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AROMANTICISM AND ASEXUALITY ARE INHERENTLY QUEER AND DO NOT NEED TO BE PAIRED UP WITH ANOTHER LGBTQ IDENTITY TO BE RECOGNIZED AS SUCH AND YES THIS INCLUDES CISHET ASPECS

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Soooooooo my identity has changed (many times)

I made a VERY long and detailed post a while ago explaining my identity, and lo and behold, it's changed! I'm genderfluid, still identify with genderfade, blur gender and any xenos along the lines of chaos, mess, blurriness etc. I'm still aroace, debating whether I'm demiromantic or demi-queerplatonic. That name crisis turned out to be nomifluidity, my name changes frequently as do my pronouns. I also realised I'm probably demiplatonic too!

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QUEERPLATONIC SAPPHIC

For individuals who experience sapphic queerplatonic attraction.

QUEERPLATONIC ACHILLEAN

For individuals who experience achillean queerplatonic attraction.

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Fat trans girls????

FAT TRANS GIRLS!

POC TRANS GIRLS!

DISABLED TRANS GIRLS!

HAIRY TRANS GIRLS!

PRE-HRT TRANS GIRLS!

ALL TRANS GIRLS!

Y'ALL ARE BEAUTIFUL AND VALID AS FUCK!

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"can i identify as aro even if-" you can do whatever you want forever👍

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This was sort of how I realised I was aro, or at least the first inkling (that I entirely ignored). I was questioning lesbianism and then im like "but I feel this way towards non men as I do men" but I dropped it because im so affectionate and cuddly so how the fuck could I be aro?????

in honor of ace week id like to shoutout every asexual who first thought they were bi/pan because they looked at all the genders and felt no difference and zero is equal to zero so they said "huh. must be bisexual" and then shoved their sexuality back under the rug for 3-5 years

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AROMANTICISM AND ASEXUALITY ARE INHERENTLY QUEER AND DO NOT NEED TO BE PAIRED UP WITH ANOTHER LGBTQ IDENTITY TO BE RECOGNIZED AS SUCH AND YES THIS INCLUDES CISHET ASPECS

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Aroace source links

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Non xenogender source links

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Xeno identity sources

I can't post all my sources at once so I'm gonna see if splitting it up works!

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Welcome!

Hi! I'm Remi! I'm 20 and I decided to restart my queer tiktok account and with that decided to make a Tumblr account. I have a very complicated identity with a lot of uncommon labels that aren't very well known, so I'm going to explain them. Source links will be in my next post

Firstly, my pronouns, as well as they/them, I also use:

ae/aer/aer/aers/aerself

ve/vem/ver/vers/verself

ve/vem/ver/vers/vemself

shey/sher/sheir/sheirs/sheirself

shey/shem/sher/shers/sherself

shey/shem/sher/shers/shemself

shey/sher/sheir/sheirs/sheirself

xe/xem/xer/xers/xerself

xey/xem/xer/xers/xerself

xhey/xhem/xher/xhers/xherself

GENDER:

This is very much still a work in progress, but recently there've been some major developments. I started using xenogenders!

The xenos I currently use are:

messgender: a gender in which someone has almost no idea of what their gender could be, or keeps finding terms that almost fit, but not quite, causing them to jump from label to label. They can’t tell if their gender is fluid or not, how many genders they have, or if they have a gender at all.

keysmashgender: a xenogender that one can only describe through a keyboard smash, such as afkjbdfvbkxfd. It feels chaotic, confusing, and unable to be described by normal words.

chaosgender: a gender identity where one's gender does a lot of confusing things and doesn't make sense to anyone, even to the person themselves. It could be thought of as a very complex gender, a very fluid gender, a gender which is difficult to understand or a gender which is hard to describe in one word.

staticgender: like TV static; fuzzy and incomprehensible. This gender may feel complicated or confusing. It may also feel fluid and everchanging.

blurian: a xenogender identity where one's gender feels blurry. One knows that the gender exists. but cannot figure out what it is

(QUESTIONING) blurgender: a type of genderfluid where one doesn't know what gender they are, because all the genders they are fluid between blur together and become indistinguishable from one another. Someone who is blurgender sort of knows what genders they are fluid between, but cannot tell the gender they are feeling at the moment.

The non-xenos I use are:

(QUESTIONING) Abinary:  refers to genders that are completely unrelated to maleness, masculinity, femaleness, or femininity, and is nowhere in between, being completely away from the binary, whilst still not always being genderless. Abinary genders may describe feeling any strength of gender whilst still being unrelated to the binary genders. The term abinary can be summarised as any gender that is unrelated to the binary.

Genderfade: a gender characterized by an individual's gender only being present when they are thinking about it, and their gender fades or melts away when they are not thinking about it.

aegogender: is the feeling of disconnection or separation of gender from an individual. This term can be combined with another gender, or it can be used on its own. My personal aegogender experiences are

Being genderless but having a vague or abstract connection to some gender.

Having a gender, but feeling disconnected or disassociated from it.

Quoigender:

a gender identity and umbrella term for those who do not fully understand, or want to define, their gender. My personal experiences with quoigender are:

Finding one's gender too confusing

One questioning their gender for so long that their questioning starts to become part of their identity

Not understanding gender at all

AROACE SPEC:

Aegosexual: a disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal, I don't wanna get banned right off the bat, so I'm just gonna say I relate to all 3 points in the source

Bellusromantic: having interest in traditionally romantic things, such as kissing or cuddling, but not feeling romantic attraction, and not wanting a romantic relationship. A bellusromantic individual may enjoy or desire these activities in non-romantic contexts, but does not enjoy them in the context of a romantic relationship.

(QUESTIONING) Mutoicaro: a  term for when my aromantic orientation changes in response to a situation. For me, I'm primarily bellusromantic, however, if I were to meet a cupioromantic person, and I wished to be in a relationship with said person, I would, this therefore means I am:

arofluid: when one is fluid between aro-spec orientations. for me this is bellus and cupio

cupioromantic: an individual who may desire a romantic relationship, but may experience no romantic attraction.l

Quoiaroace: being both quoiromantic and quoisexual, meaning I don't understand what romantic attraction nor sexual attraction is

I relate to the following experiences:

Being unsure if you experience romantic or sexual attraction or not

Being unable to understand romantic and sexual attraction as a concept or feeling

Being unable to pin down a clear understanding of romantic and sexual attraction, so being unable to say whether or not you experience it

Struggling with romanticism and sexuality because it feels too complicated

Alterous attraction: for me this is a middle ground between platonic and romantic attraction

Omnialterous: experiencing alterous attraction to all genders with a preference

And that's it!