#youth pride

[n0nesence]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 💗🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

This month is all about accepting people, reflecting on past struggles the community have and still face on a day to day basis. This is a month when a lot of people find bravery to come out to the people closest to them

Pride month is also a reminder on how much more work has to be done to support youth queer and trans kids. It is a huge problem with the discrimination, violence and harassment. None of it is needed for a person when life is hard enough as it is these days.

This month is also a time to remember all the people who have, in fact, been killed for being in the community; both children/teens and older people.

Other than that, this month is a time for the gays, gals and non-binary pals to slay 😘💃💗

[pennymaykittensworld]

Hope you enjoy the view ? 🤍

[hyperlexichypatia]

As I keep shouting into the void, pathologizers love shifting discussion about material conditions into discussion about emotional states.

I rant approximately once a week about how the brain maturity myth transmuted “Young adults are too poor to move out of their parents’ homes or have children of their own” into “Young adults are too emotionally and neurologically immature to move out of their parents’ homes or have children of their own.”

I’ve also talked about the misuse of “enabling” and “trauma” and “dopamine” .

And this is a pattern – people coin terms and concepts to describe material problems, and pathologization culture shifts them to be about problems in the brain or psyche of the person experiencing them. Now we’re talking about neurochemicals, frontal lobes, and self-esteem instead of talking about wages, wealth distribution, and civil rights. Now we can say that poor, oppressed, and exploited people are suffering from a neurological/emotional defect that makes them not know what’s best for themselves, so they don’t need or deserve rights or money.

Here are some terms that have been so horribly misused by mental health culture that we’ve almost entirely forgotten that they were originally materialist critiques.

Codependency What it originally referred to: A non-addicted person being overly “helpful” to an addicted partner or relative, often out of financial desperation. For example: Making sure your alcoholic husband gets to work in the morning (even though he’s an adult who should be responsible for himself) because if he loses his job, you’ll lose your home. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/08/opinion/codependency-addiction-recovery.html What it’s been distorted into: Being “clingy,” being “too emotionally needy,” wanting things like affection and quality time from a partner. A way of pathologizing people, especially young women, for wanting things like love and commitment in a romantic relationship.

Compulsory Heterosexuality What it originally referred to: In the 1980 in essay "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence," https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/abs/10.1086/493756 Adrienne Rich described compulsory heterosexuality as a set of social conditions that coerce women into heterosexual relationships and prioritize those relationships over relationships between women (both romantic and platonic). She also defines “lesbian” much more broadly than current discourse does, encompassing a wide variety of romantic and platonic relationships between women. While she does suggest that women who identify as heterosexual might be doing so out of unquestioned social norms, this is not the primary point she’s making. What it’s been distorted into: The patronizing, biphobic idea that lesbians somehow falsely believe themselves to be attracted to men. Part of the overall “Women don’t really know what they want or what’s good for them” theme of contemporary discourse.

Emotional Labor What it originally referred to: The implicit or explicit requirement that workers (especially women workers, especially workers in female-dominated “pink collar” jobs, especially tipped workers) perform emotional intimacy with customers, coworkers, and bosses above and beyond the actual job being done. Having to smile, be “friendly,” flirt, give the impression of genuine caring, politely accept harassment, etc. https://weld.la.psu.edu/what-is-emotional-labor/ What it’s been distorted into: Everything under the sun. Everything from housework (which we already had a term for), to tolerating the existence of disabled people, to just caring about friends the way friends do. The original intent of the concept was “It’s unreasonable to expect your waitress to care about your problems, because she’s not really your friend,” not “It’s unreasonable to expect your actual friends to care about your problems unless you pay them, because that’s emotional labor,” and certainly not “Disabled people shouldn’t be allowed to be visibly disabled in public, because witnessing a disabled person is emotional labor.” Anything that causes a person emotional distress, even if that emotional distress is rooted in the distress-haver’s bigotry (Many nominally progressive people who would rightfully reject the bigoted logic of “Seeing gay or interracial couples upsets me, which is emotional labor, so they shouldn’t be allowed to exist in public” fully accept the bigoted logic of “Seeing disabled or poor people upsets me, which is emotional labor, so they shouldn’t be allowed to exist in public”).

Battered Wife Syndrome What it originally referred to: The all-encompassing trauma and fear of escalating violence experienced by people suffering ongoing domestic abuse, sometimes resulting in the abuse victim using necessary violence in self-defense. Because domestic abuse often escalates, often to murder, this fear is entirely rational and justified. This is the reasonable, justified belief that someone who beats you, stalks you, and threatens to kill you may actually kill you.

What it’s been distorted into: Like so many of these other items, the idea that women (in this case, women who are victims of domestic violence) don’t know what’s best for themselves. I debated including this one, because “syndrome” was a wrongful framing from the beginning – a justified and rational fear of escalating violence in a situation in which escalating violence is occurring is not a “syndrome.” But the original meaning at least partially acknowledged the material conditions of escalating violence.

I’m not saying the original meanings of these terms are ones I necessarily agree with – as a cognitive liberty absolutist, I’m unsurprisingly not that enamored of either second-wave feminism or 1970s addiction discourse. And as much as I dislike what “emotional labor” has become, I accept that “Women are unfairly expected to care about other people’s feelings more than men are” is a true statement.

What I am saying is that all of these terms originally, at least partly, took material conditions into account in their usage. Subsequent usage has entirely stripped the materialist critique and fully replaced it with emotional pathologization, specifically of women. Acknowledgement that women have their choices constrained by poverty, violence, and oppression has been replaced with the idea that women don’t know what’s best for themselves and need to be coercively “helped” for their own good. Acknowledgement that working-class women experience a gender-and-class-specific form of economic exploitation has been rebranded as yet another variation of “Disabled people are burdensome for wanting to exist.”

Over and over, materialist critiques are reframed as emotional or cognitive defects of marginalized people. The next time you hear a superficially sympathetic (but actually pathologizing) argument for “Marginalized people make bad choices because…” consider stopping and asking: “Wait, who are we to assume that this person’s choices are ‘bad’? And if they are, is there something about their material conditions that constrains their options or makes the ‘bad’ choice the best available option?”

[a-gay-poptart]

Say their name.

CW AND TW: CHILD DEATH

Say.

Their.

Name.

Nex Benedict was a indigenous trans nonbinary teenager. Their head was beaten against the floor in a bathroom stall. Less than 24 hours later, they died, most likely from undiagnosed head trauma. Conservatives say they want to, "protect the children", where was the protection for Nex? That's the thing. There wasn't any. Nex died. And many more trans, queer, and nonbinary minors will if we don't step up and do something. What happened to Nex has and will happen to queer folk around the globe. Say their name.

Edit: I didn't expect this to get much attention, but thank you everyone. What alot of people, "forget" to mention was that Nex was two spirited, which means they were indigenous. The fact that I wouldn't have heard about this if I didn't have Tumblr is absolutely revolting. News needs to be covering this. But what are Republicans doing? Sucking their thumbs and crying about how, "trans people shouldn't be able to piss". What are Democrats doing? Twiddling their thumbs and groveling to an old geezer that somehow falls up the stairs and supports I$r3@l. It's disgusting and America needs to do better.

Edit 2: Any and all hate/saying that Nex Benedict wasn't murdered (they were) will immediately get deleted, just because you don't like trans people doesn't mean you can be an whiny little bitch. A child was murdered. This has nothing to do with politics, a child was murdered.

[itgetsbetterproject]

🌈 DIGITAL PRIDE is back for 2024 and this time we're building an entire PRIDE VILLAGE in Minecraft!

Not all LGBTQ+ youth have access to in-person Pride events or parades.

Not all LGBTQ+ youth are out and open about their identities.

But everyone is welcome to join Digital Pride virtually - that's why we're bringing it back for a 5th year!

🟣 Starting June 6, some of your fave Minecraft creators will be joining a charity build relay as they stream builds that represent what Pride means to them to create a collective Pride Village. Lineup reveal coming soon, promise!

🟣 Then, on June 13, you can join us on our Twitch channel for the grand finale event as we open the server so you can join our super cozy virtual space for LGBTQ+ youth to connect with community virtually!

🟣 And of course, you can watch more Pride streams from our It Gets Better Ambassadors on our Twitch channel all month long in June.

Plus, the extra good stuff: All of our Digital Pride streams and activations throughout June will serve as fundraisers to support our work to uplift, empower, and connect LGBTQ+ youth around the globe.

Can't wait to start building this cozy, virtual safe space with you all!

[baileyarcher30]

Would you let your asshole get drilled by my little rabbit down there🔞🥵

Reblog trans lover and drop a comment run if you want it get drilled by me.💦🔞

[williamjamezzz]

Going to a pride event with my boyfriend on the third and he said I can do his nails on Thursday!!!

[juneheale3]

For how long would you let me top you☺️?

Reblog trans lovers🥵

[aubryjoi]

Let trans kids become trans adults 🩵🏳️‍⚧️🩷

[ingravinoveritas]

David's video for the #TransYouthAreLoved campaign.

[galacticjonah]

Now more than ever < 3

Made this a while ago and never posted it online. There is a lot that could be said about the topic but the fury and pain make it hard to really express anything beyond well...the urge to protect our own.

[pennymaykittensworld]

Am I in a inviting enough position for you ?

[hyperlexichypatia]

Every form of abuse commonly perpetuated by parents is also commonly perpetuated by teachers and therapists.

Every form of abuse commonly perpetuated by teachers is also commonly perpetuated by parents and therapists.

Every form of abuse commonly perpetuated by therapists is also commonly perpetuated by parents and teachers.

Yet discussion of abuse by any one of those agents is always met with the response that the other two agents can solve it, like a constant, depressing three-way loop.

If you respond to abuse by teachers with "This is why parents need to be more involved!" and respond to abuse by parents with "This is why therapists should be more involved!" and respond to abuse by therapists with "Parents and teachers should stop this!" then... what happens to kids who have parents, teachers, and therapists who are all abusive in the exact same way? Which is... quite a common scenario?

[killrisma]

Good day to the animators who put the “protect trans kids” flag in the new Spiderverse movie and to them only

[arieldemure488]

Would you love me to get my bell right here unveil om you?🔞

Reblog trans lovers and I'm gonna unveil that to you🔞🥵

[baileyarcher30]

Do you want to have what’s down there?👇 😊

Reblog and drop a heart if you want that 🔞🥵