#trauma patterns

[jbfly46]

I feel like the only way redundant software platforms, especially refundant social media software platforms like Threads, and kinda like Tik Tok, wouldn’t be able to maintain operations, due to low user rates, unless there are a significant amount of people trying to maintain their delusions by continuing to look for new echo chambers, aka, safe spaces, anytime one of their delusional echo chamber bubbles starts to deflate, as a lot of them clearly have bodily processes involved with survival tied up with their delusions, and this may actually be the reason for the formation of their delusions in the first place.

[disabled-space-archived]

Society needs to stop idolizing doctors. The image of medical professionals as these amazing, compassionate heroes is dangerous. People are so quick to defend doctors. To not believe disabled people when we say doctors have systematically abused, neglected, gaslit, and discriminated against us. Believe disabled people.

[dreamland-dweller]

school doodles i completely forgot to post whoopsies

[angelsdean]

what i would've given for season long big bad alastair over season-a-million-and-one of big bad lucifer. chuck should've sprung alastair out of the empty in s15 instead of lilith or lucifer. would've fucked with dean specifically way more during his s15 breakdown of what's real to have to also confront the guy who had him in a torture chamber for 40 yrs and who he definitely hallucinated abt post-hell bc he's the one who teaches sam how to use pain to break out of his lucifer hallucinations. also imagine the torture alastair could inflict on dean in s15, knowing abt cas and how their relationship has changed since the last time alastair met them. alastair instead of lucifer coming back in 15x19 and inflicting torture on a despairing dean. dean opening the bunker door thinking cas is on the other side but then it's alastair, his literal worst nightmare.

[vaguely-concerned]

I really really like that lucanis reaches the 'there must be some way through this' realization 'off camera', so to speak, while presumably looking at rook explaining the situation to spite. it just. hits right. he gets that moment to himself after 'this place is a nightmare, why would I want to stay here' to come back into focus, to gather himself and think it through in peace, outside of the demands of anyone’s gaze (including the player’s!), while rook takes care of spite’s confusion and urgency and distress as he can’t himself in this shattered state. they're inside his soul, but he still gets that moment of privacy, with rook and spite there and supporting but not intruding. idk there's just something so good and right-feeling about it. rook's presence in lucanis' mind at its most vulnerable and frozen could have felt SO invasive if the quest wasn't written as skillfully as it is, and I get skeeved out by that kind of thing incredibly easily so it's a testament to how well it's done that it always feels safe and supportive. lucanis has had both his bodily and psychological (slash spiritual/existential) integrity and autonomy violated so brutally and repeatedly, and having even the way the camera perceives him here grant him the dignity and respect and privacy of soul he hasn’t experienced in a long time… it’s a whole thing huh. No wonder it’s taken me a while to put it into words lol 

(also what a contrast to what solas and rook have got going on, and what a sly way to slide the point of comparison in there to build to the thematic whole. the solas version of this IS of course wildly invasive and skeeves me out but in the intended delighted horror movie way. solas, too, was let into someone’s soul through the cracks in the wake of a traumatic event, and he IMMEDIATELY sought to turn it to his own benefit and use that trauma as a weapon against them fhdsja I’m sorry but it’s just such a character-revealing instinct for him to act on without hesitation and I love how terrible he is, it’s all so unforgivably premeditated and consistent.

rook acting out of the desire to make sure lucanis is ok vs. solas going ‘well. When life gives you oops killed my friend, make dead friend poisoned lemonade and make his loved ones drink it. this sunk cost fallacy isn’t going to perpetuate itself’ is such a neat contrast and it’s not in your face about it but it’s still there, deep and solid down in the thematic narrative. rook doesn’t do anything to or in lucanis’ mind, really — they negotiate their way through the layers of defense and are let through, and they help him make the whole thing more explicable, but they never exert any force or go rooting around for anything that doesn’t present itself to them first. solas goes about gathering ammo for when he's going to nothing personel kid this person from like the first moment fhdskh doesn't waste a second before he's on that gaslight gatekeep girlboss grind. the fact that the game goes out of its way to show there IS a respectful, non-selfish and kind version of this process makes what solas is doing even more deliciously awful (glee) and rook and lucanis’ relationship (platonic, romantic, whatever it might be in any given playthrough) all the more moving to me)

[snakeyp00]

I said the next time I drew Rose she'd be normal (I lied)

[callmekatydid]

“Wait no not like that.”

OR: Results? To MY own self-sabotage? More likely than you’d think!

OR: I don’t CARE that the prophecy was self-fulfilling, I’m still angry about it! 😤

OR: Blitzø sweetie pie please go to therapy I know this great lady with a hotel where you do trust falls and talk about your feelings she’s like a block away from your office just pop in for thirty seconds please I’m begging you 🥺

[alchemusprime]

5 Ways Parents Create Emotional Baggage for Children

We recently started a new video series called Baggage Claim, focused on shared baggage in relationships. In this post, I will focus on the very beginning – the baggage we receive from our parents or whoever raises us. Trigger warning: this is a tough topic, so be aware of your triggers, and give yourself time and space to process this content. When we are born, we enter a system – often…

[edennill]

elured&elurin who died alone in the forest and elros&elrond who had their home destroyed over and over but survived to help build a new tomorrow and elladan&elrohir who were raised in peace and prosperity, and all of them star-twins. "shakes you by the shoulders" meme, do you understand

[enden-k]

i noticed a pattern with all my major, canon-mlm couples (missing 2 more for reasons) from my bigger stories and im hhhbbhsh.... apparently only my protective devourers get both bitches and a happy end wowow

[mayomkun]

I think my type is the silly/goofy characters who are sometimes treated as a comic relief but are profoundly sad/full of rage or have tragic story no one sees coming. One of those characters that weren't taken seriously before and grabbed the audience & other characters' attention when their story is revealed or progressed. Is this like a character trope, what are they called.

[kundalini33]

[phasesofa12thhousedeviantmoon]

A Message for 12th Housers, Heavy Saturn + Uranus, & Capricorn/Aqua Energy, amongst others who resonate.✨👇🏼

✨Do NOT mistake Recognizing Your "Window of Tolerance"(Boundaries) with "Avoiding"(running away). The Energy is Different. So if you Recognize it, take a Pause 🤚🏼. This prevents you from hitting your Peaks(which are a high all on their own, since it's inevitable that you come back down. These are called "Peaks and Valleys").

✨These "Peaks" are your Trauma/Wounds coming through. Pausing + Taking a breather gives you time to respect your limitations so you have the space to Recondition and in due time respond differently, from the ❤️Heart centre— a healthier mode when presented with similar situations.

✨When you have the Ability to 🤚🏼 you are Aware* of your Wounds and it gives you Space to Move Through them. After you have Processed Fully and have taken the time you needed*, you can then decide if you want to confront whatever it was prior, you are no longer in Survival Mode and have a sound Mind/Physical/Emotional Energetic State to do so.

✨If your Boundaries are being "Pushed", let's say from another, it's YOUR responsibility to decide that you no longer want that Energy around you. Remember that when "others" are pushing yours, they are pushing their own— Remove yourself so you are no longer* on that frequency.

🤚🏼✨Pausing: Involves Focusing on the *Internal*—Self-Care, Nurturing Yourself.

🏃🏼‍♀️🔥 Avoiding: Involves Focusing on the *External*— Anybody or Anything other than Yourself.

This is how you can Break a Pattern/Cycle too.🫶🏼✨X

[alchemusprime]

2 Examples of Self-Abandonment and how to Change Behavior

As a person who thinks about and works on behavior change daily, I am sometimes flabbergasted by what people choose to do and not do, even when faced with serious consequences. It’s the head in the sand approach that has me baffled: people will dig their heels in and refuse to budge. One analogy is that they are on a collision course but refuse to take their foot off the accelerator, and instead…

[afurtivecake]

It's easy to get the impression that Tetsuji never cared enough to rein in Riko's behaviour and temper but I think it's the opposite. I think Riko grew up constantly being told stuff like, "You have to learn to control your temper" and, "Is that any way to behave?" by Tetsuji. I think Tetsuji would have even disciplined him harshly every time he was caught acting out of anger. But all that is coming from Tetsuji - the man who would beat a kid if they displeased him in any way. How can you ever really take to heart the words of someone who demonstrates the exact opposite of what they preach? How are you supposed to not learn that the real lesson is, "Become the one who has all the power over everyone else and you will never have to suffer criticism for how you behave ever again."

[mylove-thresher]

fugirl in my ma’s fit bc she lowkey serving