#you dont owe anyone a thing

[the-amber-droid-dreams]

i hate the emphasis on beauty in trans narratives. i hate that trans people are told not to transition because it'd make us ugly. i hate that transition timelines are only celebrated when the end result is some magical transformation towards conventional beauty standards

transition is not lifesaving because it makes us beautiful. we do not NEED to be beautiful. transition is lifesaving period.

[andoutofharm]

i have a special kind of annoyance for people who say fall out boy (or any band!) look “sad” or “bored” because they’re standing still while playing or have a serious expression like. just say you know nothing about them and also have zero respect for neurodivergent people and/or people who’ve had surgeries that restrict their movement and go

[reel-fear]

MIKE BLOCKED ME ON TWITTER FOR ROASTING HIS DUMBASS RESPONSE TO THE GRAPHIC NOVEL STUFF!!

grown ass man scared of the 19-year-old queer being mean to him over his public meltdown more at 8.

[kxllerblond]

Happy Tuesday everyone, I will now be unloading unsolicited opinions about the RPC.

People take 'This is a hobby!!' way too far to the point you are not taking into account other real people also exist and are only thinking about yourself and it can come across as scummy and self-absorbed and a lot of people use the 'just a hobby!' to excuse this shitty behavior and an inability to communicate with other hobby enjoyers like adults.

No one should get mad at people for dropping threads or not being active, but it's also super shitty to just ghost people and go 'teehee just a hobby so you aren't allowed to be upset!'. Like, yeah, you have limited time and a real life but so does?? everyone else on here?? It's super not cool to just invalidate people who are upset their limited time is, in their view, being wasted.

Obviously, I'm not defending people that don't just unfollow or block and move on and who get passive aggro about it all. And I'm also not calling out the people that don't do much but are like PRESENT to some degree even if it's just ooc shitposting.

I mainly mean the people I see who refuse to do threads, to answer asks, to communicate when stuff is being dropped to some degree, to participate and be social in any capacity and then get kinda pissy when no one wants to send them shit anymore. Like you are entitled to exist and participate in this hobby as you see fit....but it is a social hobby. You HAVE to give to get and if people pin you as someone who only takes, they're going to stop giving. None of us have little meow meows that are so interesting that we can just expect people to frolic to them and gush about them and shower them with interaction without some sort of reciprocation.

And, frankly, I don't think there's room to complain when that happens. You can't have your cake and eat it too in this scenario. You can 'this is just a hobby!' your way through things how you like, but you also have to realize the consequences of that and you can't be upset when they come down on you and your blog.

[pageofheartdj]

I wish people would not hold so rigidly for terms ofin a community that still explores itself.

[misfithive]

Marcus and Nice Guy Syndrome ™️

I think what bothers me most about marcus is that he is the kind of “nice guy” that claims they are a “nice guy”. But really they are only “nice” if you are showing interest in them and then the second you aren’t they turn into the most spiteful cruel person. The kind of “nice guy” who thinks that because they are “nice” you owe them some kind of attention or affection or a relationship. Like thank u for being nice, thats the bare minimum. There is more to wanting to be with someone than that. And then when u dont wanna be with them its like “see this is why you get treated like shit. U choose horrible guys who treat u bad when i’m right here and u dont appreciate me”. Hmm suddenly u aren’t sounding so nice anymore.

It’s interesting bc a lot if women experience this and i always kind of thought it was some level of misogyny or something? Idk. But to see the same thing play out in Marcus and Simon’s dynamic was just so familiar to me. And it actually kind of bothers me that when the cast talks about it (besides Omar) they are like oh Marcus is so nice whats not to love about Marcus. And its like kind of meta or something that they are even replicating this expectation in a way. That bc someone is seemingly nice (even tho we saw how thinly veiled that niceness was) u should love them. Like all Marcus had going for him was being supposedly “nice” compared with Simon who Wille have a deep bond, trust, intimacy, +compassion for one another. Being simply “nice” does not compete.

[shieldwife]

also worth saying that this is driving me to writing thg fanfic bc I'm genuinely pissed off, but my favourite way of engaging with thg isn't even with canon characters at this point. it's through thinking about two ocs I've had for years that I mentally refer to as "toxic fishermen yuri", and I'm incapable of writing extensively abt anything related to thg that doesn't involve them lol

[llycaons]

mostly good advice however the commanding sentance structure grates. as if some of these are easy....also this

obviously thinking critically is a skill that needs to be honed but 'simply discern What To Do' unfortunately I have bad judgement and every single time I've tried to do either of these I've regretted it. sad! well there's other goals

[rivilu]

hm...

[ieatsmallorphansnamedtom]

Hi guys! I'm closing requests

I'm sure at least some of you saw this coming. I mean, I haven't been active aside from the occasional reblog for a good while now. Unfortunately, I don't expect this to be the only time this happens. I expect my interest in Stardew Valley will come back sometime, but as to when it could be in a few weeks, a few months, or hell, even a year if it's really bad.

These creative dips can be really unexpected and hard to manage. I can't force myself to get back into stuff, and my interest in SDV fluctuating like this has gone on since I first became introduced to it. I've had experiences where I'd be staying up late every night because I couldn't get enough of it before suddenly not wanting to play it ever again. And it's the same the other way around. I'll have no interest in the game for the longest time and then all of a sudden, I've made a Tumblr blog for it.

I wouldn't say this is the end of the blog yet, although, who knows what will happen. But I still think that someday I will come back to it, even if that's way into the future. But even if the end does come soon, I'm only one of so many wonderful creators in the SDV community! There are more talented writers out there (though I assume if you've followed me, you'd probably be aware of some others, haha).

I was keeping requests open for when I did come back, but I feel like it's making me harder to want to write. It's just feeling each new request is a new pressure to take care of. Hense why I'm closing them.

Sorry to everyone whose request I haven't gotten to. Especially the ones that have been sitting in my inbox/drafts for who knows how long. Hopefully I'll be able to get back to them in the future!

Anyways, the inbox is still open if you need to tell me something. I'm not really into general chats in the askbox but if there's something I need to know then go ahead. And I'll still reblog some stuff I find cool, so the blog isn't completely gone.

TL;DR: I haven't had interest in SDV for ages, likely won't for a while, and getting requests is pushing me away from writing for Stardew. But I'll still reblog stuff and the asks are open for necessities.

[videogamelover99]

Just saw a post and I guess I'm gonna have to bite the bullet and say this controversial hot take but:

If you are posting something for free, no one owes you interaction for your work.

Not likes, or reblogs, or comments or kudos. No one is obligated to give you feedback. No one is obligated to give me feedback. At the end of the day, you're posting something because you decided you want it to be out there, and no positive interaction with your work is guaranteed.

Is it common curtesy to leave a like on a piece of art or writing you enjoy? Sure.

Is it benefitial to you, the reader, to leave a comment, because if you want to see more from an artist or writer, interacting with their work will make it more likely they will post more? Sure.

No one is obligated to do anything here. It's all about if there is incentive, and if posting online is the equivalent of posting on a locked page that no one sees, those insentives for the artist are gone. They can still draw, but they don't have to post any of their work.

Everyone talks about how unfair it is that us creators don't get enough feedback, but like, what about the other way around? Leaving a kudos or likes isn't much, but leaving a comment? Some tags? And receiving radio silence in answer? Yeah, that kinda sucks too. What incentives do people have for leaving comments? Because that still takes a good amount of effort if it's not a generic "nice".

[gynecologistmsfrizzle]

idk how people live without blacklisting tags. i love it. feature that genuinely improved my life on this site a billion percent

[rathayibacter]

as an anarchist i keep coming back to this thought of a setting where authority has real, tangible, magical power. your boss, the president, cops on the street, they all have (different and varying, but very clear and tangible) control over you. what does this change about the world? about anarchism? about the kinds of futures that are possible?

[wavebiders]

Just as a heads up to anyone who follows me for cr stuff, I'm probably gonna step away from campaign 3 for a little bit. I've been seeing the beginnings of the cr2 fandom situation for a while now and I wanna get some emotional distance from it to avoid another cast of characters being ruined for me

[bf-xml]

🎤 Look he’s pogging lol

🎤 I wonder what he’s missed...maybe the tags will give a hint or two.

(That means read the tags teehee thank you)

[todayisafridaynight]

Prior to sending the ask I was just guessing what matrophobia meant based on the root words but I looked it up after and went ohhhh and then you confirmed that extra dimension to it and I went OHHHHH

I think that gets to the heart of what I've been thinking about, that bittersweetness, because despite his best efforts... of course he could never end up anything like Yoko, but he still ended up with an abusive "household." Because in addition to Masato ending up how he did, he has to see those same situations play out, feel that same tension in the air between Jo and Ichi, over and over for almost a decade straight.

Like, in a way, he's forced to put himself in Toshio's shoes when that happens. He can't really get through to Jo, in the same way Toshio can't get through to Yoko, but he can try to step in before lasting damage is done, and he can try to make it bearable for his son. You know. Have a nice talk. Treat him to Peking duck. I'm SO normal about the (drawn-out) parallels of those scenes

So then with Jo... he kind of does become his father, even if he never wanted to (no one wants to), both through his ruinous neglect of Masato at birth and through how he comes to look at discipline and corporal punishment. I'm sure it's not lost on him in Masato's case (owww), but with Ichi, it's not like he has any reason to see him as his son... But How Far Can That Take You.

Because it's like, at the start, he was openly beating Ichi in front of Arakawa and not letting up much when Arakawa intervened. But then you have The Yubitsume Scene and Arakawa walking in on All That and... he looks sorry. Sorry for being caught, probably, but sorry nonetheless. Like... what changed between then and now... have you two had a Heartfelt Conversation... do you know where Arakawa got that scar... are you unable to change your "nature" even then...

Side note bro your SHOE is the size of his TORSO I promise you do not need to kick him with all the strength you've got like what the hell is this 😭😭😭

BUT ALL THAT ASIDE thank you so much for delving into the symbolism! Wonderful read. I don't really have an eye for symbolism, so that makes it all the more enjoyable to revisit the comic and everything with what you've gone into. I think a lot of your experiences resonate with mine, so conversely I'm not sure what others would take away from it, BUT I think there's enough there that's so insightful and evocative that it's effective without personal experience. I don't think there's anything I could add, so. Yeah. For once I am happy to sit back and take it all in... On that note, definitely looking forward to your next comic!

AUUUGH YEAAAH YEAHEYA HYEAH THAT EXACTLY OUUUGH OWIEE OWW.....

that's literally it though. like no extra notes. except The Obligatory Few i dont think it was an accident that arakawa is set up as the beginning of the game's 'protagonist' and planting that 'troubled family' taste first thing in our mind. i remember how i felt when i first saw arakawa walk in on jo and ichi and then arakawa taking ichi out for dinner i was just like🧍‍♂️Girl No The Cycle.... It's Continuing...... //screams// LIKE UGH IT WAS SO GOOD BUT ALSO OWWW STOPPP and then on the REPLAY it just hurts more cause with the added context to jo's character its like Oh No...... You're Your Father's Son....

and youre right: jo doesn't have an implicit reason to see how he treats ichi is wrong, hence he similarly doesnt have any reason to stop- not unless arakawa intervenes of course (and i will stand outside my window thinking of the possibility arakawa ever did try to have A Conversation with jo... arms folded behind my back and all like Man™️....)

oh but yeah, absolutely no problem ! im lowkey of an egotist so i do like to talk bout the stuff i make. More In Depth (though thats obvious considering the fuckin essays in the tags i always leave ☠️☠️) gerjlgaELKjg. so i was happy to explain ♪(´▽｀) !! what i like about symbolism is that it can be intentional or not, and the fun is always finding it just by chance. i cant explain it properly, but i just think its a neat 'seasoning' of sorts to drawings (❁´◡`❁)