#and also if you are a reylo and you see related posts on my blog insulting it

[lucky-clover-gazette]

down a rabbithole re: current publishing drama and my biggest question is can someone PLEASE tell me more about the trend of reylo fics getting turned into published books? like i saw a goodreads collection in the dossier that had like 50 books that were reylo fic. i am genuinely so interested in how this fan community feels about this phenomenon, and what other books besides love hypothesis fall under this umbrella. no i was not a reylo shipper in my 2016 tfa era, i was simply a kylo ren appreciator, but reylos PLEASE interact and tell me more about this !!

[raylazuko]

Hi guys! I’m gonna make an intro post because I have decided to come back to this blog. My other account has some bad memories associated with an ex friend and I’d rather use this one. Anyway:

Hi, my name is Riah (pronounced like Mariah without the “Ma”) but you can also call me Yorke, Lex, or anything idrc as long as you’re nice. I’m non-binary and I think agender is the best label for me but I lean more masculine so please use they/he (it and xe are fine, idrc as long as it’s not she/her.) I’m also a sex-repulsed asexual and I think I’m panromantic (not really sure, I’ve only dated one person and it was a guy before I was out as enby.) please do NOT flirt with me or ask me about my ex unless I want to talk about it. I still have a lot of trauma from irl stuff over the last few years but I don’t take stuff out on people.

I am 21 years old and am diagnosed with autism and ADHD as well as anxiety and off and on depression due to all the other stuff. If you’re ableist or say I’m faking my autism/ADHD, I will block you! That’s not cool.

I like a lot of different music rock and indie (Radiohead, Björk, Coldplay, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Fiona Apple, etc) and I might post stuff here but this is mainly for other fandoms. I am a K-pop stan (mainly girl groups) and I sometimes post them. My main groups are BLACKPINK, Dreamcatcher, (G)-IDLE, Aespa, and IVE. I’m also obsessed with Taemin. I’m not against RPF on principal (as long as it doesn’t involve minors) and I’ve written some K-pop fics before. I don’t write smut because of me being ace. If I do crosspost or promote my AO3 here a lot of my fics are sad. But I mainly post fanfic of fictional stuff. I also don’t like people who are obsessive weird stans with K-pop, pop singers, rappers, it doesn’t matter who it is. Basically any celebrity if you stalk them or think you can marry them that’s weird! Fanfiction is FICTION and they are real people with lives. I see this stuff a lot in the K-pop community so I just wanted to put that as a disclaimer here I in no way support that behavior.

Im I’m a lot of fandoms but my main ones are Genshin, ATLA, Sonic, Mega Man, Legend of Zelda, Mario, Daria, MCU (mainly GOTG these days) Disney/Pixar, Spiderverse + animation in general. I used to be into Star Wars and Hunger Games but I’m more casual with it now. Im bad at watching shows because of my ADHD and need to finish stranger things and umbrella academy someday and then I’ll post them haha. I have a lot of dead fandoms from not finishing stuff. Also I used to be into Harry Potter but I’ve cut all ties with that because of JKR. I won’t hate you if you like HP stuff especially fan content but if you support JKR I’m gonna block you.

I don’t kin characters hardcore but there are definitely some that have more than one relatable aspect to me or I just love posting stuff about: Zuko, Katara, Blues, Zero, Mirabel, Shadow, Nimona, Rocket, Nebula, Vanellope, Gwen, Diluc, Scara—those are just some of my favorites and I’ll post a lot of spam about them lol. If you hate on me or others for having headcanons unless it’s like really really screwed up then don’t come on my page! I’m cool w all ships aside from p3d0 stuff (I personally don’t read 1ncest but it it’s fiction idrc. I will mention I’m in the Archie Sonic fandom to an extent and I ship Knuxulie who are distant cousins, but I don’t count is as 1ncest because everyone is technically related, it’s pretty distant, and Ken Penders is weird. It’s stuff like siblings, parent/child, first cousins, etc. that icks me out. I also don’t ship adopted siblings like Thor and Loki because that’s still incest so stop. robot masters are a gray area because there are so many Wilybots, there is a brief mention of Snake/Shadow in the fic, but all the main sibling ones I don’t ship together.) and people who say shit like “all reylos are toxic” don’t fly with me. I use this as an example because it’s what my ex used to do. Also taking things way too seriously about fiction like saying SU is the worst thing ever (I also want to mention my ex agreed with Lily Orchard and when I pointed out the rightful criticism she got for her lack of research, he said people only hate her because she is trans. He is a cis guy.) I also want to be clear that cishet guys who hate Korra as a character are on thin ice. I have weirdly specific boundaries because of my ex bf.

I hate people who gatekeep stuff in fandoms too unless you’re gatekeeping it from racist people or something. I also hate people who say “you’re not a real fan if you like/dislike a thing the fandom dislikes/likes”, people who harass writers or actors because they don’t like a show like be fr. So if I see that stuff on my page you’ll be blocked. Also saying stuff is non canon just because you don’t like it. The two biggest examples are the Star Wars sequel trilogy and BOTW/TOTK. People who say anyone who likes the sequel trilogy is a fake fan, and people who say that TOTK isn’t a real Zelda game just because they don’t like it. It’s annoying.

I know I mentioned I write fanfic and I’ll occasionally post art here. My instagram, AO3, and stuff is all in my Linktree which it’s not letting me copy link but I’ll post the url here.

linktr.ee/Riahlexuko

Also I wrote a Mega Man fanfic https://archiveofourown.org/works/50900716/chapters/128590468

Anyway I hope you guys have fun and enjoy the blog, I repost a lot of stuff but I’ll post OC sometimes. Anyway, bye for now!

[onewomancitadel]

Heyo, I just wanted to stop by and say how much I really do appreciate you and your blog! I really enjoy reading your analyses and hearing your take on certain subjects from various fandoms (especially RWBY lol), especially when you analyze it from a Jungian perspective. It's very unique I feel from other blogs out there, at least from the ones I follow/see.

And while I'm not the biggest Knightfall shipper out there (although I do see the appeal in it and find it cute in many regards), I like reading your various little essays and analyses about them because, well, I find them extremely interesting and it's always fun to view texts, whether they be books, movies, or television shows, from an alternative perspective.

Also, it's incredibly cathartic to see other people love Cinder Fall and see her for how complex and layered she really is as a character. Way too many people view her in such simple, one-note terms when it's really a disservice to both her and the story that's being told with her.

Keep up the good work! And I hope you have a blessed day

Omg... thank you for this ask T_T I hope you don't mind me posting it publically, I'll lose it otherwise. This is very sweet of you and thank you for stopping by. I do see you in my notes and it always brings me joy!

I'm so glad we both have that perspective on Cinder and I'm very happy they're relatable to you. That's really important to have, because for me I know the blogs that made a huge impact on me and made it more comfortable for me to post about the stuff I enjoy lol

I'm also interested in the fact my Jung posts are interesting; mostly because I think they must come off nonsensically, but also because I'm aware there is at least one other poster in the fandom who has discussed Jungian storytelling in the context of R/WBY. I have major disagreements with them though so I mostly keep to myself on that front. (I just wanted to mention that because I'm not the only one, and it would be unfair of me to not say so).

I also had someone once say about me that I read into stuff too much and I've never once stopped thinking about that comment, so hearing that the thinking-too-much topic is actually worthwhile does make me feel a lot better.

With that being said, is your icon Mj. Motoko Kusanagi? Because Ghost in the Shell (1995) - one of my favourite films - introduced me to Jungian storytelling, funnily enough. (It's actually quite relevant in the context of RWBY, because there is an anime tradition of using Jung).

Later, Reylo was told with Jungian storytelling in The Last Jedi, and then I ended up here. (o:

And while I'm not the biggest Knightfall shipper out there (although I do see the appeal in it and find it cute in many regards), I like reading your various little essays and analyses about them because, well, I find them extremely interesting and it's always fun to view texts, whether they be books, movies, or television shows, from an alternative perspective.

Thank you for reading my Knightfall posts, and I agree, a different perspective can be invigorating! I also make sure to tag in a way such that if you are a Cinder-redemption fan, you can work around my Knightfall tags by blocking the tags - but I also sort of figure in that case, I generally tag Cindemption for Cindemption posts, and you can just follow the public tag instead... but I also discuss Cinder's redemption through a perspective which emphasises the romance, so it's still something that's naturally going to be there.

I think someone may have even sent an ask before about whether romance is necessary or not and what a non-romantic redemption arc might look like... I feel like I've discussed that topic before. For me, it's difficult to read redemption independent of character desires and interaction; it's not really something that happens disparate to that, so my answer is going to be heavily biased towards my given interpretation, lol.

For the purposes of my own little interests, I do like hearing from Knightfall fans, Jaune fans, Cinder fans, etc., and seeing where they crossover and where they don't. So thank you. :D

Also, it's incredibly cathartic to see other people love Cinder Fall and see her for how complex and layered she really is as a character. Way too many people view her in such simple, one-note terms when it's really a disservice to both her and the story that's being told with her.

We love being right. (:

There are definitely other people who view her through a similar lens, but I mostly keep my blog here just to whatever I'm thinking about unless I come across a specific post I agree with in my fandom trawls. I can say off the top of my head that @habitual-shrimp shares a similar perspective on Byronic heroine Cinder and she's generally very thoughtful about Cinder (we have had a few good back and forths). I also know strqyr is a really big Cinder blog who appreciates Cinder, but I do have some departures in interpretation - still, a nice positive source. @misstrashchan also wrote the first post I recall that references the V6 scene which sets up Ruby purifying Cinder with her silver eyes, and is also a Knightfall shipper, but Rosegarden is more the focus on misstrashchan's blog. I also know a few others who are sympathetic to Cinder, but you may already otherwise follow them.

As I've remarked in the past, the Tumblr fandom is much more positive in regards to Cinder, but positive is not necessarily the same as being obsessively devoted to writing posts about her redemption. (:

I think there's an interesting thing with characters like Cinder (especially of the Byronic hero tradition lol) is that sort of what you see is what you get. To me that's thematically moving, because I sort of think that's also, in part, the whole point of her character (and, er, a major thematic focus in RWBY, what with the eyes and all).

This is probably why I am often attracted to polarising characters, and what I often find interesting about polarising characters is that how to choose to interpret, or how you choose to look at them, or what you expect, or what you are narratively primed to expect, completely transforms that character. In the context of Cinder, it's what makes Knightfall thrilling, and makes her redemption thrilling. It's what makes the curious way we are told her backstory - revealed only to us - so thrilling.

That use of perspective is always going to excite me. It's also what makes me less harsh on non-Cinder fans, or people who don't think she's complicated, because in part, they're what make her so interesting, and what makes being a Cinder fan interesting. I can't make other people see what I see, but trying to bridge that, in some way, is rather fun.

What I really like about Knightfall is that you get that audience- and character-effect in real-time. Jaune is set-up to be her worst enemy (and carries the wound the audience does of Pyrrha's death), so you get the most heightened effect in both of their characters: she's his worst enemy, he's a Huntsman trying to start shit with her.

Anyway, I do want to sincerely say thank you! It means a lot to me, truly, and whilst I do whinge and moan on my blog quite often, I am very thankful for lovely people like you who stop by. (:

Also, feel free to send asks about Cinder (even by anon) if you feel like it, my inbox is always open. (:

I also realise the length of my ask reply here is rather long; I expect that you know what to expect by now. Hope you have a lovely day too! <3 <3 <3

[thewayofthetrashcompactor]

Hello!! First of all, I love your blog! :) Second of all, may I ask a RFFA related question? (Tried their page, but anon was turned off!) Do you know if you & the other mods will put together an exchange this year? I miss the Reylo fam! ❤️

Hey anon! Yeah, we unfortunately had to turn anon off on the RFFA blog early on due to the Star Wars Fandom ™️.

Disclaimer here: Since I'm answering this on my personal blog, this is my *personal* answer, and not any commitment on the part of the RFFA and the other mods.

I'd like to try to run an exchange this winter! Some of the other mods have moved on from Star Wars/fandom, so this does unfortunately depend a little on my schedule/mental health, but I'm hoping and anticipating that this is something I/we'll be able to do. I know the reylo fandom has sort of plateaued post-canon, as fandoms do, but there's still a lot of us around and I'd like us to be able to connect more, especially people who feel on the edges of fandom and don't necessarily have in groups to do events with that aren't generally open or easy to access for newcomers.

In the best case scenario, I'd also like to run some sort of prompt or wip or NaNo sort of event in the fall, similar to other events we've done in the past (like the Spring Into Reylo this year or Finish Your Fics previously), but that will depend on time and interest. If there's anything you'd really like to see, feel free to message me!

(Again, personal response on personal blog, not a RFFA commitment)

[writingwife-83]

About Me 🙋‍♀️

I figured I should make one of these and pin it to the top of my blog. I’ll edit/add things on this post if ever needed.

My Tumblr-

I do not routinely follow back. I just like to keep my dash pretty minimal and curated.

I mostly post and reblog content related to BBC Sherlock, Star Wars, writing, and fandom. My ship and fandom preferences are my business. Don’t like, don’t follow.

I always read the tags on reblogs.

I do not post or reblog content that’s explicit, so this blog is safe for under 18.

I view reposts as theft, and I don’t want that on my blog. I try to be careful, but if you see that I’ve reblogged something that is a repost, please let me know so I can delete it.

I disagree with the use of A.I. art, so if I see you routinely creating or reblogging it, you’ll be blocked. If you see me accidentally reblog A.I. art, please let me know so I can delete it.

I am careful about tagging ships and possible triggers if it’s something I’m aware of, in case anyone has filters. If I forget to tag something or make an error, don’t hesitate to politely let me know!

I love receiving asks, but anon is currently turned off due to a number of rude ones I’ve gotten.

I care deeply about the serious issues going on in the world, but tumblr is not where I express that. This blog is primarily for my writing hobby, so it’s just for fun and entertainment.

This is my main blog, but I am also a mod on the blog sherlolly-ily-fest.

I’m never going to be willing to spread a stranger’s request for money on this site, so please don’t ask me to.

My Writing-

I still have a handful of fics from early years on FanFiction dot net, but I have all my fics on Archive of Our Own. I do see and respond to comments/reviews on both sites.

I mostly write for sherlolly from BBC Sherlock and reylo from Star Wars, but I do occasionally write for some other ships.

I do not write mature or explicit content, so if you prefer that in fics, I’m not for you.

I have never abandoned a multi chapter in all the years I’ve been writing fanfics. If I’m gradually posting a WIP, you can feel confident that I won’t permanently drop it.

I value feedback and polite suggestions, but please understand that fanfic is free and therefore it’s my call as the writer to decide how I want things done. Don’t like, don’t read!

I only allow works of mine to be translated with my permission, and I do not ever give permission for my works to be copied and reposted. If you wish to share a fic of mine, you may only do so by sharing a direct link to where I have posted that fic.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading and here’s some virtual cookies! 😄🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪

[lizardwritesao3]

Info post! Any questions about things not covered here, just ask.

Requesting fics:

All finished prompts will be posted on my AO3 account and linked here. I tag people that request off anon and can list the work as a gift on the Archive if you let me know your username. You can also have me gift the work to a friend.

If it’s been a few days and I never answered, please re-request! Sometimes tumblr eats things, or I might have accidentally deleted it.

I’m not going to guarantee the length of a requested fic. Most will probably be on the short side, under 1k.

I do not write the following:

Character x reader or y/n

Cheating

Child abuse

Explicit sexual content

Major character death

Padawan/Master

Rexsoka

Reylo

Self-harm

Suicide

Collections & Events:

I only place my works in collections for fandom events. I do not add to collections owned by users I don’t know. The Archive allows you to create bookmarks and tag those, so you could tag my works with something like “written by lizardwrites” to find them more easily in the future. You can also make a collection and add bookmarks to it.

If you or someone you know is running a fanwork event of some kind, whether Star Wars or multifandom, feel free to let me know. I don’t reblog interest check/sign-up posts for events I’m not participating in, and I don’t write for zines or other for-profit projects.

Transformative works of my fics:

I’d love it! Consider this blanket permission to create podfics, art, fanmixes, remixes, recursive fics, translations, and anything else you can think of. Use my headcanons in your works, write fics set in one of my AUs, but please do not repost my works as-is on any other platforms or write my OCs in your own fics.

If you make something based on one of my fics, please credit me so I can see it. On tumblr, I prefer to be tagged in the post. On AO3, find the ‘inspired by another work’ checkbox and fill out the info there. On other sites, please mention my username or put a link to the fic in the description/author’s notes.

Tags:

These are the tags used on my blog. I also tag all fics with the names of the characters in them, and all posts about a fic/series with its name.

#chatter for posts not related to my fics

#event for announcement posts of events that I’m participating in

#fanmail for all transformative works of my fics

#ficlet for short writing pieces that don’t fit into a fic but I want to post anyway

#fic request for the asks I receive requesting fics

#headcanon for posts about my headcanons

#my fic for the completed fics I’ve written

#preview for snippets from fics not yet finished

[gaymingbinosaur]

I find it a bit weird that I can say tumblr and fandom has an albeism problem and get cheers but the same people who agree will get really pissed if I someone who may have ptsd and has adhd mentions something specific how all of a sudden that’s not albeism.

Like the most controversial but really it shouldn’t be all antis are albeist. If your an anti your albeist. Writing about tramau is one of the most common ways to cope and the people who tend to write underage ships or incest ships tend to survive that shit. And while I think it’s fine for non survivors to write that stuff I’m focusing on survivors. And the only two options antis give are out yourself as a rape victim or not to cope. And usually if you out yourself they try to figure out your triggers to harass you, call you a liar or try to save you from the evil fiction.

But it goes beyond that. Though I’d argue it’s the same people but it goes beyond those ships.

Like you love Cullen Rutherford because your a survivor and he had a desire demon in his head and lashed out at people who didn’t deserve it and viewed the world in an incredibly dark way. Nope 👎 you excuse bigotry and are a cishet girl. Doesn’t matter if your queer.

Or kylo ren and how a lot of abuse survivors I know relate to him and his story. They are apparently bigoted and can’t appreciate the main sex appeal of our main heroes because they are bigots and not because we throw slurs at them and harass them. And I can’t give examples because I’m terrified that I’ll start a harassment campaign. Because they ship Reylo like it doesn’t matter how bigioted their anons are you guys will still find ways to claim that the Reylo shipper told to likely themselves is the bad guy. If you want evidence find a Reylo blog most have a tag for all the hate they get.

Shane written to have overcome canon depression and managing to get out of a dark space. He was a dick before and a bit of a slob so if you like him no taste or standards. Stop trying to fix problematic men.

And then if I post something like there is no excuse to suicide bait or purposely trigger someone if every reblog is thinking. Unless.

It’s not to okay to purposely trigger someone unless they ship Reylo. For example. And I’m going to be honest all the ships I have may have it bad in the fandom but they have nothing on how Reylo shippers are treated. Like it’s on another level. And I’m not downplaying the albeism of telling people that if they are truly coping with Cullen they can use blackwall instead. Like that is wrong and not okay BUT I want to emphasize that Reylo shippers are treated like they actually believe everything the first order says. That they can end bigotry by punishing the filthy reylos. And most reylos I’ve met just relate to kylo because his backstory parallels their abuse more. It’s just I’m kind of wish albeism isn’t as brushed off as your trying to force your ship on me. Like I don’t care if you hate Cullen I care that I’m shamed for not coping with blackwall even though I also cope with Blackwall. Or seeing Reylos get told they deserve to be raped and yet people hate Reylo because it’s rape. And like there are more ships and characters. Like if it’s a ship that tumblr would cancel you for or put you in a dni from my experience somehow a bunc of people struggling with mental illness related to it. And it’s infuriating.

[maxillionrp]

ROLEPLAY MASTERPOST!

Hello all! I just thought I would update the blog with some plots that I’m really craving at the moment. Both Fandoms and originals, so if you see something that interests you, please feel free to get in touch.

Reylo: I always prefer AU’s when it comes to this ship, I think it’s because while I love the Star Wars universe, writing for it is a pain in the ass, trying to make it sound authentic if that makes sense? And I’m pretty lazy so am AU is just so much easier. Modern AU’s tend to be my favourite, with themes relating around Age gaps and kind of forbidden relationships, those are always fun, but I also enjoy just cute fluffy stories about days out at Disneyland or something.

The Last of Us/Zombie apocalypse: This more just set in the world of TLOU as opposed to using the actual in game characters, however I’m not opposed to them popping up if it makes sense for the story. I do have a very intricate and detailed character already made up for this, so if you’re craving a story in this world please let me know!

Red Dead/Wild West: Again this would most likely be just a setting than involving in game characters. Red Dead is a lot of fun, and I don’t really have anything in mind but I always like the idea of playing a gruff bounty hunter, someone who doesn’t do well with other people, who’s then forced for whatever reason to spend time with someone the complete opposite of him. Cliche, but fun!

Dramione: Dramione is probably OG ship, the first one I had that I really cared about anyway, so I always love the idea of writing for these two. The cliche story of the 8th year, head boy and girl living together has been done to death by this point, but I still absolutely love it, so I’ve got no problem with that. I also love the idea of a slightly older Dramione starting an affair. They’re both unhappy in their current marriages and turn to one another for comfort and something new!

BuckyNat: These two are just hot. Bad boy and bad girl type of relationship, and you just know they have so much fun together. The idea of a shared history they don’t really talk about is also intriguing to me, but again with this there are multiple directions we could take it. Unwinding together after missions, Date night in the city, Jealousy, drug use, corruption, there’s always a lot of options with these two.

Spider-Man: I’ve been playing a lot of the recent PS4 game recently and I’ve never really done a Spidey RP but I’d definitely be interested. This could be set in pretty much any universe, although I would maybe want to stay away from MCU since he’s still quite young. I love his relationship with Mary-Jane in that game as well, it’s complicated but very cute and you can see they really care about her, but his relationship with Felicia/Black Cat is also interesting as well, and... well let’s be honest, just hot. So I would be fine with either or those, or even throwing in Gwen/Ghost-Spider and some interdemensional crossing.

Originals: We don’t have to write anything related to a fandom, I love coming plotting 1x1 originals that are always such fun. Quick list is below

Sugar Daddy x Baby prompt

Professor X Student

Father X Young Nanny/Babysitter

Cheating/Affair plots

A/B/O Omegaverse. (This can also be applied to any of the fandom RP’s too)

Fake relationship for a friends wedding or to fool parents plot!

Pretty much anything enemies to lovers

Slice of life

Hogwarts AU

Always open to more ideas

This post is kind of a mess but I hope it can give you some idea of what I’m looking for, so if you like anything you see please feel free to message me or add me on Discord, you can find my @ in my bio!

Just some last minute things I want to mention, I usually like to include a good mixture of both smut and story. I have plenty of kinks and have no problem getting quite dark and extreme, but I’m also very respectful of your limits, so we can absolutely discuss what you like and you don’t. The last thing I want to do is make my partner uncomfortable at all. And finally, I do work a full time job so I’m not available all the time unfortunately, but when I am around you’ll get all of my attention! Hope to hear from you guys soon.

[reylo-love-theme]

Specific personal reasons why Ben dying really hurt

Disclaimer: i know people have had many dif reactions to this movie and for those of you that liked it good for you. this is my personal opinion on my own blog so please don't attack or debate me in the comments just go make your own post please if you feel that. I respect you all and I'm just trying to cope.

This post is for people who are in a similar situation as me and want a place to relate or their thoughts turned into words.

1. I'm a childhood abuse victim myself and 2019 was a terrible year full of my trying to deal with my past and my cptsd and my toxic shame. I barely made it.

Ben Solo was a reminder that it's not too late to save yourself and that people you love do care for you. I literally leaned solely on reylo fanfiction during my darkest times for this aspect of hurt/comfort and redemption and recovery.

2. I had never went to watch a movie of my own free will (see number 1). Doing this was terrifying since I had to overcome so many triggers. I chose to watch TROS so that it would end my year on a happy note with a postive message of hope, love and recovery.

3. The only reason that I shipped Reylo was because I had investigated very throughly and had become certain they would get a happy ending.

I have a tendency of relying on fictional characters for the support I do not have in real life so I needed to choose who I love very carefully or else when I loose them I'm actually in terrible pain.

The worst thing was that I wasn't prepared for it. (Preparing and being nihilist had given me depression and I literally pulled myself out of that thought process for this hope of Ben living. It seemed so close to happening and I got stabbed in the stomach and left in a puddle of blood)

Now, I'm struggling really hard not to blame myself for falling for false hope again (I had made that mistake once and swore off hope for like 11 years) (even though I know that being so cynical is terrible for my health)

4.I stepped on Reylo in 2018/2019 fully and spent a whole year looking forward to this movie. It brought me so much joy and I tamped out my inner cynic that said "putting your hope in something you love will only let you down".

I told myself that even with all that has happened in 2019, making it to December and watching the movie would be symbolic for me (a way of saying "look world, I made it.")

5. The message the movie sends me is just.... I really can't. I don't understand why it couldn't be a happy ending for Ben who literally redeemed himself. For me personally, I don't consider a kiss and a smile and then death a happy ending. What does that mean for me? A person who related so heavily to this broken struggling character. Does it mean that all my pain was worth nothing in the end? That those who I love will never love me back or remember me or even care that I was abused and my trauma made me a literal walking self-defence mechanism? That the only ending the general population accepts as morally correct is for "bad" abuse victims to die?

And the message of Ben dying for someone he loves (while not a bad trope) is toxic because of the way it is shown. Even with the emoting on Rey's behalf, it's not enough to justify someone dying for that. (There just isn't enough romance or support from Rey (unlike TLJ)) It seemed like an unbalenced love (because of the way Rey just kept on rejecting him and hurting him without really trying to help (until the end where literally he sacrificed himself, would someone who loved you do that?)

And the additional message that Ben's family would help a random stranger but not the person that literally needed them and still loved them after all the abandoment he went through. My family literally turned a blind eye (or just blamed me as a weakling for reacting to it) to my abuse and that is what happens to Ben. Even at his death, not one single member of his family (Han was just a memory) was there to mourn him or even help him (Leia's disappearance thing I'm so confused on what the heck happened, why the heck did Maz smile if Ben just literally died and his mom died trying to save him.)

And no one bothered to be on his side, he literally had to redeem himself the whole way. That isn't a good message to people who need help. It's literally saying that you are the only one who can save yourself (not a bad message by itself but the strength of the message comes from the fact that others can stand by you as you save yourself not BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE WILL OR WILL HELP YOU)

Anakin sidelineing him for Rey was just salt in the wound.

As someone who's pain was literally ignored and laughed at by the whole family, this was immensely rage inducing.

And what about rey and her character development? I also had related to her for being abandoned by her parents and left to fend for herself. She was a nobody who was strong on her own. She didn't need to be related to a strong lineage. Additonally, ending up all alone on the same kind of desert she started at is not a good message. ( I get the nostalgia thing but they could have literally used any other character, Rey wasn't a good choice for that scene) First off, she wanted to get off jakku. She wanted a family. Ben told her she wasn't alone. Next, she needed to realize that being a nobody didn't mean she was worthless ( a strong and powerful message to ordinary girls) (not find out oops i was from a loving family all along!!!) That isn't good plot when she literally spend two movies recovering from her parents abandonment (it makes it seem like ohhh they loved you and this was the only best

thing they could do!! XOXO (this is a common victim blaming trick abuse apologizers use to silence victims pain)) it would have made sense if she found this out earlier but to do this to an already developed character arc is just sucky. Her turning dark influenced by palp is not as good a message as her turning dark influenced by her past and her overcoming it anyway. For star wars, a theme has always been hope, love and redemption and I feel like the theme was picked up but not carried through in one character, instead spread throughout everyone but leaving a sense of unsatisfactory ending since no one really ended their arc. (In my opinion, you can have a different one)

6. Ben dying. That is just cruel and sadistic..there were already so many "surprise they are alive illogically!" Moments that JJ could literally have pulled one for Ben a final time and no one would have batted an eye. It would have suited the style of the movie. It was such a bad shock for me. The movie already baited my heart several times with Ben nearly dying and I cheered internally when he came back. I held out my hope till the very end of the credits and this movie just made of fool of me. I was ready to gloss over any and all flaws and buy merch if only Ben had been loved and lived.

7. The way it affected me. (Warning this might be upsetting to read so skip if you don't want to hear about mental health right now)

I was in so much shock as I stumbled out of the theater that I literallt thought I was going to be okay. I couldn't feel anything and I felt sick and empty. (That's not a reaction a star wars movie should give or any "hopeful" movie)(this is coming from someone who has watched the sacrifical death trope many times and cried (it was a good hurt))

This wasn't because there was literally no resolution or purpose to the death. It seemed like a cliche trope failure of redemption=death. But with the added on "no mourning, superfical loss". (It would have been more acceptably had it been a side character, bad writing can excuse it, but for a main half of the protagonist this is just sick)

I wandered home mechanically on Friday and then as soon as I thought back to the scene where Ben smiled and died I broke down crying. And I lost all my appetite and felt nauseous for an entire two days. I barely ate two meals during that time because I was so distraught and my mental health crashed completely back into my worse cptsd symptoms and nightmares and insomnia and waking up to panic attacks. I wasn't functioning, I kept trying to pull myself together but my only postive coping mechanism(reading reylo fanfiction) was gone. In fact I felt betrayed that my coping mechanism would actually be the cause of my pain.

I completely felt like those two days were actually traumatizing and as someone who has actually experienced traumatic events I'm using the word in a serious way. Anything can hurt you badly enough if you put enough of your heart and vulnerability into it.

Now it's Monday I'm just trying to recover enough to go outside again but I feel really tired. I'm trying to salvage my christmas and my life as a big middle finger to whoever decided that abuse and mental health could be used as convenient plot points and just discarded and laughed at.

[inquisibutt-lavellan]

Ok u motherfuckers

Get ready for some truthtellun'.

I don't ship people who are related or have an established family dynamic. It's not my taste, and that's fine. But I see so much vitriol and hate against people who ship T'challa and Killmonger... More than I EVER see against Thorki or Wincest tags. And it pisses me off, because you KNOW it's a race thing. Because it's ok if it's white characters I guess? Because you will see these ass holes threatening and bullying teens for putting stuff in the T'cherik tag, and those same assholes are all "lol I'm house Lannister bichez", or even better, shipping reylo when kylo basically mind-raped Rey in the first movie but THAT'S apparently fine.

Like, I don't like it, but I don't like that kind of ship in any fandom. But you can bet your ass I see the problem when Thorki blogs get a free pass. And don't give me that "Loki's adopted" bullshit excuse, they were still raised in a fraternal family aspect. If you're ok with Thorki or Wincest, but not ok with T'cherik, then fuck you. Also, learn how to fucking block tags you fucklamps, instead of threatening kids for posting their fanfic and it hurts your poor little snowflake feelings that they like something you don't.

TL;DR: if white relatives fucking each other is ok with you but not black relatives, then you need to stop being a racist piece of shit.

[theoceanswaves0]

SPOILERS AHOY (ISH)

It’s been like four years since I did a post like this, so here’s me dumping my thoughts on various, random things I’ve been into/thinking about lately.

I’ll be covering Miraculous Ladybug S3, Fire Emblem Three Houses, My Hero Academia, The MCU, Chocolate/Zen: Warrior Within, Pokemon SwSh, Victorious, BtVS/Angel, and Star Wars: RoS so just a warning for potential spoilers. Also, there will be salt and gushing, so proceed with caution.

Victorious

--> Ok, so this show came out when I was already in high school, so I think some of my opinions and takes on the show are going to contrast with the general consensus.

--> But I’m firmly in the pro-Tori Vega camp. Do I agree with her kissing Beck in the pilot? No. But considering that Jade humiliated her in front of her class for a small misunderstanding that could have been easily cleared up if Jade took five seconds to hear Tori out, I find it difficult to feel bad for Jade. Plus, Tori gets called out for this a couple of times in later episodes anyway. 

--> As for Cat’s BF, yeah, that was shitty too but A. He was originally Tori’s BF and they only broke up a year prior to the episode and B. Not only does Tori feel immediate remorse for what she does (spraying Cat with cheese and then kissing her bf in front of her), but she apologizes and never does anything like it again for the rest of the show. BTW, these are both season one incidents, so clearly Tori grows out of this.

--> Plus, I can relate to some of Tori’s awkward traits, like being kind of annoying, not having the best verbal comebacks and feeling pretty average.

--> On the other hand, I can’t stand Jade. Her attitude reminds me of a girl I used to be on and off friends with in middle school. She ended up embarrassing me in front of the cast of our fall play in eighth grade and never apologized for it. Plus she would say or do things that, in hindsight, made it clear she didn’t want me around.

--> But I mean, at least that girl didn’t steal a pint of my blood meant to be used in a mutual friend’s operation, so...

--> Although clearly, Rex the Puppet is the worst character on this show. Jade at least does stuff, why do we need to have Rex around...?

--> My ships are Tandre (Tori/Andre) and Catrina (Cat/Trina)! Tori and Andre always look like they have fun performing together or just hanging out, and their friendship is just so precious. I wish Cat and Trina had more scenes together, because I loved their road trip in “Tori the Zombie” and they’re both dysfunctional in their own ways, but trying their best!! 

BtVS/Angel

--> Nothing new really. But my Tandre feels reminded me how much I also loved Gunn/Fred and wished that they stayed together. Even their ship name, Funn, is precious and gahhhhhhh breaking them up was a mistake!

My Hero Academia

--> It took me like 3-4 years after watching the first episode, but I finally watched it.

--> I’m surprised by how much I really like Izuku. Like, I normally like the protagonist fine, but Izuku just really stood out to me. He’s socially awkward, but in a pretty understandable way, intelligent and passionate without using any of it to put other people down, and ofc he cares about his friends and saving other people because what shonen protagonist doesn’t? The only thing I don’t like about him is his hero worship of Bakugo, but that’s just my bias.

--> Oh, yeah, I don’t like Bakugo. 

--> Relating to Aizawa the most, and realizing that it’s because I’m getting older hukjdshfaskdnfj 

--> I don’t have a ship I’m the most invested in, but I like Izuku with both Todoroki and Uraraka, and I also like Uraraka with Tsuyu. Erasermic is also really good.

--> Not a fan of Eraserjoke. I don’t like the way she continues to ask Aizawa out and then plays it off as a joke when he rejects her like. Like, it’s such a high school thing to do, it’s so weird seeing two grown adults do it. Just take the L and move on, Ms. Joke. Not only is it creepy to continue asking someone out when they say no, it’s annoying to pretend that you didn’t really mean it because it makes it difficult to read you in future scenarios. 

Fire Emblem Three Houses

--> Love it love it love it.

--> Like Fire Emblem has always been more of my brother’s thing, but with Awakening, Fates and Three Houses introducing easier difficulty options, I’ve found it much easier to get into the series. Like, I’m a pretty casual gamer so I’m not looking for anything too challenging most of the time.

--> Ofc I knew going in I was picking Golden Deer, and I was not disappointed. I love everyone every single student in there. The atmosphere was so chaotic, that I just knew recruiting everyone that I could to make it more so just had to be done.

--> Claude and Hilda are the best lord and “retainer” respectively, don’t @ me.

MCU

--> Uh, I haven’t really kept up with MCU stuff since Endgame (which I didn’t care for tbh). I just wanted to remind everyone that I hate Tony Stark :)

Miraculous Ladybug S3

(me @ this entire season tbh)

--> I don’t really post much about ML on this blog anymore because I ended up making a side blog (for salt mostly tbh). But in case anyone doesn’t keep up with what happens over there, I basically hated this entire season lol.

--> Ok, I loved Silencer. Best episode in the season period, no questions asked. I also really liked Kwamibuster and Startrain. Desperada grew on me over time, while Bakerix was... okay, I guess. And Felix was entertaining, even if I felt that the message that they were trying to get across was forced and meant to shut the fandom up. Oblivio was good until that ending, and once Silencer came along, I quickly learned I had no use for it anyway. It being an amnesia episode did it no favors, either.

--> Just as I feared, the season revolved more around humiliating or putting Marinette in really embarrassing situations for the same of “drama”. The Puppeteer 2 is a really good example of this. And it’s upsetting, because none of this actually does anything for Marinette’s character. She’s not even allowed to breakdown or be upset about anything that goes wrong for her until the end of “Heart Hunter” and even that only lasts, like, ten seconds.

--> Also, I don’t ship the Love Square anymore. Lukanette all the way, baby.

--> Let’s be real, Marinette/Happiness should be the real OTP of the show.

--> The fact that every episode of season 4 is supposed to be as dramatic as Chat Blanc does not leave me hopeful for the future. Like, really, you’re going to use an episode in which an entire timeline’s worth of events gets erased and leaves everyone with no memories of it as the basis of your emotional impact going forward? Um, thank you, next.

Rise of Skywalker

--> Haven’t seen it and after seeing the spoilers, I don’t plan to. I really liked TFA, and was excited to see what they did with the Rey-Poe-Finn dynamic. I was not here for Kylo Ren or Reylo. I guess Finn/Rey is joining Tandre and Funn in my “missed opportunity OTPs” corner. D:

Chocolate/Zen: Warrior Within

--> OMG one of my fave movies of all time. Like I appreciate it more and more with age. It’s basically everything I want in a movie.

--> The scene where Zen discovers that her mom’s hair is falling out and she blames herself for it always gets me. Like I always forget about it, so when I see it again, I can’t help but nearly breakdown myself, because I know exactly what Zen’s thought process is without her even having to say anything. I feel just as overwhelmed as she does in the moment and nearly cry every time watching it.

--> One of the few movies that I wish actually got a sequel. Like I have so many questions that could be answered. How do Zen and Moom adjust to living in Japan? How does Zen’s father try to relate to her and Moom? Do they make any other friends? Will Zen get access to resources that will help her? Will they be further ostracized because of their status as outsiders? As someone who already struggles verbally, how will Zen adapt to living in a country that primarily speaks another language? 

Pokemon SwSh

--> Multiplayer is so much fun and wayyyy more accessible than in the past imo. A bunch of people at my martial arts school would do raid battles before classes, so I would always leave to get there early and play with them. 10/10 experience, and it makes me excited to get Animal Crosssing to do the same thing.

--> But on the other hand, I feel like this game has a lot less going for it than SuMo. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but it feels like too much is missing. Like I still enjoy it, but it’s more for the gameplay and less for the story. I’m also not nearly as invested in my team like I was last time (I loved my Sun team so much, I basically kept it the same for US, minus one or two changes). I’m trying to change it fits a “Psychedelic Ocean” vibe (Water/Psychic), and then do an “Earth” themed team for my Shield run but I just haven’t picked it back up since beating the game.

--> The characters were alright. I wasn’t as attached to any of the rivals like I was in SuMo. Leon is my bro though.

[pxperhearts]

I changed one of my rules that I got questions about before relating to like, I’ll soft block if you post untagged fandom, ships, and ooc content. What I was really getting at is that I’d like ships like reylo tagged, as I don’t want to see them on my dash, but I was trying to future-proof it cause I know there’s always gonna be a ship like that in the future. But I don’t think the original rule really got what I meant and caused some concern. TBH I am not even on my dash like 90% of the time because I’m at work. (this is also why i miss so many blogs moving/changing)

Anyway, I changed it to just ooc content as I have noticed way more that I sometimes follow people who reblog things you’d see on a personal dash and it gets annoying. I actually like reading general ooc posts from other writers, though. But I hope this rule change doesn’t sound as bad

[daughter-of-water]

https://commanderkurama.tumblr.com/post/189991842911/rylos-calling-john-a-misogynist-for-the-laying

I can’t speak to what other Reylos are like. I can only speak for myself and I dare you to go through the 180 pages of Reylo on my blog and show me evidence of how obsessed I am with Rey being a baby factory for Kylo Ren. Furthermore, since when was it bad to want to see a character get some semblance of what they want? If you don’t like the notion that Rey longs for a sense of belonging and values human connection and love over career achievement then take it up with J.J. Abrams and Rian Johnson because that’s the character they gave us–a character who wants a family not fame or power.  

As for wishing for Kylo Ren to be a protagonist, you do remember what saga you are watching right? This is the saga of a family called the Skywalker. Because of that you can reasonably expect that all the episodes in the trilogy are going to revolve around the Skywalkers and that the newest Skywalker is going to be the protagonist or the deuteragonist in the sequel trilogy. Having some random person who is not blood related to the Skywalkers just be the protagonist instead when the first two trilogies focused on two generations of Skywalkers literally makes no sense for a family saga. It also makes the hero characters from the last trilogy look like capital assholes for replacing their blood relative with someone else particular when said blood relative was groomed by predatorial older men.

I don’t care if John Boyega doesn’t like Reylo. I’d find his comment disgusting even if I shipped Finnrey because it’s reducing the value of a relationship to whoever gets to fuck the character in the end. That’s not what love is. If you had any sort of integrity and agreed with me on that, you’d be calling him out instead of defending this comment and trying to turn it into another opportunity to shit on Reylos.

[oadara]

My thoughts on Game of Thrones and ASOIAF

(to my friends on twitter - everything here applies so most of my tweets will be coming from Tumblr. I can control the chaos here better). 

Hey guys,

I know I haven’t been very acting on the blog but I just needed some time. I’m okay now. Of course, I’m sad that the show turned out this way, but now I’m just feeling blah about it since I’ve been “mourning” the show since the leaks for episode 8.04 came out. I was much more upset about it then, now I’m in the resignation stage of grief if you will. It is, what it is.

It is sad but mostly disappointing to see such a poor conclusion to a series we all love. I don’t say this just because my preferred ending didn’t come to pass, I say it because it was a poorly written conclusion to the series as a whole. I know some people liked it, and I’m glad for them, at least some are getting some satisfaction out of it. Clearly, I was wrong about how things would conclude. I admit it, I’m a harlequin (I hate clowns). 

One of the things that I found most disappointing about this season and really the series as a whole as we look at it as one completed work, was the lack of a cohesive theme or any theme at all, really. The way the season was set up, Daenerys was damned if she did (helping the North destroy the Night’s King and the Army of the Dead) and damned if hadn’t (had she not helped them and done what she had originally set up to do, she would have taken Cersei out easily and her dragons and friends would probably all still be alive but she would have been deemed as a power hungry “tyrant”). Or the fact that the xenophobic north was proven right when the army composed of POC turned out to be a bunch of savages. This isn’t even getting into the “women have to die for man-pain” trope, having two “mad queens” as the final villains before a group of men set everything straight again, or the fact that two men who murdered their lovers are the moral authorities by the end of the series. And this is just the tip of the iceberg for season 8′s issues. 

For the series itself, what was the point? That power corrupts, we figured that out in season 1 and that’. s a pretty well documented moral of a story. The good people can become corrupted if they have too much power, again, I guess, not really groundbreaking. Maybe the moral of the story should be women shouldn’t be in power, unless your family was screwed over at the beginning of the story, then you get your reward. If your family has it’s downfall before the story began (not because of anything you did) then you die. I’m sure some clever people will think up some clever morals to this story. I never thought that I’d utter the words I’m about to utter but I think I liked Dexter’s ending better because that one we saw coming for at least two seasons. After the Trinity Killer, phenomenal season, the show couldn’t hold it together. 

I still love Dany, of course, I think she’s a beautiful and complex character whose story could have been much more transcendent but who sadly ended on the show with a very stereotypical ending. I still love Jon too but I’m going to need some time to set aside what character he was in season 8 and see him as who he had before that. I don’t know who that overpaid extra was but he wasn’t Jon Snow. 

Do I think the books will end the same? George has said so, and if he doesn’t say otherwise, I have to take him at his words. I’m sure the development will be much better, however, I’m still not interested in that story either. I’d really like to see an ambitious woman get what she’s worked her ass for and not get killed so that a man can have it. We’ve had enough of that already.

To which end I will say I have an idea for something, not GoT or ASOIAF related but storytelling related. It’s a project I want to work on and it’s something I would like others who might be dissatisfied with how Dany’s story ended would consider working on it with me. I just came up with it the other day, so I need to gather my thoughts and write a cohesive post detailing what exactly I have in mind. I also want to give you al some time to mourn and grieve because I know some of you are still coming to terms with all of this. But I’m kind of excited about it. 

As for my blogging, I’m probably staying away from GoT/ASOIAF blogging for a bit, maybe I’ll have a few more things to say later on, but for now, I just want to focus on things I like. I think I’m going to do a rewatch of 12 Monkey, an excellent show from it’s first episode to it’s very last, with an amazing and very satisfying conclusion that is actually bittersweet. I think I’ll blog about each episode as I watch it, so if you want to join along, you are welcome to do so. I can even do it through rabbit, if you want to watch it with me. 

Speaking of rabbit, I just wanted to thank all those who joined me on Saturday for the 2005 version of Pride and Prejudice and those who joined me yesterday for The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King. We had a great time. Today at 11:00 AM EDT we’ll be watching Legally Blonde. Next week we’ll be watching the 1995 miniseries of Pride and Prejudice. I’ll make sure to post dates and times. 

Okay, I’ll leave you all for now. 

P.S. I deleted my entire ask box, I just can’t answer questions right now about GoT. If you want to ask me about 12 Monkeys or Reylo, you are most welcome to. 

[starklore]

I actually used to buy into the whole “Zuko is the only well-written redemption arc” thing, like I was never an anti as such, but before it was as widespread as it was I would still see the concept floating around and be like “yeah,” and thinking back, the process I went through as a villain fucker looked like this:

-2007, ATLA is airing, I’m in middle school and I’m obsessed and I like zuko. Didn’t care that much about him in s1, then he cut his hair off and I was like “okay, yeah, I feel it.” Sexual awakening happens. I start writing a lot of Zuko/OC fanfiction that is now unfortunately lost to time.

Zuko serves as a gateway drug for hot villains & antiheroes that follows me through my fandom journey. (I was also super gay for Ty Lee, i just didn’t know it yet. This is not relevant.)

-2012, around the time villain wank is starting to spring up due to Loki’s popularity, I realize then that I’m supposed to be ashamed of wanting to get railed by sad murderboys cause it’s cringey (I miss when people didn’t try to label it as “problematic” and just admitted they find it personally annoying.)

I quickly try rebrand myself to myself and others as a Good Villain Fan who never excuses their actions and doesn’t want redemption, I just think they are interesting!!! And sure, the actor is handsome but that doesn’t change the character’s actions ladies!! Remember your fake crushes need to be pure organic home-grown grass fed free range no GMO or else!!  

Except that my love for Zuko, a character who fits that exact archetype only with toned down fictional crimes cause he’s on a kid’s show, is too deeply embedded for me to abandon.

So now I have to retroactively justify why it’s okay to stan him and not Loki and the other murderboys, and luckily some brave bloggers on tunglr dot hell have already done the work for me by declaring that his redemption arc was the Best Ever and your fave will never compare. Great! Glad we got that sorted out.

I proceed to thirst only after the most pure of heart characters. I still think Loki is mad sexy but I pretend I don’t and I only like him for the most sophisticated literary reasons. Secretly I yearn to thirst after fake bad boys. I pray that someday a new murderboy will appear who will have such a good redemption arc that he will be acceptable stan material.

-January 2016, the new Star Wars just came out. I’m already starting to get sick of this bullshit and the Kylo Ren w4nk is the last straw. I don’t even think he’s hot at first, I genuinely just think he’s interesting and I relate to him, but now even that is too impure.

You have to preface every post with an acknowledgement that killing people is Bad Actually and you KNOW this and definitely do NOT want him to have a half-assed redemption arc. If you want him to have a long painful well-written redemption arc full of suffering (just like Zuko’s incidentally, only not as good because it never can be) then you can stay, but you’re on thin fucking ice.

But ideally you only like him as an intellectual exercise in like, the MRA psyche or whatever. You definitely can’t ship him with Rey or find him attractive cause then you’re woobifying him because you think he’s hot and ignoring the MoC in the cast. (Insert the “I have three holes” tweet).

That’s when I call bullshit on the whole thing, there was never an acceptable level of villain stanning, the game was rigged from the beginning and there’s no winning it. It was never about making sure fake people get held accountable for fake crimes, it was always about controlling women’s sexual fantasies.

I start to follow a lot of reylo blogs and accidentally start shipping it. I make this shitpost. It becomes the bane of my existence that haunts me to this day.

2019: I don’t know anything about MCU!Mysterio except that he’s a villain and is played by Jake Gyllenhaal. I stan anyway cause his dumb costume is hot and villains are hot and I want him to rail me until I forget my own name and that’s literally the whole reason. It hurts literally no one and it makes me happy, so who cares? Not this bitch.

Anyways, my point here is that--like, I can’t speak for everyone, but I think probably a lot of people on here are still stuck in the 2012 phase here, where they actually really like villains but are scared to admit it because it’s considered neither cool nor woke (and let’s be real, the second is only valued as an extension of the first on this site) so they pretend they don’t.

And if any of those people are reading this, I would just like to tell them that it’s okay. You can like a bad guy because you think they’re hot, or you relate to them, or you think they’re interesting, or any combination of the above, or completely different reasons. They’re fictional characters. How you engage with them is not a performance for other fans, it’s for your own enjoyment. So enjoy them.

[havemyoldusername]

So I’ve noticed a lot of what I’m calling ‘toxic fandoms’ lately...

So this is something I’ve wanted to address for some time.

I’m calling them toxic fandoms because they push out people who don’t agree with a vocal side. I’ve seen this a lot. I’ve been bullied. Called racist. A piece of shit. A motherfucker. A cunt. All of it. Why? Because I personally ship Barry Allen and Caitlin Snow and not West Allen.

This is also been seen in the Star Wars fandom, which I am also a part of. I don’t personally ship anything really in SW but If someone ships Reylo, then they’re racist because they don’t ship FinnRey.

What. The. Fuck.

I’ve noticed this because it especially relates to fandoms with a main or canon ship that involves POC. If the main ship is one that involves POC, then the alternative ship that doesn’t involve POC is inherently racist. This is a mindset in fandoms right now. I don’t care if someone ships Iris and Barry or Rey and Finn, I don’t look at a skin colour and go “I’m not gonna ship that because she’s black or he’s black”. No. I’ll ship based on the characters I like the best and whether or not they have chemistry. Simple as that.

And those that are the fandom bullies for shipping usually strike you down for putting a post in the tag of their ship when it is relevant to the post. I had someone on my post about liking Nora West Allen despite being a SnowBarry shipper (a statement I now retract given Nora’s recent behaviour) call me a piece of shit for putting it in the westAllen tag because I mentioned that I’m a SnowBarry shipper. What I did wrong? Nothing. What I got shit for? Liking two characters together romantically instead of the canon ship that I like better as friends.

Why the fuck can’t people in these fandoms agree to disagree?

Take Teen Wolf for example. Most people in the fandom ship Stiles and Derek (me excluded. I’m on team Stydia y’all) which has never even been a canon ship. Do they get shit for it? Not as far as I know.

Agents of shield has had multiple relationships with the characters. Canon ships, awesome, non-canon ships, awesome as well. You do you. Basically everyone in the AOS fandom agrees to disagree and there little to no toxicity from it. Even people who write fanfics for Fitz/Aida, while a lot of us really hate the ship, we don’t say anything. They have an audience and don’t get shit from the rest of us.

So, Flash Fandom. People ship different things. Let them. They aren’t racist if they don’t ship WA, they aren’t racist if they don’t particularly like Iris and they aren’t racist if they like SnowBarry better. It’s not because Iris is black and Caitlin is white. It’s none of that. Don’t bully people, because that’s what a lot of WA stans are doing and I’m so fucking sick of it. You see a post you don’t like? Don’t respond. Easy. Shut your mouth if you feel like responding to a SnowBarry shipper with hostility. Just chill and agree to disagree.

Star Wars fandom. It’s not racism if someone doesn’t ship FinnRey or they ship Reylo instead. Let them ship what they want to ship and don’t give people hate for it because then you’re being a bully. Being a bully is not becoming and you might think you’re doing good by “exposing the racists” but you’re not. Because 9 times out of 10 who you’re responding to isn’t a racist and didn’t ask for your shit.

You feel like hating on someone because they like a “controversial ship”? Don’t. Simple as that. People get so much hate. I got so much hate from someone who had never seen a post from my blog before and decided to call me a racist motherfucker.

Leave people alone. Let them ship what they ship. Don’t be a toxic part of the fandom.