#How to break a cycle

[calltoamentor]

When Your Heart Isn't In It

What do you do when your heart isn't in it anymore? How do you move forward when it feels like a part of you is missing? Let's investigate what it means when a part of you moves on ahead of the rest of you.

that is the moment when you realize you must let go. When we find that we have been fighting for something that no longer holds meaning to us, and you want to move forward into the next chapter. There is a part of us that feels missing, and we are left with two options: Do everything we can to catch up or let that piece of ourselves go. Without realizing it, we make this decision at every stage…

[ecowellco]

Releasing the self from cyclic expectations

Cycles do what they do best: repeat. Yet, you may be feeling called to break a cycle. And often, a change of thought is enough to start. It's time. Let yourself do it.

Cycles do what they do best: repeat. So naturally, it only makes sense that we expect the same thing to happen when we notice the patterns of a cycle repeating itself. But just as we can play along with the cycle—the role we’ve always known to play in it—we can also disrupt the cycle. We can decide not to participate in it, to change a thought around it, or take different actions. That alone…

[joshpeck]

so turns out mindlessly scrolling on my phone for 4 hours didn't actually make me feel better

[whimsicalsesquipedalian]

Y’all I’m literally never going to be okay about Simon and Betty.

Simon realising that their whole relationship he hadn’t been examining why Betty always followed him because he was too focused on his love for her and not what she really needed. Not what they both really needed.

The devastating parallel of Betty being so blindly in love with Simon that she willingly and unthinkingly always put him first. And Simon being so blindingly in love with Betty that he saw her being happy and so never thought to fucking question whether those were the right decisions to make. Enabling them every time because they were in love and that was what she wanted, right? She wanted to be with him. She loved him. She was happy. So why would he think it should be any different?

And Betty reassuring Simon that she made her own choices. That he didn’t hold her anywhere. That he never forced her to be with him, or put him first. That she made those decisions and that she didn’t have any regrets. But that they both had to let this go because as long as they were focused on each other neither of them were ever going to be able to have the life they needed.

That they had both been trapped for so long carving pieces of themselves out for other people. Betty in her blind devotion when it came to Simon. Simon in his belief that his crimes as the Ice King, and that all the ways he had let down Betty, meant the only purpose and worth he could have was in sacrificing himself for others.

That they both deserved self-possession and the ability to find autonomy and actualisation as individuals. That they deserved to make their own choices, the good and the bad, and just live without the blind devotion, and guilt, and sacrifice that was going to trap them in this loop forever.

That they meant everything to each other, but that now they needed to mean everything to themselves. That the only way forward was on different paths, but that they both deserved that. That they were able to show each other that they deserved that.

That Simon gets to live now.

I will never be okay about this show. Or these two.

[jasminebythebay]

ouroboros follows samsara 🐍

[himejoshikaeya]

its just so fascinating when people go on and on about how adults were always so nasty towards them or how scared and uncomfortable they felt in public or how they always felt so distant and alone from their families, and how they carry this hurt to this very day - only to be nasty to children, complain and mock kids who have meltdowns in public, and to never interact or genuinely love their kid family members. you love the idea of breaking generational curses in theory but lack the actual self-awareness to actually do so. truly, truly fascinating.

[sunlit-mess]

consumed by the inevitable

[shinyobservationtree]

[mochela]

relapse

[hiraya-sa-dilim]

not moving on from how louis so far surpassed the bare minimum of saving daniel's life? how he could've just let daniel walk away and call it a day but he sat him down and armed him not only against the past few days but the rest of daniel's damn life?? how daniel's had it horrible since, but in spite all his losses, he had something??? how he had the hope of being someone and mattering and he held on to it for 50 long years?? and it worked??? it helped him survive over and over and over???? a shit life is better than no life at all and daniel lived because louis chose to help him??!???

[nashvillethotchicken]

The fact I haven't seen that many people talk about how lestat did the exact same thing his father did to him to Claudia by forcibly removing her from the train in ep 6 is a real disservice to both Claudia and Lestat

[calltoamentor]

It Doesn't Need to Work Out

An anxious person's response to the "What if you just tell yourself the opposite?" Approach to anxious thinking, and argument for walking away from things you no longer find fulfilling or meaningful.

Daily writing promptDescribe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.View all responses “What if it doesn’t work out?”“But have you tried asking if it does?” Often when we are confronted with a challenging or unproductive mindset, the most immediate impulse is to reach for the opposite. What if it does all work out? Have you tried looking on the bright side? What do I…

[vendettasfanfictioning]

"Dean didn't love Cas," "It was platonic," fuck off, when Cas died, he handled his loss the exact same way John did when he lost Mary. It's not even subtext, it's in the dialogue. Sam points it out, loud and clear. That's literally what the narrative was conveying.

"He's not just grieving about Cas, he lost Mary too." Yeah, but even when he's hellbent on blaming all of their loss on Jack, even he could see that Mary made her choice.

But to him, Cas didn't. To Dean, Cas was manipulated—deceived by some idea of "paradise," and it's easier to swallow that than to consider that Cas up and left them to protect Lucifer's child.

And you wanna know the cherry on top of all this??? Castiel's paradise consisted of them, together. Happy. Alive. Together. Castiel may have run away with Kelly to fulfill her wish for Jack, (to let him keep his powers where the Winchesters wanted to turn him human), but he only did so for that promise. In the end, he ran away so he could give them this.

(x)

[that1notetaker]

Mha chapter 429 Spoilers! Deku hugging ochaku mirrors exactly ochako's hug when Deku's 'heart' went out of control back all those chapters ago. In both cases, both their hearts were out of control because of someone else. Izuku because of Katsuki and Ochako because of Toga. Again, they're mirrors. They've been mirroring each other for a long time. Izuku knew exactly what to say, because he literally understands. He really does. Now, I absolutely loved the tenderness of the scene. The 'hey, you can let the ugliness out, I'm here, it's okay. You can let it out." Izuku has been dealing with his own closed-off heart for a long time, and we still haven't seen HIM open up properly. I'm not sure how the manga will handle it, IF it will. But it feels like there's something missing, for Izuku's character to round up. I vote for Deku vs Kacchan 3, a reversed of 'The only one that can accept Kacchan's feelings is me'

[black-and-yellow]

Jel my beloved

[burning-sol]

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Do unto others what they did to you. Do unto others as what I taught you to.