I just got to the part in a court of mist and fury where the Suriel tells Feyre that Rhys is her mate, and the scene that followed just broke my heart. I understand why she’s angry and I understand why he kept it from her, neither of these character would be who they are if they hadn’t reacted this way.
Rhys is scared of rejection because he doesn’t think he deserves happiness or real love for the things he’s done. Rejection would break him bc it would confirm that he isn’t worthy of love, especially coming from someone who in theory is soul bound to him. Not to mention that he’s been really careful about when he tells Feyre information, he doesn’t want Feyre to think he’s turning her against Tamlin and has wanted her to make her own choices since he got her out of Tamlin’s prison house, so to speak.
Feyre on the other hand hasn’t healed from escaping what was shaping up to be a horribly abusive situation. Rhys and his/her friend helped her do a lot of healing from the trauma under the mountain, but she hasn’t healed much from what happened in Tamlin’s house. She came from a place where her boyfriend and his friends controlled her, often by hiding information from her because they wanted to decide what was best. This control very quickly escalated to physical violence and ultimately her complete lack of freedom. So being put in a situation where it felt like information was withheld from her probably felt like control. One of her first thoughts when she confronts Rhys is that he and his/her friends wanted to decide what was best for her. Given her trauma with Tamlin’s household, it makes complete sense.
I have thoughts too on why the friends behaved how they did, but this post is getting too long and it’s not about them
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this post is fearmongering. the results of this study are concerning and should definitely be a matter of public discussion, but this is certainly not the conclusion the researchers came to.
the point of the study was to assess the risks of exposure to toxic metals- something one of the co-authors notes are “ubiquitous” fwiw- via menstrual products. Their research confirmed that these metals are indeed present in tampons, but no further conclusions are drawn. it is possible the metal entered into the cotton from the soil, which is a well-known phenomenon; cotton is so good at lifting heavy metals that it has actually been suggested as a part of the solution for revitalizing polluted ground.
the authors conclude with an acknowledgement that the study should be repeated- their sample size was 60 tampons- and a suggestion that further testing ought to be done to indicate whether or not these metals can even leech out of the tampon in the first place, let alone whether or not such leeching could occur at levels deleterious to human health.
there is, in fact, a body of research- too small, for sure, but much larger than this single study- indicating that long-term proper tampon use has no observable negative impact on health. i am grateful and thrilled that more research is being done and i hope that this study is the first of many on this line of questioning, but i am really frustrated at this post and the response it got.
obviously, if this study alters your approach to menstrual health, more power to you. consumers should be informed-risk-takers, and menstrual health is double-obviously a very personal choice. but it definitely wasn't the researchers concluding that you ought to “avoid using tampons at all cost," only this tumblr user did. the lead author of the paper, in fact, specifically says that she hopes people do NOT panic about the results.
(the notes of the post were disappointing. people affirming that they knew they were right to be suspicious of tampons all along, or even recommending alternatives that actually have very little to no research regarding the safety of long-term use, etc. it’s a different conversation, but categorical distrust of tampons is old-school misogyny. you certainly shouldn't wear them if you don’t want to, but there is nothing inherently scary or wrong about them, and people who prefer them are not being reckless or crass.)
((if you're really worried about exposure to heavy metals, you may want to turn a critical eye to fast fashion, as an aside))
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"I live a lonely life without you. And I may be troubled, but I'm gracious in defeat."(in dreams - ben howard)
fanart inspired by the fic "buried my love in a shallow grave" by iamcringebutiamfree on AO3 / @grahamfolgersdeliciousnotebooks !!Set right after Jon made it out of the buried. I love it so much🍊💙
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shout out to my folks with insomnia & depression & delayed sleep phase disorder & sleep apnea & disabilities & other sleep disorders diagnosed, undiagnosed, and just my plain old night owls & night shift workers!! we r so fucking cool & exist every day in a society not made for us at all. and NONE of us are lazy bums or bad people for staying up late & sleeping in till noon or two or whatever whenever you get up!! no matter what anyone says!! you’re incredible and i love you!!!
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Pain is a great motivator…
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Artist note: I’m so proud of this :))) I know it’s a lot of dialogue and reading, but dialogue is grueling work for me. I’m glad with the art and for the amount of pages I made in such a relatively short time span -w- page 5 was super fun to work on. A lot of blood, sweat, and hours here... :) The backgrounds were a big bore tbh, but I finished them! Yippie!
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there's something so poetic about coyote vs acme being the thing that causes wb's 'the producers' ass scheme of shitcanning movies for tax breaks to blow up in their face and cause them to turn to the camera, blink twice, and dissolve into a little pile of ash that their eyes fall down into with a little bounce
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