#they are simply superior

[hrgves]

I just think that modern au Lucemond

[the-daily-dreamer]

Reminder that if your feminism revolves around propping up women that partake in traditionally masculine activities/roles and shitting on or even hating women who embody traditionally feminine roles and enjoy feminine activities you’re not really a feminist.

It sets the precedent that women are only valuable and valid if they have traditionally masculine traits, which feeds a narrative that masculine traits are better simply because they are associated with men who are the ideal. It perpetuates the idea that things that are feminine and traditionally associated with women are in fact inferior to men/masculinity and should be looked down upon and belittled.

And, it alienates so many individuals that feel more comfortable in femininity, regardless of gender identity.

I think people in the ASOIAF fandom really need to learn this because feminine characters are so despised on the basis that they are not “better” women. Simply because they don’t embody traditionally masculine things like conquering or fighting.

Much of the hate comes from stans that love characters like Rhaenyra, Daenerys, and Arya (and do not get me wrong I love Arya), who are women and girls that are in positions that allow for more traditionally masculine behaviors and tomboyishness. And they will say incredibly sexist things about how the other women in media are inferior and directly contrast these women to their faves negatively by pointing out that they’re “too weak” or “subservient”. They reduce femininity to weakness and bowing to patriarchy instead of considering that some people have a different, more feminine nature. And that is OK! Just because a woman isn’t wielding a sword or fighting on the front lines or pursuing leadership roles in masculine ways (because historically women exacted and sought power in different ways than men) doesn’t mean they aren’t valuable and strong characters. Do not use feminine characters as a negative comparison to show how “feminist” and great your fave is. Because it’s just so blatantly sexist.

Don’t fall into the trap of reinforcing patriarchal rhetoric!!! Don’t reinforce narratives that traditional masculinity is superior to femininity!! Don’t belittle feminine activities and act as if they aren’t valuable!!! Girbosses are great but so are gentlewomen.

[hitinmiss]

The soriku and the Hercules/Meg parallels ALWAYS hit huh

[teaitis]

New shirt 🐯

[opera-ghost]

gaston leroux writing the prologue to the phantom of the opera

[filmnoirsbian]

I do not have tiktok mostly bc I simply choose to use only one social media at a time and I've dug my grave on this site but luckily my beloved friends who do have tiktok never fail to update me on whatever bizarro drama is going on over there (bizarro not bc it's anymore ridiculous than this or any other social site but bc it's generally so different from the drama I'm accustomed to on here) which means I get to chuckle at "real" mob wife vs clean girl compilations (only the cream of the crop plucked for me by my angels currently suffering in the algorithm pits) without having to sell my soul to yet another bottomless app.

[roz-ani]

Classic Hunter - attracted to confidence

Honestly, the boy has a great taste. The real strong girl should know her worth!

[feluka]

if someone uses a slur for themselves don't tell them not to use it since they clearly are fine with reclaiming it for themselves and you can't decide for them how they should feel about the word. if someone doesn't want you to use a slur for them and asks that you don't use it/tag it don't belittle them or call them a baby because you can't decide for them how they should feel about that word. literally just respect people's wishes why is this so fucking complicated

[midnight-moth]

My precious bbg

[strawglicks]

The reason graham messes with cathal

[butwhatifidothis]

It really is strange how Edelstans simultaneously dig hard into people that don't agree with their specific interpretation of 3H to the point of being happy they manage to drive those people away... and be so upset and baffled that people become generally disinterested/actively hostile towards 3H content.

If folks get repeatedly driven out of a fandom, and that group of people repeatedly calls anyone who disagrees with their specific interpretation of 3H stupid/illiterate/"acting in bad faith"/sexist/racist/homophobic/etc., and it is repeatedly done by a group of people who insist that 3H's fandom problem is a "both sides" thing, with all of this being dragged into spaces that have nothing to do with 3H, well... obviously people are then going to start to dislike interacting with either 3H in general or its fandom in particular?

Edelstans are the ones spreading the idea that 3H's fandom in totality is shit. They keep trying to make their hands look cleaner than they are by claiming that everyone else's hands are just dirty as/even dirtier than theirs. Of course people who are unaware of everything are going to then assume that everyone's hands are dirty, thus making people not exactly want to shake hands with anyone.

Like, really now. What did they think was going to happen when they directly go after fanartists/fanfic writers who create/say things that go against the Approved Edelstan Status Quo, to the point that a non-zero amount of these creators just up and leave social media entirely? Or after they nitpick every single Disapproved Post and then lie about the post's OP? Or after it becomes a consistent pattern that people who even remotely disagree with Edelstans' opinions are always, without fail, buried with insulting and harassing anons? Or after they're shown time and time again to defend their worst actors with "well their/our victims deserved it because they said a 3H opinion we didn't agree with"? Or when they say that everyone does this shit in 3H's fandom except for them (which is either not believed because it's demonstrably untrue or is actually believed and now those people think the overwhelming majority of 3H's fandom is filled with shit)? Or when they drag 3H discourse into literally actually everything no matter how unrelated?

That with less fandom creators within the fandom space they'd get more content? That harassing and insulting people and accusing them of being this-and-that bigot is going to magically "correct" their minds into seeing The One Truth about 3H? That people are going to just look over all the shit they did just because they allocate the blame of their action on all of 3H's fandom? That people would like 3H more if they constantly remind people of the inarguable worst thing to come from 3H? That this would help 3H's general perception?

Fuckin' no, of course that's just going to make everyone fuck off from 3H. And would you look at that, a shit ton of people have fucked off from 3H since everything has been swept under a "well it'sth a bolth thides ithue tho what can ya do?" rug. And it's been swept under that rug by pretty much the only people who are pulling this shit, who then get shocked - utterly gobsmacked! - that that made them look bad too. That crying "both sides!" included themselves too and not just the people they've been harassing. That saying that the entire fandom is bad everywhere made the entire fandom look bad everywhere.

If Edelstans are really so upset that no one talks about 3H positively anymore, then maybe they should stop being the reason no one likes 3H anymore. Just a thought

[peaceoutofthepieces]

photos of joe/kit taken by joe/kit >>>>>

[trans-cuchulainn]

am i xkcd comicing about how much people know about . anything to do with writing materials

"the average person probably only knows the definition of 'scribe' and 'manuscript'" "and 'parchment', of course" "of course"

[aaronstveit]

people who are saying 'no' on that "is listening to an audiobook the same as reading?" poll are super annoying and i hate that we have this same discourse every couple of weeks but it's reallyyyyyy interesting to me that so many people are saying that you aren't 'interacting' with the story in the same way because, the inherent ableism of that aside, you absolutely can analyze and think critically about a story even if you don't physically read it. you can listen to a story and think deeply about it and i think you're all very very weird to believe you can't. just because you only half-listen to things doesn't mean the rest of us don't pay attention and think deeply about it.

[ballsbalb]

went to the house of one of my childhood friends that i haven’t seen in years. her little sister (late teens) asked to do my hair. i told her i was a boy now. she said ‘so? boys can still have pretty hair’ and then she and my friend spent twenty minutes braiding my hair and i am going to fucking cry i am a fucking adult and i am crying over braided hair i would like to issue a formal letter of gratitude to all women you are simply the superior gender in every way

[gilligould]

there’s already so much discourse about john, and the roles barry and sally have adopted as new parents, and i’m almost certainly echoing what so many of you are already saying… but the very fact that he exists is like, undoubtedly the most disturbing aspect of the show thus far and it’s not even close??? in spite of their shared delusion, they made a conscious decision to have a CHILD, and thereby codify this devastatingly toxic and indulgent arrangement they call love. and i think that, historically, shows about anti-heroes can shy away from exploring the trauma their children inherit as a result of their actions for the sake of maintaining their role as sympathetic perpetrator. breaking bad, for example. flynn’s unawareness regarding his father’s criminality leaves room for a devastating and undeniably brilliant narrative turn in their series’ final few episodes. but it also conveniently reserves the emotional violence for the adult characters. on some subconscious level, perhaps, we believe them more equipped to handle such things; but how might the average viewer’s perception of walt have changed if we had been FORCED to watch the sins of the father torment flynn as explicitly as they did… say….. anthony jr. of the sopranos? i guess my point is that barry is doing just that—it’s forcing you to step into the shoes of a boy named john, and you just want to play baseball with the other kids, and instead must endure a grossly manufactured existence consisting of a father who manipulates your every waking moment and a mother who can barely stand to touch you. and it’s all because of what you represent. the product of two hopeless people pretending they are anything but, who can’t help but recognize one another and choose to call it love... who gaze out over lone and level sands, and insist that it’s a paradise….. who wear hair over their hair and hide guns in the drywall and sleep curled up in the bathtub and maintain that this is the picture of contentment.

violence corrupts and corrodes everything that it touches, even children. in a media landscape flush with anti-heroes, it’s a sentiment with which we’re all familiar. and yet so many shows stop just short of examining how that really manifests. because it is so hard to watch, and because it effectively eradicates any sympathy viewers may have left for the protagonist. barry crosses that line and it does so confidently, and despite those fleeting moments of comedy or the astounding elegance of the cinematography, i can’t help but think it’s one of the most disturbing, upsetting examinations of violence i’ve seen put to screen.