#tw: Q slur discourse

[bad-aew-discourse]

Maybe the worst thing about Toni Storm saying she is “here” and “q*eer” is that “q*eer” is a slur.

[quinni427]

I think if queerness wasn’t as stigmatised a lot of straight men (and others) would realise that even if they are sexually attracted to women they may not be romantically attracted to them. Being aromantic is more common than we think.

If it was widely known that someone’s sexual and romantic attraction don’t necessarily have to be the same cheating and emotionally unavailability would probably be much less common.

More people need to know that you aren’t necessarily a failure if you don’t have/want the average heteronormative family structure.

Knowledge about LGBTQ+ people doesn’t just benefit us it benefits everyone. You shouldn’t have to live a certain way if you don’t want to.

[rocksinmuffin]

Steven universe is actually good, it just unfortunately came out during they heyday of call out posts and people who unironically tagged things “tw q slur”

It’s a great show for kids and is pretty much the first popular cartoon to have explicitly gay relationships and it is so funny to me the discourse that went around about this show for literal children

[disastergay]

feeling salty tonight, so have some banners

[pokemonedits-outofcontext]

i have way too many i hope u dont mind a dump

OH MY GOD I AM CRYING RN

[nullsexducks]

QUESTIONS TIME!!! Part 2!

Fellow truscum/transmeds/exclusionists/etc. who had some kind of tucute/inclusionist/mogai/etc. phase, how did your perception/use of the word “qu**r” evolve over time? If you used to think it was a slur but now don’t, why? If you think it was and still is a slur, but can be reclaimed, why, and who do you think should be allowed to reclaim it? If you think it was and still is a slur and can’t/shouldn’t be reclaimed at all, why? If you used to think it wasn’t a slur, but now do, why? What is your current definition of the word “qu**r”? How do you feel your definition compares to that of the average LGBT person, as well as in comparison to large areas, such as the US, the UK, your country, your town, your continent, etc.? If you could pick one universal definition of the word that would automatically be adopted by everyone else in the world and not challenged, what would it be? If you’ve had the word negatively used against you or had a negative experience involving the word, and are comfortable sharing, what happened, and how has that experience impacted your views on the word? (BTW, the word isn’t triggering to me, but it does tend to be triggering to those in the audience I intend to reach, so the censoring of the word is for them.)

[sapphicconservative]

Now do this for black people since you like tossing slurs around. Or is that offensive?

Stop using slurs to describe a group of people. Please understand many of us are still forced to endure this word as a slur. The last thing we want is some "woke" message from a corporation calling us the same thing homophobes call us.

[cube-cumb3r]

hey quick question why don't people ask ccs to adress things as they happen, and rather they wait and collect these incidents until they can compose a big Twitter thread abt it to make them look as horrible as possible? it seems malicious to me

[geronimo-dilfton]

i became infinitely more comfortable in my queer identity when i stopped trying to police how other people felt and just let them do what they wanted. i'm not them, i don't know how they personally feel abt their gender/sexuality, i don't live in their body and see what they see- IT'S NONE OF MY BUSINESS IF THEY WANT TO USE NEOPRONOUNS OR IDENTIFY ON THE ACE SPECTRUM OR USE CAT/CATSELF PRONOUNS

like... at this point!!!! fuck it!!!! don't let some weird toddler who likes kalvin garrah tell you who you should be! wear that skirt, use those funky pronouns, change your name like 10 times!!!! it doesn't matter if cishet people find it ridiculous, their feelings never fucking mattered here. YOUR feelings matter!!! change will only come when we stop prioritizing cishet comfort and start thinking about how we can accomodate the LGBT community

[nyxisadyke]

You are not inherently more radical or woke or free or non conformist for reclaiming the q slur.

[werewolf-cuddles]

“Q***r is a slur is TERF rhetoric” does have some degree of truth to it, in that it’s a phrase TERFs frequently use, but that’s no excuse to invalidate or vilify the many other LGBT+ people who are uncomfortable with the term.

People are allowed to dislike a word that has been historically used as a homophobic slur, and is still used as one to this day. Whether you want to admit it or not, that is a perfectly valid reason to be uncomfortable with it, and you have absolutely no right to speak over them.

I’m not asking people who have reclaimed it to stop using it altogether. I’m asking for people to be considerate of how OTHER people feel about it. Is that really so unreasonable?

[yourlocalmilf]

I don't trust people, especially companies, who claim to be lgbt friendly but happily throw the word queer around.

I don't appreciate getting called a slur regardless of their intention.

I am fine with using the word myself or about myself. But I do not want other people, especially non lgbt people, to call me queer.

I don't get why some people decided for the WHOLE community to reclaim the word? Tons and tons of lgbt people are still grealty affected by it and the word is still used negatively towards us. I have no problem if you reclaim the word for yourself, I think that that's powerful, but you can't make that decision for others.

[ambrosiadreamer]

i hate the discourse over the word “queer.” just accept the fact that some people are okay with being called that and that some people aren’t. everyone has their own reasons and they shouldn’t have to justify it

[aropinions]

I'm aroace. You absolutely do not speak for me, or any of the other aros or aces I know. You clearly have no understanding of how the Queer community works. Take your pathetic hate somewhere else.

"Queer" my dog's hairy ass. You don't speak for me or any of the other aros or aces I know, either, and I don't consent to being included in, or called, "queer." Neither do a shit ton of LGB people. You can't force people to be okay with having their orientation lumped into a label they don't agree with.

I'm not hateful. I'm just a dissenting voice. I don't want discrimination. I just want separation. But I guess that's too much to ask of your echo chamber, right?

[sapphicconservative]

Hi I hate it here. Don't refer to us as fucking slurs. What the hell is wrong with people? It costs nothing to refer to us as a slur.

Gay is not a slur. Queer is a fucking slur and has been used for decades when physically, sexually, and verbally attacking us.

[werewolf-cuddles]

I’m sorry, but what part of “LGBT+ people are not required to feel the same way about the term “queer” and are allowed to have different opinions on it” do y’all have such a hard time grasping?