#Breakup Process

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[guyexperienceinsight]

The Breakup Process: Male Edition

Here at Gentlemen’s Reality Blog, we’re presenting this theory of the dating game called the Breakup Process:” Male Edition which is your biggest competitor, you cope with this breakup while noticing the bad in relationships. There was as much drama as the good times but 10 times more than the drama. Wishing there was another way around it but it’s hard to part yourself away from someone bad for…

[diazsdimples]

Lyrics from Wicked Game - Chris Isaak

What a wicked game you play, to make me feel this way What a wicked thing to do, to let me dream of you What a wicked thing to say, you never felt this way What a wicked thing to do, to make me dream of you

[limielle]

tired and hurt but still looking cute

[haysaprocky]

[ineffectualbookseller]

It just really GRINDS MY GEARS the way Crowley is keeping so much from Aziraphale this season but also I TOTALLY understand why he's doing it

The thing is we saw Aziraphale keep a huge secret from Crowley in season 1 after he got his hands on the Nice and Accurate Prophecies and went to heaven with the information about Adam rather than telling Crowley, but then we saw him grow from that mistake. He realized how wrong a decision that was and that's why he's SO committed to them working as a team in season 2. The way he immediately goes to Crowley when Gabriel shows up and keeps him updated whenever he talks to heaven and even calls from Edinburgh to tell him about the new Clue (and maybe to brag a little because he's feeling proud)

and YEAH Aziraphale lies. I'm not saying he doesn't. He's a liar. Lies to himself, to heaven, to hell, to god's face, and sometimes to Crowley. But in my opinion, the biggest lie he tells Crowley about the occult/ethereal goings-on this season is not telling him about Shax on the drive back to Edinburgh. And I think the reason he doesn't is the same reason he's SO nervous to tell him about Gabriel at first; he's afraid Crowley will overreact - will totally freak out when he realizes Aziraphale is being threatened. Which is, frankly, justified. He would.

But then Crowley is over here lying about SO MUCH all season. And some of the lies are about his own pride (i.e. not telling his self-described bestie that he has been UNHOUSED for YEARS during a GLOBAL PANDEMIC) but mostly he does it because he thinks it is protecting Aziraphale. Because he is so obsessed with saving Aziraphale.

Everyone knows it - Demons are using threats against Aziraphale as a way to intimidate Crowley all over the shop (a good tactic tbf, far more effective than threatening Crowley himself), and Aziraphale openly speaks it.

But the actual reason he does it is because he's so concerned about proving his worth to Aziraphale. We know Crowley has self-esteem issues. He's all smoke and mirrors - not a man (nb) just a flashy jacket wrapped around a bundle of insecurities and anxieties. He still thinks he needs to prove himself to Aziraphale, that he needs to make himself worthy of his partnership. He cognitively knows they should be equals, a team of the two of them on their own side, but he just can't shake the notion that Aziaphale needs a reason to fraternize with a demon.

And of course, Aziraphale doesn't. He loves Crowley as he is and sees just as much worth in the small acts of bringing him chocolates at the bookshop opening or clearing them a table at the Ritz. True, he does love that Crowley loves saving him, but not because he actually needs it, because it's part of the flirty game they play. But he's not honest enough to tell Crowley as much clearly (not that speaking it would solve Crowley's self-worth issues).

The thing is, "Saving me makes him so happy" is so much cuter when you're fully PRETENDING to be stuck in the Bastille and don't know any other way of asking your crush out on a lunch date. Because now the forces of heaven and hell are knocking on THEIR bookshop door and all they have is each other but Crowley hasn't been honest with Aziraphale about the seriousness of this threat and Aziraphale didn't warn him about Shax BECAUSE he knew he would be overprotective. Crowley needs so badly to be the hero he's undermined their power as a team.

And that's the dramatic irony of it all. As an audience, it is spelled out so clearly for us that they are at their best, their most powerful, as a team. They are a whole greater than the sum of its parts. The fact of Crowley's incessant need to prove himself, to be the hero, to "protect" Aziraphale from all this information that he has been choosing to lie about all season - it's just making them weaker.

TLDR; Crowley is lying to Aziraphale to keep him safe because he still feels like he needs to prove himself to be worthy of Aziraphale's partnership but this makes it impossible for them to truly work as a team and is hurting them both

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Why Are Breakups So Painful? The Emotional Truth No One Tells You

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[darcyolsson]

hello 911 fans. i have a question. is there any reason that we know of why the gay eddie storyline didnt go through and bi buck happened instead? because the more i think abt it the stranger it is to me that we got bi buck before gay eddie when the latter feels more essential to the story, in the sense that so much of eddie's plotlines are seemingly written around him being a closeted gay man that him not getting to come out is negatively affecting his character atp. imo his character has been stagnant for a few seasons now (essentially since ana) and that's because he keeps going around in circles and make the same mistakes because he does not get to address the core issue i.e. come out. meanwhile buck's sexuality is ofc relevant to him overall as a character but it does not feel like it's at the core of his story as much. it just feels like an odd choice storytelling-wise and knowing that it was originally going to be eddie who was going to come out, i'm really curious why they went with buck instead

[guiltipanda]

"I just want them to be happy!" I don't. I want to see them beaten down, yearning for a past they can never return to while stewing in the bitterness of how everything ended

[frogsinflannel]

🛞🫦🩴🎶🔥🎀 please !!!!!!!!! —@evanbuckleymylove

Aww! YOU ARE MY HERO. What a lovely ask to get. I needed an excuse to work on some WIPs, or at least dust them off and look at them again. So this came at the perfect time, just what I needed! Here's what we've got:

🛞: ("5 Times Eddie Offered Stability and Support, and 1 Time He Was Just the Third Wheel")

Tommy puts his face in his hands and lets out another whine. He says something, so muffled that Eddie can't understand him.

"What was that, buddy?" Eddie asks, comforting him not unlike how he'd comfort Chris. He rubs a firm hand down Tommy's spine. "Couldn't quite make that out."

He lifts his head a little. "Eddie," he says, voice trembly and tear-clogged, roughened with the flash of shitty, overpriced beer Eddie'd bought just for him. He is both very drunk and very sad. "I miss him."

"I know, man." He gives his back another rub.

"His eyes."

"Sure, those are great."

"How he'd... he always talked 'bout really interesting things, you know? That he'd learned?"

"Yeah, I'm glad you think so."

"I miss..." He sniffed. "I-I miss..."

"Hey." Eddie gave his shoulder a squeeze. "Go ahead, get it out. What'd you miss?"

Tommy's face crumples and he sobs into his hands. "Eddie," he says, strained. "Eddie his dick was so big."

"Wha---oh, for fuck's sake, man, I told you already! I don't need to hear about his dick!"

"But it's--"

"If you give me a number in inches I swear to God, for your next beer you're shotgunning a Miller Lite."

Tommy makes a sound like a dying bird.

~

🫦: (filthy buddie smut, gratuitous appreciation of buck's tits) This one is actually complete and posted to ao3! (I need to take it off the list.) (...should I post this fic on its own? I haven't posted/promoted it here.)

work them out at the gym, dive in and take a swim

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🩴: (post-BT break-up, Karen and Tommy developing friendship)

Karen was already regretting this, and she hadn't even spoken yet. She grabbed her wine glass and cleared her throat. "I'm not saying you're wrong, Buck," she said, looking at him across the table. He wore the same hangdog look he'd been wearing--since the break-up, really, his hands in his lap and his shoulders slumped and the lines on his face wearing in. "I just..." She shrugged and lifted her glass, readying a sip as soon as she'd said her peace. "I get it."

"You... you get it?" Buck asked. He sounded confused, maybe a little hurt, and he shifted his big body in the chair. "What do you mean?"

"I'd kind of like to know that, too," Chimney said, though unlike Buck he kept his voice carefully neutral.

They'd talked about it a lot, and there were things Tommy had told her in confidence that she would never tell. This, though, his side of the story? She had no compunctions being honest about how she felt. "I just mean." She paused and then sighed. "If I had been in his place, I'm not sure I would have made a very different decision."

"Wait." Hen turned in her seat, leaning back to take a long, dismayed look at her wife. She tilted her head, and Karen wasn't sure exactly what emotion was registering there, but it had to be something close to disbelief. She shook her head, things clicking into place. "Tommy is your new pottery friend."

"Yep." Karen nodded. "Tommy is the new pottery friend."

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🎶: (toxic Buddie hook-up, Buck still pining Tommy, inspo: SZA's "F2F")

“Eddie,” he says, and his voice is pitched into a whine.  “I’m fine.  Okay?  I’m great.”

“You’re not fine, Buck.  You’re anything but fine.”  Buck’s hands, settled at his waist, grab fistfuls of his shirt.  “Hey.”  He shrugs his shoulder.  “Hey.”  Buck finally looks up at him, his face wet and his eyes red-rimmed.  Eddie feels a knot high in his chest.  “No one expects you to be fine, okay?  You’re hurting.  You lost something–someone you cared about.  You’re allowed to grieve.”

"I don't want to... to grieve," Buck says, and Eddie feels like sirens are going off inside him. Buck sniffs. He tilts his head down and lifts to shoulder to wipe his snotty nose on the sleeve of his shirt. Eddie knows he'll regret that later. "I want to forget. Fuck. Eddie." He grits his teeth and looks up until their eyes meet. "I want to forget."

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🔥: When Buck had first gotten together with Tommy - when he’d first seen him, with his no-nonsense haircut and his Carhartt jacket and years-old work boots, he had… made some assumptions. And sure, yeah, he knew that wasn’t fair, but he also really didn’t expect to be wrong.

He’d taken one look at Tommy and - after figuring out that his admiration was as much about wanting to sleep with him as it was befriending him - he’d drawn from a wealth of experiences from all over the country (the world even) and had concluded that Tommy was probably strong, solid, and really boring in bed.

Or not boring, that wasn’t fair. And he didn’t know Tommy’s experiences with his other partners obviously, but he’d met a lot of guys with that specific look before. He’d slept with a lot of their dissatisfied ex-girlfriends before. He figured that Tommy, as considerate as he was, knew how to take care of a partner, had all the basics down, but wouldn’t venture into any new territory. So Buck figured he’d let Tommy take the lead and guide him through his first gay sex experience, let Tommy feel good and strong and competent (which he was, and Jesus Christ was that hot) - and then Buck could put his many years and many partners worth of experience to good use and take the reins. He would lead them into uncharted territory as things got a little more adventurous.

Turns out, his assumptions were very, very wrong.

Because that was not what happened. Tommy was a considerate partner, yes, and he was also responsive, an active listener, curious, flexible, and willing and eager to try things out. He was way more experienced with a lot of things that Buck hadn’t expected, too, because oh wait—

Tommy was also an absolute freak.

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🎀: (established BuddieTommy, focus on T/E, Eddie princess treatment, exploring lingerie)

The next gift Tommy doesn’t warn him about.  He and Buck are both at Eddie’s, about to leave for their own afternoon date.  Buck and Eddie are talking in the living room, when Tommy excuses himself to go out to his truck.  Eddie doesn’t think anything of it, and neither does Buck apparently–or at least he doesn’t give anything away.  Tommy comes back in without drawing any attention to himself, and goes to the back of the house.

Buck’s wrapped up in whatever he’s talking about–and Eddie’s trying to pay attention, he really is–when Tommy clears his throat.

“Time to go,” he says, cocking his head towards the door.  “You can finish talking about spinner sharks later, Evan.”

“Oh!  Yeah, sorry, Eddie, we have to go.”  He starts to dart off and then, almost stumbling over himself, comes back to press a big, messy kiss to the corner of Eddie’s mouth.  “Bye!  See you!”  And then he’s off.

Tommy chuckles warmly, hands in his pockets as he makes his way over to Eddie with a slow, quiet stride.  “He’s adorable, huh?”

“Yeah,” Eddie says, giving Tommy a shrug and a quick grin.  “No idea what the hell he was talking about, though.

“Spinner sharks.”  Tommy tells him, indulgent and fond.  “They corkscrew out of the water through a school of fish when they feed.”  He laughs at the expression on Eddie’s face and then leans in close.  “Don’t worry about it, baby.”  He grabs Eddie’s chin and presses his mouth in a firm, spine-tingling kiss against Eddie’s cheek.  “We’ll see you later,” he says, breath a warm gust against Eddie’s skin.  “Be good while we’re gone, okay? And.”  Tommy straightens up and his eyes go dark.  There’s an expression on his face that Eddie can’t quite read.  “Have fun.”

“Uh yeah,” he says, nodding as Tommy shoots him dual finger guns and then wanders out after Buck.  “I will.  Bye!”

He listens as the truck starts up.  Before they pull out of his driveway, though, his phone vibrates in his pocket.  He pulls it out and to his surprise he sees a message from Tommy.  

T:Go check out what’s in the bedroom.  I left you something special, Princess.

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[atrociousgargamelitis]

NO CAUSE I KNOW DAMN WELL STOLAS NEEDS TP FUCK SPMEPNE ELSE RIGHT NOW I KNOW IT DAMN FUCKING WELL. BUT BLITZØ'S FACE??? I'M KINDA TIPSY AND I DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH THIS RIGHT NOW. BLITZØ'S FACE AND CALLING THE PTHER GUY A BIRD STEALER OR WHATEVER. IF YOU WANT TO MURDER ME COME DOWN HERE AND SLIT MY FUCKING THROAT ALREADY YOU FUCKING COWARDS. FUCKKKKK

[thefleshyougoveggie]

i’ve listened to like 80 episodes of tma since saturday. i think probably a bit more tbh… aka in five days…. yeah i love this podcast

[bluesidedown]

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[reflections-in-a-critical-eye]

Iam waiting for tkkrs to turn on him when he reveals his real partner. He has to some day, doesn't he? Let's see then.

Girl, the Jennie Kim erasure!

[letitgogo]

He Dumped Me Over Text—Guess Ghosting Was Too Much Effort 🙄

He broke up with me over text—because nothing says “mature” like hiding behind a screen and hitting send. lolHere’s how I got through it (without texting back!) and found healing that didn’t involve stalking his WhatsApp last seen. I always imagined our breakup would involve tears, maybe a café confrontation, or even one of those “it’s not you” lies. But nope.He just sent a message.A breakup…

[talesfromthebandgeekmafia]

Can’t believe the world is potentially two hours away from a canon blackbonnet sex scene in Our Flag Means Death. what a time we live in