#actual autistic

[spooksforsammy]

Everyone love autism until the person needs someone to remind them or help do things like bathe, change clothes, and use the bathroom.

Everyone love autism until they need to be told what to do in social interactions and still can’t do it correctly.

Everyone love autism until they can’t communicate in the way you deem appropriate. Until they need other ways to communicate because they can’t verbally do it. They love autism until they can’t communicate even if they have aac. until they have NO (no) ways to communicate because they don’t understand they can.

Everyone loves autism until they can’t sit down and stop moving. Until they grunt or moan or make random sounds. Love until moves around and not even realize that their moving.

Everyone loves the idea of autism until it’s not level one low support needs. And not fair that high support needs, medium support needs, level 3, level 2 autistics get so much hate for things can’t help. They should still be loved!

[lisascr3ature]

i think autistic people should get money from the government as compensation for having to endure a hellscape of a world not made for us on a daily basis because life in general is so much harder

[orchid-purple]

Honestly the thing that makes Occeus and Jentha such wonderful autism representation is that the creators are not afraid to get into the horrible experiences and disadvantages that come with the condition.

For Occeus, he spends most of the comic feeling defective and like a horrible person because of his inability to understand the people around him. This severely negatively impacts his relationships, even with his girlfriend that he loves to death, because he doesn’t know how to communicate and he is painfully aware of all his failings while he continues to struggle. On top of that, other members of the cast are not kind to him because of his flaws in communication, even if they don’t fully understand what he’s dealing with, it doesn’t do him any favours.

[Image: Occeus speaking in a text confession to his girlfriend. Saying: “I’ve always felt like something was different about me. Our society is built on these strict expectations of strong feelings of mutual understanding of what we can do for others. Or what others can do for you. But I don’t understand other people, and other people don’t understand me either. So what do I have besides the capacity to work?”]

[Image: Albion criticising Occeus for his failures in communication, particularly with his girlfriend, through a video call.]

For Jentha, she grew up isolated, suppressed and rejected because the adults who were meant to care for her couldn’t handle her needs and thus never taught her how to do so either. And thus, she continues to live in fear, resentment and self-isolation in the present day because she’s terrified of the outside world and how vulnerable she has become. Mainly due to those adults eventually suppressing her power and teaching it out of her in order to make her more palatable to them and other neurotypical people, to the vast detriment of herself.

[Image: Jentha in her dimly lit bedroom surrounded by toys, being told via video call that she has no school today by her principal.]

[Image: Jentha lying in a dirty room surrounded by toys, slowly starving alone because nobody is there to care for her.]

I love a lot of autism representation but not a lot of it ever dives as deep into how detrimental it can be to a person, both from themselves and because of outside treatment, and that honestly means so much to me as a person reading that in my favourite comic. These characters reached into my soul and made me relate harder than I ever have to any other character, I love them so much.

[the-meaning-iz-42]

Stimming is no longer enough. I need to become a vibrating ball of pure energy.

[emmatheyoshi]

I’ve been looking at a bunch of Chef Saltbaker x Reader Headcanons recently and decided to done of my own. These are for a gender neutral, autistic reader.

(Art isn’t mine)

• The two of you first met late one afternoon. You came into the bakery, ordered something to eat, and sat down at a table to do something. (Read, write, draw, etc.) You quickly became a regular at the bakery.

• Your friendship truly began once you stayed after hours, rambling about your special interest(s) to him. He stood at the counter and listened as you excitedly talked about your passions.

• Saltbaker doesn’t judge you for stimming. In fact, he finds it adorable. He loves seeing you get all excited and happy stimming.

• If you vocal stim, Saltbaker will occasionally make noises back to you. He’s not mocking you; it’s more of a form of affection.

• Saltbaker has a physical list of your safe foods. He likes taking those dishes and adding his own twist to them. For instance, if your safe food is Mac and Cheese, he’ll make something akin to a Mac and Cheese casserole.

• When you first started dating, Saltbaker immediately did research about autistic love languages. If you’re not a big fan of physical contact, he’ll show his love through words of affirmation. If you love physical contact, he’ll give you all the physical affection you want.

• Autistic have this specific love language that’s been dubbed “penguin pebbling,” which is named after how penguins will pick out a rock and give it to a potential mate. If this is your love language, you give Saltbaker seemingly random things that remind you of him. He has a whole box full of these little trinkets you give him.

• Saltbaker may come off a bit overprotective and even possessive to some people. But he never wants to hurt you. He knows that you’re independent, but this doesn’t stop him from worrying about you.

• If you’re nonverbal and use sign language, Saltbaker goes out of his way to learn what the different signs mean. He’ll even sign back to you while speaking.

[textyhfjfirst]

Transautistic isn’t real. As a diagnosed autistic person, that shit is terrible. Get rid of it, it shouldn’t exist. Wipe it off the face of the earth. PLEASE. It’s ableist.

[cloudthemangaka]

i have being very stressed so thats why there has not being any content on ether of my blogs. sorry

sorry my freands i just have to recupirate.

[thateclecticbitch]

Advice from an actually autistic person for actually autistic people: Don't settle for people who hang out with you in spite of your flaws. Find people who love you because of your flaws*. Surround yourself with people who don't just tolerate or pity you, but fully embrace who you are. I promise your social life will improve and the relationships you build with other people will be more satisfactory and long lasting.

*addendum below the cut

By "flaws," I mean the autistic traits people shame you for. Things like like difficulty with eye contact. Like your atypical facial expressions and body language and posture. Like your unusual intonation and cadence of speech and echolalia. Like your need for direct communication and tone indicators. Like your need for routine and predictability and preplanned activities. Like your special interests and infodumping. Like your sensory integration difficulties and sensory boundaries and stimming and meltdowns/shutdowns. Like the double empathy problem and hyper empathy and hypo empathy and fluctuating empathy. Like alexthymia and intense emotions and lack of (displays of) emotions. Like energy and spoons. Like, well, autism.

These are needs that should be accommodated and/or develope coping skills for on our own terms. Not problems that need fixing.

I do not mean racism/ mysogyny/ cisheterosexism/ ableism, repeatedly violating other people's boundaries, bullying, or refusing to listen and apologize (for real) and change when you are made aware of/called out for unnacceptable behavior. Autistic people (generally) not being actively malicious or intentionally rude does not make us immune to exhibiting toxic traits or holding predjudiced beliefs. Everyone needs to do anti-racist, anti-cisheterosexist, anti-mysogynist, anti-ableist work. Also I am begging my fellow NT passing autistics to stop throwing alexthemic, non-speaking, and high supports needs autistics under the bus. We arent all that different from each other and they deserve to be included and listened to as well.

[nichknack]

So maybe this is the autism speaking, but why the fuck do we put so much emphasis on teaching kids to never ever lie, especially in a professional environment, only to then basically require everyone to lie on their resume?

I’ve had multiple people tell me to lie, tell me that everyone lies on their resume. I’ve had people tell me that you are expected to lie.

But it just feels wrong. Like. No? You’re not supposed to lie??? Wtf?!

[rockcat2112]

When can I relax? During morning? No ❌

During evening? No ❌

When it's finally peace and quiet at like inbetween of 2 and 5 AM? Bingo! ✓✓✓

[spooksforsammy]

One reason don’t joke about autism is because don’t want be seen as joke.

Not funny not able regulate emotions. Not funny having difficulties with social interaction. Not funny need people already know around help socialize and make new friends. Not funny that at current age still need supervision going places.

Not funny that put life in danger because low environment awareness and sense of danger. Not funny know possibility never able live alone. Or go college. Or even walk to park that barely 5 minutes away from house.

It’s not funny that small things have me breaking down, crying, yelling, hitting myself and others. It’s not funny that a small change of plans will ruin my whole mood. Not funny that make random faces, don’t notice am making them, and get yelled at for face.

Not saying don’t have good autism traits. But if joke about good ones, others won’t take my bad one’s seriously.

[hushimstressed]

got that dawg* in me

*autism

[lisascr3ature]

parents should know that their autistic kids/teens enjoy listening to the same bands/songs over and over before introducing them and then turning around and getting mad at them for "playing it to death"

[the-meaning-iz-42]

I think it was written in the stars that I would have autism and ADHD because my initials are literally N.D

[flowergirlmiwa]

(spend ten minutes writing a forum post)

me: "no! stupid! shut up!"

(close window)

[snakeautistic]

People underestimate how much it fucks you up to be subtly excluded as a kid. I would try to talk to my classmates and be met with disinterest or annoyance. The one friend I had, who I clung to and nodded along to his every word, had other friends he liked just as much or more. And his other friends didn’t care for me at all.

I look back at pictures from the time and see how separated I was from them. I remember knowing I was different. I remember posing questions about the world to the girls playing next to me and realizing that they had never asked the same ones to themselves. That the ways we thought couldn’t be more different.

I kept myself amused with my own fanatical stories and musings in my head. I would wander the playground on a circular path, imagining a friend and being sorely disappointed when it didn’t feel as real as I’d hoped.

There was a bubble separating me from everyone else, thin, and nearly invisible, but with a pearly sheen you could catch under the right conditions. I knew it was there, they knew it was there, and it changed me