#COMMUNICATION

[auschizm]

If you tell someone directly "that behavior makes me uncomfortable, please stop doing that to/around me" and the person keeps doing it and anyone tries to excuse it with "they're autistic, they can't help that they're bad at social clues", know that it's bullshit. Once you have verbally articulated a boundary directly to someone's face it is no longer a complex social clue, it's a direct request. And you don't get to ignore direct communication of boundaries because you're autistic.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

As an autistic person, the implications of "if they really cared I wouldn't have to say it" culture are really scary. Because I want to know what hurts your feelings, what crosses your boundaries, where the line between teasing and being mean is at for you, what you need, and how to make you feel loved. And the implication that if my disability makes me unable to figure out these things through intuition alone, then I'm just not worth having around, is genuinely heartbreaking

[raposar]

FREE FOX-THEMED COMMUNICATION CARDS 🌱

Hello! I'm Tommie, i'm an autistic adult and I'm having a hard time with digital AAC so i've decided to make my own communication cards.

I wanted these to be practical and cute, feel free to use and print, just don't sell them. There are 20 images in total that can be paired and double side printed for your comfort.

* NOTE - there is a blank page can be used to write on with dry erase markers If you laminate these.

CARDS AVAILABLE:

- yes / maybe / no

- basic needs (6 options)

- thank you!

- you're welcome!

- i don't understand (5 options)

- negative feelings (6 options)

- positive feelings (6 options)

- do you want to? (6 options)

- i'm upset because (11 options)

- i'm feeling agressive / at risk for SH ( small help guide w 2 options)

- tough moment (6 options)

- thank you... but thats not helping me right now!

- i will explode if you make any loud sound near me

- I'M INTERESTED • just can't do any facial expressions, im listening to you!

- I LIKE YOU! • i'm not talking to you because im exhausted

- IT'S OK! • i'm overwhelmed, If you ask me If i'm ok or If I need help I might panic

- DON'T TOUCH ME • If im on the reserved seat, it's important!

- BLANK (in case you laminate these, you can write on it)

- END (just for the aesthetics)

YOU CAN DOWNLOAD IT HERE !

(Google drive link)

Like and reblog If you use <3

FREE TEMPLATE FILE TO MAKE YOUR OWN

[queertations]

[ Image Description: "Leave other people alone in the way that they live their lives that you don’t understand. If you want to really know about those people, come to them in friendship! Sit down and let them tell you what their lives are like. But don’t just jump up and holler, “She’s wearing this,' and, 'He’s wearing that.' Sit down with a transgender person and let them tell you what their life is like. Sit down with a gay person and let them tell you what life is like for them. Sit with a lesbian and let her tell you about the nature of her life, and what she goes through. How can you judge when you don’t know what it’s about?" End Description. ]

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[danshive]

I think personal labels can be useful for “there’s a word for it”, “I’m not alone”, and “oh neat, I know what to put in a search engine now” reasons, but I also think they can be troublesome.

Plenty of people won’t fit 100% neatly into a label, and when they encounter a rare exception to what is otherwise an accurate label for them, it can feel like an identity crisis.

The labels aren’t literally what you are. They’re words. They’re meant to assist communication and organization, not to control you.

[marzipanandminutiae]

"you do not owe friends instant responses to every social message, and anxiety over not receiving the same is something for the anxious person to work on, not your responsibility to totally change for"

AND

"you have to put some effort into friendships, which can include open communication with your friends about how to make both of you comfortable re: messaging. expecting other people to do ALL of the work ALL of the time, in terms of getting in touch and carrying on the conversation, may make them feel ignored and/or and leave"

are ideas that can and should coexist

[gawki]

Royal Pigeon

[polyamorousmood]

Polyamorous folks figure out REAL QUICK shit's so much easier if you just say it. "Hey, can you compliment me?" "Hey I want to do something special with you soon. Would you please schedule something for next week?" "I'm feeling really unloved, help me convince my brain its being dumb?"

If you can just duct tape over the voice in your head that says "its not real if you have to ask", long enough to get the words out, you could have it all, babe.

This is advice to everyone but especially cishet monogs

[auschizm]

That being said, if you're allistic and find yourself being mad at an autistic person because of something you haven't actually communicated to them because you feel that you "shouldn't have to say it" and that "they'd figure it out if they really cared to", then YOU are in fact the one causing a problem and the one who needs to work on improving your communication skills

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Yes. Have YOU considered that sometimes working on hard things is both necessary and worthwhile?

[schokesgychoco]

Retro communication 80’s. Back then.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[desultory-suggestions]

It's okay if you have trouble understanding people. Reading others is not as important as being compassionate and open to understanding them.

[wordx]

How did you two get so close?

“We talk at night.”

[camilleflyingrotten]

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