#and I'm too aro for that shit

[schizosamwincester]

I think a lot about blocking #destiel because I don't want to see destiel posts suggested to me all the time by tumblr... and then I remember destiel news. The one true joy in life. And I just. I can't. I need all news on this hellsite to be delivered to me by the brotherfucker and the gay angel. It is necessary.

[wolves-in-the-world]

that bit in the lonely hearts job where sophie and parker get flowers and a cool plant delivered and we see eliot walking away looking very pleased with himself about it? that pulls on every one of my heartstrings. they could've put some bittersweetness in there! by every rule of amatonormativity they should have put some bittersweetness in there! there is no way this chronically single guy who gets by on casual sex and has One Big Failed Romance in his past should be able to just feel smug and happy that he's given his friends' tentative relationships a nudge while he remains unpartnered. not according to most shows.

I'm fine. I'm aching a bit with appreciation for this damn story. I'm done now.

[dazai-irl]

IF aromantic / aroace / ace people can have romantic / sexual relationships despite not feeling romantic / sexual attraction . . .

Then people should be able to have any romantic / sexual relationships even if they're not attracted to them ?

If a girl wants to date another girl even though she's not lesbian or sapphic , then I say fuck yeah , go for it .

Same with guys or any genders - it should be normalized if anything . . .

[drewiresora]

I could argue that this aroace flag is better at communicating that it is the aroace flag because it has the purple n greens and the "grey scale" that both ace n aro flags have and everyone that can identify those two will understand what this flag means

And is the best combo/mashup aroace flag because it does have design unlike other combined flags

And that I love so much the colors of the aroace sunset flag and I like the idea of using blue for aroace, but it doesn't communicate that well that it's aroace, it doesn't even have the iconic "grey scale"

But I don't have the time to do that, so

[scraemoo]

The identity crisis™️

[forever-and-whats-left]

Saw some headcannons and posts about the idea of erik being asexual, and I guess I'm in the mood for controversy.

My credentials are I'm ace/aro.

Some people, even asexuals, mistakenly believe that being asexual means lacking sexual desire. This isn’t true. Asexuality is about a lack of sexual attraction to others, not about personal libido, which can be high or low.

Touch aversion and sexual aversion can sometimes stem from trauma or disorders, so it's important not to assume someone’s orientation based on their discomfort with sex.

I have no issue with characters being headcanoned as ace/aro, but my bigger problem is with woobification. An asexual person can still have a high sex drive—yet fandoms often infantilize ace/aro characters in ways that don’t happen with other identities.

By woobifying, I mean erasing a character’s flaws or wrongdoings under the idea that they’re an “innocent ace/aro bean 0w0.” That kind of treatment isn’t okay for anyone, regardless of sexuality. Everyone is responsible for their actions, whether they’re gay, straight, or ace. Of course, different identities have their own nuances, but at the end of the day, ace/aro people should be treated as people, not as delicate exceptions.

TLDR; please stop making ace Erik devoid of all his original traits and still allow him to be a flawed character. Ace/aro or not, he still kidnapped/killed people??

[strqyr]

i've come to realize that i much prefer established romance over developing one. not even kidding, i've straight up dropped shows once a beginning of a romance rears its near inevitable head, and if i somehow survive through the first impact, i just stubbornly ignore it until the end of times.

but established romance? give me all the married bitches. hell, give me divorced ones even, as long as there's some of that sweet, sweet foundation there, a past that i can properly feast on, bc apparently no one can deliver it on developing romances.

[guardian-angle22]

https://youtu.be/xhQt-7yI-wM

Animated short film about asexuality. Thought it was neat. You’re the only ace person I follow on here so I thought I’d share 🤗

omg that you even thought to send this to me in the first place is sooo sweet of you.

Here's the embedded link if anyone else wants to watch!

This is so fucking good! and the animation is adorable too!

the way she feels like she has cracks and is broken because when she looks around it seems like everyone has something that she doesn't... but when she sees there's an entire community of people just like her, she realizes she's not actually broken after all.

I'm not crying, what are you talking about.

WHY ARE YOU ATTACKING ME WITH THIS ON A RANDOM THURSDAY?? (I'm just kidding thank you so much for sharing this! 🥺)

[the-acid-pear]

It's actually really funny how it is bc despite being an insane person with weird kinks whenever I see someone with kinks I DON'T share I'm instantly thrown off by it. Which is comedic to me bc you'd expect the freak to inherently Understand other freaks but no unfortunately that's not how it works necessarily.

[iamdeltas]

Sometimes, I'll run into a post that's like, well, I find these characters' dynamic so compelling so I just can't see it as platonic and I need to romantically ship them, and then I'm reminded that most people need to romantically ship a dynamic in order to obsess over it? It's just wild to me, as someone who obsesses over platonic dynamics a lot. What's it like to be so boring that a relationship has to be romantic for you to find it compelling?

[terresdebrume]

On the one hand I'm trying to focus on the positive so I'll mention that I've had good food (well, it's great quality food it's just not all to my taste) and heard good music

On the other hand I would like to go through ONE outing with new people where I don't feel like a socially inadequate person. I think it's not that big an ask tbh

I mean I guess the good news is that I'm only feeling bummed about it instead of bawling my eyes out, but the fact that I feel this at all is very urgh

Like. I'm 34. I'm considering having a baby. I would like to feel like a functional adult in a social function plz and thanks

[mx-myth]

Been thinking about ace-spec liansanjiao recently 🙌 almost wrote it into a fic but they all turned out to be too horny

Personal headcanon that fdb also leans a little bit aro. Projecting onto him SO hard he doesn't understand why people like kissing so much it's just a physical sensation??? But he comes to terms with eventually. He's probably demi and the most oblivious out of the three when it comes to people liking him.

Dfs is gray-ace methinks. He caught feelings for llh and suddenly it was game over for anyone else (didn't stop jiao liqiao though). VERY lan wangji in that sense. He doesn't realise he likes fdb until they're basically already dating.

Llh I think is possibly sex-averse. He doesn't have any big feelings about it but at some point (as li xiangyi) he came to the conclusion that sex must just bring on the same endorphins and all that that fighting does. So why doesn't he just fight instead? He never really stopped thinking that but also as llh he is just. He is Unwell. At that point he's like why bother? I've got a sticky detective puppy and a sticky mengzhu/rival on my ass.

[eldritch-flame]

Wow I'm having so much fun playing Cult of the Lamb, let's see what the fandom's like- why is everyone shipping the Lamb with the god. What.

[dontthinkwedontnoticeyou]

Dear Diary,

Let me remind you I work at a tourist information. Last week a tourist came in, you know, the standard procedure - "I'm here for the first time, I have read a bit, but maybe you can recommend me some things to do, places to see", bla bla, typical. And since he had 5 days at his disposal, I gave him an A+ Full Service because I am this pro.

He was really nice and normal.

And cute.

We talked for about half an hour and by the end was literally so grateful for my tips, he had everything he needed jotted down, where it was best to go and when, free admission days to museums, tickets booking information, transport information to nearby towns he was interested in; plus I also told him a bunch of interesting trivia. A normal service I give to those who are interested and actually listen to me.

He promised he would come back.

He did.

Twice.

Except I had a lot of time off that past week. Each time he came I was not there.

My colleague passed me the Merci chocolates he got for me.

Dang, he was cute.

Was he really? ("Are they actually attractive" playing in the distance). Let's say he was.

Signed- Your Friendly Neighbour Aro

PS. I've been low-key smitten for a week and sad I didn't get to meet him again. This whole situation really fucking tires me.

[wildandmoody]

It's honestly always been this way and some ppl may already know this but as much as i like to oogle at men behind my screen and think about how hot guys are I can never actually picture myself being with guys in any capacity. I used to joke that the only way I'd ever date is in a last-ditch effort to find a person to live with that I tolerate and like enough to move away from my family but I won't even entertain that because i can't picture any gay guy genuinely liking me enough to do that and I'd rather kill myself than pretend to be a straight girl for some cishet guy, or be with/around a cis guy who lowkey just sees me as a weird girl anyway. And no I don't like the idea of living with friends either.

[moe-broey]

Brain still soup but like. I think making one or both (or more!) characters involved in relationships with each other aromantic makes the dynamic soooooo much more compelling. Because if you remove romance as a motivator, you really get down to the nitty-gritty as to WHY that character is seeking out/involved in those relationships in the first place. Whether that relationship involves romantic factors or is more of a queer platonic thing. Much to think about....