#we have no obligation to stay

[1dhq]

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[iamthepulta]

Honestly, now I know more about Florence and Tuscany, I'm devastated we just came for the day to see Carrara. Carrara was awesome, but I would've loved to see Lucca's paper mills, and Florence is so beautiful with so much history. Even Pisa was more than I expected. Already making plans to come back and just chart out 10 museums and half a dozen hikes to the top of the Alpen range. And just appreciate all the shit Medici money went into!

[theflyingfeeling]

yes it's just me whining about the same thing for the billionth time, pls just scroll past nothing new to see here 👋

[caffeinatedopossum]

I'm aromantic not in a "I hate romance" way but in a "all my love is highly individualized dependent on the person my love is towards- no two loves will ever be exactly the same because you are different people and I love you in the way that you are" way

Like idk how to explain it but I don't get typical crushes, I don't have a desire to kiss or make out with people, I just have a gentle, ever-present love for anyone who will accept it (and who aligns with my morals). My version of a crush is just really liking someone and wanting to do most things with them but if I find out they have a crush on someone else, I will stop having a crush on them. Like it just turns off. Same if the person turns out to not be as nice as I thought or something

I've had stereotypical romantic moments with my friends, I have friends who are like kids to me, friends who are like siblings to me, and a sister who was my best friend. It's kind of like this thing where I'm not sure romantic attraction is even real? Like it has to be, right, because other people feel it? But I can't really relate to their feelings of falling in love, I feel like I just *am* in love, all the time, with many people and things at once

[secondsonaym]

Formal Hiatus

Mkay, things regarding my hand health have gotten a Bit more rocky and "i have no idea what's going on this may not even be rheumatoid-related at all anymore" and we're going to be doing a lot of prep work for my family to come over in July this later portion of the month

So I'm going to formally announce my hiatus on this blog/story for a while. I have no idea when it'll be lifted. Best case scenario, sometime around August, but please do not absolutely count on it and hound me if that time comes and it doesn't happen.

I won't be gone from the internet by any means--I will occasionally reblog stuff on my personal blog, I post adopts and commission work on my personal twitter and may do some CotL doodles now and then.

But I need to formally set this blog into a state where I am not obligated to worry about it and can focus on my own health and helping my family for the time being.

Please do not pester me about the AU, ask me things about it, etc. on my other accounts. Respect the fact I need a break and some space. Thank you.

[miek-unofficial]

i can't add anything directly to that post cause i'll die but i feel like the "i don't owe anyone anything" thing is not the same as "i can just be careless because actually kind actions are meaningless especially if they aren't repaid"

"you don't owe anyone anything" i feel is more of a foundational reminder that you do not have to give more than you can, you are not contractually obligated to deplete your mental resources to please others. it's a direct response to the mindset of previous generation(s) that focuses on "you have to always be polite to everyone, you have to give of yourself always to show respect, if you make a promise you must follow through" and other very stiff and strict absolute ideas that will drain you dry, especially if you are someone who struggle with energy management

it is not an excuse to be shitty, to not extend kindness to others, to not reach out, to not care for your fellow human beings (and anything else living or dead or otherwise). i understand the pushback when we see people who claim that kindness is somehow meaningless if you get nothing in return. you shouldn't be kind and care for others and show compassion and do good things in order to get something in return. if your motivation is that kindness is a transactional currency i think you need to reevaluate. do kind things where you can even if you get nothing in return. i don't think you have to be kind to everyone, always, and sometimes being kind to yourself will result in the pain, disappointment, anger, sadness, etc, of someone else, and that is okay. i feel like that's what i take from the phrase "you don't owe anyone anything." i am not obligated to mitigate the pain of others at the expense of myself, i am not obligated to take care of others at the expense of myself.

but when i have the energy, i have the spoons, however you want to measure your resources, i will absolutely be kind. always. to strangers who will never repay it, to friends who might not repay it, to friends who will repay it. the "repaying" aspect is irrelevant. i gain a lot from being kind to others already, they do not have to return the favor.

when done in a way that is not at the expense of myself, kindness towards others is in and of itself kindness to me. i don't owe anyone anything but when i am able to, i will care for them and be kind to them and consider them. not because i owe it to them, but because we're all people and we're here together. i'm not obligated to care, but that doesn't stop me from caring. it shouldn't stop you either.

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[february-academia]

28.04.2023

So much happened this week. (In tags I'll rant about it)

N4 is coming and my prep is not at all good. Took a test today and i failed🥲. But i know my prep is soo bad,it was bound to happen. So have to study for that.

College exams are coming🥹 also have to study for that. The dissertation proposal is in the finalising stage,so that's good. But have to work on it properly imo.

Then i also proposed another research study to my professor and he has encouraged me to go for it. So,also have to work on it.

These very cutu plants in the scorching heat were a treat to eyes and mind.

Got this book from the library and I'm really enjoying reading the essays.

( correction in a tag- she scored less than me in class and she was all sad sad. With her i had to suppress my happiness at moments like these)

[arnold-layne]

i love my job. also it makes me wanna kill myself

[endless-hourglass]

I feel like it should be said, cuz some people are mildy stupid, but we do not owe you any explanations as to why certain alters exist or split off . We may give the explanations on our own accord, sure, but just because you don't get why an alter exists doesn't mean I have to hold your hand.

Even if the alter seems incredibly stupid to you. There's a fucking reason

Like, why would we ever have a MARIO KART FICTIVE? because it's our biggest escape in times of severe anxiety and a fragment developed himself solely to do nothing but play Mario Kart to keep us from having panic attacks.

Why do we have a BEATLES INTROJECT? Because he needed to exist so that we wouldn't kill ourselves at the end of one of our worst psychotic episodes of our life - The Beatles was what we clinged to for any grounded sense of reality, and an alter based on the one we looked up to most is what our brain needed so we didn't fucking die

Why do we have SO MANY WOLVES? none of your business.

Why do we have CRINGY FICTIVES EVERYWHERE? none of your business.

Why do we have alters that you personally don't like? Surprise surprise, it's trauma. And I'm not sharing that shit with you.

[speedofsoundsketches]

@ everyone that left a super sweet message in their tags on the newest Shadow and Jolt update, thank you so much. Your words are so encouraging. 🥺

I'll be taking a break for the holidays but will get to work on the next pages early next year! I'm expecting there'll be about 40 more new pages left to tie the beginning arc together thus completing issue one of the series.

Issue two will mean a new cover and will start where we left off with the duo heading to Space Colony Ark!

Thank you all again for your kind words of encouragement. Doing this project is a joy in of itself but to see any enthusiasm for it really makes it all the more meaningful. Bless you all and I hope you have an electrified day!

[redtippedcanines]

you only do the things you do for me out of obligation

[r0mc0m]

hi ive noticed a lot of my older mutuals are inactive or just not responsive so! im gonna do a lil softblock spree soon ... give this a like if u still want to hang out w me ... or even if u still wanna pass each other in the hallway and make brief eye contact while doing the debby ryan hair push smirk and keep walking ... bc one day im gonna trip u or something so that we do talk but for now im also debby ryan-ing as i make my way thru the list i can only reach out to so many people at once in a day yk :)

[sparrowposting]

So IM the bad guy for refusing to coddle my 40 something year old manchild uncle who has no emotional maturity and freaks the fuck out anytime something doesn't go 100% his way

[syn0vial]

the whole “treat others how you want to be treated” line sounds so easy, but i am finding things immensely complicated by the fact that, in truth, there are many people who do NOT want to be treated the way i want to be treated and will take offense if i try

[girlbob-boypants]

Tried out Path of Exile last night btw

My first impressions aren't great. Mainly because any game that routes the almost universally used map button, M, to bring up the Microtransaction Shop isn't doing itself any favors.