#How to Reconnect with Friends You Have Unfollowed

[afterglowsainz]

warm pt. 2 | oscar piastri

part 1

pairing: oscar piastri x reader

summary: it all goes downhill for you and your secret feelings towards oscar when he decides to hard launch his new girlfriend

fc: different girls from pinterest

a/n: the awaited part 2 🫶🏽 i hope you guys like it! <3

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oscarpiastri nice couple of days 🇸🇦

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f1gossip oscar piastri was seen last night kissing his close friend y/n y/l/n at the spanish race after party

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charles_leclerc because he is

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maxverstappen1 don’t piss me off

yourusername i expected some maturity from you

maxverstappen1 you expected too much

charles_leclerc while we’re are it we need to have a conversation too

yourusername oops i dropped my phone at the bottom of the ocean sorry

oscarpiastri i guess haters really gonna hate huh

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[sirfrogsworth]

@wakingupmml I honestly don't know what to say to this. You do a drive-by message, prevent me from replying, and I guess just expect me to eat the hurt you caused?

This really sucks. You are entitled to feel the way you feel, but you did not need to send this message. You could have just unfollowed for your reasons and not sent me a hurtful message.

My life is sad right now. My dog died, then my mom died, then my dad died—all in the span of 3 years. And I have not really figured out how to process that. I have not figured out how to move past it. So when I talk about my life, sadness is going to be a component. I cannot change that fact and I refuse to just post happy shit to keep you as a follower.

But I really feel like you missed that I am going out into the world. I am challenging myself to take up photography again. My mom and dad had a dying wish for me to continue living my life and find purpose. I took my first ever trip on an airplane last year. I went to see my best friend in Orlando. I'm reconnecting with old friends. And I am pursuing my artistic passion with every ounce of energy I have. And if you can only see sadness in that, I feel you need to read my stories again. I am trying to claw my way out of this hole I'm in and I feel I've made some decent progress. That feels more like hope than sadness to me.

This message sucked.

And it made me feel bad.

And I need you to know you caused me pain.

Because perhaps if you know that, you won't leave sucky messages like this to anyone else.

Just fucking unfollow. You don't need to announce your departure.

Also, I would ask no one harass this person or send them messages. I would have preferred to have done this privately but they disabled that option.

[il-miele-che-scrive]

Drunken Mistakes

charles leclerc x reader x george russell summary: in the aftermath of a breakup, y/n and charles try to reconnect, but y/n makes a mistake, leading to a heartbreaking confession words count: 3k warnings: mentions of alcohol

The argument that led to Y/n and Charles' breakup started innocently enough. Charles had noticed his girlfriend was focusing on her job so much that they barely had time for each other. He couldn't remember the last time she attended his race.

"You never have time for me anymore." The man said. "I feel like we're growing apart."

"Me?" The girl scoffed. "Let me remind you, during the season you're in a different country every weekend."

"That's my job, Y/n, I am a formula one driver in case you forgot. But now the season is over and I want to spend time with my girlfriend."

"You knew what you were getting into when we started dating." Y/n argued, her tone defensive.

"You used to come to the most of my races!"

"Work has been tough, there's a lot to do." Her eyes avoided his gaze.

"Why do you care about it so much? It's not like you need money, I could buy you anthing you want."

"This isn't about money, Charles. It's about my career, my ambitions. I have goals too, you know?"

"But what about us? I miss you, Y/n. I miss us."

The room fell into a heavy silence. Y/n could see the pain in Charles' eyes, mirroring her own sadness.

Charles spoke after a moment of silence. "Maybe we're just not right for each other."

Y/n felt a lump in her throat as she searched for the right words. At one point she questioned if she heard that right. Charles was breaking up with her.

Charles regretted his own words, but his pride wouldn't let him take them back. He knew breaking up wasn't the only solution

Tears welled up in Y/n's eyes, but she tried to hold them back. "I never thought it would come to this." She admitted, her voice cracking.

"Sometimes, people change. Maybe we're just not the same people we fell in love with." Charles' voice was tinted with with sorrow.

In the following days, the space between Y/n and Charles grew wider, both emotionally and physically. They lived together, so the girl decided to pack her things and move out. It was hard, but not impossible to find a place in a matter of hours. And thanks to being hardworking, she didn't have to worry too much about the cost.

The problem was, she kept seeing Charles everywhere, in all social medias. Even after unfollowing each other, Y/n kept seeing news about him, pictures from events. The constant reminders made moving on way the more challenging.

In an attempt to break free from this loop, Y/n decided to put herself in a different kind of atmosphere. One night the idea of using alcohol as a temporary remedy for her heartache crossed her mind.

Dressed for the occasion, Y/n stepped into a bar. It was full of people, too many people for the possibility of being recognized by someone she could've known.

"What can I get you tonight?" The bartender asked as the girl sat down on a stool by the bar.

"Surprise me." She replied, a smile playing on her lips.

As the bartender began making a drink for her, Y/n allowed herself to look around the room. It was then that her eyes caught sight of someone familiar approaching her.

"Well, well, well, if it isn't Y/n!"

George Russell. Not a close friend of Charles, but certainly an acquiantance of his. Y/n exchanged a word or two with him in the past, but didn't know him as well as she knew Carlos or Lando, who were closer with her ex-boyfriend.

"Nice to see you, George," Y/n sent the man a smile as he sat down on the stool next to her.

"What brings you here?" He asked, a curious glint in his eyes

"Needed to change my routine a little," she replied, accepting her drink from the bartender.

"How have you been holding up? Charles mentioned the breakup to me, but I didn't want to pry."

Not to mention it was all over the media, Y/n added in her thoughts.

Y/n sighed. "It's the reason why I'm here, what do you think?" She took a sip from her drink.

George leaned back, a sympathetic expression on his face. "Breakups are never easy. I can imagine it's been tough for you."

"It's the adjustment, you know?" Y/n continued, her fingers tracing the rim of her glass. "Getting used to the idea that the person you once shared everything with is now just a memory."

The man nodded in understanding. "Yeah, I've been through a few breakups myself. It's never easy."

Y/n found herself drawn to George's charm and the way he made her feel understood. His presence carried some kind of comfort that eased the ache in her heart.

George on the other hand, catching a glimpse of Y/n's eyes, found himself captivated by the vulnerability. The girl let herself be so open, talking about her breakup and the pain it brought.

"You know what, Y/n? Let me get you another drink." George said, a playful twinkle in his eyes.

Y/n smiled. "Sure, why not?"

George leaned against the counter, engaging in a brief exchange of words with the bartender, later turned his attention back to Y/n. "I've got this one," he declared with a charming grin.

The atmosphere between the two of them grew intimate as they continued the conversation with another drink. A subtle connection lingered between Y/n and George.

In a moment of unspoken tension, George's eyes met Y/n's with a hint of something more, longing for an intimacy that went beyond mere conversation.

Their faces drew closer, the anticipation building up. Y/n had come to the bar seeking a distraction and it seemed she was on the brink of finding it.

A moment of silence embraced them, a comfortable one. One in which drowned even the ambiance of the lively bar. The music, still loud, became a distant background.

Y/n closed her eyes, preparing to connect her lips with George's. But just as their breaths mingled, George hesitated, pulling back.

Instead of diving into a kiss, George surprised her by leaning back and asking, "How about we continue this conversation somewhere a bit more private?"

Y/n looked at him. "Like what?" She asked.

"My place is somewhat close."

Y/n's curiosity and the unspoken tension between them pushed her to agree. "Lead the way."

The city streets seemed to sway gently around Y/n and George as they made their way to his place. The night air carried a cold breeze, but the warmth of the alcohol kept them unaware of it.

Arriving at George's place, the quiet hum of the city outside was replaced by the comforting cosiness of his home. The dim lights embracing them in a romantic atmosphere.

George turned to Y/n after locking the door. Not moving from the hallway, they smiled at each other. George walked closed, causing Y/n to step back and eventually her back touched the wall.

Y/n's hands landed on George's shoulders, pulling the man even closer. Their eyes met and soon after that, their lips connected in a short kiss.

A quiet, tipsy giggle escaped from Y/n's mouth. George gently grabbed the girl by her wrist and led her into the living room. Sitting down on the sofa, he placed his hands on Y/n's hips, causing her to land in his lap.

As they embraced the tipsy intimacy, the living room became a sanctuary for yet another kiss. One that lasted way longer. One that had their clothes scattered around on the floor.

Closed curtains successfully stopped the morning light from getting inside the room. Y/n opened her eyes. She slept wrapped up in George's arms, so she carefully detangled herself from his embrace to sit up. Of course she didn't drink enough to not remember what happened.

Although she wished she did. A mix of guilt and regret washed over Y/n as she looked around. The cosy atmosphere that felt so comforting the night before now seemed to emphasize the reality of the situation.

Her eyes landed on George who was still peacefully asleep. Y/n didn't know what to do, she's never been in such situation before.

Water. She needed water. Her throat felt like a desert.

The girl quietly walked to the kitchen to pour herself a glass of tap water. Somehow, her phone was on the countertop. She grabbed the device to check for any missed calls or messages left without a reply.

Her heart sunk when she saw missed calls and a few texts from Charles. What could he have wanted? Y/n hesitated for a moment, contemplating whether to return the calls or respond to the texts. The weight of guilt intensified as she listened to Charles' voicemails.

Hey, Y/n, it's Charles. I know we're broken up and you probably hate me, but something kept telling me to call you. Call me back when you can, I miss you.

If you're not up for talking, just send me a text to let me know you're okay. I care about you and I want to make sure you're safe.

Y/n, it's Charles again. I'm not sure what's going on, but I've been trying to reach you all night. I just want to make sure you're safe

Y/n, it's Charles. I've left several messages, and I'm starting to think the worst. Please, just give me a sign that you're alright. I care about you a lot and not knowing is really getting to me

"What have I done?" Y/n whispered to herself. The guilt consumed her, overshadowing the moments of happiness she successfully looked for the night before.

Anxiety started to build up in her chest and her eyes were starting to get a bit watery. She hesitated, but eventually decided to return the calls, hoping George won't wake up to witness this.

"Y/n, where were you? I've been trying to reach you all night." Charles questioned.

"I needed some alone time." Y/n began, stammering a bit. "I don't have to explain my choices and actions to you, especially now."

There was a heavy silence on the other end of the line and Y/n could almost sense Charles processing her words.

"Y/n, we need to talk. This isn't fair to either of us," he finally said.

I don't wanna see you ever again, Y/n wished she said. Her words came out a bit differently however.However, her words came out a bit differently. "Fine, let's talk." Because no matter what she did, she missed Charles.

"Could you come over today? It's so, I don't know, weird to talk about it on the phone."

"Sure. When could I come over?"

"As soon as you can, maybe? If that's alright for you."

"Give me an hour or so, I'll be there." And with that, she hung up.

Just as the conversation was finished, George walked into the kitchen. He looked at Y/n with a warm smile that gradually faded as he sensed the tension.

"Morning," he said with a rasp in his voice, "are you okay?"

Y/n sighed, running a hand through her hair. She decided to be honest with George, he deserved it after all. "We need to talk about what happened yesterday."

"Yeah, about that..." he scratched his neck, "I don't want to give you any kind of hope or-"

"Wait, what? Was it meaningless to you?"

"Ah, here it comes. Well, I'm not looking for anything... romantic. Not now. We can do what we did last night more often, but no strings attached."

These words gave Y/n a sense of relief. "You don't know how glad I am that this didn't mean anything to you."

Y/n's confession hung in the air, creating an awkward pause between her and George.

"Are you being sarcastic?" He asked. "I don't want to complicate things further or lead you on."

"No, no sarcasm at all. Actually, I've just talked to Charles on the phone."

"Oh, and? What did he want?"

"He was worried, tried contacting me last night too many times. And... well, I'm meeting him today. He wants to talk."

"Ah, that's never good. Do you think he'll want to get back together?"

Y/n took a deep breath. The answer was yes, she did expect Charles to get back together. However, she didn't know if she should tell that to George.

Considering the silence on Y/n's side, George continued. "Do you wanna get back together with him? It didn't seem like it last night," a sly smile appeared on his face.

"I... I'm not sure, George. Charles and I have a history and there are feelings involved, but things have been complicated lately." Y/n replied, choosing her words carefully.

"Relationships are messy and figuring out what you want is important. Just be honest with yourself."

With George's words echoing in her mind, Y/n gathered her thoughts and headed to meet Charles. She stopped by her own place beforehand to make herself look decent.

"Hey," he greeted her, as he opened his door to let her in. There was an expression of concern on his face.

Charles didn't look better than Y/n that morning. His hair was disheveled, he looked as if he wasn't able to get good sleep in the past few days nor did he shave his face.

"I was worried sick," he admitted, "what happened? Why didn't you answer earlier?"

"Jesus, Charles, I was busy. Besides it's not very ex-boyfriend of you to call me a thousand times in a row."

The air inside the apartment felt heavy. In an awkward silence, Y/n and Charles settled on the couch.

"I care about you, Y/n. Damn it, I love you." The man broke the silence. "I don't think the breakup was a good idea."

"Well, it was your idea..."

"I make mistakes, we all do, but it's nothing that cannot be fixed, right?"

You're gonna hate what I'm about to tell you, Y/n thought. She could see the sincerity in his eyes and it made her feel so much guilt.

"Charles, I... I appreciate your honesty and I care about you too," she began, "so I need to tell you what happened yesterday."

Charles ran a hand through his unkempt hair. "I know we had issues, but I still believe we can work through them. I love you, Y/n, and I can't just let go."

Y/n took a deep breath. "Don't say that."

"Why not? That's the truth, I love you and I've never regretted anything as much as I regret breaking up with you."

"Charles, stop." Her voice raised slightly, but then she lowered it back to normal. "I did... something last night and... It was a mistake, but it happened, I cannot hide it from you."

Charles nodded. "Then tell me, but I swear nothing can change my mind."

"Okay..." Y/n hesitated, looking for the words that would hurt the least. "Last night I went out, drank probably more than I should've and I... ended up spending the night with someone."

Charles didn't reply for a long time, a mix of shock and hurt crossed his face. The room seemed to close in on Charles and Y/n as the silence stretched.

"You... you what?" Charles finally said, his voice a fragile whisper.

Y/n felt her chest tighten as she faced the consequences of her actions. "Charles, I know this is difficult to hear and I'm so sorry. It was a drunken mistake, I didn't realize what I was doing."

"Do I know him?"

"What?"

"Do I know him?" His voice raised. "If you told me you did it, you can tell me who you did it with."

Y/n hesitated, realizing the added layer of pain she brought. "It was someone you know," she admitted, "George."

"George? George Russell? Really?" Charles's voice carried a tint of anger and hurt. "You could choose any guy, but you decided to go for him?"

"I didn't plan it, it was a mistake and I regret it."

"And you have the audacity to come here, probably straight from his place?"

"You wanted to see me."

"I had no idea you fucked Russell!"

"You said we can work through our issues. It's not a mistake that cannot be fixed, right?" Y/n pleaded, her eyes starting to tear up. She was surprised she managed to keep herself from crying for so long.

"I don't know anymore, Y/n," Charles sighed. "I love you, but I don't think you realize the weight of what you've done."

"I understand, Charles. I truly am sorry," Y/n cried, her voice shaky with emotion.

"No, Y/n, just stop. I can't believe this is happening, I need time to process it. I think it's better if you leave."

Y/n felt her relationship with Charles crumbling beneath the weight of her mistake.

Charles's gaze was distant, the pain in his eyes echoing the depth of his hurt. "Y/n, I need time to figure out if we can move past this. Right now it's too much."

Tears started to slowly run down Y/n's cheeks as the reality started to sink it. "I never meant to hurt you like this, Charles. I love you and-"

"I need space, Y/n," Charles said with a heavy sigh. "I need to process everything. Please, just go."

It felt like a dagger through Y/n's heart, but she nodded. Deep down she understood it. With a heavy heart, she stood up, casting one last look at the man she still loved. She left Charles to deal with the aftermath of their mutual pain.

Each step away from Charles felt like a step into an uncertain future, leaving behind the comfort of what was familiar. Y/n couldn't shake the guilt and regret that devoured her, questioning if there was any way to fix what she had broken.

[rezcowgirl]

I don't know where these new followers are coming from, but I am assuming it's because some of my very old ndn posts are getting a rush of notes.

I want to clear some stuff up. For some context, I started this Tumblr in 2009 at 19, and I was young and full of various and endless gasses. I was rambunctious, slightly troll-y, and had very few IRL friends (probably for a reason). I used to come to Tumblr with the goal to educate, change minds, raise consciousness. And argue. A lot. Tumblr was like a battleground - I felt like I was helping to "protect" the ndn/native american/FN/2S tag.

I still think it could be meaningful endeavor if you have the time and energy. There is a lot I've learned through Tumblr that I would not have learned otherwise and I'm grateful for that. But these days, I have no energy and very little desire for that online experience. I cannot overstate how little I am interested in online "discourse" when I spend the majority of my offline professional life dealing with "discourse". I am exhausted.

I am 35 now and I have far more responsibility, and quite frankly, more humility than I did in 2009. I am not a Knowledge Keeper. And honestly, the very last thing I want to do when I get home from work is continue on with that fight energy.

I really am here in earnest these days - I have old, old friends here that I treasure. I love fantasy art, poetry, new wave music, and stupid videos. I don't want much more out of Tumblr than that.

So there isn't really a nice way to say this: I'm not interested in Indigenous "discourse", or really, any "online discourse" and if you are looking for that, I'm not it. I am also not interested in interacting people whose entire Tumblr presence is arguing and callout posts. I would never tell you to stop - your space is your own. I am just not going to interact with it.

This is a space for me to journal, scream, laugh, and I'm not sorry about it one bit. Yes, my personal posts do contain Indig musings because that's my everyday life, but I don't want new followers seeking out "Indigenous voices". Please do not tag me in "Tumblr ndn" posts. There is a reason I don't tag things. There's a reason I turn reblogs off. There is a reason I put a lot of things under read-mores.

In short, I won't apologize for my sloppiness. Shit's rough. I'm tired. I am here to bitch, keep in touch with friends, and snort at funny things. That's it. And I'm better for it.

If I say or do something to piss you off: you can unfollow/block at your leisure. I use my own block function generously.

Finally, a little bit of advice: I can only speak from my own communities and family (fwiw my dad is Knowledge Keeper), but if you are a reconnecting ndn and have found someone that is willing to dump masses of cultural knowledge onto you (naming teachings, winter stories, "natural laws"/wiyasowewina), that is a huge red flag. There are protocols for knowledge sharing, and they are in place for a reason. Online will never be a replacement for face-to-face, feet-on-the-same-Earth Indigenous community connection.

[insectsinsects]

Interestingly, we actually were girls together... When I met Jo I was 18 years and 11 months old, and had just emerged from my house for the first time in 3 months— straight to school in New York. We were shockingly vulnerable in a really simple 101 Writing class. We spent much of our time in cafes and academic buildings dissecting and chipping away at our Didion imitations until we pretended to 'find' some sort of voice at the end of the semester (how timely!). She towered above me, and coaxed a part of me I thought was shut away for good in a house in Oklahoma City. I felt really comfortable. She celebrated my birthday with me after knowing me for a week. We'd speed through SoHo, two of my strides to one of hers, and I always thought she looked cool with a cigarette in hand though it wasn't anything I was smoking at the time. Her suitcase remained empty with 20 minutes till departure, and we barely missed a bus down to DC. She got us new tickets and against her stature leaned all the way down onto my shoulder for the 5-hour ride, and we split at Union Station. She went off to visit a friend at some DC school and I was seeing family. We reconnected at the end of the week, where those cheap buses meet up, and went back home to New York.

When we were sent home, we sent letters across the Midwest in riveting exchanges between Oklahoma and Illinois. We scrawled bits of forgotten writing projects onto paper and wrote to each other often. Radio silence for a while, and we were back nine months later. She was living with her best friend at the time. It wasn't me. Their sublease was really gorgeous. The energy was funny. They stopped being friends after the lease ran out. I last saw her on my 21st birthday in Tompkins with a slice of cheesecake. Late as usual.

Two years of radio silence. I texted her for some reason in April 2023 and we chatted briefly. Nothing again. She's always been in New York, though. I knew her face really well. I superimposed it onto strangers in the crowd. I knew she was here, somewhere.

That summer I felt another friendship dying. I went home exhausted and sweaty and annoyed. No seats on the subway but a space near a familiar face. I was glad she recognized me. I was afraid she wouldn't. She was to transfer at one stop. I told her I'd be on the train for another hour getting to the outer reaches of Queens. "Safe travels," and I let the subway car population dwindle before weeping. Nothing again. Maybe I was afraid to reach out myself because I didn't have anything to say (<- symptom of being frozen by anxiety for 2 years).

And then something this past week. I waited 12 minutes to reply. I missed the person I used to be so severely and was deadly curious about her. I was embarrassed about our run-in on the train. I sweat so badly I had pit stains on a plain, over-sized shirt (symbolism) and she was in business casual workwear. It felt awfully on-the-nose about my perception of my own life and disappointment in myself. I didn't text her because I didn't want to think about it. But she texted me. Our old writing professor from that very class where we met mentioned me, thus prompting the text. She told me on the phone that she thinks often about a thing I used to say (an Andrea original?!) about Jaywalking with the new mothers because no car would run over a baby in a stroller (😭). A saying which attaches a smile to every crosswalk. And remember she's been in New York this entire time. Couldn't help but cry about it. She regaled me on everything. Seems we've been lonely the same past 6 months. I wish we had each other then. I wish she could've seen the joyful moments. I actually don't know if you'd like her, and I think Winnie has a thing about Jo 'cause she unfollowed her on IG a while back (we were all in that same writing class and we are all deeply unwell lmfao⚠️) but I do consider her a great influence on the Andrea you ended up meeting two years ago, if that's worth something at all. At the very least it'd be funny? I'll make it happen. She's in Bushwick now actually.

Anyway everything's a missed bus to DC and every good thing in life is being that uncomfortable shoulder to lean down and cry on. Likewise, the security I felt knowing she could always casually pick things back up and move forward is something that could pull me out of the tar pit. We have suffered apart and alone long enough.

[sippinggossip]

From dearest Info Anon...

Info anon here and I'm back to give you a blast from the past as a Christmas treat, since admin so kindly asked for old gossip;)

This story is about our dear frontman and his fondness of a certain Italian actress called Benedetta Porcaroli.

Most of you probably know Benedetta from the Italian Netflix series "Baby", in which she starred alongside Alice Pagani. And that's how Damiano met her too :)

In 2018, Måneskin's biggest hit at the time, Torna a casa, is used as part of the new series soundtrack. Måneskin attend the premiere of the series in Milan on 30/11/2018 and perform "Torna a casa" live. Damiano follows Benedetta back on Instagram (only member of the cast he followed at the time) and likes her post about the premiere.

A few days later, on 01/12, a video of the "Baby" cast and Måneskin playing a game drops on the YouTube channel of Netflix Italia. Damiano and Benedetta are sitting next to each other and are on the cover of the video. The video is called "Il cast di baby sfida i Måneskin a 'Obbligo o Segreto'" and the vibe between Damiano and Benedetta who, at the time it was filmed, had just recently met is undoubtedly very…comfortable.

There's not any other public interaction between them for months until something interesting happens: when Damiano breaks up with Giorgia in April 2019, he starts liking Benedetta's posts again. And not just liking her posts: they're hanging out too as Benedetta lets us know when she posts this selfie with Damiano on May 8th 2019.

But something even more interesting happens when he and Giorgia get back together in late May/ early June: soon after, Damiano unfollows Benedetta. I wonder why he would do that, since they seemed to be such good friends :)

They don't interact again for years (at least publicly) and Benedetta is with other men until they meet again at the Gucci Cosmogonie event in May 2022. There are multiple videos of them from that night talking to each other and in one the conversation does look a bit tense. Admin please insert the videos I've sent you on email because I can't add them here :)

In November 2022, Benedetta is in LA while Maneskin are also there. She posts a photo with Vic on 12/11 and - a miracle - Damiano follows her again on Instagram. And not just follows: he starts liking her posts again on a regular basis. At the time, Giorgia is away in India filming Pecchino express without access to social media.

On February 24th 2023, Måneskin and Benedetta reunite at the Gucci fashion show in Milan. Damiano & Benedetta seem to be in a much better mood around each other now ;)

Multiple paparazzi photos of Damiano and Benedetta from that day appear. In some of them they are arriving at the show and she seems to be lightly holding him.

In others, they're having lunch. Giorgia is nowhere in sight even though she was there in Milan with him those days. The headline is "Damiano and the Porcaroli, a couple you didn't expect." The article clarifies though that there's not any type of cheating and that he's still with Giorgia while Benedetta was publicly single (is it cheating though if the relationship is open? ;)

In light of this content, Damiano stops interacting with Benedetta's posts on social media for about a month but soon starts again in March.

Almost 2 months after the Gucci fashion show took place, Benedetta posts a photo with Måneskin from the event.

And, that's the end. No interactions since. I'm leaving you to reach your own conclusions, but to me this relationship definitely wasn't a simple friendship;) I should point out that in summer 2023 Benedetta publicly reconnected with her ex, Italian actor Riccardo Scamarcio. He's 19 years older than her and they're still together. So, the time Damiano stopped interacting with her online probably coincides with when she got back with him in private.

Please maintain my anonymity dear admin and don't forget to add the videos I sent ;) Hope you all enjoyed this piece of information and let me know what you think;)

(Videos coming soon)

Wow, thank you once again, info anon!

I remember seeing the paparazzi photos and the tabloid article before, but now I know more about what happened.

Is it me, or do Italians tend to get back with their exes a lot?

[briannamwood]

Week 2: Social Media & Social Relationships

Welcome back readers! Today I will be discussing my thoughts on social media and social relationships found in Max Stossel's video and Emma Rathbone's article.

I thought Max Stossel's video "We've Been Sneaking Into Your Brains" was a thought-provoking exploration of the pervasive influence of social media and technology in our lives. It raised important questions about the impact of these platforms on our daily existence. First and foremost, I agree with Stossel's assertion that social media has a significant influence on our daily lives. It's more than just a communication tool; it has become a constant presence that shapes our thoughts, behaviors, and even our self-worth. It has the power to create a constant feeling of being 'plugged in,' which can be both beneficial and detrimental. There have been instances in my life when I deliberately disconnected from the Internet for an extended period, such as during vacations or simply just a meditation break. It's during these times that I've realized just how much I rely on technology. Initially, there's a sense of unease and FOMO, but as I adapt to the offline environment, I experience a profound sense of liberation. I become more present, engage in deeper conversations, and reconnect with the world around me. To be more intentional about my use of technology, I've tried a few strategies. First, I've set boundaries for device usage, designating specific times for checking social media and email. I've also tried to curate my digital environment, unfollowing accounts that don't add value and seeking out content that inspires, educates, or entertains in a meaningful way. Additionally, I've incorporated reading a book in the morning instead of scrolling through social media or giving my friends and family my full attention when I am with them.

Moving on to Emma Rathbone's article, "Before The Internet," which presents a nostalgic look at life before the internet and the ways it has profoundly changed the fabric of our existence. Social media has an undeniable influence on my daily life. It's a tool for staying connected with my friends and family, accessing information, and expressing ideas, but it also poses challenges. On one hand, it enhances my ability to engage with a global community, share experiences, and keep up with news and trends. On the other hand, it can be a source of distraction, comparison, and stress. The need to be 'plugged in' to stay updated can sometimes hinder my focus and mindfulness. I decided to deactivate my Instagram about three months ago and for over 2 years I deleted my Snapchat and TikTok accounts. I currently only use Pinterest, Facebook (stay and touch with family), and this Tumblr account. It was becoming a more and more negative aspect in my life and my mind feels free and clear when I read a book or journal instead.

To wrap up this blog for you, while these technologies offer numerous benefits, it's essential to be mindful of their influence and to establish boundaries that maintain a healthy balance between our digital and physical worlds!

Connect & Inspire,

Brianna W.

[notasimpleslater]

In response to your question, I personally read that article/quote as meaning that Ethan and Ariana started catching feelings for one another, and Ethan ended things with Lilly before moving on to Ariana, at least that's what I understood that 'he ended things when nothing seemed to be wrong between them' quote to mean. Back in January he stilled called her 'my wife' in that video he posted on Instagram, but sources are saying he and Ari have been dating for 'several months', so -

- that gives me the impression that probably about February/March he and Lilly ended and he started seeing Ariana. But then apparently in April/May that's when Ari and Dalton were trying to reconnect and make it work, and I think that's also around the time Ethan and Ari unfollowed each other? So maybe that's why, he was like 'wtf I just left my family for you and you're going back to your husband?', that's sort of where my mind is going with this. -

- That being said I think the MD post was a combination of two things- one, he wanted to show appreciation for Lilly as a mother (I too noted it strange that he didn't mention anything about being her husband or loving her or anything, like he has in other previous posts), and two, I think he probably didn't want to raise suspicion that anything was going down between them. Having followed Ethan for several years I know that a big portion of his fanbase likes to -

- celebrate things like his anniversary with Lilly, Lilly's birthday (which we only know thanks to his Instagram posts), etc. And he probably knew people were waiting to hear something from him about her and their son on the day and figured it was the path of lease resistance to post her. But like, I mean, that post was weird, sorry, I'm gonna say it. Out of character for him in relation to his other posts about her. I think they were separated by then, he was with Ari, and wanted to dodge q's

Yeah I agree that April/May is a good estimate. Him and Lilly were def still together in March since you can see Ethan wearing his wedding ring at Michelle Yeoh's party (I just realized the hard way that in another post I miss-cited the party being in January instead of March, and no one clocked me on it! Sorry y'all, the Oscars were def not in March dfkgb 😭). Also judging by the Mother's Day post I think it's safe to assume that Ethan is still in Ezra's life.

The fact that so many of these articles contradict each other makes me question if Dalton coming back to London to reconcile with Ari is even true. Like some are saying that he's deeply religious and wants to preserve their marriage, and others say that he's been spotted with other girls since February.

I also just wanted to add that I think it's hilarious that it took a scandal for me to realize just how weird that MD post was! Like not only is it weird that Ethan referred to Lilly as a "wonderful mom/person" and not as his partner in any way, but also the fact that he didn't include a picture of her and that he didn't like the comments of his friends/family members who commented (which he always does on posts about Lilly).

[obsessivelollipoplalala]

I can relate to what the last two anons said I could never make friends in the queen fandom and I see others making friends on here so easily that I feel like there is something wrong with me or I'm just an outcast because I'm shy or weird but the fandom feels very cliquey sometimes

Aw, no, there’s nothing wrong with you for not making fandom friends. All fandoms are cliquey to some extent, and I feel like it’s even worse in small fandoms, such as the tumblr Queen fandom. If you don’t fit in with a clique? Good, it means you’re acting like an adult lol. Seriously, the cliquey shit is so not worth losing sleep over. I had longtime followers unfollow me after I finally got fed up with an extremely immature and cliquey user hate-reading my blog and vagueblogging about me for years lmao, so fandom cliques will turn on you for the dumbest shit and if you say anything against the big name fans—very high school, isn’t it? In general, internet fandom cliques can encourage really petty and abnormal behavior, and I don’t last in them because they get mad the minute someone says, “No this is nonsense and really Online, actually.” It’s like how I left a group chat on insta back when I had my Queen account because I didn’t feel inclined to go along with the crowd in *checks notes*….saying Brian hates Freddie and is homophobic towards him. Really, listening to Online garbage is not worth being in a clique!

Some people do seem to make friends in fandom easily, but keep two things in mind that I previously mentioned: the first one is that it might seem like people are besties on your tumblr dashboard because they reblog each other’s posts and tag each other and stuff, but their online relationship might actually be superficial, and fizzle out the minute one or both joins a new fandom (or those friendships might end easily over really dumb fandom discourse!). The second is that even if you make an actual friend online, they can disappear from your online life pretty abruptly and with little explanation one day, maybe because something happened, or they don’t use tumblr anymore, or whatever.

I know this might not be the answer you were looking for, but all of this is why people should invest more in irl friendships than internet friendships. I’ve been reconnecting with irl friends recently, and man, it feels good. Like I said in another post, too, I feel a lot better keeping to myself on tumblr now, so trust me, getting to know people in fandom isn’t always a good thing lol.

If someone genuinely makes a real, longtime friend through fandom? Great! I just think it happens a lot less often than people think, so don’t feel bad for not having any.

[viridiave]

For the salty ask game my friend, the generator asks 3, 4, 13, 14 :)

Thanks for the ask Sly!! These got a little long tho oof I promise my other opinions won't get this intense

3) Have you ever unfollowed someone over a fandom opinion? - …I want to say no but I actually have done that a couple of times - whenever it happens it's always with a really popular content creator so I can't say it's a great loss on either of our sides.

4) Do you have a NoTP in your fandom? Are they a popular OTP? - Is Osvald/Throne big enough to count as a popular OTP? I've been seeing it a lot on my feed at least aksjaks like I know they're both adults but something about the age gap that's over a decade large makes me uncomfy. It's totally fine but I guess it's just not my thing? That's also generally my attitude towards Olberose even though I know IMPLICITLY that Olberic and Osvald would never do anything bad to them.

13) Unpopular opinion about XXX character? this could be better reserved for a different ask but like. Therion is one of the only ones that I have strong negative feelings on so let me unpromptedly tell ya'll why I think his story is the worst in both games, at least design-wise

Like. I UNDERSTAND what the game was trying to go for here. I also understand how people have come to like and relate to him so much, for reasons pertaining to his backstory and personality. I promise I get it. It's not like Theri himself is a horrible character but it's so not enough to salvage his story in my eyes

But there's a laundry list of reasons why I dislike Therion's arc and all of them have to do with the limitations of OT1's format. His story was just not suited for it, SPECIFICALLY because his story is all about regaining his trust in people. Like - every game critic on the planet can pop off about the lack of interaction between the Travelers, SURE, but in Therion's case I think the criticism is correct, because all of his growth can be achieved without ever having triggered the banters. It just feels so??? Unearned??? Because the people we're supposed to believe made this happen were Cordelia fucking Ravus and Heathcote - I don't hate either of those characters, just to clarify, but I think they're horrible catalysts for Therion's growth because for fuck's sake dude he's basically ENSLAVED by them. That sounds like a bit much, but Therion had no agency in this. Chapter 2 taught him BARELY ANYTHING, and in Chapter 3 he just HAPPENED to run into Darius again. How the FUCK am I supposed to believe that Cordelia's venting session did anything good for him in between that and meeting Darius again in Chapter 4??? Unless we're here to argue HEATHCOTE and that comes with its own set of problems.

I say this every time I complain about Theri's story - he is this game's biggest victim story-wise. If they just waited a little more to pull the lone wolf angsty thief storyline until they figured out a way to make a more interconnected plot, then I think it would have worked better! Out of every Traveler, Therion is the one who would have benefited the most from a Crossed Paths, hands-down - in fact switch Therion and Throne around and you'd have less loss because even Throne makes an effort to get closer to her companions on her own! My god! Give Therion better candidates to reconnect with! Like you know - the seven other guys you get to use???

14) Unpopular opinion about your fandom? - Sometimes I do think we go too hard on shipping, but that's an opinion I have about every piece of media ever so - but yeah uhm. Please make more genfics. Some days I just don't want to look at ships. This is why I write stupid shit about the god fights - I want to fill in that semi-shipless void with unhinged found family shenanigans

[themoneyguru1]

The Fear of Being Left Behind

You see someone your age buying a house. Someone else gets married. Another just announced their startup’s funding or shared vacation photos from Europe. All while you’re sitting with a bowl of instant noodles, unsure about your next step. The fear creeps in quietly: “Am I being left behind?”

It’s a familiar feeling, especially in a world where milestones are public, timelines are pressured, and comparison is constant. But before you let that fear swallow you whole, take a breath. There’s more going on than what meets the scrolling eye.

Everyone’s Journey Is Unfolding Differently

We all start from different places. We face different challenges. We heal at different speeds. No two people have the same emotional, financial, or personal circumstances. And yet, we judge ourselves against someone else’s highlight reel as if we’re supposed to match it.

The truth is, life doesn’t come with a universal timeline. Some people figure out their path at 20. Others at 40. Some meet their life partner early. Others build their careers first, then explore relationships. There is no right order.

The fear of being left behind comes from the idea that we’re supposed to be somewhere else by now. But says who?

Social Media Fuels the Illusion

Let’s be honest—social media plays a huge role in triggering this fear. We scroll through updates that show filtered versions of success, love, adventure, and growth. Rarely do we see the breakdowns, detours, or daily struggles.

It’s easy to think everyone is ahead. But what you’re really seeing is the curated 1%. You don’t see the debts behind the house purchase, the emotional struggles behind the wedding photo, or the burnout behind the career win.

Comparing your full story to someone else’s highlight reel is not only unfair—it’s unrealistic.

The Quiet Wins That Don’t Get Posted

Not every victory is visible. Healing from a toxic habit, saying no to something that doesn’t serve you, learning to live alone, managing your mental health, showing up despite anxiety—these are milestones too. They just don’t come with certificates or Instagram likes.

Many people are growing in ways that are invisible but deeply important. And maybe, so are you.

Progress Isn’t Always Loud

It’s tempting to believe that growth must come with movement, achievements, and applause. But some of the biggest progress happens in silence. Like:

Learning to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it

Choosing peace over approval

Letting go of the need to prove yourself

Allowing yourself to rest without guilt

These changes don’t show on the outside, but they shift your inner world. And eventually, that inner change reflects in how you live.

Redefine What “Ahead” Really Means

If “ahead” only means money, milestones, or marriage—then we’re limiting what it means to live well. For some, being ahead could mean knowing themselves better. For others, it could mean breaking patterns that held them back for years.

Success isn’t always visible. Growth isn’t always measurable. And timelines are not competitions.

When you’re constantly worried about where others are, you forget to appreciate where you are—and how far you’ve come.

What to Do When You Feel Left Behind

Limit Comparison Take breaks from the platforms that trigger insecurity. Unfollow accounts that feel performative. Curate what you consume.

Focus on Your Inner Pace Ask yourself: What do you want? Not what society says. Not what your friends are doing. What genuinely feels right for your life?

Celebrate Your Progress Write down what you’ve overcome, learned, or improved in the last year. You’ll be surprised how much you’ve grown without even realizing.

Talk About It Share how you feel with someone you trust. You’ll often discover that others feel the same, even those who seem “ahead.”

Reconnect with What Matters Use the feeling of being left behind as an invitation to realign. What makes you feel alive? What excites you, even if you’re not good at it yet?

The Middle Isn’t a Mistake

A lot of life happens in the middle. The in-between. The waiting season. The uncertain months. Feeling lost doesn’t mean you’re failing. It often means you’re shedding something old before stepping into something new.

You're not being left behind. You’re just on a path that hasn’t been walked before.

Sometimes, you’re not stuck—you’re being asked to slow down so you can move forward with intention.

Final Thoughts

It’s easy to panic when everyone else seems to be moving ahead. But timelines are not fixed, and life is not a race. You're not here to keep up. You're here to live your version of a meaningful life.

So the next time that fear whispers, “You’re falling behind,” remind yourself: I’m moving at my own pace, and that’s enough.

[robbweigel]

How Men Can Navigate Breakups: A Comprehensive Guide to Healing and Growth

Breakups can be challenging, disorienting, and emotionally draining. While society often expects men to bottle up their feelings and "move on" quickly, that approach rarely leads to true healing. If you've recently gone through a breakup, this guide will help you navigate the emotional turbulence, learn valuable lessons, and emerge stronger and more self-aware.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

One of the first steps to healing is acknowledging the pain, sadness, or even anger that accompanies a breakup. It’s okay to feel hurt, and there’s no shame in admitting that you’re struggling. Suppressing your emotions will only prolong the healing process.

Actionable Steps:

Set aside time each day to reflect on your feelings.

Write in a journal to track your emotional progress.

Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your experiences.

2. Allow Yourself to Grieve

Grieving the end of a relationship is a natural process. You’re not just mourning the person but also the future you envisioned with them.

Stages of Grief:

Denial: Not believing the breakup has happened.

Anger: Feeling frustrated or resentful.

Bargaining: Wishing things could have been different.

Depression: Feeling a deep sense of loss.

Acceptance: Coming to terms with the end and moving forward.

Don’t rush through these stages. Allow yourself to experience each one naturally.

3. Lean on Your Support System

It’s essential to reach out to friends, family, or even support groups. Talking about your feelings can be cathartic and help you gain perspective.

Actionable Steps:

Schedule regular hangouts with friends.

Join online or in-person support groups.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

4. Avoid Destructive Coping Mechanisms

It might be tempting to numb the pain with alcohol, drugs, or casual relationships, but these methods provide only temporary relief and often lead to more problems.

Healthier Alternatives:

Exercise to release endorphins and reduce stress.

Practice mindfulness and meditation.

Channel your energy into creative hobbies.

5. Focus on Self-Improvement

A breakup can be an opportunity for growth. Use this time to work on becoming the best version of yourself.

Areas to Work On:

Physical Health: Start a new workout routine or improve your diet.

Mental Health: Consider therapy or counseling.

Career Goals: Focus on advancing in your professional life.

Personal Development: Learn new skills or pick up hobbies you’ve neglected.

6. Set Boundaries with Your Ex

Maintaining contact with your ex can hinder your healing process. Setting clear boundaries is essential.

Actionable Steps:

Consider a no-contact period to gain clarity.

Unfollow or mute your ex on social media.

Politely decline invitations to events where they might be present.

7. Reflect on the Relationship

Take time to evaluate what went right and what went wrong in the relationship. This reflection can help you learn valuable lessons for future relationships.

Questions to Ask Yourself:

What did I learn about myself?

What patterns or behaviors do I want to change?

What qualities do I want in a future partner?

8. Seek Professional Help if Needed

If you find yourself unable to cope or your mental health deteriorates, seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Benefits of Therapy:

Gain objective insights into your situation.

Develop healthier coping mechanisms.

Build emotional resilience.

9. Reconnect with Yourself

Rediscover who you are outside the relationship. Reconnect with old passions and explore new interests.

Suggestions:

Travel to a place you’ve always wanted to visit.

Try new activities or hobbies.

Spend time alone to understand your wants and needs.

10. Open Yourself to New Possibilities

When the time feels right, be open to meeting new people and forming new connections. There’s no set timeline for when you should start dating again, so listen to your intuition.

Tips for Healthy Dating:

Don’t rush into a new relationship.

Be honest about your intentions.

Learn from past mistakes.

11. Cultivate Gratitude

Even in pain, there are lessons and experiences to be grateful for. Cultivating gratitude can shift your mindset and promote healing.

Gratitude Practices:

Keep a gratitude journal.

Reflect on positive memories and lessons learned.

Practice daily affirmations.

12. Embrace the Journey

Healing isn’t linear. There will be good days and bad days. Embrace the journey and be patient with yourself.

Final Thoughts:

Navigating a breakup is never easy, but with the right mindset and tools, you can turn it into an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Remember, it's okay to seek support, prioritize self-care, and take things one day at a time. In the end, you’ll come out stronger, wiser, and ready for the next chapter of your life.

Robert Weigel

[erectedingold]

I don’t hate you

I just want you to know if you see this, I don’t hate you. I could never hate you.

I had to unfollow you on everything or delete your contact. If I didn’t I’d be trying to text you any second I could, & i’m trying to be the ex you like not the ex you call crazy lol. The urge to try & keep you in my life in some way is so temping, to just have you on instagram, or to keep talking to you every now & then but that won’t allow you to grow in the way you’d want to I guess. Baby I want you to spread your wings & grow. Ironically me saying that you need to “repaint your canvas” after you told me everything was feeling crazy was what you said when breaking up with me. I just hope my color gets added back onto the canvas after a bit.

It’s monday now, had the whole weekend alone after I thought we’d be waking up in a same bed together. I’m missing you bad, you truly were my best friend & lover. I wasn’t as close to anyone as I was close to you. I don’t have friends that would text me back as fast as you did. I don’t have friends that are as free as you. You were the package deal.

But back to the title, I don’t hate you baby, all the pain you’ve suddenly put onto me I couldn’t be mad at you for, all the loneliness I’m feeling I couldn’t hate you for.

Our relationship had lots of forgiveness & Ill forgive you always relationship or not. Love is forgiveness, love is attention, love is a lot.

I post on my stories & just hope maybe I see that you viewed it. Not to make you feel bad or anymore alone & upset but so that we don’t feel disconnected. I hope we can connect together again.

Im planning on entering a film festival in Toronto with my newest film i’m working on. I know going won’t be the same as if you went with me though. But i’ll post it & hope that you can see me succeed in what I’m doing & remember all the talks we had about my dreams. I want to see you succeed in all the dreams you told me about as well, while they’re more personal & more specific to you, I’d like to see you better my love.

My love for you will never end. I had to get up this morning knowing I couldn’t text you while in Boston, how if my train stopped & I missed my ride back home I couldn’t text you, or if I wanted someone to hug later in the day I couldn’t have that. Everyday feels like another tally counting down for a possibility that we can reconnect.

Thank you for everything, I hope we can speak again, if not in this life maybe another.

- Diego

[lunar-fandoms]

I miss you. I hate that I miss you. I love you. I was in love with you. I hate you. No i dont. Sometimes I am glad you are no longer in my life. Sometimes I think I made a huge mistake. I dont think Ill ever find someone who clicked with me the way you did. Im not sure I want to. I wonder if we could have worked it out if I hadnt just pulled the plug like that. I know talking about it never worked before. Im not sure why I think it would four years later. I hope you are doing well. I want to check up on you. I never want to hear from you again. At fhe end I think we werent even friends anymore, we were just going through the motions. I think you didnt even like me that much, I was just always there for you and you liked that. I think you might have been in love with me. I think you hated me. We were toxic. We brought out the worst in each other. We were competitive in our trauma and self hatred. We fought each other. We called each other names and disparaged each other. I dont think Ill ever love anyone else with the intensity I loved you. I dont think Ill find love that will be a fraction of what you once showed me. I dont know if I want to. I cant go through that again. I crave it. I miss you. I dream about you. It always happens the same, I show up somewhere you are and you start a conversation like we never left. Never fought. We talk, we laugh, we cry, and you forgive me. Im not sure what I did to need your forgiveness. I dont know if I want you to ask for forgiveness. I dont know if I would give it. Unfollowing you was the best decision Ive ever made. I regret it all the time. In my dreams, we hang out and speak with an ease i have never experienced since I left you. Im not sure if I miss you or it I miss being missed. If I miss being wanted. I know going back to our friendship would be a terrible idea. I look at your house every time I drive past it. The other day I thought I saw you and I wasnt sure if I was glad or scared. It wasnt you, and im not sure if i was dissapointed or relieved. I have nothing to say to you. If we ever met again I would not know what to say to you. I want to talk to you so badly. Even if we reconnected, it will never be the way it was. What I crave is an impossibility. I would rather die than go back to how it was. I want it more that I have wanted anything else in my entire life. Im so lonely. You sabotauged my relationships so I would only have you. I hate you. I cant trust you. I sometimes wonder if the pain of being around you is truely worse that the lonliness without you. I tell myself being alone is better than being abused. Im better off without you. I dont believe that. As much as I have tried to gain it back, you will always have a piece of my heart. I sometimes think you were my soulmate. I wonder if i was in the wrong. I wonder if I am exactly like you. I still love you. I hate you. I miss you

[sippinggossip]

You ask, info anon delivers :)

About Giorgia and Damiano...honestly that story is very messy.

I know they met in 2014 through a platform called Ask.fm that at least in Italy was very popular at the time in their age group. Giorgia was "famous" in that platform mainly because of her saucy content. She wasn't posting nudes there but she'd reply to questions about sex, giving advice on sex and relationships and in general she was very brazen which I assume Damiano liked.

They met at some point that year when she was in Rome (she lived in Milan but she had dropped out of school by that point and was already trying to make it as a model) and that's when that photo of them as teenagers that Giorgia posted once was taken.

I've no idea if they stayed in contact in the following years, probably yes to some extent, but they both had other partners and Giorgia was even engaged to the guy she dated before Damiano. She was still dating that guy in 2017 and he was with lucrezia.

For September- early December 2017 Damiano was in the Xfactor house without any contact with the outside world but when he made his relationship public with Giorgia in May 2021 he said that they'd been together for "almost 4 years" so I assume they reconnected at some point in summer 2017.

Fans first noticed her in 2018, some fans had seen her coming out of a hotel with Damiano during their first tour and took photos and posted them on Twitter but Damiano dmed the official fan club asking them to get that fan to take down the photos. It may seem unbelievable now but they managed to do that, the fandom was very small so after a few hours the photos were gone.

Anyway, if I'm being honest no one thought their relationship was very important because during the same period Belen had appeared at some gigs and Damiano was very obsessed with her, he had even mentioned her on interviews. And in general there were many rumors about Damiano sleeping around back then, not with any one famous besides belen, but he didn't exactly act as a guy in a serious relationship.

Early 2019, around March April, they broke up. They unfollowed each other and Vic and Thomas (who had followed her back in 2018) unfollowed her too. I don't know the reason ofc but, also having read her book which was mostly written during those years, I think Giorgia wanted the relationship to get more serious and Damiano wasn't down for that. I distinctly remember that on his birthday in 2019 he had a small party with all his friends etc and Giorgia was posting sad stories from Milan, it gave me the impression he was attracted to her but - as bad as it sounds - didn't want to include her in his social life because he didn't see her as girlfriend material.

Why he didn't see her as girlfriend material...I'm not saying this judgmentally but Giorgia's career at the time wasn't exactly easily palatable. She was doing erotica photoshoots and Damiano was 20 years old and trying to build a career. Sincerely, and I'm not saying this to shade her in any way, but the photos she was doing at the time would qualify as Only Fans content today. And how many artists you can think of that are dating OF girls? I think as cynical as it sounds, Damiano knew she wouldn't be good for his image.

The breakup didn't last long though, 2-3 months later they were back together but still she was pretty separate from his friends and family, like he'd taken a vacation with her alone and then he'd gone with the band and friends and even though janis was there, he wouldn't bring Giorgia. Or then he'd gone to Puglia to his family (his mom's family is there) and again Jacopo would be there with his girlfriend but Giorgia was nowhere to be found.

In September 2019 maneskin went to live in London until February 2020, Giorgia went to visit once.

Then lockdown happened and she came to Rome to spend it with Damiano. They got the cats during lockdown. When it ended in May, she decided to move to Rome permanently from Milan but she got her own apartment, she didn't move in with Damiano.

To answer to the other anon, that's when she reinvented herself. She stopped modelling as a career and started building a brand around feminism as an influencer. She also started dressing differently, acting differently, posting different things. Later that year she also got her vulvodynia diagnosis and after that activism around those illnesses became her main focus.

She was pretty unknown until March 2021 when maneskin won Sanremo and paparazzi pictures of her with Damiano there came out. And then after they won Eurovision her fame skyrocketed because her video reaction to their victory went viral.

I don't know what more to tell you, for what it counts I do believe too that the image of their relationship in 2022 - 2023 was manufactured to an extent. What I can tell you is that in the old fandom pre esc she was heavily disliked because there were a lot of rumors about her being very jealous of every woman around Damiano, even fans, also a lot of rumors of her disliking Victoria. But I can't know if that stuff was true.

Fans tend to either love her or hate her, I'm more neutral towards her. I think she has her flaws but I do believe she loved Damiano and I also believe he wasn't the greatest boyfriend at many points. Their relationship always seemed rocky though and I wasn't surprised it ended in such a messy way.

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[thegreatimpersonator]

I’m 22 and I never dated, I had my first kiss at 16 and then I met a guy that was very abusive and thank God! it ended fast, then i fell for a classmate and we used to kiss at parties 🫠 but he didn’t wanted me as something more, it was hard, but I moved on.

Then reconnect with a nice guy at 17 who was kind and gentle and fell for him. But despite being single and saying he found me attractive, he didn’t want anything with me, bc the love of his life was his ex girlfriend (that had a new bf), so we ended up as friends for yeeears (talking every day), but I was in love with him, so every time he followed a new pretty girl back, my insecure self used to get really hurt thinking oh it’s not only his ex, it’s just that I’m not enough for him. After 5 years knowing each other, 3 in love with him I said that it was for the best for we to not be friends anymore and he easily accepted, unfollowed me everywhere and we never talked again.

For context, my parents are splitting up now after 32 yo together and they had a very unhappy and unhealthy marriage :/ When I’m on the internet I see so many abusive stories, cheating, bad relationships, chaos etc. It got too much.

I assimilated so hard that relationships are bad that I closed myself down completely.

So I haven’t kissed anybody in 5 years, going on 6. I actually forgot that relationships are a thing. I genuinely lost track of time completely. But now I’m not 16 anymore, I’m 22 going 23. I’m an adult who was never in a romantic relationship, despite having kissed people I know I never even had my feelings reciprocated. And I got used to it tbh, I don’t miss something I never had or that may not even exist.

But my best friend it’s now in an exchange program and she tells me how her bf spends every night with her on face time so she doesn’t sleep alone. He worked all summer to buy a ticket to see her. I’m genuinely happy for her, she deserves it, she’s absolutely amazing!!! But I cannot lie that this opened an old wound, am I really that unloveable?

Tbh I can’t imagine having a guy reciprocating my romantic feelings, caring for me and genuinely liking me for me.

you're not unlovable at all simply because one person didn't act accordingly with your feelings. if he knew you liked him and he did not want to pursue something, he should have cut ties and respected you enough to not lead you on like that. them not acting accordingly should not reflect back on you in any way. them not liking you back does not make you unlovable either- we can't force feelings with people. if someone asked you out and you didnt want to date them, you wouldn't describe that person as unlovable. i'm sure there are so many people who will love you if you actually allow them to. if you dont want to date then don't, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if you want to be loved you have to start opening up and allowing it to happen.