#I can literally hear it

[obx-incorrect-quotes]

Pope: Never going to a debate team meeting again. JJ started their argument with "Riddle me this".

[justaboot]

What’s a line you’ve written for Della Duck that wish Paget Brewster would say word for word as Della Duck?

Also she makes the fucking weirdest choices I wanna know what she’d do with

[jakexneytiri]

ok but let's be real, if jake was the one to walk in he'd freeze -> stare at neteyam -> smiling proudly at him while going👍👍-> backs out -> in the end you can hear a faint "atta boy" 💀💀💀

PLEASE 😭😭 HE SO WOULD. & he’d definitely tease them about it any chance he gets!

you know, this laugh

[over-rated-cheese]

can’t wait until we have mike in the upside down, calling out for will

[tranquilitybasehotelcasino]

cobra starship cover of take it off by kesha

[meat-wentz]

ok last thought of the night is frank covering waltz #2 by elliott smith the same way he did losing my religion . I can hear it now . goodnight

[rraskolnikov]

why the fuck are my inner ear muscles twitching right now. peripheral neuropathy has gone too far

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[tanblaque]

[mipexch]

since layer 7 dropped you can send literally any enemy to go kill something wicked repeatedly & v2 being the one to do that is just really funny to me

[ping-ski]

speak no evil, see no evil, hear... all evil???

@lilakwii i hope u enjoy this little gift since u like sun so much hehe :3

LDR belongs to @spadillelicious !

[scintillatingshortgirl19]

house's little laugh as wilson openly flirts with him through an MRI microphone is Doing Things to me

[ethantheannus]

so. the time ripper. every time i’ve seen the scene (which is now 6 times!) i sob my way through new realisations about it.

this time, it’s that wade has always seen logan as a hero. even after he was informed he’s the worst wolverine in the multiverse, he still wants his help, still calls him the “backup anchor being”. he never sees logan as anything but one.

so, the time ripper. even with logan yelling wade’s name, i think wade sees that hero in him. he doesn’t see any of the selfish reasons logan could be doing this for, like to try and save wade by some miracle, or anything like that. because wade wasn’t going to make it. logan is the only reason he did; that they did.

wade sees it as logan doing what he knows him for. he’s a hero.

and logan? he’s doing it for the hero that he knows. the one who pulled him out of that bar and forced him to do better, to be better.

they’re both each other’s hero.

[starcatching]

SEONGHWA ATEEZ at COACHELLA 2024, Weekend 2

[themostfuniveverhad]

<3

[yashley]

anyway laerryn would've released predathos by now