#website scaling

[bobwp]

📍 📍 📍 📍 📍 📍 📍 📍 📍 I think it's a lot about where the customer is in their business and what they need. I think most people can get away on just a shared hosting account and save some money, to put towards other things, especially a new business that's just starting out.

It's always interesting problem to solve because WordPress is single threaded. It's not cloud aware. So you really have to be aware of that when you're building out these plans and really the easiest solution is just a more powerful server. So we've really taken some time into testing a lot of different hardware and our AMD EPYC dedicated servers are very performant

and I'm not aware of anyone that's been moved to one of those servers and had problems scaling that they didn't have money to pay for more servers, because at that point, if your store is that busy, hopefully you're making enough money to be able to support that infrastructure and so that's been my experience with it, but most people jump from shared to VPS and

that's always an interesting move because depending on what they pick for a dedicated server, because WordPress is single threaded, they might have a different experience on shared than they did with dedicated because that server was faster, technically, clockwise. And then on the dedicated plan, it's not as fast, but it is more consistent and they're not sharing resources with people.

And at that point, we can begin to help them tune and optimize the server so that it can be performant for them and you're not battling against other people on the server. So the challenge is always moving them to shared, helping them understand the expectations of VPS that maybe it won't be quite as quick.

And, but you're going to be able to run your site consistently and it's not going to go down, even if there's a burst in traffic.

Justin Mazzi, A2 Hosting

[anneapocalypse]

If you can't explain to me how your moderation goals for a platform won't be weaponized against marginalized groups and the steps you will put in place to prevent that then I don't trust your aims for moderation. That does not mean I am anti-moderation; it means that rules have to be consistently enforceable within the ranges of actual human behavior and you need to consider contingencies for edge cases and contingencies for those contingencies, you need to ask yourself what can go wrong and what steps you will take to prevent abuses of the system.

[sprainedankleproductions]

incredibly niche post I suspect but please someone you see the vision right?

[epersonae]

tumblr android app most irritating "feature" - get through scrolling dozens and dozens of posts, just chillin, hit the the like button and instantly popped to the top of the dash. wtf my dude

[sweaterkittensahoy]

Tumblr rando: OMG never thought I'd get into the "want to fuck the old man" club!!!

Me: (Looks up the ages of the 'old men')

My 42-year-old ass: Honey, I have to go on a murder spree.

Sean (with a 40-year-old ass): I've spoken to our lawyers. They consider it murder.

Me: Someone is defining "old man" as a 53-year-old and a 49-year-old.

Sean: Hmmmm.

[purityvalentine]

anyway, i'm not gonna give my two cents on twitter because i really don't care to validation farm on the validation farming website, but i do worry for all the people who have been posting the si*der situation about not trusting people ever again

getting backstabbed hurts and it sucks, and yeah, there are always people who are going to do it, even if they wouldn't have in the past, especially in spaces where people view each other as competition or so on, but it's definitely not worth it to lose your faith in every potential person too

[tchaikovskaya]

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[planetnine]

manifestations these days are like "I will never let any of my stories get eaten by big publishing. All of my narrative work will get to keep its teeth and there will only be a small audience who loves it and will sniff it out like a shark smelling blood. amen"

[sergle]

Now I’m curious, what breeds are on your list?

✨Golden Retrievers✨ Pomeranians Samoyeds Rottweilers Irish red setters German Shepherd (I like the black ones) Rough Collies and Shelties Great Pyrenees Bernese Mountain Dogs Cocker Spaniels St. Bernards Borzois and probably more that I forgot to list!! These are all dogs that I Especially want to cry when I see them, and that I could see myself loving / being able to meet the particular needs of their breed. I've expanded my Range a little in the two years since I brought Hugo home, since he's taught me a lot about dogs, and I could potentially take care of a baby with very different needs from the ones that he had. I'm still by no means a dog expert but. Yanno. You learn small things over time! In the end, when I was searching for a dog a few years ago, I had a few qualifications I didn't want to budge on. I needed a dog that's trainable, but not stubborn, a dog that's gentle and considerate with my cats and my niblings, a dog that's not too reactive, a dog with soft fur, and a dog that is affectionate. So... Hugo is all of those things!!! He picks up skills quickly and listens (I gotta work on his Recall though), he takes extreme care around the cats and is so careful that he can be left alone with kittens and baby chicks, so being sat on / bothered / tugged on by small kids isn't even a challenge. He has never growled at anyone or anything in Irritation in his life. He's never bared his teeth. He doesn't bark at strangers or at odd noises, he doesn't snap as a response to being surprised. He's extremely pillowy soft, and his fur doesn't irritate my skin or pierce my clothes. He is extremely, extremely sweet and loving, frankly to the point that he would easily fall in love with a new owner if he was kidnapped lmao. You can maybe see why I like goldens so much. I got REALLY close to adopting a Pomeranian, which I'll continue to Think About, basically forever... but as someone with a predisposition for migraines, I don't want to set the dog up for failure if I'm not ready to hear bark bark bark bark bark bark bark all day. That's the ONLY downside. Maybe I invest in some noise cancelling headphones? They're beautiful dogs though, I love an animal that looks like a little rat. You ever see one of them after a bath? My god.

[cosmossystem]

hey, uh – i don't really want to come at you because i think you have a decent point, but you can be a trans man, lesbian, and on testosterone all at the same time (source: i am one). while i think there may be some people like that, i also think that a lot of them choose to call themselves lesbians because they are lesbian trans men/transmascs, not straight trans men

i don't want to come across as condescending, so i apologize if i am, but i don't like the insinuation that all trans men attracted to women are strictly straight, because a lot of us have complicated relationships with our sexuality and gender

Hi. i will not be articulating myself very well in parts of this. so please bare with me & assume that i have a good faith argument here, not one built on hate but rather built on both inclusion and introspection. that 'introspection' part is key in my politics. Also, when i say "you", i mean it in a general sense, not "you" directly as the asker here. i don't know you personally and i'm not trying to tell you how to live your life.

so, to your ask specifically: i know that, and acknowledged that in the post even, but i don't think it detracts from my point.

i'm not saying you (general) can't be a man AND a butch lesbian. i'm sure you can! there are plenty. but i'm saying if you are to a point where you are kicking and screaming that you can never ever never be a straight trans man... why? what's stopping you, aside from comfort in the lesbian label? what's so comfortable about it, to you, as a man?

i get having a complicated relationship with gender. (i have one too, believe it or not.) but... listen. take it from someone who has tried their entire life to explain their feelings away. you cannot simply slap a label on a complex feeling and call it a day. you need to address the feeling.

i guess at the end of the day (and this is me personally, i'm not trying to make a statement or something) i'm not really seeing why you would want to label it as lesbian attraction as opposed to literally anything else. THAT'S why i made my post -- this attachment to the idea that a 'queer' attraction MUST be gay/lesbian, when really, it's a queer relationship because the people inside of it are queer. 'straight' is a bit of a misnomer here. to me, these terms are descriptors moreso than they are full-fledged identities -- however, it seems the folks in question are treating it moreso as identities, which i get... but also don't get.

ok, here is where i DO make a statement: there is a serious problem of trans men's identities not being seen as enough because they're men. this is just fact. questioning trans men will do absolutely anything to avoid accepting a binary male identity -- including and especially identifying as things like butch, nonbinary, or genderfluid when really if they were to kill the transphobe in their heads, they would find that they're happier as a man. sure, these things can coexist with maleness, but more often they are used as "stepping stones" so to speak. this is why movements like forcemasc/autoandrophilia are so popular; because for decades, it's been told that if you're a trans man, you are 'not queer enough', because we associate queerness with femininity. (the history of that is one of my special interests, but unless you want my 20ish-page WIP thesis, that's a convo for another day.)

right now i'll just say that communities on tumblr are REALLY adamant that you can be many things at once. and that's great and all, because you can! we all contain multitudes. but if you just accept things at face-value, it does nothing to confront that internalized transphobia in your head. you need to be asking *why* a label/identity/descriptor/etc resonates with you.

it boils down to then, i suppose, if the word 'lesbian' is really a necessary term/descriptor for any reason other than comfort. which, once again, comfort is a valid reason... but were it me, i would also want to challenge that comfort.

are you a lesbian because you feel like you "need" to be a lesbian for your queer attraction towards women to "count"? are you a lesbian because historically, lesbianism has been close with butchness and transness? are you a lesbian because it's convenient? because of history? why are you so strongly adamant that you MUST be a butch transmasculine lesbian? is there a voice in your head saying that you "can't" be a man attracted to women, because if you are then it will "detract" from your queer identity? why do you cling so hard to being a not-woman, but refuse to even entertain the idea of being a man instead? and if you are comfortable being a man, how is the lesbian label (historically associated with women who like women) serving you? i'm not saying it can't, i want you (not me) to answer how.

i'm not intending to say that i know more than you about who you are. i simply mean to say that often, it's a misdiagnosis of sorts. i have this same problem with folks who have dozens of microlabels or sets of pronouns. again, there's nothing wrong with it necessarily, but it begs the question of if ALL of that is necessary, if ALL of that feels 'true' to yourself, if ALL of that is a crucial part of your identity.

is it how you are happiest? is it the most accurate way to describe yourself?

let me use my personal experience to explain better what i mean. for a while, i refused to acknowledge being a trans man in any capacity. i identified for a good chunk of time as nonbinary, and even as a nonbinary lesbian when i was really young, and for over a decade i always explained away why i 'couldn't' transition, or why testosterone 'just wasn't for me.' (i read a great article about this recently, btw.) because i couldn't be a man--i just couldn't, that was off limits--but, oh, i could NEVER be a woman. for the majority of my pubescent life i refused to acknowledge to be anywhere NEAR womanhood. i wasn't a man, but i certainly WASN'T a woman.

and because of that rejection of womanhood, i did anything in my power to distance myself from liking women or even feeling a connection to womanhood. it's like being anywhere adjacent to femininity 'tarnished' me somehow. i am only just now starting to come to terms with an attraction to women and i still haven't gotten out of that rut yet, and hell sometimes i start to think i might be genderfluid--but because i pushed away any possible connections with femininity, i would have never accepted that. similarly, i'm only just now going on testosterone after having battled my entire teenage years with why i didn't need it.

the point of my post wasn't that you can't be happy as an xyz; rather that we often use these straddling identities that seem contradictory because we have conflict somewhere in ourselves that is unresolved. i was genderfluid, i was a transmasculine lesbian, i was a gay nonbinary person-- and all of those are respectable labels to use which i have no problems with, but they weren't serving to address my underlying problems. they did nothing to address why i felt the way i did, why i used those labels.

it's one thing to use a label, it's another to identify with it.

ultimately, not everyone is going to see identity in the same way i do. and i understand that and i respect it. for some people it's a fun little game or they like collecting words and flags. but i think when you treat it that way, when you collect these labels without crucially examining why you feel that way, or when you use a term because it's what is most comfortable to you without examining why it's comforting, you are essentially refusing to examine yourself critically. no, you aren't required to do it, but the longer it goes unexamined, the bigger a problem it becomes.

once again, if you (general 'you', not asker) come away from it all and are truly, fully happy as a trans male butch lesbian, that's great, i might not get it but i don't need to, and i wish you the best in life as your beautiful self. but i think it's something to think about that we (for lack of better term) encourage so much overlap of labels. the overlap exists, and i recognize that it does--at the end of the day, other people's identities is none of my business, and i'm just pointing out that too many people are not enough people are addressing their real feelings (which i'd like to remind you, dear asker, that was the point of my post.) but i also have to note--if you are adamant about being a not-woman, i would imagine you would want as far away from a label that historically has applied pretty exclusively to women as possible. i sure did. well, ultimately it's not for me to decide.

i have a lot more to say, but to be honest, i don't think tumblr is where i'm going to get full-blown academic-level good-spirited discourse about the historical usage of terms like 'lesbian' and 'dyke' so i'm just going to stop here. Sorry if something didn't make sense or seemed like i'm putting an entire community of people down.

[southern--downpour]

I HATE PROGRAMMING

[ourladyoftheflytrap]

Made fresh lemonade tonight. Ratio was messed up

[fortune-maiden]

On the sorta topic of fanwork commissions, is the “digital artist” plague on ff dot net going to end anytime soon >.>

[clumsypuppy]

man ok so you know the spiciness scale on menus that show you how spicy a dish is so you can order based on your tolerance. can we have that for sauces too please

[jichanxo]

hobbs and joiner, who are @four-white-trees' ocs! these sure are some guys...

less clothed version under the cut (because i didn't go to all the effort of making all these layers to not show em)

[opens-up-4-nobody]

Sometimes I want to create naruto polls. Then I look at the results of other naruto polls. And I'm like no. The people are wrong. They don't understand.