-expression, and tattoos are often seen as a reflection of these values.

In industries such as technology, media, and entertainment, tattoos are often embraced as a form of personal expression. CEOs and executives in these fields may have tattoos that are visible during meetings or public appearances, and this is increasingly accepted—or even celebrated—as part of their personal brand.

The Impact of Tattoos on Professional Image

While tattoos have become more accepted, the impact of a tattoo on a CEO's professional image can still vary depending on the industry, company culture, and geographical location. In more conservative industries, such as finance or law, visible tattoos may still raise eyebrows or be viewed as unprofessional. In contrast, in creative or tech industries, tattoos may be seen as a symbol of creativity or individuality.

For a CEO, the decision to display tattoos can be a strategic one. Some may choose to keep their tattoos hidden during formal business engagements or when dealing with stakeholders who may hold more traditional views. Others may embrace their tattoos as part of their leadership style, using them as a conversation starter or a way to connect with a diverse workforce.

Tattoos and Leadership Style

The presence of tattoos can also influence perceptions of a CEO's leadership style. A tattooed CEO may be perceived as more approachable, relatable, and open-minded. In some cases, tattoos can break down barriers, making leaders seem more accessible to employees and clients alike.

On the flip side, a tattooed CEO may face skepticism about their professionalism or decision-making abilities, particularly from older generations or in more traditional sectors. However, as more leaders with tattoos demonstrate their competence and success, these stereotypes are likely to diminish further.

Tattoo Removal: A Consideration for CEOs

Despite the growing acceptance of tattoos, some CEOs may choose to remove them for various reasons. The decision to remove a tattoo might stem from a change in personal taste, a desire to align with a more conservative corporate culture, or the need to appeal to a broader audience.

The process of tattoo removal has become more accessible and effective in recent years, thanks to advancements in laser technology. For instance, Bay Area, CA laser tattoo removal services are readily available, offering CEOs and other professionals the option to alter their appearance as they see fit. This flexibility allows leaders to adapt their personal brand to suit their evolving career goals or industry expectations.

The Role of Company Culture

Company culture plays a significant role in determining whether a CEO's tattoos are seen as an asset or a liability. In organizations that value diversity, creativity, and innovation, tattoos are more likely to be embraced as a form of personal expression. Conversely, in companies with more traditional or conservative cultures, tattoos may still be viewed with skepticism.

A CEO's decision to display or hide their tattoos can also influence company culture. By being open about their tattoos, a CEO may signal to employees that the company values individuality and authenticity. This can foster an inclusive environment where employees feel comfortable being themselves, which can, in turn, enhance productivity and job satisfaction.

Conclusion: Does Having a Tattoo Matter?

In the end, whether having a tattoo matters for a modern CEO depends on a variety of factors, including industry, company culture, and personal branding. As societal norms continue to evolve, tattoos are becoming increasingly accepted in professional settings, even at the highest levels of leadership.

For some CEOs, tattoos are an integral part of their identity, representing personal stories, values, or creative expression. For others, tattoos may be seen as a potential barrier to success in certain industries or situations. Ultimately, the decision to display or remove tattoos is a personal one, influenced by both individual preferences and professional considerations.

As the business world continues to embrace diversity and authenticity, the presence of tattoos on a CEO is likely to become a non-issue for most companies. In this evolving landscape, the focus is shifting towards the skills, vision, and leadership qualities that a CEO brings to the table, rather than their physical appearance. This change reflects a broader trend towards inclusivity and acceptance, paving the way for a more diverse range of leaders in the future.

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Work-Life Balance for Men in High-Stress Careers: A Guide to Thriving, Not Just Surviving

In today’s fast-paced world, high-stress careers are more common than ever. Whether you’re a corporate executive, a medical professional, a lawyer, or an entrepreneur, the pressure to perform can be relentless. Men in these demanding roles often face unique challenges when it comes to achieving work-life balance. The expectation to be the provider, the leader, and the rock for both their professional team and their family can create an overwhelming burden.

But here’s the truth: constantly pushing yourself without reprieve is a one-way ticket to burnout. Maintaining a healthy work-life balance is crucial not only for your mental and physical well-being but also for your productivity and success in the long run. In this article, we’ll explore practical strategies to help you strike a balance between career demands and personal fulfillment.

The Myth of the Superhuman Man

Society has long perpetuated the idea of the “superhuman man” who works tirelessly, never complains, and always keeps his emotions in check. This image can be toxic, leading many men to believe they must sacrifice their personal lives to succeed professionally. However, this is not only unrealistic but also detrimental. Research consistently shows that chronic stress and overwork can lead to mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, as well as physical health problems like heart disease and hypertension.

To break free from this stereotype, it’s essential to redefine what success means. True success isn’t just about climbing the corporate ladder or earning a six-figure salary—it’s about thriving in all aspects of life, including family, friendships, health, and personal growth.

Identifying the Barriers to Work-Life Balance

Before diving into solutions, it’s crucial to identify the most common barriers to achieving work-life balance for men in high-stress careers:

1. Perfectionism and Overachievement

High-achievers often fall into the trap of perfectionism, feeling that they must go above and beyond in every task. This mindset not only leads to burnout but also diminishes overall productivity.

2. Workaholic Culture

Many industries glorify overworking, equating long hours with commitment and success. This culture can make it challenging to set boundaries without fear of being perceived as lazy or unambitious.

3. Guilt and Societal Expectations

Men are often conditioned to prioritize their careers and financial stability over personal well-being. As a result, taking time for themselves or their families can lead to feelings of guilt or inadequacy.

4. Lack of Support Systems

Unlike women, who are generally more open about sharing their struggles and seeking support, men are often hesitant to express their need for help, leading to isolation and burnout.

Strategies for Achieving Work-Life Balance

Achieving a work-life balance doesn’t mean giving up your career ambitions. It’s about setting boundaries, prioritizing what truly matters, and taking care of yourself so you can perform at your best. Here are practical strategies to help you get started:

1. Set Clear Boundaries

Establish Work Hours: Decide on a specific time to end your workday and stick to it. This helps prevent work from spilling into personal time.

Create Physical Separation: If working from home, designate a workspace that you can leave when the workday is over. This helps you mentally switch from “work mode” to “home mode.”

Communicate Boundaries: Clearly communicate your work hours to colleagues and supervisors to manage their expectations and reduce after-hours interruptions.

2. Prioritize and Delegate

Identify High-Impact Tasks: Focus on tasks that significantly contribute to your goals and delegate or eliminate low-priority tasks.

Learn to Say No: Politely decline non-essential meetings or projects that don’t align with your priorities.

Delegate Effectively: Empower your team by delegating responsibilities, which not only reduces your workload but also fosters team growth.

3. Incorporate Self-Care into Your Routine

Physical Health: Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep are crucial for maintaining physical and mental well-being.

Mental Health: Practice mindfulness or meditation to reduce stress and improve focus.

Social Connections: Make time for friends and family, as strong social connections can provide emotional support and reduce burnout.

4. Utilize Technology Wisely

Set Digital Boundaries: Turn off work-related notifications after work hours to avoid constant interruptions.

Use Productivity Tools: Leverage tools like calendar apps and task managers to organize your day efficiently.

Digital Detox: Schedule regular breaks from screens to reduce digital fatigue.

5. Seek Support and Mentorship

Professional Support: Don’t hesitate to seek help from mental health professionals if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

Mentorship and Networking: Connect with mentors who understand the demands of your career and can offer guidance on balancing work and personal life.

Peer Support: Build a network of peers who are also navigating high-stress careers. Sharing experiences and challenges can be therapeutic and provide new perspectives.

Redefining Success: Finding Fulfillment Beyond Work

To achieve true work-life balance, it’s essential to redefine what success means. It’s not just about financial achievements or professional titles—it’s about fulfillment in all areas of life. Consider the following:

Personal Growth: Pursue hobbies or passions outside of work to maintain a sense of identity beyond your professional role.

Relationships: Prioritize meaningful relationships with family and friends. Quality time with loved ones contributes to long-term happiness and reduces stress.

Contribution and Purpose: Engage in community service or mentoring, which can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment beyond professional success.

Overcoming Guilt and Societal Pressure

One of the biggest obstacles men face when striving for work-life balance is overcoming guilt and societal pressure. Here’s how to tackle it:

Challenge Stereotypes: Recognize and challenge societal norms that equate masculinity with overworking and self-sacrifice.

Communicate Openly: Have open discussions with your partner, family, and colleagues about your need for balance. This fosters understanding and support.

Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion and acknowledge that it’s okay to prioritize your well-being without feeling guilty.

Success Stories: Real Men Finding Balance

To inspire you on your journey, here are a few examples of men in high-stress careers who have successfully achieved work-life balance:

Michael, a Corporate Executive: After experiencing burnout, Michael implemented strict work hours and took up hiking as a way to decompress. He now feels more energized and productive.

David, a Surgeon: David realized the importance of delegating non-critical tasks to junior staff, allowing him more time with his family without compromising patient care.

Alex, an Entrepreneur: Alex practices mindfulness meditation daily and schedules “non-negotiable” family time, ensuring that work doesn’t overshadow his personal life.

Conclusion: Thriving, Not Just Surviving

Work-life balance isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. For men in high-stress careers, achieving this balance requires intention, strategy, and the courage to challenge societal expectations. By setting clear boundaries, prioritizing self-care, seeking support, and redefining success, it’s possible to thrive both professionally and personally.

Remember, your career is just one part of your life. True success is about thriving holistically—mentally, physically, and emotionally. It’s about being present not just in the boardroom but also at the dinner table, on the soccer field, or wherever your passions lie.

So, take the first step today. Reclaim your life, redefine your success, and remember: you deserve to thrive, not just survive.

Share Your Journey

What strategies have worked for you in balancing work and life? Feel free to share your experiences and tips in the comments below. If you found this article helpful, share it with others who might benefit from it. Together, we can redefine success and create a culture that values balance and well-being.

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Here's an article draft about the importance of self-reflection for those considering or working in retail:

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Self-Reflection for Retail Success

Retail. It's the backbone of many economies, offering a gateway to employment for countless individuals. Yet, it's often met with misconceptions, judgment, and a general lack of understanding. For some, a healthy dose of self-reflection can be the key to unlocking a successful and rewarding retail experience.

Breaking Down the Stereotypes:

* "It's just a job to get you by." This dismissive attitude can be a major barrier. Retail jobs, like any other, require dedication, hard work, and a strong work ethic.

* "Customers are always right." While customer service is paramount, blind adherence to this mantra can lead to burnout and resentment. Self-reflection helps employees navigate difficult situations with empathy while setting healthy boundaries.

* "It's easy money." The reality of long hours, low wages, and the constant pressure to meet sales targets paints a different picture. Understanding the challenges upfront can foster a more realistic and appreciative mindset.

The Benefits of Self-Reflection:

* Improved Customer Interactions: By understanding your own communication style, patience levels, and potential biases, you can better connect with customers and resolve conflicts effectively.

* Enhanced Teamwork: Retail often involves collaborative efforts. Self-reflection helps you identify your strengths and weaknesses as a team player, leading to improved communication and a more positive work environment.

* Increased Job Satisfaction: By acknowledging your own contributions and celebrating small victories, you can find greater fulfillment in your role, even during challenging times.

* Personal Growth: Retail can be a demanding environment. Self-reflection encourages resilience, adaptability, and the development of valuable interpersonal skills that are transferable to any career path.

A Call to Action:

Before embarking on a retail career, or even if you're already in one, take some time for introspection:

* What are your expectations of this job? Are they realistic and aligned with the realities of retail?

* What are your strengths and weaknesses when dealing with people?

* How do you handle stress and conflict?

* What are your motivations for working in retail? Are they intrinsic (e.g., a desire to help people) or extrinsic (e.g., solely financial)?

By approaching retail with an open mind, a willingness to learn, and a commitment to self-reflection, you can transform it from a "mere job" into a valuable and rewarding experience.

Disclaimer: This article reflects a general perspective and does not represent the views of any specific individual or organization.

Note: This article aims to promote understanding and does not intend to diminish the challenges faced by retail workers.

I hope this article provides a helpful starting point for your discussion!

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How MSMEs are transforming the Job Market in India

The Role of MSMEs in the Indian Economy                      

MSMEs account for approximately 30% of India’s GDP and contribute significantly to exports and manufacturing. These enterprises, spread across urban and rural areas, provide employment to millions of people. From skilled professionals to fresh graduates, MSME jobs cater to a wide range of talent, ensuring that opportunities are accessible to individuals from all walks of life.

Moreover, MSMEs have become instrumental in bridging the employment gap in regions where large corporations have limited reach. Their localized operations and community-focused approach create a ripple effect, boosting regional economies and empowering marginalized sections of society.

Diverse Opportunities in MSMEs                                     

Unlike traditional corporate roles, jobs in MSMEs offer employees a chance to wear multiple hats and develop cross-functional skills. This diversity is particularly appealing to millennial and Gen Z, who value meaningful work and rapid career growth. Many MSMEs, particularly those in technology, retail, and manufacturing, are mirroring the dynamism of start-up jobs, providing employees with the flexibility and innovation-focused culture often associated with startups.

Additionally, these enterprises are breaking stereotypes by incorporating modern hiring practices and leveraging technology to identify the right talent. Salarite, for instance, is transforming how MSMEs hire by offering tailored solutions that connect them with skilled professionals. Salarite’s platform ensures that both employers and job seekers can achieve the perfect match, fostering long-term growth for both parties.

Challenges in the MSME Job Ecosystem

Despite their immense potential, MSMEs face challenges in competing with larger organizations for top talent. Limited resources and budget constraints often hinder their ability to provide competitive salaries or perks. However, what they lack in monetary benefits, they compensate for with opportunities for rapid career advancement, personal growth, and the chance to contribute to impactful projects.

The Indian job market is also witnessing a shift in priorities among job seekers. While financial stability remains important, individuals increasingly value work-life balance, job satisfaction, and opportunities for skill enhancement. MSMEs’ flexible work environments and personalized employee engagement strategies align with these evolving expectations, making them a desirable choice for modern professionals.

Salarite: A Game-Changer for MSMEs

Salarite has emerged as a vital enabler in connecting talent with MSMEs and startups. By leveraging data-driven insights and advanced technology, Salarite’s platform simplifies the hiring process for small businesses. Its career counseling services empower job seekers to make informed decisions, ensuring that they find roles aligned with their aspirations and skillsets.

For employers, Salarite offers tailored hiring solutions that address specific needs, from sourcing candidates to streamlining on boarding processes. This targeted approach helps MSMEs overcome traditional recruitment challenges and ensures they remain competitive in the fast-evolving Indian job market.

The Future of MSMEs and Employment in India

As India’s economy continues to grow, the role of MSMEs in job creation will only become more significant. Government initiatives, such as the "Make in India" and "start-up India" campaigns, are further propelling the growth of these enterprises, providing them with the necessary support to expand their operations and tap into global markets.

Moreover, the rise of digitalization and automation within MSMEs is opening up new avenues for employment. From tech-driven roles to opportunities in logistics and customer service, the range of MSME jobs is becoming increasingly diverse. This evolution not only benefits job seekers but also contributes to the nation’s economic resilience and innovation capacity.

Conclusion

The transformative impact of MSMEs on the Indian job market cannot be overstated. By offering unique opportunities, fostering innovation, and addressing regional employment gaps, these small businesses are setting the stage for a more inclusive and dynamic workforce. Platforms like Salarite are further accelerating this transformation, enabling MSMEs to reach their full potential and empowering job seekers to thrive in their careers.

In the coming years, as MSMEs continue to evolve and adapt to changing market demands, they are poised to remain at the forefront of employment generation in India. For job seekers and businesses alike, the message is clear: the future belongs to those who embrace the possibilities offered by MSMEs and platforms like Salarite.