as my good friend and i like to remind each other:
don't yuck people's yum. if you do so, at least keep it in the dms. no point in making people feel absolutely miserable for liking a certain thing, for having an oc you don't like - whatever it is. people constantly hating just for the sake of hating truly sour the fandom experience on social medias. there's a problem if the only way you feel better is by making others feel like crap.
and you, who shares the things you love online, who creates original characters and talks about their ships - know that you will never be able to please everyone and that's okay. don't let it stop you from sharing what you love, if it brings you happiness then keep doing it. you don't owe anyone anything, if what you like somehow upsets people, they can very easily just block you and move on. it's really that simple!
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I think on this fine Saturday afternoon it's a good opportunity to take a breather and remember that there are really no ethical paparazzi pictures. Every single one is inherently exploitative.
Just because photos were taken on a movie set, when someone is 'working,' does not make the practice any less invasive and creepy. Imagine just going about your day, doing your job and having some weirdo snapping pictures of you to sell without your consent for others to endlessly repost online.
There are thousands of pictures of your favourite actor online already. Plenty taken with his knowledge and consent. I'd really like to see more of them on my dash, rather than the creeper shots.
And don't get me started how disseminating these pictures directly leads to people going to said sets. What starts off as admiring how good someone looks has real world implications.
No, hanging around a movie set and disrupting people doing their jobs is not harmless fun or a way to show your appreciation.
If you hang around a movie set, you are a stalker.
Don't tell me that it's okay to take your online admiration for someone offline. You may admire him but he does not, and will never, personally know you. He will never be your friend/boyfriend/daddy. He is a stranger.
The only way meeting your favourite actor is going to happen is at a convention or maaaaaybe a movie premiere if you're incredibly fortunate. You know, places they appear specifically to meet fans (or not in the case of premieres, where the purpose is to promote a movie. Which is also completely understandable if actors don't stop. You are not owed an interaction).
Of course, you cannot help it if you randomly run into someone you admire in the wild. Even then, consider that they probably won't be all too thrilled to be approached in public by a complete stranger. It's up to you to gauge the situation, but remember there is a person at the heart of all of this.
Boundaries and respect are a kindness which deserves to be extended to each and every human being regardless of their looks/talent/fame/wealth.
Fandoms blur those lines a little too often for my liking and I think just scrutinising what you're interacting with, or what behaviour you could be possibly falling down that slippery slope towards is nice to do every once in a while.
I mean no malice with this post and it is not directed at anyone in particular. It's something I cannot help but feel strongly about because I've seen this destructive cycle time and again in fandoms over the years. It's not healthy and it makes us all a little bit more disconnected from our humanity for it...
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IHNMAIMS CAST RE-INTERPRETATION
Due to my visceral hatred of the game and the way they handled the characters, I’ve decided to re-write their stories a little bit! I’m using the book, comics, and radio drama as reference, and my own headcanons too for fun. This is all For Fun
Ellen
Things I’m Keeping
Born in Trenton, New Jersey
Computer scientist
3 degrees
Went to Stanford university
Graduated high school early
Lived with her grandparents
Hope in humanity
Self assured
Sympathetic
Rape survivor
Little to no interest in sex in general
Work driven
Career focused
Things I’m Changing
Black rights advocate
Queer rights advocate
Feminist
Outspoken
Trans woman
Lesbian
No interest in motherhood
Fell into a depression when her assault left her with chronic illness and pain
Has OCD
Character Notes
Highly distrustful of people. Kind and caring, but her concern for others is surface level. Struggles with the fear of men and violent intrusive thoughts. Favorite color is red. It calms her.
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Ted
Things I’m Keeping
Born near Shelby, North Carolina
Grew up extremely poor
Lived on a farm
Interest in reading
Knack for mechanics and engineering
No traditional education, self taught
Studied intensively
Education focused
Grooming victim
Charming
Relied on his body for money
Philanthropist
Rich
Good sense of morals
Kindhearted
Things I’m Changing
Closeted bisexual
Not a con-artist
Not a racist
Not a womanizer
Has anxiety
Has a paranoid personality disorder
Touch adverse
Struggles with dermatillomania
Demisexual
Character Notes
Had always been paranoid and anxious even before AM, but it made his problems even worse. Struggles heavily with internalized homophobia, and gets visually uncomfortable when queer topics or people are discussed. Prideful and egotistical out of habit, but is deeply insecure in reality.
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Gorrister
Things I’m Keeping
Born in the Midwest
Troublemaker as a child
Disrespect for authority
Did poorly in school
Moves across states for work
Practically friendless
Has experience as a construction worker, electrician, mechanic, and a trucker
Interest in reading
Prefers to stay home and eat home-cooked meals
Wants to settle down
Divorced
Anti-war
Left-leaning political activist
Strong sense of morals and justice
Wanted a family
Things I’m Changing
Marriage with Glynis was not abusive
Did not strike his wife
Divorced due to wanting different things out of life and overwhelming mental health issues
Bisexual
Queer rights activist
Has depression
Has CPTSD
Born in Texas specifically
Struggles with alcoholism
Struggles with anger issues
Is an artist
Character Notes
Very deeply loved and adored his wife. He did everything he could for her, but it just wasn’t enough. Glynis’ worsening mental state became too much for either of them to handle, and Gorrister didn’t know what to do. Sending her to a mental hospital was a non-option, things got worse, and she commuted suicide. He blames himself for it every day of his life.
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Nimdok
Things I’m Keeping
Born in Düsseldorf
Jewish parents
Went to medical school
Apparent lack of compassion
Gay
Scientist
German
Has dementia
Had a partner in Brazil
The oldest of the group
Self assured
Logical
Things I’m Changing
Not a nazi
Not decrepit
Has early-onset dementia specifically
Not AM’s favorite
Low empathy
Low sympathy
Has a general disinterest in other people
AroAce
Struggles with schizophrenia
Character Notes
While unable to sympathize or understand other people’s emotions, it wasn’t ever in his nature to be outright mean or cruel. Rather, his dementia is what caused the change in behavior. Sometimes he has moments of clarity, where his true nature can be seen for a few fleeting moments. Still retains his sharp scientific mind.
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Benny
Things I’m Keeping
Gay
Professor
Good looking
Intelligent
Born somewhere in America
Strong willed
High perseverance
Self assured
Physically strong
Things I’m Changing
Had absolutely nothing to do with the military
Did not have a wife
Is not needlessly mean or violent
Career driven
Focus in academics
Knows sign language
Struggles with chronic fatigue and pain
A softer man
Interest in nature and the outdoors
Character Notes
Never one to start a fight or even anger much at all, Benny was laidback and easygoing. He had a calm life, and his personality was upbeat. Nothing ever seemed to bring him down. Not even his chronic illnesses, as frustrating and disheartening as they could be. In his free time he was somewhat of a survivalist.
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This is to the trans folks who have felt so much grief and pain from being trans alone that they have considered detransition/detransitioned. I see you, and I love you. As a trans person who has considered whether it’s even worth the fight, if it’s even worth it to continue being trans in a world that is so unbelievably inconsiderate and exclusionary of trans people, I can assure you, it’s worth it. Get up and fight for your rights. You do not deserve to be beaten down by those that will not see you for YOU. I know it’s difficult. I know being trans can make us feel like we do not belong in this world. But we do. And we always will. Trans people will always exist and have existed for so long. Future generations of trans kids are gonna need ol’ trans folks like us. Keep fighting. Go to pride, go to local youth groups for lgbt+ minorities. Put flags up, make a scene. Make NOISE. let the people know that we EXIST. And we will never, ever stop existing. EVER. PERIOD.
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I really hate posting or acknowledging fandom drama unless it serves to support or encourage people who are feeling down about it but this is a tricky one for me to translate because I'm mad af!
Let's take a deep breath.
The thing is, about fandom! When you first get here, or get to a new one, or whatever! It's weird, there's etiquette built in, there's invisible rules. But the main thing is like, we're all here because we can't be normal about our blorbo, right?
And it's okay if you project on your blorbo! It's okay if your version of them isn't completely canon-accurate! It's okay if you are isolating a single aspect of their personality/backstory to play with because it speaks to you! YOU ARE ALLOWED TO DO THESE THINGS.
It's also okay if the canon has conflicting information! It's okay if a theme went over your head and you don't consider it! It's okay if you're the only person in the fandom who notices a certain quality and you're the only one talking about it!!
There is enough room here for all of us!
The ENTIRE POINT of fandom and fanworks is to ask questions about the characters, to dissect them, to put them back together. The point of transformative fanworks is to TRANSFORM! If we weren't so deeply invested in these universes and didn't have questions and didn't want more content about all the blank spots, we would just CONSUME THE CANON LIKE A NORMAL PERSON AND MOVE ON WITH OUR GODDAMN LIVES. We wouldn't be bothering to write fic and make art and RP and decode meta! We wouldn't be making this into a hobby and talking about it all day!
It's from LOVE.
So.
I get it, it can be intimidating showing up in a new space or into a new hobby. And sometimes we can step on toes if we don't know all the invisible rules and etiquette. But what I can promise you is that you don't need to make room for people who are rude to you, who try to tell you that their way is the only way, who consistently want to insult you for asking questions, noticing themes, playing with other versions of the characters.
We are ALL HERE to be silly and dick around and have fun, and when someone is being an asshole about it, I think it looks worse for them than it does for you. One of you is minding your business and having fun and the other one is trying to tell everyone what to think lol.
Please protect yourself from bullies; don't let someone police the way you read canon, or the way you speak about your fav, or the fanworks you create. These people are not your friends, and they are not your audience. You do not need their acceptance to have fun and make things.
Fandom shouldn't be this fucking exhausting, yall. It costs zero dollars to be nice to people and let them enjoy their fucking blorbo in peace and you look like a fucking asshole when you don't shut the fuck up about it and sow discord in a shared space.
People's horrendously OOC takes do not affect you at all even a little bit not even when they're so so so so so OOC that you think you need to be Fandom Professor rising from your well to shame us! It cannot and will never hurt you, so leave them the fuck alone and let them have fun!!
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Taylor Swift by far is not the worst celebrity in terms of like... being bad. Her music isn't the worst--it is the definition of radio friendly. Her behaviour, in terms of celebrity bullshit, isn't the worst either (though we really shouldn't understate the ecological harm from her private jet which gets handwaved but is... truly horrific). She isn't particularly unfashionable, she definitely isn't provocative or boundary pushing.
But all of this middle-of-the-roadness is just... the embodiment of capitalism, especially White Girl Boss capitalism, and... more than that, it represents the sanitation that brings to art. The calculation. The risk aversion. And the laundering of any real feeling--that I'm not even sure she's fully capable of--into something somehow less than the sum of its parts.
It's so egregious it feels brain-numbing. It feels like a mockery of the craft. It feels like every board room decision that has excluded marginalized voices in art and every experimental song from the soundwaves embodied in one person. Everything is PR, nothing is organic. Even when she does awful things (like dating a massive racist or using her moment in Time Magazine to bring up years old beef with the fucking Kardashians instead of speaking on the GENOCIDE happening right now), it's a choice to distract from a worse thing or get another burst of attention. She can't even be awful in a way that feels authentic. There isn't a controversy that isn't also a chance to pivot her public image into something New and Fun.
She feels like a vessel for every breaking down of music as an art form happening in our capitalistic world. She's the tiktok algorithm, the pushed paid promotion on every social media feed, the pay-to-win Grammy awards all in one little bundle. She's hollow and business opportunities are what's filled inside her to keep her from floating away into the blandest possible season of the real housewives of ___ anyone has ever seen.
To me, she's a step above AI art in terms of like... human passion.
To me, she feels like the second she experiences a real human emotion, she writes down five different ways she can profit off of that or spin it into a new victim complex (which she profits from).
To me, the rare tolerable-to-good song she has is just... entirely tainted by the brand around it. Her career isn't a musical exploration. It's a brand. Her music is a plain white t shirt with a logo printed dead center, nothing else to offer.
It can't have anything else on it, no statements, no daring, because then the logo, the brand might get obscured.
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