#Using “I” statements in relationships

[luna-azzurra]

Ways I Show a Character Who Believes They’re the Villain in Everyone Else’s Story

╰ Behavioral Red Flags

They assume the worst intentions in themselves, even when they act out of love. They brought you coffee? Probably just guilt. They helped you move? Must be manipulating you so you "owe" them later. (They just care. But they can't believe that's true.)

They over-apologize for existing. You bump into them and somehow they’re the ones apologizing, looking like they've personally inconvenienced your entire bloodline.

They self-monitor everything. Every joke they make. Every word they say. Every look they give. Constant little glances at people's faces, desperate for signs that they’ve messed up again.

They let people treat them badly because they think they deserve it. Rudeness? Sure. Being overlooked? Of course. Public humiliation? Absolutely par for the course. Standing up for themselves feels wrong, like a thief demanding a refund.

They preemptively distance themselves when things get good. Got a close friendship brewing? Time to pull away before they find out I'm terrible. New romance? Better end it now before they hate me.

They assume jokes about "bad people" are secretly about them. "You know those selfish jerks who never change?" someone says. Their inner monologue: That’s me. They mean me.

They play up their flaws. Self-deprecating humor, but not cute self-roasting, deep, almost aggressive, like they’re trying to hand you the knife before you even think about stabbing.

They struggle to accept forgiveness. Apologizing feels natural. Being forgiven feels alien. Like wearing shoes on the wrong feet.

╰ Thought Patterns That Wreck Them

"Even when I try to do the right thing, I mess it up." Trying doesn't absolve them. Trying just delays the inevitable hurt they’ll cause someone else."People are nice to me because they don't know who I really am." Kindness isn't acceptance to them — it's a ticking time bomb, waiting to explode when the "truth" comes out.

"If someone is angry at me, they must be right." They don't even question it. Anger directed at them must be justified. They deserve it.

"If I succeed, it's by accident. If I fail, it's because I suck." Zero credit for wins. Full credit for losses. The math of their self-esteem is so rigged it should be illegal.

"If I ask for help, I'm manipulating people." Needing something feels like emotional blackmail in their mind. Better to suffer in silence than risk "forcing" someone to care.

╰ The Tiny Physical Tells

Laughing after their own serious statements, as if to soften the blow of speaking honestly.

Keeping their hands visible when talking (subconscious "I'm not a threat" behavior).

Flinching when someone raises their voice, even if it’s not directed at them.

Making themselves physically smaller—shoulders hunched, arms crossed, shrinking into themselves like they can disappear if they just try hard enough.

Dropping eye contact when complimented.

Holding their breath without realizing it when waiting for someone's reaction.

╰The Relationships They Gravitate Toward (And Why):

Fixer-Upper Friendships: They think they have to earn affection by being useful, by helping, by being "the strong one."

Unbalanced Dynamics: They let people use them because "at least I'm being helpful, even if they don't actually care about me."

Romantic Partners Who Validate Their Worst Fears: They often fall for people who treat them like they’re a burden—because it matches the script in their head.

Or... Relationships That Terrify Them: Because if someone genuinely loves them, they’re always waiting for the moment that person "wakes up" and sees the "monster" they believe themselves to be.

╰ How They Might Heal (If They’re Lucky)

(And if the author isn’t an emotional sadist. 👀)

A relationship where mistakes are allowed, not punished.

Someone calling them out, not for being bad, but for being unkind to themselves.

Tiny acts of trust that stick over time, slowly poisoning the idea that they’re inherently toxic.

Learning that being flawed and being villainous are not the same damn thing.

Being told, over and over, "You don't have to earn love by being perfect."

[prapaiwife]

Pavel again proving and calling out the fact that those who really believe that babe will cheat on Charlie will be wrong lol I some of us already have sense to know that he wouldn't but those who are really defiant. And I've seen some people with some strong claims with threads upon threads about how he doesn't deserve Charlie this is a whole other separate conversation really if you want to really think about it which I can write about lol. But given the state of a babe and Charlie's relationship it is going to be a rollercoaster in these next couple of episodes. Especially regarding Willy inserting himself let's be honest and Charlie and his commitment to the lab. But I'll say it again I don't think that babe will make that conscious decision to cheat on Charlie. Can he be frustrated and upset with him for sure him and Charlie have disagreements we're probably going to see more of those but it would never get to a state of cheating cuz honestly I don't see Charlie and babe ever being with anyone else. It's like either it's just them or they just won't have anyone at all but that's just me 🤧and also he said at the end of the trailer his whole life is Charlie. Which is a big statement to make regarding anything that they will go through even with Charlie losing his memories and then maybe so having to start over and have to take care of Charlie and be there for him none of that will really change his unwavering love for him. I mean I thought we all got that but some of us clearly don't and are bold lol

[hellyeahscarleteen]

We are often told that conflict is a sign of unhealthy relationships or relationships that are doomed to end. We're here to help with the unlearning of that - conflict is very normal and resolving conflict in relationships can actually help us grow together, foster stronger bonds, and deepen our connections. We know dealing with conflict can be hard but you don't have to do it alone. We're here to support you and give you some things to keep in mind for those tough conversations:

Take a minute or two: Sometimes whether we react doesn’t even feel within our control — but it is. When conflict arises, center yourself for a sec: take a few breaths and remind yourself of who you want to be at your best.

In before out: Try and internally process before you speak or act. Do a check-in with yourself and what you’re feeling. Remember you can always ask someone to give you a minute and/or space to process.*** If anyone tries to force you to stay in conflict, they aren’t ready — or don’t want — to resolve conflict with you. It’s time to run, then, not walk, to get the space and emotional safety you need.”

Use “I” statements: It’s important to own and express our experience of things rather than to put our focus on the other person. Sometimes conflict is one person not getting the impact of their behavior on someone else, so now and then an “I” statement can solve the whole issue.

When and where: Resolving conflict is often thorny and requires energy and focus from everyone involved. Choose mediums of communication⁠ where no one has to shortcut or multitask. Set things up so everyone has the time, energy & ability to pay close attention to each other.

Patience, grasshopper: When a conflict requires negotiation, or when someone involved is really struggling, resolution is an ongoing process. Instant forgiveness isn’t realistic. Resolution takes time and mutual work.

Be accountable: Taking responsibility clearly and earnestly for our own stuff goes a long way. Acknowledging ways we may have intentionally or carelessly created conflict, or how we can handle conflict better, are kinds of accountability that create space for resolution.

Know that practicing these six tips may feel awkward or clunky at first, but like with anything else, the more we practice resolving conflict together, the more natural it will feel. Trust in the process.

These six tips are from the Rebel Well Series: a Starter Survival Guide to a Trumped America for Teens and Emerging Adults by Heather Corinna and s.e. smith.

[lemotmo]

Wow.

Q. What do you mean about Ravi being the physical manifestation of Buck's issues or trauma? Ravi is definitely a character in his own right and is not dependent on Buck for screen time. That's a wild thing to say. Can you explain that viewpoint to me please?

A. It's not a statement meant to take away from Ravi as a character but his episodes are pretty tightly tied to whatever is going on with Buck at the time. That's not my viewpoint. That's the way his episode history goes. And in most of his episodes Buck's storyline at the time is in one way or another tied to Eddie, or Buck's abandonment issues, or, in several cases, both. This is going to get lengthy, anon. I hope that's okay.

Ravi's first episode is Jinx in season 4. The episode where Eddie shows interest in Anna and Buck thinks the station is cursed or jinxed because of the calls they get that day. Also the first mention of the universe screaming at Eddie, which was said by Buck. His second episode was Treasure Hunt which sees Buck and Eddie teaming with Taylor to search for the hidden treasure, and Eddie's dislike of Taylor becomes pretty clear. The next episode Ravi appears in is Survivors. No explanation necessary, Eddie gets shot in that episode. Then we arrive at season 5. The season that had the most appearances for Ravi by far. We start with Panic, Desperate Times, and Desperate Measures. Those episodes encompass the aftermath of Eddie getting shot, Buck discovering he's Christopher's legal guardian if something happens to Eddie, Eddie's panic attacks, and his subsequent admission that he isn't in love with Anna. That's also the episode stretch of Maddie's postpartum and her leaving Chim and Jee. That brings us to Home and Away, the episode where Chim leaves to go search for Maddie.

Still in season 5 that takes us to Peer Pressure which is the first episode where Buck and Ravi are teamed up as partners because Eddie has been moved over to partner with Hen in Chimney's absence. That brings us to Ravi's appearance in Brawl in Cellblock 911. Buck and Eddie get kidnapped by the escaped prisoners, they threaten Christopher, and Buck fears Eddie has been shot again. Then Ghost Stories where Taylor's job, and the ways she goes about doing her job, start to become an issue in her relationship with Buck. That brings us to Defend in Place, where an explosion at a hospital finds Buck and Eddie trying to locate an 8 year old boy and his newborn baby sister. This is also the episode where Ravi reveals he had cancer as a child. His backstory is literally Buck's childhood trauma. Which leads us to Past is Prologue. The episode that revealed the story of Daniel and how Buck was born to be a donor sibling. The episode also highlighted more cracks forming in his relationship with Taylor. The following episode, Wrapped in Red, was the episode Eddie decided to leave the 118 and join the 911 call center. The next episode, Outside Looking In, is Eddie trying to settle in at dispatch, the building of his breakdown arc, and the episode where Buck kisses Lucy and then asks Taylor to move in with him out of guilt (a mistake Buck would repeat again in season 8). Ravi's next episode was Boston which picked the Maddie storyline back up. Then Fear-O-Phobia is the episode where Eddie has his breakdown after finding out about his former Afghanistan squad and Buck decides he has to tell Taylor the truth. Next is Dumb Luck which has Eddie in therapy and Buck trying to help him through that. Hero Complex puts Buck's relationship issues with Taylor back at the forefront. Leading to Starting Over which sees the end of Buck and Taylor's relationship for good. Ravi did not appear in a single episode that wasn't in some way related to Buck and Eddie or Buck's fears of being left behind or abandoned by the people he loves.

Arriving at season 6. Ravi only appeared in 5 episodes that season. His first appearance that season is episode 14, Performance Anxiety. This is the episode Eddie's aunt fixed him up on a blind date and Eddie told the team he feels like he has to perform when he's on dates. That brings us to Death and Taxes where Buck meets Natalia the death doula. Then we have the Love is in the Air episode where Eddie attempts to meet a woman and runs into Marisol at the end of the episode. That brings us to Pay it Forward. The episode where Buck's donor baby is delivered by him, he and Natalia talk about getting a couch, and Eddie asks Marisol out on a date.

Now we arrive at season 7. Ravi's first appearance that season is Buck Bothered and Bewildered. No explanation necessary. Then You Don't Know Me which is Buck's first date with a man, Eddie asking Marisol to move in with him and finding out she was almost a nun. Then we have There Goes the Groom, the bachelor party episode. That takes us to Ashes Ashes where Buck meets Kim for the first time and Eddie tells Kim about her similarities to Shannon. Then finally to all Fall Down which sees Christopher's reaction to the Kim reveal and his decision to leave for El Paso.

Welcome season 8. Ravi's season 8 episodes include: Holy Mother of God, Disconnected, Invisible, Sick Day, Lab Rats, and The Last Alarm. Every episode after Eddie left for Texas and Buck's subsequent attempts to adjust to the new normal. His episode history on this show anon is very loud and very intentional. A pattern like that is not accidental or coincidental. It is intentional. It's why placing Ravi in the Buddie scene in The Last Alarm was so intriguing. Having Eddie hug Ravi was a way to show that Buck's fears are safe with Eddie. Eddie is the safe place for Buck to let the traumas of his past go once and for all. And it's why I think Ravi is who Buck is going to be trapped with during the earthquake episodes. Right now Buck is avoiding all the things he needs to admit and reconcile with. Trapping him with Ravi is literally trapping him with the things preventing him from moving forward. And Eddie has always been a thing that Buck is clearly not allowing himself to really think honestly about. The earthquake in season 2 changed Buck and Eddie's relationship. The earthquake in season 8 will change their relationship again.

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[randomthefox]

You can tell someone's point is complete bullshit when all their sources of evidence they're citing are the comics and cartoons which are In Name Only adaptations, and not the actual video games. "Sonic and Tails are all wuvy and wholesome and would never bust each others balls, look at all these screenshots from the comics that prove that!"

Meanwhile in the video games, Sonic and Tails tease each other all the time.

Tails is not treated as "a child" if anything he's treated as the most sensible and mature member of the friend group who has to manage the extreme personality types of everyone else. Tails definitely has personality issues that Sonic is aware of and knows how to soothe, but generally speaking Tails is the reliable and responsible one.

They also NEVER refer to each other as brothers outside of LITERALLY TWO SPECIFIC INSTANCES in Sonic Frontiers where Sonic calling Tails "little bro" was being framed as A BAD THING he was doing because it was infantalizing and patronizing and a result of Sonic seeing Tails as weaker and in need of help and guidance, and the culmination of that chapter was Sonic no longer calling him that and instead referring to him as "partner" instead. The word choice being used for a particular narrative purpose for the sake of the storytelling, and not an accurate reflection of the way the characters view each other. People really need to get the fuck over this, Sonic and Tails have a bond that goes BEYOND family. Referring to them as brothers is a REDUCTION of their relationship.

>he has absolutely no problem indulging tails' interests and needs!!

Note again that NONE of your examples are from THE VIDEO GAMES -_- meanwhile in the video games i.e. THE SOURCE MATERIAL THAT THESE CHARACTERS ORIGINATE FROM

>and TAILS thinks his brother is the coolest thing in the world!! he wants to emulate and be more like him!

In Sonic 2 through Adventure.

Tails' entire character arc is learning that he has value in being himself. Him emulating and imitating Sonic is A BAD THING that he needs to GROW OUT OF. His FUCKING THEME SONG is ENTIRELY about this.

If I just follow you, I will never see the light Now is the time to find my way through this life Trying so hard to be strong

Many friends help me out, in return I help them Certain things I can do And there are things that only I can do No one's alone

Tails wanting to emulate Sonic is a sign of his insecurity, and when he self actualizes in the finale of the Hero story of Sonic Adventure 2 he completely moves on from that mentality. Tails has accepted that he is his own person with his own strength and values and interests, and he can stand on his own two feet instead of being in Sonic's shadow. Sonic was the catalyst for this, but it was development by and for Tails to move on from "needing" Sonic.

What you are saying has not been true of Tails for over twenty years now. If you think that the comics demonstrate that it is still true about him, then that's just one of the many many many reasons these comics are ASS and GARBAGE and DO NOT ACCURATELY REPRESENT THIS FRANCHISE.

>why would u want to make this relationship into a stereotype? they're not typical brothers, they formed this special unbreakable bond themselves!!

I agree with this statement, but your reasoning and conclusion are incredibly faulty and incorrect. Because your reasoning is based on reading these comics and watching the cartoons and NOT on the content that exists in the source material of the characters origin which is the video games.

Please play the video games. I am on my hands and knees begging you to stop reading these god awful comic books and please for the love of all that is holy, play the video games please.

whenever i see stuff abt "we need more tails and sonic dynamic where they're SIBLINGS!" and it's just them being rude to each other i get so sad. they do NOT talk to each other like that!!

sometimes they tease, yeah, BUT:

sonic knows better than anyone that tails is still a child, that he's been through a lot (and thus has some particularly sensitive spots,) and the usually brusque/brash sonic very clearly adopts a softer tone with his lil bro! he's also willing to slow down and (gasp) take care of himself a little better for tails' sake. we also see he gets pretty protective of him...

he has absolutely no problem indulging tails' interests and needs!! sonic thinks tails is adorable!! sonic thinks tails is incredible!!

and TAILS thinks his brother is the coolest thing in the world!! he wants to emulate and be more like him! so while he's inherited some of sonic's attitude (and he's earned the right to use it) he would NOTTT just. straight up insult sonic to his face, much less mean it. don't forget that tails canonically thinks this blue energy rat is incredibly cool

why would u want to make this relationship into a stereotype? they're not typical brothers, they formed this special unbreakable bond themselves!! its unique! its built off of understanding and perfect synchrony!! fundamentally it is sonic gently taking tails in and showing him kindness for the first time, and tails striving every day to emulate his hero! there's no want, no need, and no room for needless cruelty!

[imomnba-x07]

Steve spent 3 movies saving Bucky. He gave up everything for Bucky. He went against everyone, even against Sam's "he's not the kind you save, he's the kind you stop" bullshit, Steve might not agree with Bucky's choices but he'd stand by him and that's a fact. You think he'd kill off his relationship with Bucky, his best friend and family since the 1920s for, let me check my notes, someone he met in 2014??? 💀💀 you're crazy as fuck but believe what you want if that lets you sleep at night 😂

Awe so delusional you didn’t even have the balls to show your blog name, that’s cute. I’m ganna guess you’re like 13 but lemme tell you how adult relationships work. Don’t worry I’ll hold your hand through it all ☺️

Let’s start with the claim that Steve’s movies were only ever about Bucky. This statement takes any sort of agency away from Steve. You throw away every hardship, every conviction every bit of his personality and morals if all you boil it down to is Bucky. In your mind, Steve is no longer a character, no longer a person. He’s a dog who does whatever Bucky needs. Which is not true. He cares about Bucky yes. But Steve is not a servant to Buckys will.

Steve, even before knowing Bucky was alive, was against SHEILD and the use of the helicarriers. (Which means he was anti government control, are you with me so far or do I have to dumb it down further?) “This isn’t freedom, it’s fear.” Steve says to furry when he is first told about project insight. Steve’s mission throughout that movie, his main goal, is to stop project insight and to stop the corruption from undermining people’s freedoms (which he does all with his partner Sam, none of this would have been possible without someone who shared just as strong of a passion for all this as steve). Sorry to break your heart, but Bucky is second in all that. He wants to help Bucky too, but let’s not twist Steve’s priorities here nor make it seem like Steve can only care about one thing at a time.

“He not the kind you save, he’s the kind you stop” sorry but Sam only said that from a narrative perspective for Steve to rebuttal. It’s not even really in character for Sam so I’m not ganna entertain that point. It’s something I laugh off anyways cause thats the only evidence you weird stickies have against Sam after all these years cause yall can’t let shit go. Pathetic.

Now let’s flash forward to civil war, since again, you seem to suffer from amnesia and can’t remember anything about Steve that isn’t Bucky Bucky boo bear Bucky. Steve’s plot in civil war is stopping government oversight. He isnt thinking about Bucky 24/7 in the film. Bucky is merely pulled into it all by unfortunate circumstances. Hell, you could take Bucky out of this film and Steve’s morals would have STILL stayed the same; governments can’t be trusted with control over enhanced individuals nor should they have any say in the avengers. THATS Steve’s moral standing throughout the movie. That doesn’t change. And it’s doesn’t change for Sam either, who holds those EXACT same principles and distrust for overreaching authority figures. Steve, Sam, and Nat went on the run, not for Bucky, but because they refused to be apart of a system they ALL didn’t believe in.

“He would stand by him and that’s a fact” right right I see endgame worked out so well for you people huh😬😬 (lmao)

Now let’s get into the whole friendship piece of it all, since by your definition friends should just blindly support and follow eachother wherever (did your parents never give you the “if your friends jump off a cliff are you jumping too” speech?).

Maybe this is just me, idk, but I have never believed in feeding my friends delusions. I am not ganna tell support every decision my friends make with a “yes queen!🤪” if that decision goes against my own morals and could cause them harm. You are a bad friend if you let the people you care about go through with choices that could do them harm or cause harm to others. Holding your friends accountable is important, it helps us all grow as people. Not being babied or placated or diluted into thinking every decision we make is good. That’s how echo chambers start and egos grow.

Steve and Bucky are grown adults. Steve, with everything we know about his character, would not just let Bucky do whatever, not without Steve shaking Bucky by the shoulders and giving him his two cents. If Bucky is making decisions that go against Steve morals and everything Steve fought to prevent, why does your underdeveloped brain think Steve would just do a magic 180 just for Bucky? Steve would be furious to hear that his best friend (by your own words) undid everything he worked so hard to maintain. And to think otherwise is absolutely ludicrous.

Besides, Steve is chasing a ghost. The Bucky we know is not the man who Steve knew in the 40s. Sam on the other hand, is a man who he has trusted the word of time and time again. Even before Steve spoke about the accords, SAM was the one who fought against them. Sam and Steve have ALWAYS been on the same side when it comes to the government having too much control. They don’t trust the government as far as they can throw them. Sam is also the only one Steve has ever listened to when it came to plans (stopping project insight and stealing Sam’s wings, listening to Sam when he told Steve to let the rest of team cap get arrested so Steve could get away, even providing group counseling during the blip, etc) so yes, I think Steve would absolutely side with Sam here.

You think Steve wouldn’t back the very man he hand picked to carry on the legacy of Captain America? The man who holds his same principles and beliefs? The man who is the rightful leader of the avengers and will lead his team with the very morals that Steve admired in Sam and believed in from the beginning?

Are you incompetent or did you just watch these movies with your eyes closed shouting la la la la la

[a-really-cool-blog-name]

I NEED more information on Pavlova cookie because from what I have so far he is incredibly interesting.

(Important note! I am currently on chapter 2 of beast yeast so I have not played chapter 9 yet so most of my information comes from what people have told me which may be incorrect or not the full picture. If you have any important details to add or corrections, please tell me. I fully expect someone to come into the comments and tell me that this entire analysis is complete bull crap but this is just from what I've seen what is going on with Pavlova cookie. I'd love to hear you guys' thoughts about this.)

At first when I saw Pavlova cookie I was like "oh neat, another basic minion for the beast, this one's based off of cupid, that's pretty cool. I wonder what his personality will be like?" And his personality is like oh he loves love which makes sense because he's Cupid and it's also one of Eternal sugar's minions as previously stated and seems to like her because you know he's being a minion, BUT!

I think Pavlova cookies trapped in the garden and is slowly realizing that this is not what he wants. In a conversation Pavlova has with eternal sugar, Eternal sugar states that he's been going to like the edges of the garden and like leaving a lot (I don't really remember I don't have eternal sugar yet so I can't see this conversation for myself) and eternal sugar suspects that Pavlova might want to leave which Pavlova swiftly denies. Which most likely is because if anyone does deny Eternal sugar she apparently turns them to Stone???? As one of Pavlova's Ascension statements is that he doesn't want to be turned into a statue.

What?!??

And I think I know why! Eternal sugar directly describes Pavlova as "rebellious and curious" (not a direct quote I can't remember the word she uses to describe him but that is the meaning of the word) and I was like wondering why Pavlova is having second thoughts and then it struck me.

Pavlova cookie loves love, not happiness. And while love is directly tied to happiness, love is more directly tied to something else. You know what some people use instead of saying they're in love with someone? They say they're passionate about them. Love inherently is a passion. You're never going to get in a relationship if you just sit around and neither of you make some move, you're not even going to get that unrequited love if you don't know it is. And sure the feeling of Love might still be there, but true love requires passion. And I think Pavlova cookie might have these seeds of doubt about The garden of happiness because he's not truly happy because there's not as much love because there's not as much passion.

Love is Passion and Passion is Love.

Even if Pavlova cookie hasn't fully realized this this seeds are planted in his head that something isn't right, this garden of sloth, this prison of a paradise, isn't love, it isn't even lust, it's just fine. You're just happy, there's nothing more to it, and there is so so much more to love than just vague happiness. Pavlova cookie is directly stated to love all types of love, even the complicated messy types like unrequited, and he's not really seeing that because even if he hasn't connected the dots if there's no passion, there's no love.

(Also side note, I think I was right with eternal sugar being delusional and thinking she is genuinely still bringing the most happiness she can for people. She is still manipulating them but I think I was right and she genuinely believes she's doing the right thing. Which score for me, I think that's so much more interesting than she knows she's doing the wrong thing and purposefully manipulating people into it for fun which a lot of people was saying it would be. Detour over.)

Now as I've stated before I haven't played chapter 9 yet so there might be a conversation with Pavlova cookie that directly goes against some of this analysis but this is just what I've gathered so far.

Please tell me if I am wrong or if you have something to add to this, it would be deeply appreciated.

[ikilledmyhamster]

A little rant of The Magnus Archives.

Alright so I'm almost done with S4 of TMA and here are some things I just want to rant, but just now these are my opinions so please respect them.

Alright listen up I don't care if I get attacked for this or anything but I want to mainly focus on Melanie. Melanie has never been my favorite character, even when I first listen to TMA I never actually got a chance to like her fully like all the other characters, but there are some things that I really hate about her:

She's a hypocrite and honestly the whole month I've listened to this podcast, made me slowly realize how badly Jon is treated in the institute. Now I'm not trying to defend him (kind of) but yes he did lots of wrong stuff in the past (being cold and rude to others, making people tell him about their life story without their consent) but honestly I can get over that it's part of his character.

What I can't stand is that out of all the other characters in TMA Melanie is the one with the most beef with Jon. And yes he was rude to her in the past but he actually never did anything WRONG. She was the one that came to him and told him about her statement. Another thing is that she still gets angry at Jon for almost everything, like girl She was LITERALLY WARNED by Tim and Martin not to sign the contract made by Elias. But she thought they were joking around because she probably thought she was just a temporary archivist assistant while Jon was missing.

"Oh but she couldn't have known that Elias was tricking her" Yes I know that, but she can't just fucking blame Jon because of it. He didn't make her sign it or even asked her to be a part of the institute she just signed it because she didn't have a job anymore. Not to mention she's angry and pissed at Jon for surviving the aftermath of what happened in S3. Tim died (RIP) and she was hoping Jon died too?! Like wtf?! If she wanted Elias dead, why did she also want Jon dead!? He didn't do anything to harm her, He saved her TWICE, from the circus group and from a bullet wound and she still has the audacity to literally hate him.

Also some more things, I get that Jon was a cold and rude man in S1 and was so used of almost being cold to anyone around him, but in S2-S4 his just been a punching bag for all the characters, like they keep on hurting him mentally like he has been at least the most traumatized, bro got kidnapped like 3 times and was about to be killed on so many occasions.

And if any of you say that because he deserves it, because he was a cold bastard well let me tell you this. He was an orphan his parents died and he was raised by his grandmother, it's natural for orphans to not have a stable or good communication relationship because they lost someone who was supposed to be in their life for a long time. It doesn't excuse him for his actions yes, but that doesn't mean he deserves what happened to him. Everyone in the institute has been rude to him because he was "Paranoid" WELL WHO WOULDN'T?! After the attack how could he not be paranoid or have trust issues especially because of Elias.

Jon needs a long damn break, everyone does, nobody in TMA deserved what happened to them (ex- for Jurgen Lietner) he deserves a fucking break like the others really need to stop using him like a damn punching bag

[prefer-unique]

How to Resolve Conflicts in a Relationship Without Hurting Each Other

No matter how perfect a relationship may seem, conflicts are inevitable. Disagreements don’t mean your relationship is failing—they mean you are two different people with unique perspectives. However, the way you handle these conflicts determines whether they strengthen your bond or create lasting damage. Many couples fall into the trap of blaming, shouting, or shutting down during arguments.…

[m4jesty-love]

How to Resolve Conflicts in a Relationship Without Hurting Each Other

No matter how perfect a relationship may seem, conflicts are inevitable. Disagreements don’t mean your relationship is failing—they mean you are two different people with unique perspectives. However, the way you handle these conflicts determines whether they strengthen your bond or create lasting damage. Many couples fall into the trap of blaming, shouting, or shutting down during arguments.…

[featherxquill]

The thing about me is, I’m so rejection sensitive, at least where friendship is concerned, that I have learned to completely ignore the part of my brain that tells me that someone is mad at me or hates me and wants rid of me, essentially granting myself cockroach levels of resilience to passive-aggressive social rejection and ghosting. So yes, I will be That Person. I have absolutely no shame and I will send you 32 things that made me think of you even if you haven’t replied, I will persist in asking you to hang out. Like I choose to believe that everyone is just busy or forgetful or has their own shit going on, it’s the only way I can be a functional human being. So if you want to get rid of me that’s completely fine, but I will take none hints and I’m going to need you to Set Some Clear Boundaries, Ma’am.

[sylvia-on-the-run]

i really like that youre the one policing the term communism here, yes i understand your point and i suppose ill reword this again, being wealth or "socially mobile" (broadly meaningless term) has nothing to do with class, "middle class" is not a real thing, socio-economic class is a description of someone's relationship to the means of production if you think calling someone an artisan, or petite bourgousie or bourgousie or idk a peasant or a kulak is an insult thats on you, they are just factual descriptors of the world, artisans and the petite bourgousie still exist! that is just objectively true, do they take up a much less signifigant economic role then 100 years ago? yes! but guess what that was also true in marx's time! you mention the textile industry(including some very comically anachronistic statements including now defunct corporations) so let me posit this element of historical fact from the time of karl marx, the textile industry was previously broadly artisinal(made by craftspeople organized through guilds and apprenticeships made on contract) petite bourgousie(made by the labour of the owner of a small business and sometimes their family then sold for a profit) or subsistance(rural familys producing small amounts of cloth for their own use) but due to advances of machinery during marx's time the industrial bourgousie were able to industrialize the field and proletarianizing the labor involved in it, and profit off of this using wage slavery. that is a fact, however there are still artisinal textile workers, ive spoken and worked with some! there are many many petite bourgousie textile workers, you will often find this if youre looking for more niche textiles, and yes these people face social and economic strife(so do the bourgousie!) that doesnt make them proletarians, there are proletarians in the world who work in fully democratic industries with great conditions, they are still proletarian, class is not a measure of wealth, but a measure of economic circumstance to decide on anything else is to make the term useless lets make a socio-economic comparison of 'artists'! (here meaning people who make digital 2d pictures using drawing software, for the sake of comparability) we have the graphic designer, who works using company owned machines, as a member of a team, they earn money by selling their labor power to the company who owns the machines and the product of that labor And the commission artist, who works using a machine they own, they are approached by an individual to produce an artwork, which they then sell to said individual And a product artist, who works using a machine they own, to produce designs based on their own ideas, which are then printed either by the artist themself or more commonly by a distinct company, and sold at market for the profit of the artist These are all very real people who exist, if necessary i can link you their social media, and as you i hope can tell, all three of them have a distinct relationship to their labor, their product, and their profit. this is why the terms are useful! one doesn't need to have specific ideas about art to understand this, just some basic principles. however it is important to dig deeper! art is a broad concept and we can analyze historical successes and failures in socialist(as in the economic organization of state controlled industrial production, on the path to communism) art to better our understanding. But i guess that's just one of the benefits of being part of a legitimate communist movement represented by existing socialist states, and not a group of tumblr users with fandom urls

I really like this quote, because its a rhetorical question to which the correct answer is yes,

[anghraine]

I had a longer, grumpier post about this that I've been drafting (it's past midnight but I'm delaying lying down for COVID+asthma reasons), but I actually do also find the raw quotes about Elizabeth at Pemberley pretty funny. Her impressions of the expensive interior are like:

It was a large, well-proportioned room, handsomely fitted up. Elizabeth, after slightly surveying it, went to a window to enjoy its prospect.

The rooms were lofty and handsome, and their furniture suitable to the fortune of their proprietor; but Elizabeth saw, with admiration of his taste, that it was neither gaudy nor uselessly fine,—with less of splendour, and more real elegance, than the furniture of Rosings.

Mrs Reynolds could interest her on no other point [than Darcy]. She related the subjects of the pictures, the dimensions of the rooms, and the price of the furniture in vain.

they were shown into a very pretty sitting-room, lately fitted up with greater elegance and lightness than the apartments below; and were informed that it was but just done to give pleasure to Miss Darcy, who had taken a liking to the room, when last at Pemberley. “He is certainly a good brother,” said Elizabeth, as she walked towards one of the windows.

Meanwhile, Elizabeth's impression of the land:

The park was very large, and contained great variety of ground. They entered it in one of its lowest points, and drove for some time through a beautiful wood stretching over a wide extent. [...Pemberley was] backed by a ridge of high woody hills; and in front a stream of some natural importance was swelled into greater, but without any artificial appearance. Its banks were neither formal nor falsely adorned. Elizabeth was delighted. She had never seen a place for which nature had done more, or where natural beauty had been so little counteracted by an awkward taste.

The hill, crowned with wood, from which they had descended, receiving increased abruptness from the distance, was a beautiful object. Every disposition of the ground was good; and she looked on the whole scene, the river, the trees scattered on its banks, and the winding of the valley, as far as she could trace it, with delight. As they passed into other rooms, these objects were taking different positions; but from every window there were beauties to be seen.

They entered the woods, and, bidding adieu to the river for a while, ascended some of the higher grounds; whence, in spots where the opening of the trees gave the eye power to wander, were many charming views of the valley, the opposite hills, with the long range of woods overspreading many, and occasionally part of the stream. Mr Gardiner expressed a wish of going round the whole park, but feared it might be beyond a walk. With a triumphant smile, they were told, that it was ten miles round. It settled the matter; and they pursued the accustomed circuit; which brought them again, after some time, in a descent among hanging woods, to the edge of the water, and one of its narrowest parts. They crossed it by a simple bridge, in character with the general air of the scene: it was a spot less adorned than any they had yet visited; and the valley, here contracted into a glen, allowed room only for the stream, and a narrow walk amidst the rough coppice-wood which bordered it. Elizabeth longed to explore its windings; but when they had crossed the bridge, and perceived their distance from the house, Mrs Gardiner, who was not a great walker, could go no farther, and thought only of returning to the carriage as quickly as possible. Her niece was, therefore, obliged to submit

On reaching the house, they were shown through the hall into the saloon, whose northern aspect rendered it delightful for summer. Its windows, opening to the ground, admitted a most refreshing view of the high woody hills behind the house, and of the beautiful oaks and Spanish chestnuts which were scattered over the intermediate lawn.

[shannonsketches]

Hello, I love reading your DB analyses and headcanons on Vegebul... Was wondering how you imagine Vegeta realized and dealt with his growing deeper feelings of love towards Bulma after the Cell Games? Would he have confessed it outright to her or been more subtle about it?

Hello!! I love yelling about Vegebul, thanks (to you and everyone!) for sending me asks!

I like to think it's been all but unspoken for almost their entire relationship. Bulma's a big romo goober on the surface but she has a lot of trust issues like Vegeta does, and I think for as smart as they both are they both struggle sometimes to put their more fragile feelings into words.

As much as I talk about Goku and Vegeta and their relationships with their wives being foils, I think something they have in common is that their actions have always been much louder and much more meaningful to each other than words.

While I think that Bulma and Vegeta do both appreciate verbal affirmations, I also hc that genuine vulnerable emotion is an easy way to throw them both off their game, and I've always imagined their confessions to be very quiet, if not completely non-verbal.

tldr I think after the Cell Games Vegeta's confession was just Being There for his family and putting in the work to learn what his role is and what his life looks like now and how he can be what his family needs him to be with the options he has. (Saiyans are masters of adaptation, as we know)

In the same vein, one of my favorite things about Bulma's growth as a character is that as a teenager/younger woman she thought the ultimate love was a man who was performative arm candy that she could cart around in public to show off how loved and adored she is, and being with Vegeta seems to have changed that expectation.

My hc is that her needs became more grounded in what was solid and stable and real and her confidence was rebuilt in the shape of someone who didn't really need anything from her, but continued to choose her anyway, and Vegeta's was too. They're both used to positions of strategic leadership and resource acquisition, and expect their value to be limited to how much those positions are required by their peers.

While they both clearly enjoy certain kinds of attention, outside of the occasional performance, Bulma and Vegeta are both very solitary operators. They would do just fine without each other. They're not emotionally dependent on each other. They're not resource-dependent on each other. They could both easily find other physical outlets. They don't need each other at all.

They want to be together. They chose to be together. They keep choosing to be together. They seek each other out, they miss each other, they like each other, as full and complex and weird and annoying and recovering people.

I think that matters a lot more to both of them than anything else, and I think that's been their way of confessing how they feel for a long, long time.

[noireservoir]

So like when people say "what do you people do" when it comes to talking about sex, relationships, going out etc. I don't think it's always good to take it as a bad faith "lol you're a loser adult who doesn't do SHIT" thing but like. I think it's a fair question. If the majority of people that interact with these topics on here aren't having sex or aren't in relationships or make an effort to go out and do things *if you can* then why do so many of you have very, very subjective opinions about these things.

[lyricailove]

I've seen this said in the fandom before and it kinda rubs me the wrong way. One: because it misses a crucial point of Ian's s5 storyline and two: I think some of the people are misremembering the dialogue of that scene between Fiona and Mickey in s4.

What Fiona says: He might be Bipolar like our mom. It's a condition where he experiences high highs followed by low lows. If left unchecked he could become suicidal and will need to be hospitalized.

What some people in the fandom heard: He might be Bipolar like our mom. I'd rather shove him in a sanitarium so I don't have to deal with him.

Fiona was not saying that Ian being in a hospital would be easy for her. She was saying that if he doesn't get the help he needs, going to the clinic and seeing a doctor, he could end up being hospitalized. It's one of those instances where a character that people tend to dislike gets their words taken far out of context and twisted into being something else entirely.

Mickey immediately panics and says that no, they're gonna take care of him themselves and he'll get better that way. Even if Mickey has to hide all the knives himself. So that's what they do. Fiona and Lip don't berate Mickey or yell at him for not wanting Ian to see a doctor. They allow him to take care of Ian and look out for him.

It's not until all of Ian's loved one's are on the same page that he's able to get the help he needs. Unfortunately, he had to have a break and run off with Yevgeny for that to happen. I feel bad for Svetlana having to be that worried about her baby and I know that had to have been incredibly traumatic for her. But I think I want to write about Svet and Ian's relationship one day so I'll dive into that more when I do.