#Whether out of love hatred or fear you can't fix people

[no-romo-yes-homo]

Thinking about how one of the main messages of X-Men is that you shouldn't try to fix people, you need to help them on their own terms

[basicshift]

BIGOTS DNI

But for everyone else, my name is Basic, and welcome to my blog!

A few things to be mindful of:

• I frequently reblog NSFW content so please be aware of that. I understand that you can't prevent minors from engaging with the content they want, but I kindly request that minors DNI with my NSFW content.

• I'm an absolute fag of a transfem and hatred of any kind will not be tolerated. Even if I do not engage in certain communities, I am fully supportive of anyone so long as they do not invalidate or marginalize someone else (anyone can feel free to ask for clarification on this, I just have a tendency to over explain and fear that this would turn into a long, long list of everything that I think is valid if I didn't simplify)

• Feel free to send asks or ask to talk on discord! I'm usually free and chatting with other people makes me really happy

And finally, here is some stuff about me:

• Some of my favorite games are: Terraria, Minecraft, Lobotomy Corporation, Anything Monster Hunter (save for Frontiers or some of the earlier games that I haven't played yet), Lethal Company, Rain World, Pokemon (gen 5 and 7 especially), The Upturned, DnD, and Magic the Gathering

• Currently in a relationship, but questioning whether or not I'm polyamorous--please feel free to be flirty!

• My favorite color is pastel pink! Though I'm generally just a sucker for anything pastel

• Some of my favorite music artists are: Gorillaz, Sylvan Esso, Will Wood, Mili, Tom Cardy, MARINA, and Against Me! (though more oft than not I just listen to video game soundtracks lol)

• I'm American (derogatory) but hope to someday move out of this country--doesn't help that I'm stuck in the purgatory called the Midwest

• Far and above my favorite animals are foxes--just look at the fluff!

• My favorite bug has got to be moths--again, just look at the fluff!

• If you couldn't tell, I like anything fluffy: creatures, objects, critters, people--you name something fluffy? I love it

• An incredible amount of violence or an incredible amount of intimacy might fix me, but I'm not sure if it's just one of them or both

[the-firebird69]

Annie Lennox - No More "I Love You's" (Official Video)

She is upset her man is having a mental problem with her with his brain and has to try and fix it. They're still in love and they want to try and get back together and their changes outside the word meaning the notes still there but he's an hell of a situation and she is and it's kind of like he and I and he said it and he was going to see why and I'm going to say why this is the max or unchecked and they have the world at Bay and they need attention that what they have is too much and it's out of gilster and the threatening a military coup all over the world and he says that we all need to get together and understand that's the problem the world is out of balance and they are not willing to share with anyone and they had the monsters maze made for their program and we think that secretly they're saying we don't love our father anymore and these people are now our friends even though they're hard to deal with bluto and his are welcome too

Hera

I'm not going to shoot at you again and I see how it went and what you're saying is why the hell is this happening and it might be that they got to Dave and they're having to bother you it doesn't look like they're going after the computers as much as they should and what you say is there's two flavors to the max when they're doing things like that and it just doesn't quite sound like them alone and usually they do that too but I hear what you're saying Dave is trying to grab you and he's kind of cheesy look at you Mass when he tried to put you in a box. That is his brother and he looks at him and says I wouldn't fall for that if it was the worst day on Earth and give me some Twinkies you stupid idiot I remember the words too that's what he said. So the whole bunch of them are eating all these twinkies and stuff and the guys like it's supposed to be for him for Christ's sake you know like you should go sleeping off employers you got the stupid things like that the wrong way and this makes sense and it kind of part of the crew.

Peter audette

And he's in the video with his clones and others are too. And the song says it you still love each other and we're not succumbing to hatred like the max want and because of that what's left is a Jew. I remember this woman and she's an artist and she's pretty Sharp and people need this right now of hers and people who are different clans and different races of theirs and foreigners too this is very potent and potent and it says that these people are doing the job and we should help and we should do it let's be interpreting it and say I wanted to say but still it's a very strong subject.

My wife my friend forever is in trouble and she is saying it that they can use sensing and that we can't stop the ones doing it that usually we have to work real hard we have a problem that they have these caverns and brokers and huge fleet they have a lock on some things and some areas and that we have this huge huge empire overshadowing the rest of us and whether we like it or not we need cover and we need to start working and we need to break this or we're going to be under the shadow until we're gone even though we might have things that can stop them to use them and we hesitate long enough and it's going to be ugly so we have to do other things and make it work and it's hard work and we need a lot of people they have these caverns and bunkers and planet toids and other and it is like vapor lock you can't get things done you can't get people out of the way and you can't seem to do your work and it's in a way of sacrifice and the max I've been doing it for a long time and sacrifice to us and ours when they are way too powerful and we're having trouble infiltrating it is time now there's no more putting it off and now we're waiting and people feel strongly for each other still it hasn't done the job and it should not be fear of that

Zues and Hera

I've never had someone say so much about my songs in such a little bit of time they're wonderful songs and my voice is absolutely beautiful and that's what I'm used to hearing and he says that too spell my name this is what it wouldn't spell binding this is way over the top and I don't mind

Annie

Olympus

I guess you're the Annie I sing about we hope you'll be okay we need to have talks between us and we need to do it now the whole world is mad at us telling us to shut up and harming Us in order for us to get out of the way

Michael Jackson

I'm going to do this and it's a great thing to do and I'm going to start organizing it

Annie

[gohnnyjuitar]

2 and 4 for tex, cobalt, rose, and romulus 😈

"what's the evil face for" i wondered before i spent an hour and a half hunched over this ask

2. a song lyric to describe their love life

Tex

"Yeah, I'm scared but I'll disappear Running around before it corners you Like he's someone who lost his way"

Houdini - Foster the People

a lot of the songs on his playlist that are about relationships are from the pov of the people he's broken the hearts of :') this one part of Houdini is chef kiss for an anxiety filled cowboy who only realizes what he had when he's disappeared for several month's with no goodbye!

Cobalt

"I can tell that you're tired But you keep the car on While you're waiting out front"

400 Lux - Lorde (runner up song was Happy Accidents - Saint Motel)

Cobalt is a very "live fast, die young" kind of fella, even with him approaching his 40s. his major relationships end (Mercedes) or almost end (Remington) because Cobalt is faced with the fear of settling down and becoming stuck (even though neither of those relationships asked him to give up what he loves to do, which is travel). this bit makes me think about Cobalt in the sense that, he sees that his partner wants to slow down and settle in, so Cobalt springs for more travel and more exploration because he's scared he'll get stuck.

what's funny is i think you added this song to their playlist dfhhgf

Rose

"I just want to love you, to love you, to love you well I just want to learn how, somehow, to be loved myself"

Two - Sleeping at Last

Rose is a fixer, and it's easier to fix everyone around her than it is to try to fix herself, especially after losing her memories. surely if everyone around her is happy, then she can be, too. Rose puts her all into a relationship because, for a while, she feels like she has to earn reciprocated love.

Romulus

"I took a low road in I'll take the high road out I'll do whatever it takes to be the mistake you can't live without"

The High Road - Three Days Grace

this bit basically has to do with Romulus being full of self-hatred and regrets. he doesn't understand why Rose gives him the time of day, let alone insists on helping him when she has a million of her own things going on. it goes from him begrudgingly thinking he owes her for helping him, to him fearing the worst because he's developed feelings. in the end, she makes him want to be a better person.

4. a song lyric to describe their personality

Tex

"I'm a hold my cards close I'm a wreck what I love most I'm a first class letdown I'm a "shut up, sit down""

Polaroid - Imagine Dragons

i think this is a pretty god summary of Tex's personality whether he realizes it or not. he's pretty good at freaking out and wrecking something good and not talking about any of his own personal issues. smiley face

Cobalt

"I wanna taste love and pain Wanna feel pride and shame I don't wanna take my time Don't wanna waste one line"

Could Have Been Me - The Struts

Cobalt loves life and all the experiences it can bring. a lot of his personality revolves around wanting to not miss an opportunity to experience something new and incredible. he's a very open minded and happy fella :)

Rose

"When they see you around You look down at the ground But when they walk away You wish they'd stay"

Bleeding Heart - Regina Spektor

a big part of Rosemary's character is her struggle with low self esteem and how this affects her normally happy disposition. she loves people and loves interacting with them, but there's always that horrible feeling gnawing at her insisting that they have no interest in her.

Romulus

"You were a child who was made of glass You carried a black heart passed down from your dad If somebody loved you they'd tell you by now"

That's Okay - The Hush Sound

this just so happens to be like one of the most recent songs on Romulus' playlist and boy does it make me think of how he's trying to come to terms with his father's emotional abuse and shitty childhood that he misses sometimes despite himself :)

lyric meme :)

[leonicscorpio]

Batboy Headcanons because I made this for me but you all can enjoy this too if want. (May contain mild NSFW)

Dick:

Has a weird relationship with unwanted gaze and the attention he receives because of his physique. He genuinely likes the attention but he draws the line when people start getting touchy. Just because he's shirtless working out doesn't mean he gave you consent to touch him.

Has good dieting skills but he's in his mid-late 20's and his metabolism has 0 signs of slowing down. He once ate a whole xl bag of M&M's in front of Steph and Babs and both said they wanted to murder him because he won't gain a pound.

Dick has ADHD and I'm sorry if you don't think otherwise. He has hyperactive type ADHD and while he's gotten better at controlling his symptoms he still stims stretching and flexing his arms and shaking his arms.

While not so much in Gotham, Dick is very politically active and volunteers at voter registration and working with organizations with the mission of police demilitarization in Blüdhaven.

Dick is a very sexually driven individual. However, I don't think it's entirely healthy. His ADHD also comes into play with this but Dick just needs to have a release at least twice a day or he'll feel physically sick.

I don't know if you all have seen male gymnasts. But Dick, like the rest of them, has FREAKSISHLY large biceps. Everyone talks about Dick has the best ass in the bat family and while Jason may be larger and stronger, Dick has the best physique.

Dick's apartment is littered with sticky notes in places such as the fridge/in front of his computer. If it's not written down and in a place where he can't ignore it, it's not going to get done.

I'm sorry I know everyone says his birthday is in March but I have to go to the older Nightwing comics and say his Birthday is December 1st. I want you to look me in the eyes and tell me this man doesn't give off Sagittarius energy. You can't. I respect you but you can't look at that and tell me that man isn't a Sagittarius or has super heavy Sag in his birth chart.

Dick's at home doing nothing but chilling? You best believe he's gonna be shirts off, tits out, and rocking some blue flannel PJ's.

Dick is currently the only member of the family asides from Barbara who is regularly attending therapy. And he actively encourages each of his brothers and sisters to go every time.

After his Agent 37 days. He sits down with Jason and talks about having to use a gun and how hard it was. And how having to kill people has affected him. When he had to kill the KGBeast (Agent 37 days he snapped his neck) I headcanon Dick just trauma v*mit*d. Jason hugged him and just consoled him.

It's canon that Dick has anger issues but to me, it's not explored or talked about enough and not a lot of people like to talk about it. Dick is very much the 'if I ignore it it'll go away' type when it comes to his anger and he can brush most insults or harassment off fine enough. But when he breaks, he makes Jason look like a saint. I'm talking slamming you into a wall and screaming in your face angry. He'll be profusely apologetic afterward but still.

Despite popular belief, I don't think he's that bad of a cook. He's just not very experimentative. He can follow a recipe and does look at some guides. But to me, Dick Grayson just is that guy who is like Chicken veggies and rice are a meal that I can cook 4-6 times a week.

Dick has a slight fear of dentists. He doesn't have bad teeth and has good dental health. He just doesn't like the idea of a drill going in his mouth and the few times Bruce has to take him to a dentist he had a panic attack every time.

Everyone lives for the fics where Jason beats the shit out of Tim and everyone is just like lol well Bruce and Dick just forgives him. No. When Dick found out it was Jason who beat Tim to the ground, Dick was literally seething and told Jason "Pick on someone your own size or else I'll make you wish you back in that f'ing coffin."

Dick's favorite foods (some based in Canon*): Milk Chocolate*, Cereal*, Asparagus, Bananas, Banana flavored candy, Hawaiian Pizza* (suffer its canon) Rum, thanksgiving Turkey.

Jason:

He may be the self-diagnosed black sheep (rightfully so) of the family, but Jason does genuinely love spending time with his siblings. Whether it be sharing memes with them on social media or just randomly showing up where they are and abducting them to go get ice cream/coffee/snacks.

He'd probably attempt to harm you if you told him this to his face. But he is the closest acting to Bruce out of all of the family. In terms of mannerisms and inherent warmth and kindness behind a dark façade.

Has two moods: either exceptionally, almost neat-freak levels of clean, or his life is completely falling apart and Jason can't tell you for sure what color his floors are because there's so much stuff scattered about.

Despite their initial hatred of each other, Jason truly feels closest to Tim and Tim is the only person asides from maybe Barbra who he can just talk to without feeling any judgment.

Jason only smokes when he's extremely nervous about an operation or a hit. For those who don't know criminal justice cigarettes are the fastest way to get genetic material on someone. That being said he does still like to smoke occasionally.

Me, plus a lot of people give him this sort of 'Lazarus Rage' as I like to call it. When he's in the heat of a mission or if he's getting upset/angry his vision will get blurred with green, and it feeds on his anger and just gets perpetually harder to contain until he releases it. Jason has gotten much better at controlling it. But as he will tell Tim or Babs, he's "seeing green" which means they need to be careful because Jason could kill.

Everyone says Dick is the mother hen. I see you, I accept you, but let me raise you. Jason came to realize that he died because of his rash decision to go after The Joker alone. If Jason finds any of his siblings out acting alone, or even at the very least without Oracle. Jason WILL forcefully interject himself and ask them what the fuck they think their doing.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Trying to get close to Jason is hard. He will degrade you can attempt to try to get you to hate him before he lets you in (that cheeky Tsun of him)

He genuinely cares for and supports all of his siblings but has been rough on them needlessly. But if Bruce is being the distant or absent parent he is, you better believe if any of the siblings drops him a text or a call, Jason will be there in a heartbeat.

He's the most physically powerful of the whole Bat Family. You don't understand because of his time in the League, his time with the All-Caste, and having abused Venom for a time, he can snap an arm bone like it's a carrot with little effort.

Everyone in the family likes dogs and goes out of their way to gush over a dog, but Jason takes it to a whole new level. And even when he's masked up dogs just gravitate to Jason.

Can and has grown a beard in a matter of a few days. He usually likes to be clean shaven but some days he likes to wear a beard just to throw everyone off.

One time him, Steph, Tim, and Duke all went to a restaurant (Red Robin lol) and the waitress got his order wrong and his burger had raw tomatoes on it, Jason took the tomatoes off and ate it while looking absolutely miserable. Tim: Jay why did you eat that you didn't have to you know you could have asked the server to fix your burger. Jason, almost in tears: "She works really hard and she tried and I'm a scary dude I don't want to make her upset.." Duke: "... Jason you literally shot at a cop for looking at you funny the other day. But you're afraid of upsetting a waitress?!? I mean ACAB but dude.. "

Jason's happiest big brother moment™ was taking Tim and Damian to the shooting range and watching them both get their first bullseye.

You can't tell me Jason Todd was into the Emo/Screamo/Warped-Tour Scene. His favorite bands/Albums in no particular order, That's the Spirit (Literally the whole album is Jason Themed and I'm gonna die on this hill) & Sempiternal by Bring me the Horizon, Digital Renegade & Everyone's Safe in the Treehouse by I See Stars, The Resistance: Rise of the Runaways by Crown the Empire,

Jason Todd's favorite foods: (Also some based in Canon*) Burgers, Chili Dogs*, Lager-style beers, Freshly baked bread*, Neopolitan ice cream, grilled corn, and Chinese Chicken noodle soup with Duck.

Tim:

This boy *slaps car roof* gives off so much asexual energy. I know New 52 exists but I just feel like Tim is the person who really, REALLY has to trust you and like you before he's sexually active with you.

HYPERFIXATES. You also can't tell me Tim isn't on the spectrum/or has ADHD.

Is the only member of the family who regularly checks up on Jason and talks to him every day via text message. The two are memelords together and love to play pranks on the other members.

While Dick may give the most frequent hugs and Jason gives the tightest, most secure hugs, Tim's hugs are always the warmest and make you just feel good.

Tim's birthday is July 19th. Meaning he's a Cancer. Let that sink in.. no, really let that information just soak. (Note I have nothing against Cancer women, cancer men however....)

All of the bat boys really struggle with talking about their feelings. Dick will manipulate you into changing the subject via twisting it to be about you, Jason will just cut you off or will ignore you, Damian will deflect everything and harass you until you stop, Tim however, Tim is very emotional and while he's very calculated about who he's emotional with, he's not afraid to break down and cry if he trusts you.

Everyone who says he's the level headed Robin haha how's it feel to be WRONG. Tim is at best the least functional college student and at worst a lemming. 'No Tim, coffee isn't a meal I'm going to make you some food or I'm going to stick you in a room with Damian for an hour.' Richard (Dick) John Grayson.

People overblow how addicted to caffeine Tim is. But it's true. Just overblown. You can talk to him before he's had his caffeine just don't expect him to be anything but curt and blunt.

Everyone says Jason would be the worst at texting but it's Tim. He's the master of leaving you on read. While Jason may do it on purpose, Tim is just really bad at texting people and while he always will read your messages he forgets to respond unless it's really funny or really pressing.

Everyone sees Tim as this bean pole super skinny boy Robin. Tim may not be stacked like Dick or a freaking tank like Jason, but Tim is NOT super skinny. He's just as muscular and likes to work out as anyone, but he just is super lean, so he looks a lot bigger and his muscles are more defined because of how thin his skin is. He has those almost disgusting spider veins on his arm. Kind of gross to look at, but he's the dream of any nurse. This means Tim is also the king of accidentally sending/posting thirst traps.

He really is the glue of the Bat Family. Everyone kidnaps Tim for 'Tim Time'.

Dick likes to spar with and in general just hang out with Tim. Tim tried to teach Dick how to skateboard and you'd think the boy who mastered the trapeze would know how to skateboard but you'd be wrong.

Babs and Tim always hang out and talk about computer stuff and Babs knows she can vent to Tim about anything and he won't say a word.

Tim and Steph were a thing for a while and even though they're just friends now, they still are very close and the two have a very deep bond, liking to shop with each other and watch movies,

Cass just loves to be around Tim because of how calming he is but also she knows she can spar with him AND Cass can also skateboard with Tim too.

Even though him and Damian are always fighting, the two still end up being together and have this unspoken bond. They work great together on a team but other than that they still hate each other.

And while everyone still is hesitant around Jason, and despite the fact that Jason literally beat Tim to within an inch of his life, AND would still trigger Tim and taunt him about it. The two have this odd closeness that rivals even him and Steph. Tim will always be the first to bat for Jason. Jason was Tim's Robin. And despite the fact Jason literally beat it into Tim's head to "never meet your heroes." Tim will always be there for Jason should he ask. The two are just close. And it's hard to describe. Bruce has caught Tim and Jason just platonically sleeping next to each other or just doing their own things shoulder to shoulder silently, just enjoying each other's company.

Tim and Duke also have a really positive relationship with one another and the two can stay up all night just talking about anything. Their minds just mesh well together. The two also love to team up and prank the other members of the Batman Family.

Tim's favorite ASMR/Stim? Watching those Tik Toks of people cleaning computers or cleaning phones. The sound of an air duster is like music to his ears and if any of the Bats need their technology cleaned it secretly makes Tim so happy to help them.

Wear his hair up or wear his hair down? It depends! While Tim likes his long hair he also has gotten plenty of compliments for his short hair and likes to style it to suit any occasion.

My one pet-peeve with Tim is that he probably is that person who lets his privilege show from time to time. While he was essentially raised to just sit down, shut up, and be a perfect trophy son to the Drake's. The Drake's were in the same tax bracket as Bruce and Tim definitely was a rich kid. He never means to come across as spoiled, but sometimes Jason will give him harsh looks if Tim just throws away food he doesn't like or says things like Chipotle is 'poor people food'

Tim Drake's favorite foods (you know by now*) Donuts*, Shallot and Artichoke Pizza with Canadian Bacon* (odd choice but it could work) Artichokes in general are his favorite vegetable, Strawberries, and Beef Pho.

Damian:

I headcanon that he has the worst teeth of all of the Bat Boys and he actually has to use lingual braces. (Hence why you can't see his braces)

Canonically is a very good artist and while him and Tim don't get along, Tim introduced Damian to digital art and gave him a photoshop pack and a nice tablet for his birthday one year and Damian loved it so much.

Damian is a capricorn and I will die on this hill. A January capricorn too.

Now you want a good chef? You've got Damian. Having converted to veganism Damian has had to get creative whenever he goes out to eat so he tends to like to eat more home cooked foods. Damian loves all matters of mushrooms, eggplant, and bell peppers.

Damian really struggles the most with his wanting to just be a normal kid. Despite the fact he will dismiss you for it, anytime he gets to spend at Gotham Academy with Jon and the rest of the kids he's naturally the happiest.

Damian LOVES to give gifts. He loves the look on people's faces when they are shocked when they actually get something from Damian.

Despite the fact that he's been traumatized from both his times with Ra's and Talia as well as with Bruce. He just wants Bruce and Talia to be together because he loves them both equally.

While he's the least flexible and least gymnastic of the Robins do let your guard down around him. He is the fastest runner and the guy is rivaled only by Jason in terms of lethality.

So someone (Jason Todd & Duke Thomas) introduced Damian to trap music and ever since anytime his phone gets stolen people will be shocked to find he's listening to some combination of Lil' Yachty, X, Kendrick Lamar, Wiz, and Kodak.

If any random person tries to hug Damian he'll immediately push them away, he'll bitch and moan about just about anyone hugging him other than Bruce & Dick.

Damian loves to go to the beach/the ocean. He just thinks it's so vast and he loves the brineness of the air. Also being half white, quarter middle-eastern and quarter Chinese (Yes everyone forgets Talia is half Chinese) Damian gets DARK. And although he's just okay as a swimmer he still likes bogeyboarding and eventually wants to learn how to surf.

I'm genuinely afraid once Puberty is done with this kid and everyone in the family is. He has Bruce Wayne AND Talia Al-Ghouls genes and those are two SEXY human beings. Damian's gonna grow a beard one day and people aren't going to know how to act.

Damian secretly plays Fortnight and not even Jon knows. He doesn't want to get shamed. He'd rather lose a match and ruin his streaks than deal with the shame of anyone in that family finding out he plays Fortnight.

Damian Wayne's favorite foods (canon*) Cereal*, Avocados, Grilled Tempeh, his mom's Tabbouleh, Mushroom Tacos, and Vegan Sushi rolls, and grape juice.

Duke Thomas

Duke is like, freakishly good with a piano, and he picked it up naturally!

Also everyone says Tim brews the best pot of coffee in the Bat Family, cue to everyone's surprise when Tim was sick one day and couldn't make a pot. Only to find the coffee was freaking amazing. Duke didn't take any credit at first until Alfred let it slip that Duke was the one who brewed the pot.

Duke being the only Meta of the family originally thought he was the double-token because he was a Meta and a black boy. Needless to say his fears were seriously unfounded the moment he got to know everyone.

Although he somewhat fears Jason and his temper initially, he and Jason have one of the closest relationships in the family. If Tim isn't around to bat for Jason, Duke will happily take his spot. The two work on each other's bikes and grew to share the same taste in music.

Duke uses his Photokenetic powers as a force for good and for shenanigans. Jason wants to play a prank on Dick and Damian while Dick is reading Damian a story? Duke will hide Jason in the shadows and will cover up his shadow. Alfred dropped something in the dark? You better believe Duke will find it in 3 seconds or less.

Duke makes it a point to visit his parents every weekend to talk to them. Although they are making some progress in their recoveries, it's still slow going. Eventually, he starts bringing members of the family to see his parents. It started with Cass, then Jason, and the rest followed suit.

Duke loves playing video games with Damian and even helps Damian beat some tougher levels when Damian is about to rage and destroy the console.

Duke is into Magic the Gathering and you cannot tell me otherwise. Duke also is the DM for the Bat Kids annual D&D games. I can and will make a D&D Batfam Headcanons if asked.

Loves Pho just as much as Cass and Tim and they all call it a date night every now and then where they can go to a hole in the wall pho place. It's really a secret between the three of them.

DUKE THOMAS IS THE BEST SWIMMER OF THE BAT BOYS AND I WILL DIE ON THIS HILL. HE JUST THRIVES IN THE WATER.

Finding out his birth father is a supervillain was really tough for him. He went into a shell for a little bit afterwards. Cass and Steph were there to help talk him out of his funk.

Duke Thomas's favorite foods (lol what canon DC hasn't acknowleged our boy in a while..) Chicken Pho, Thai Iced Tea, Papaya, Crab Cakes, Italian Hoagies, his mom's Lemon Poundcake, mint chocolate chip ice cream.

I hope y'all enjoyed! Up next (eventually) will be the Bat Girls!

[fonulyn]

(Spoilers Ahead!)

So, at the end of Infinite Darkness when Leon denied Claire access to the chip, I agreed with his actions. Why? People are unpredictable and dangerous as individuals and as a group. Leon believes that if the chip and its contents are shown to the public that the fear that Jason wanted people to feel would come true and he's right. Claire, on the other hand, feels like the people deserve the information, which is also true because let's face it, the government hides and continues to hide some awful shit and whether it's for the people's own good is a conversation and can of worms to open on another day. However, this time, I felt like Claire wasn't thinking that far ahead. I believe she was on the mindset of "let's handle that when we come to it," which, in all honestly, is how the U.S. is handling COVID-19 and we all know how's THAT going. Leon, on the other hand, is thinking far ahead and the repercussions that come with the release of that information. He sees the flames and the destruction and the fear. He sees people rioting in the streets. He sees people turning against people. He sees hatred and despair. Leon has faith and will always continue to have faith in people but he sees the stupidity and fear in them too. I love Claire but when she asked for that chip, I was on Leon's side and was like, "Nah, can't do it, sis."

yeah i mean

it's a clear cut example of a situation where the characters are both right, but they're looking at the situation from completely different angles and focus on the different aspects of it. Claire is focusing on people deserving all the info they can get and I absolutely agree with her that keeping secrets rarely ends well. Leon is focusing on trying to keep people safe and preventing large scale public panic, and I absolutely agree with him that a bombshell like that would've probably created a huge irreparable wave of panic.

so yeah i mean. they're both right. and both their solutions to the situation have both positives and negatives. it's just a matter of what you actually want to put most weight on. and like. both their solution could've blown up spectacularly. people focus a lot on how Leon thinks he can solve things from within, and how we know he in the end fails in eradicating the corruption. but we have omniscient knowledge of how things will turn out in the next fifteen years, while none of the characters do, at that point. he has a reasonable chance to weed the corruption out and he takes it, and if it doesn't work out in the end it doesn't mean he made a bad call. it just means things turned out a lot more complicated and difficult than there was reason to believe.

also we don't know how Claire's solution to the situation would've worked out. sure people would've learned about the BOWs sooner and there would've probably been public uproar about it. but the actual corrupt politicians? aside from the ONE person named in the files the rest would've gone underground, would've set up alibis, would've paid off whoever they needed to pay off and continued their corrupt bullshit but now even deeper underground and even more difficult to counter. it would've had positives, sure, but bringing it out in the open wouldn't mean it's now solved forever. it's like... when you try to stop the criminals from using the internet they go deeper into darknet and like. the problem might go out of sight but it doesn't go away.

AND i think people tend to forget that ID is literally something that takes place before re5, re6, damnation and vendetta, and so forth... we see the corruption and how shitty the world is in those installments. having a clear-cut solution that would've made everything better? that was never in the cards. they can't afford to fix everything because that'd throw all of the following canon in the trash.

what pisses me off, personally, is how people see everything so polarized because honestly, this conflict was not a case of one being in the right and the other being in the wrong. this was a conflict where two different people had different outlooks on the situation. both have a point. neither is infallible. because c'mon. that's not how the world works.

also there's better meta about this out there than I could ever manage to ramble lol, but i think it's interesting what you said about Claire not thinking that far ahead because it really kind of tracks with her characterization! both the Redfields are the kind of people who need to act to make things better, they will fight anything and anyone if they believe it's the right thing to do. but they are spontaneous and get easily caught up in it and thinking very far ahead might be one of their weak points, on some level at least. they're the kind of people who attack the problem head on, and sometimes the long term effects might get lost in the moment.

but I ramble, I'll shut up now before this'll become even more incoherent :'D

[mental-health-advice]

trigger warning for not wanting to live, trans struggles, self hatred

sorry that this is super long and whiny, no pressure to respond but thank you a lot if you do!

hello there! I'm currently unable to access therapy so I can't get diagnosed. I was already diagnosed with a sensory disorder as a child and general anxiety. I know I can't self diagnose but I want to better understand what's going on with myself and at least have an idea. Throughout my life I've felt really badly depressed. I can't remember the last time I wasn't depressed, it must have been when I was really young. The depression never goes away. It is occasionally less severe but only when I'm escaping reality. I'm transgender and I am not out to most people. I can't stop thinking obsessively about getting surgery. I fear deeply that I've been influenced somehow to feel transgender, because I don't usually feel a want with such conviction. I am never decisive, I always doubt myself, but I am so sure about how badly I need surgery that it scares me. The fact that I physically cannot stop myself from thinking about it is really concerning. My life is falling apart around me, I'm constantly failing and losing everything, and all I can think about is this daydream of getting surgery instead of fixing my life. I'm scared that I don't really want surgery and that I'm actually just telling myself that when I get surgery I will be able to fight my depression. I fear that I'm lying to myself about needing something to make it better when nothing can really heal me from depression. I understand that it won't just go away, but I want surgery so badly that I feel like it is the end goal so I can start living. It is the only thing that keeps me alive sometimes is the idea that I can do it one day and live my life and cope with depression. Sometimes I feel happiness for a second and it makes me so uncomfortable and scared because it's so foreign to me. I feel so alone. I have always felt so awful and sick about myself in every way. I don't even understand fully why I feel like I'm transgender. I know I've always hated my body and wanted to be a different gender, but I wonder if I am not trans and I actually just have self hatred problems. Inside I really do want someone to tell me, yes it's okay to be transgender and you're not wrong, go get surgery and then you'll be able to live your life. But not only is that confirmation bias ridden, wanting to hear validation so I run away from any transphobia, but. I also worry deeply that I will get surgery and then remain just as depressed because I am the problem. I feel like I am the reason my life falls apart. I dropped out of college 2 years ago and left my job and i tried going back to school but i failed my classes. I am living with my family again and I work for them but I don't really get paid enough to save anything. I'm too depressed to think of what i want to do in the future even though they ask me all the time what my plan is now that i failed again. I cant talk honestly to them about any of this. Im so scared of it i have constant nightmares about them knowing anything about me. I try to stay positive but i feel broken and useless. i am failing in every way. i dont know what to do im really desperate. Thank you a lot for being here for people.

Hey lovely,

I’m sorry to hear that you can’t access therapy. I do hope this will become a possibility in the future, so that you can get properly diagnosed, but most of all, so that you can get the treatment you need and deserve. Like you might know, we don’t promote self-diagnosis for the reasons listed here. However, we do think it’s good to be aware of your own symptoms and try to understand them better.

I’ve personally been diagnosed with Persistent Depressive Disorder (Dysthymia). This is when your depression lasts longer than two years. Throughout dealing with PDD, there can be major depressive episodes, since the depression with PDD tends to be slightly lighter / not as heavy. A different term for PDD is chronic depression, which I personally found really scary because I felt like it’d mean it’d never stop. The term chronic here is meant more as in ‘long term’, rather than ‘forever’.

It sounds like you see surgery as a chance for your depression to fall away. While I do think that you can feel better after surgery, feel more like yourself, I doubt that not having had surgery yet is the sole cause of your depression. It’s usually more complicated than that. So it can be tricky to expect so much of it, because then you can only be disappointed and I wouldn’t want you to have to go through that.

It also sounds like daydreaming about your surgery, is something that holds you up. It helps you manage your current mental state. And I’d say that’s okay! We all need something to keep us up, to escape the reality of mental health struggles. Of course you do need to face it from time to time, but you can’t do that all the time. You need an escape sometimes. So if that escape is daydreaming about surgery, I don’t want to take that away from you! I have my escape too, I read a lot of books where I can escape into different worlds.

Feeling depressed can become a security blanket too. It’s a familiar feeling. You know what it’s like. So then when you feel happiness, or at least a bit happier than usually, it’s scary. You don’t recognise that feeling. It’s completely new to you. So it feels uncomfortable and you try to get back to feeling depressed, because at least you know that feeling.

I can’t look inside your head, so I can’t tell you whether you’re transgender or not. But I can tell you that it’s completely okay to be transgender! You mention that you’ve always wanted to be a different gender, which sounds completely valid to me! Even if you hadn’t felt that way always, you could still be transgender. It’s okay to be transgender, it’s okay to want surgery. But I don’t know if it’s fair to expect to be able to live your life without depression afterwards.

Sometimes, thinking about the future can be too overwhelming. That’s what I find at least! I dropped out of uni and have been working ever since, but if I think about the future and going back to uni, I get overwhelmed. So I try to focus on the present. I’m working now and that’s okay. It’s okay for where I’m at right now. If I manage to feel better mental health wise, then maybe I can think about going to uni again. But right now that isn’t doable, so I don’t consider it. Do you think this approach might be helpful for you too?

I hope this helped at least a little bit! If there’s anything else we can do to help, please let us know.

Sometimes what seems impossible, is just hard. Love Pauline

[polyamoroamer]

Webs and Nets

I've been thinking a lot recently about what I want out of life, what I can offer the world and those around me, and what I need to grow and change. I think we all have.

The world right now is in flux. It is a scary time and scary place. We have violent men in power; rising bigotry and hatred; a global pandemic with hundreds of thousands dead; rampant transphobia and rampant racism; police brutality against those who dare to rise up for peace, for strength and for love. We live in a dystopian novel.

But the thing is that we always have, in many ways. Native Americans are still living through the apocalypse that decimated their ancestors and stole their land; African Americans are still living through the apocalypse that pillaged them from their homes and forced them into slavery thousands of leagues away. The legacy of horror continues. This is not new. But what we are seeing right now is a pinch point, an historical time where things could swing toward the better, the brighter future.

During lockdown I have been keeping away from people almost totally, as my grandmother whom I shop for and visit is 97 next week and I want her to see 100. I went to one BLM rally, the biggest protest I've ever seen in my predominantly white little conservative town. Bigger even than our ridiculously large Pride (we have a truly exemplary number of radical LGBTQ+ people for such a Tory stronghold). But I have not stepped out past that, as it was simply impossible to socially distance, and I am protecting someone.

I have been working hard on the campervan conversion, building the bathroom and starting the kitchen cabinets. I'm considering linking this blog with my real life at last, so may eventually post photos of it when it's finished. I've complained about it to you friends enough!

I started a new kids' novel about a trans girl who finds out she is a witch and navigates the difficulties of coming out to her parents and living as openly trans at school, and learns magic at the same time.

I've cut the pieces out for so many new items of clothing to sell, and am hopefully going to sew them all soon.

It sounds very productive but it doesn't feel it. Every step is three steps backward before I can move on, every day feels like a punch. I've been creating out of desperation, trying to justify my use of oxygen and food and space by making things.

A few weeks ago on the Solstice that came to a head. Dash and I were going to go out in the campervan and trip for the first time since last summer. But I couldn't fix the leaking skylight (again), I took hours longer trying to make it work than I should have done, and finally when the time came to leave, we picked up my mattress to put in the camper and it had been utterly ravaged by mould.

This might sound like only a minor setback, but to me it was breaking point. That mattress has changed my life. I woke up in the mornings without pain, able to get up and go whether I did my morning yoga or not. I slept soundly, heavily. I dreamed strange dreams and I felt rested. I didn't hurt. It was a £1800 mattress I found secondhand for £250. And I ruined it. It felt like the perfect coming together of all of my failures as an activist, as a child, as a partner, as a creator, a builder, an adult, a grandchild, a sibling, performer, writer, as a human being. Through my own negligence I destroyed something very expensive to replace that had supported me, cradled me, held me and become my haven and sanctuary.

So I had a pretty solid breakdown. I slid back into old habits, the clawing of skin and banging of heads. I had a headache for days. It felt so ridiculous. Such a small, insignificant thing to go wrong when compared with the huge issues facing vast swathes of humanity. But as we all know, often the thing that sets off the breakdown is not the biggest issue. It's just the last little drip that makes the bucket start overflowing.

Since then I have had several smaller incidents in a similar vein, and every time I mock myself for them.

But I am lucky. My mother and my partner, and most of my family really, are all very supportive of my, and one another's, difficulties. When I fuck up and spiral into a self-destructive vortex, my loved ones give me space to recover, help me to fix the problems, and unquestioningly forgive my mistakes. It's astounding to me, the amount of patience they can have with me, when in my own eyes I am a ceaseless burden and chronic fuck up. They hold my hand and tell me I am wanted, I am loved and it is a pleasure and joy to be with me. They help me to repair or replace or heal or learn. They love me.

And in this I come to see how similar we are. Because I do the same for them. When Dash makes a mistake and becomes convinced he's always just an accident waiting to happen, I reassure him, help him to fix the problem, and give him space to stew. When my mum panics two or three times a day over technical issues, I swoop in to save the day. When Nanny Ogg puts herself down because she believes the voice of her abuser, I swamp her with verbal affirmation and love.

We all take care of each other. We are all parts of the web. Or really it's more like a net, with no one person at the centre. Everyone looks after everyone.

I want to expand this network. Recently I have been trying something new in my relationships. Whenever I think positively about someone, I send them a message, even if it's only 'hey, how are you? Thinking of you'. This is a hard practice to get into, because it requires fighting executive dysfunction and social anxiety and depression to reach out even when I don't feel like it.

But I have frequently not done this, and people have died suddenly, and I have felt so guilty for not having sent those messages. Many, many loved ones right now are suddenly seriously ill or abruptly gone. And I can't afford to not send every loving message that pops into my head because the grief and guilt are just too much the way it stands.

When faced with that stick, it's much easier to pursue the carrot.

I have felt very alone and very grief-stricken for a long time, and so have many of us. COVID is just the latest upheaval and tragedy in many people's lives. We're almost numb to fear and grief, but not quite. We're just full up. But we are not alone, and it's up to us to remind other people that they aren't either. As we show love, so we shall be shown love.

So right now I am throwing nets wide, throwing love out into the world and reminding the people I like that I care about them. Because I want to forge new relationships, rebuild old ones, and create unity and community with the people around me. What does it matter what form those relationships take, as long as they exist and are nutritious to our hearts and souls?

The world is hard right now, and we can't survive it alone. But together we have a chance, and if we don't start now, when will we?

[kindofclever]

To you and your followers: I'm not sure how many of you know about the shooting today. But it made me incredibly angry. So I finally decided to do something about it. But I can't do it alone. So I wrote something, and I would like everyone to reblog it, here on Tumblr and everywhere else that you possibly can. facebook, email, phone, even paper mail, you can even print it out and tape it up if you must. But the message needs to get out. Please help me.

YES YES YES THIS IS SO IMPORTANT Y’ALL BETTER REBLOG THE HECK OUTTA THIS

IF YOU’RE CHILL WITH IT I’M JUST GONNA PASTE IT HERE:

“PLEASE READ

To my fellow citizens of this world: Today there has been another shooting in America. I am shocked and disgusted, and, to put a finer point on it, angry. Why must there be so much carnage and suffering?! Have we as a people really sunk that low?! There are shootings every week! There are specific days to hurt people out of hate!

And I ask myself, why? Why does this have to happen? And the answer is, because of hate and fear. The world is broken, and it is up to those of us who live here to fix it. The future is only what we build it into, and right now, we are building an apocalypse. We are building a YA dystopian novel.

There are people rich enough to buy half the planet, while children starve and people are sold into slavery. There are people who focus on nothing but their own personal future. There are still women who only live to serve men. There are still girls who are married against their will at ages as young as twelve. There are still hate crimes. There are still mass shootings. There is still disrespect and abuse of people based off of nothing more than religion, skin color, gender, sexuality, mental illness, the list goes on and on!

And so I ask you this: Do you want it to stop? Do you want our race to feel safe? Because that is what we are, human beings are one race, one kind of being. Nothing else matters. Human beings need to be treated as such.

I ask you this: Have you ever been denied of health, of safety, of love, of clothes, of food, of supplies, of a job, because of who you are? Have you ever seen that happen? If you have not, then imagine yourself in that position. Would you want it to stop? Of course you would!

I do not know what will fix our world. I do not know what will fix America. I was taught to defy tyranny, and that is what I will do. Tyrants will not be tolerated. Tyranny is hurting people for their beliefs. Tyranny is oppressing the poor because they are poor. Tyranny is misogyny. Tyranny is believing yourself to be the only correct person in the world. Tyranny is the king that sits on our throne. America is meant to be the land of the free. I ask you, do you feel free?!

I still do not know how to fix our world. But I do know how to fix parts of it. Just a tiny bit at a time. I started with myself. It begins with accepting yourself for who you are. Then, you start accepting that other people are going to be the way they are. Next, treat everyone with love. Kindness is the most important thing in existence. The smallest act of kindness can change somebody’s life. If you do not understand a person, accept them nonetheless. Educate, do not harm. The first part of changing the world is this: DO NO HARM.

At the same time, doing no harm means not accepting harm done to others. If harm is being done to someone else, whether mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, then you put a stop to it. If you see people perpetuating harm to others, than you stand up and you say no. There is a question that has been asked by people for centuries. How do you know something is alive? You know that something is alive when it can say NO. How will the tyrants and the misguided really know what we need unless we speak up? Say no to hatred, say no to harm, say no those who think it is right to punish people for existing! Do not allow harm to come to anyone!

I have learned my part, and I am still learning, and I want everyone who reads this to think for a minute. I have always been so very unhappy with the state of the world. I have always been unhappy with the pain that I see people going through. Have you ever been unhappy seeing the pain of others? Then do something!

Excuse my language, but I have finally understood that the way that the world should run is this: Do no harm, but take no shit. Do not hurt anyone, but do not just sit and take disrespect and harm from anyone either. Tell them no! Remember that you are alive! Remember that you matter! Remember that everyone deserves to feel safe and loved! EVERYONE!

And so, I ask you this: share this message. Share it with everyone you know. Share it with everyone you don’t know. Post it on your social media. Send it to everyone on your contact list. Print it out and stick it places. Email. Discord. Facebook. Even paper mail! Just stay safe while doing it.

I learned the hard way that I, personally, can never back away from this fight. I am not capable of standing aside and watching so much suffering. I have promised to myself that I will change this world. I have promised to myself that even if I cannot save everyone, even if I cannot save myself, then I will do what I can. And I can do a lot. If you feel the same way, if you will not stop fighting for equality, if you will never stop fighting against tyranny, if you will always fight against hatred, then say it with me: I WILL NOT STAND DOWN. I will never stand down, I will never back away, I will not back away, I will never stop fighting!!!

If I cannot convince you, then thank you anyway. If you are not ready yet to fight, physically, emotionally, mentally, then thank you. I will see you on the front lines when you are ready. To everyone who will not or cannot join this fight for love and equality and safety, then I respect your choice, and I love you.

So please begin. Live your life by love, and not by hate. I await you.

Sincerely,

Adrien Lightwood, 17″