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I don't think people understand that the USA can't continue to be a free country if people try to limit others freedom of choice, if a person doesn't have the right to make their own decisions, then it's not a free country. if you want to ban things like abortion, trans surgeries, gay marriage, or whatever, then you don't believe nor want to be in a free country.

if you believe in freedom, then you need to keep to yourself and just mind your own business regarding things that do not involve you, it is none of your business if someone wants an abortion, it doesn't concern you. it's none of your business if someone wants a sex change, it doesn't concern you. it's none of your business if someone wants to marry someone of the same sex, it doesn't concern you. it doesn't matter if a deaf person wants a cochlear implant or not, it doesn't concern you.

I know for DAMN sure it doesn't concern me, I can't get pregnant and even IF I could, someone getting abortion DOESN'T mean I HAVE to, I'm not looking for a sex change, and just because they are getting one doesn't mean everyone HAS TO get one, I'm Aroace, I ain't marring anyone and even if I was, just because someone is marrying someone of the same sex DOESN'T MEAN I have to, and I don't need a cochlear implant can hear perfectly fine and even if I can't whatever some other deaf people personally want, DOESN'T force me to make that same decision, so suprise suprise, just like most of you, NONE of these are decisons that effect me OR ANYBODY ELSE, they ONLY effect the ones who make these decisions.

AS SOON as you try to dictate others actions and get rid of their freedom of choice is the moment where you are infringing on others freedoms, if you take away that freedom for other people to make decisions then you are also taking those freedoms away from yourself.

and before you ask about "oh what about criminals do you think criminals should go and commit crimes" or "what about drugs?" and blah blah blah. That is a Strawman argument thus an invalid point to make, and I rather not waste my time with someone who is just going to make strawman arguments instead of actual arguments, I'm just going to block you or just ignore you and move on.

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I don't know if anyone would find this useful, but if someone is struggling to pass their written driver's permit test in 2024 (the questions change every year so if you are seeing this at a later date it might not be as useful to you), have issues studying and focusing on large amounts of infomation at once want to study from those study guides but can't afford one, I passed mine recently and the website said nothing about distributing it online so other people can study off of it too, so I decided to post pictures of it here so I can help other people with it.

I know it can get expensive if you fail it too many times, honestly I felt like the oldest person trying to get their permit there, and I don't want other people to shell out more money than they have to from constantly failing because they are bad test takers.

Note: Each US state is different, but some have similar tests, so I am not sure how effective this will be if you are not from the same state as me, but I didn't want to specify which state this is from due to privacy reasons and in case if it is accurate for another state's test and someone passes it up because it wasn't from their state even though the questions happened to also be on their state's test as well, I just want to help others pass.

sorry if they are out of order.

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this may be redundant at this point, but seriously what is with content creators being outed as p*dophiles so much recently? like don't get me wrong it is great to weed out the weirdos and stuff, but like is it p*dophila really THAT common or is the availability heuristic just doing its thing? like, I get it if it's accidental, kids can easily lie about their age on the internet and there are plenty of teens who dress and look like adults in their 20s, so honest mistakes do happen, and I won't damn someone on a honest mistake. but like 100% knowing they are underaged is just wrong. heck, I know theres going to people who will disagree with me on this one, because, it's the internet, but even if they are over 18, if your old enough to be their parent or grandparent, that's… just basically p*dophila but legal…

this may sound extremely stupid but, seriously is that hard not be attracted to children and try to get like... therapy or something for it? like if it is hard to get therapy, then... I feel like we should probably change that and make it easier to get therapy and treatment for it, expessially if it really is actually common and not just availability heuristic doing its thing. Even though I hate p*dophiles as much as the next sensible human being, if they want to change and better themselves, no matter who they are or what they done, who am I to judge or hate on a person for wanting to redeem themselves? Like, if they want therapy and help with their issue, they should be able to get help before they start harming or continue to harm children, but eh, I am just a person on the internet what do I know?

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Bruh, my younger sister literally just thought race is just skin color, (she also thought there were only two races) like no?? it's not????

I don't know who else needs to hear this, I sincerely hope most people know this already, but race ISN'T JUST SKIN COLOR It's multiple features that their ancestors have evolved to adapt and live in their environment.

Before I talk about this, keep in mind two things.

1.) please refrain from any racist or bigoted comments, this is about evolutionary traits, not your bigotry, if you cannot restrain yourself enough to be being a civilized person, then ignore this post and go touch some grass.

2.) I'll admit I did oversimplify things in this post to keep things easy to understand (there is more to this, if you are interested in a more indepth version, the internet has a lot of information for you to read and maybe watch if there are any videos about it, which there probably is.)

Now let's begin.

Sure, having different skin pigmentation levels is a trait that different races evolved to have. For example, white people's ancestors evolved to have lighter skin to asorb more vitamin D because colder areas tend to get less sunlight, while black people have darker skin because it protected them from ultraviolet radiation coming from the sun, since their ancestors lived in areas with more exposure to sunlight.

To put it simply, this is why people with darker skin are at risk for vitamin D deficiencies when they live in areas with limited amounts of sunlight, and fair skinned people get redder than a tomato when they stay in the sun for too long.

But, it's not the only trait, things like facial features are also a part of this, for example, not only can you figure out someone's age range from a human skull (this is by teeth examination btw), you can usually figure out their race from other structural features. (If you want to learn more about this, research forensic science. I could go into it myself but I am trying to keep this simple and not derail the post)

Though certain facial characteristics do not always have a clear reason for, like how it's unknown exactly why Asians' ancestors evolved to have a distinctive eye shape.

All in all, You can be black and be albino, thus having low skin pigmentation, but still it doesn't make you white,

Plus having dark skin doesn't automatically make you black anyway. For example people who are Hispanic/Latine, South-East Asian, Polynesian or Native American ect. usually have darker skin tones (though not always) but they are not black,

Same goes for having a light skin tone doesn't make you white, like light skinned Asian people aren't white, they're, well... Asian.

Skin pigmentation alone does not equal race, Race just tends to play a factor with skin pigmentation.

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Okay, alright, I don't know who needs to hear this, but I have to say this, and this is coming from an aro ace genderqueer person.

Telling kids gay people exist is VERY DIFFERENT than teaching kids s*xual content. If teaching bunch of kids young as 7-8 years old (like they did in my school, yes I live in the USA) highly explicit disturbing heterosexual content (that's probably why the lady told us to never talk about what happens in that class to anyone not even our parents ever) then telling those same kids about homosexuality shouldn't be any different in the slightest.

"Kids can't have a sexuality or a romantic orientation", I'll admit I do 100% agree with that statement.

Straight and Gay or romantic concepts in general are not understood the same way to a child as to an adult, a gay/lesbian adult when they were a child could have had "crushes" on someone of the opposite gender because they didn't understand what romantic love actually is, also it could be the result of heteronormative ideals making them mistake it for a crush, not until they are older and understand what it actually means to have romantic attraction to someone may the gay/lesbian person realize they were actually gay/lesbian.

The same can go the other way as well, a straight person when they were a child could have had "crushes" on the same gender because they didn't understand the concept of romantic attraction, and only realized it until they are older.

Aro and/or Ace adults during childhood could have had "crushes" on other kids not until they learn what romantic love actually is or what crushes actually are would they be able to understand that they are Aro/Ace.

HOWEVER, a gay/lesbian adult could have had same gender crushes during childhood, though this doesn't necessarily mean that they are gay/lesbian in the same way as an them as an adult or any gay/lesbian adult would be, but neither does it make their identity any less valid.

Heterosexuality and Homosexuality shouldn't be forced on children, but telling kids that not all women love men or not all men love women is perfectly fine. Telling kids that not all people are male or female, whether that's because they are Intersex (biological) or Non-Binary (Gender), helps kids learn about people who are different from them and perhaps even themselves.

I do believe Trans kids exist but ARE NOT the same as a transgender adults, Trans kids should be supported, love and accepted by their parents just like any other child should, I do agree they SHOULDN'T be allowed to have permanent/surgical transitions, but ABSOLUTELY should be allowed to explore interests, cross-dress, take hormone blockers, socially transition but NOTHING that is NOT reversable.

As children do not have the same understanding of these concepts as much as a mature adult would, they could grow up to be transgender as much as they can just grow up to be just a Tomboy/Janegirl and not transgender, they could also grow up to be non-binary. (whether or not you consider non-binary to count as transgender or something else, is up for debate and I hold no side in the matter as believe it's up to whether the non-binary individual conciders themselves as transgender) , but it should NEVER make it valid or right to EVER harm and punish your child for being different or push your child into being someone they are not, you should support and love your trans child no matter if they continue to identify as transgender or not regardless of age.

Gender has nothing to do with biology because it's something society has created, like money, politics and religion, (not war and sl*very because ants also practice warfare and sl*very believe it or not.).

a [woman/man] (sex) can be defined as "an adult [female(XX) / male(XY) human]", clearly referring to 2 out of multiple chromosome combinations in humans.

a [woman/man] (gender) can be defined as "a person who identifies and associated themselves with the traits that are socially seen and personality behaviors that society typically associated with a [female/male]". Clearly referring to a social construct created by humanity and not dependent on chromosomal combinations (XX, XY, X, XXY, XXYY, XYY, ect.)

I am NOT SAYING Biological sex is binary at ALL, biological sex is FAR from being binary, any biologist can tell you that, I am saying that telling kids gay/lesbian and transgender people exist is no different than telling kids that straight cisgender people exist.

Telling kids that not everyone is the same religion, not everyone thinks the same, not everyone is neurotypical, not everyone acts the same, not everyone is abled bodied, not everyone has the same culture, not everyone is the same race as you, not everyone is the same, is vital to raising children to love and respect other people as the grow up.

telling children that some girls like girls, some boys like boys, some girls/boys don't like boys nor girls or some boys/girls like both boys/girls, and some people aren't boys nor girls, is no different.

You don't have to agree with anyone to respect and love anyone.

Support and love your children and your fellow neighbor.

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Some people say "we can't show and represent LGBTQIA+ people, it's traumatic to the children!" or whatever, but as a person who was raised being told these guys don't exist and not truly learning of their existence until a few years ago, I am VERY GLAD I learned about LGBTQIA+!

Even if I wasn't aro-ace, I would still be happy to learn about them! Their history is inspiring, and empowering, and I love learning about people who are different from me, I love learning about people's religions and cultures, though I can sometimes disagree with their views, I still have respect for them as an individual (as long as they are being mutually respectful of my own and others views).

I just love to learn, and it feels like never learning things like LGBTQIA+ robs me of an opportunity to explore a new subject, and met new people and learn more about them!

I love diversity, everything will be EXTREMELY boring if everyone was the same, differences matter in the sense of it makes us unique and it's great to be your own individual, but differences don't matter in a sense where it is discriminatory.

I can't believe I have to say this part but, if you happen to be an Anti-Queer person, I'm going to warn you Tumblr is AN EXTREMELY LGBTQIA+ site and going in here is like willingly walking in a popular gay bar and being mad that gay people are in there.

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For the transphobes out there, If the bathrooms were only talking women (an adult female human, aka biological sex) and not women (society's artifical construct of what social, behavioral traits and characteristics are associated with a woman, aka gender), Then the restrooms would just say XX at this point.

If the restrooms only were labeled XX and XY, then were should people who are X, XXY, XXYY, XYY ect, go?

If it was only talking about biological sex, where do intersex people go? Both, neither? Whichever people would give them the least confused looks in?

If this is all SUCH a problem with you, what about instead of harassing people in the bathroom, (who sometimes may not be even Trans), do something productive and come to compromise by getting separated bathrooms for trans/non-binary people?

"Oh... but that may be expensive or tedious and take so much time to make!!" IF THAT WAS SUCH A PROBLEM, why go out of your way to harrass people or try to gatekeep a toliet? Make laws about it?

That seems very tedious to me.

If it's SO precious to you, then making another bathroom shouldn't be a big deal to you.

It's a toilet.

Stop being a whinny little toddler about a toilet.

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I don't usually make these, but this is just my take of how I think Susie and Noelle's relationship can go without feeling forced or whatever.

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Mate, I had to tell my friend that the proper English term that means the opposite of a Tomboy (a girl who portrays qualities that are considered boyish) , isn't a femboy (a modern slang term) but a Janegirl (a boy who portrays qualities that are concidered girlish)

And she looked at me like I just defined the most obscure word in the English dictionary.

Am I the only one who knew this?

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A IRL aro ace moment turned into an aro ace meme:

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It's about to hit us here in Oklahoma and the rest of the southern states that are not used to this level of cold.

Please take this seriously if you live somewhere this is going to impact significantly.

I just sincerely hope texas' power grid doesn't fail them again.

but at least a small blessing is that this isn't bringing much precipitation with it and the worst of it will be the wind.

Anyway. Stay inside, wear layers, and bundle up. Get your cold weather shit prepped now if you haven't yet.

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it boggles my mind how the hell there is transphobic and homophobic people on this site,

like logging into tumblr and hating LGBTQIA+ people is like walking into a gay bar and being mad they're gays there.

This is a queer-ass site, if you happened to be Anti-LGBTQ+ then it's no ones fault but yours that you willingly joined a social media platform that manages to gayer than the gay pride flag itself.

So suck it up and if you are going to complain about it and my post in general, then go wine at someone who actually gives a damn on what you have to say, because I am not giving you the luxury of wasting MY PRECIOUS TIME to listen to your bullshit.

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someone: *mistakes mu platonic relationship as romantic*

My AroAce ass: trying to figure out if they are just teasing and fully know we are just friends, forcing amtonormality (I probably spelt that wrong), or legit thought our interactions were romantic and fully understands and is aware purely platonic relationships exist and they just made a silly error 

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as much as I get, "take responsibility for your sexual promiscuity" , you can take as much of that as you want but none of it will:

unrape someone

make a fetus viable

make a pregancy non-fatal to the mother

solve a septic uterus 

make a baby wanted

make a child unpregnant

make an unpassible miscarriage passible

make the baby or the mother survive a complicated pregnancy

and if you want to cry and complain about that "these are not abortions" get your head out of your ass, and, I don't know, cry and complain to someone who actually gives a shit, because I certianly don't give a shit about anything you pro-lifers have to say, if you have a problem with that, do yourself a favor and don't waste neither of our time by trying to argue with me or even trying to interact, you will be blocked I don't want to deal with your BS, and you can block me aswell, if you want, I don't care and I don't want to hear your whinning.

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Pride month.

That means i can make this with your local chaotic @$$hole of a 12-year-old my oc, Sariel.

Aplatonic Aromantic Asexual

Bonus: Aroace and Aplatonic pride flags