#and asking questions

[your-fave-has-munchausen]

HELLOIDONTHAVEMUNCHAUSENSBUTTOTHEPEOPLEWHODOILOVEYOUANDYOUDESERVEALLTHEHAPPINESSINTHEWORLDANDNONEOFTHE"OMGTHEYREAFAKER"TYPEHATEPEOPLEWHODOTHATSUCKILOVEYOUGUYSOKAYBYE

For those who don't speak text string:

HELLO I DON'T HAVE MUNCHAUSENS BUT TO THE PEOPLE WHO DO I LOVE YOU AND YOU DESERVE ALL THE HAPPINESS IN THE WORLD AND NONE OF THE "OMG THEY'RE A FAKER" TYPE HATE! PEOPLE WHO DO THAT SUCK I LOVE YOU GUYS OKAY BYE

To which I say OMG NOOOOOO ANON COME BACK THAT'S SO SWEET THANK YOU??????

We need more people like you around, seriously!

[taintedtowers]

okay i looked on the wiki and stuff and i genuinely cannot figure it out, what is diary of a tourney kid???

a totally normal soundcloud account themed around the hit jeff kinney book series diary of a wimpy kid that will totally not rewire your neurons completely

[catmask]

i dont consider myself a 'fashion guru' by any means but one thing i will say is guys you dont need to know the specific brand an item you like is - you need to know what the item is called. very rarely does a brand matter, but knowing that pair of pants is called 'cargo' vs 'boot cut' or the names of dress styles is going to help you find clothes you like WAAAYYYY faster than brand shopping

[yuttikkele]

hey gamers I’ve started watching star trek does anyone else see the romantic tension between captain kirk and mr. spock

[goldensunset]

if someone is talking about how much they love their parents do not jump in and start venting about your issues with your parents. if someone is venting about their issues with their parents do not jump in and start talking about how much you love your parents. peace and love amen swag city

[aroaceleovaldez]

i had a thought of "do people not know what AUs are anymore?" and then i remembered nobody explains fandom stuff to new people anymore so it is entirely plausible people genuinely don't know what AUs are and nobody has explained it to them, so for today's lucky 10,000:

"AU" stands for "Alternate Universe" or "Alternative Universe" (same difference) and is basically any thought scenario for a fandom that isn't canon and can't fit within the canon universe. If it takes place in the canon universe but something is notably different, that is typically what's known as a "Canon divergent AU," because it diverges from canon.

an AU can be absolutely anything. There's a couple of widespread pan-fandom au scenarios that often get thrown around, like coffee shop aus, genderbend aus, hanahaki aus (hanahaki is a whole thing in itself i'd recommend researching on your own), etc. One you might hear sometimes is "crossover AU" which is when you have characters from one fandom interacting with characters from another.

You can have as many aus as you want. They can be whatever you want and you can do whatever you want in them. It's a sandbox for you to play around in and explore how things would be different or how the characters would act in those circumstances or environments. Maybe they have different relationships with each other. Maybe they behave slightly differently. Or you can just say "Okay, [x] is true. How did they get here? How would things have to be different for this to occur?" which can also be fun.

If you are ever confused about why people ship something that seems completely out of the blue or doesn't make sense to you in the canon setting, there's a good chance they like it in an AU setting! Not everything everybody is interacting with is necessarily the canon! Not everybody wants things to exist in canon and just want to explore playing dolls in a different sandbox and that's okay. And their sandbox might look a lot different than yours, and that's also okay. You have the freedom to make your sandbox whatever you please. Do whatever you want forever. Get funky with it. AUs are fun.

Okay that's my schpeal. everybody go have fun and play nice now.

[10holmes]

I want to add another point and perspective to this as well because I just had this discussion with my partner about why people are staying narrow-minded or why there's such a lack of understanding for issues like queerness or race theory.

But instead of purity culture we were more focusing on the aspect of capitalism and it's influence on suppressing knowledge and thus furthering hate and discrimination.

It's not just that people willfully don't know or care about these topics and grow to be hateful but that they are literally forced and made to...

Capitalism takes our time, the most valuable resource we have, and for example by being stuck in a 40h work week, living paycheck to paycheck, few people have the time nor energy to use their precious little free time to sit down and learn about a topic that is new to them. They also on top of that may not even have the resources or access to that knowledge.

So it's not just purity culture that's the issue here.

And to get back at OPs original point about non-LGBTQ people asking questions - ehy would you not just be glad they ask and show interest? Why would you not just answer them?

I would always answer them! I would always take the little time I have to educate them because I'd rather give them a proper explanation when they're already showing me they want to learn, then to rebuff them and tell them to do their own research, leading to them either finding false information (because they never learned or would also still have to learn how to select correct or filter only the needed information) or having them not even get to doing their own research because to them it would be a mammoth task...

Because I remember being them once, I remember the time and effort it took to learn, to make mistakes along the way and feel uncertain and overwhelmed looking at all the terms and words and information. I may have been privileged enough to have had the time to educate myself thoroughly on my own and have the persistence and resources to do so, but I also know that I could have been less fortunate and then some help and the opportunity to just ask without judgement would have made all the difference.

thinking about that time I was at some kind of diversity and inclusion thing that involved discussion in small groups and one straight girl said she really wanted to be a good ally but sometimes there were some things she just didn’t know and was too afraid to ask for fear of accidentally being offensive. and as the only queer person in this 4-5 person group I said well go ahead and ask me, I don’t care if you accidentally use the wrong term right now or whatever, it’s better to talk about it and learn something, I love talking about queerness and I’ll answer the best I can. and she just looked so nervous and in the end wound up refusing to ask for fear of causing offense. and it wasn’t just the group setting, I’ve known straight people to act similarly even when it’s just one on one

and just. you guys. this is what purity culture and the “if you don’t know something you were never a real ally in fact you’re a bigot in fact you’re worse than bigots because you pretended not to be one” attitude does. how can our allies be allies if they’re scared to talk to us? to ask questions, to make mistakes, to learn? can we please bring back the idea of “in good faith”? there’s way more to say here about identity politics and virtue signaling and acting like language is more important than action but I’m too tired for that right now

please feel free to add to the discussion (regardless of if you’re queer or not), I would love to hear about people’s experiences with this and if others feel differently about it

[tunakitchen]

40K QBAGINA‼️‼️‼️🔥🔥💯💯💥 MINECRAFT YURI 🔛🔝

clip from @pixiecaps

[mamatater]

The spouse is getting curious about tumblr

[batcavescolony]

Odysseus: I am different, I am no longer the man you married, it's been 20 long years but if you could just fall in love with me again?

Penelope: if you can do something for me

Odysseus: anything

Penelope: move my wedding bed.

Odysseus: I can't, it's made out of a living tree, to move it I would have to destroy it. How can yo-

Penelope: oh, I thought we were asking each other stupid questions?

Odysseus:

Penelope: 'FaLl iN lOvE wItH mE aGaiN' to do that I would have had to stop loving you.

[justarandomart]

do you think Shadow can just grow back limbs like a weird lizard?

[wardensantoineandevka]

is that piece of media actually bad, or is it just not following the blueprint you projected onto it? is that work actually not good, or are you just demanding something from it that is absolutely antithetical to its themes, genre, tone, and narrative goal? is that story actually poorly written, or do you just dislike that it is not the specific things you wanted from it that it never set out to be, never was, and never is going to become? is it actually bad, or is it actually well-executed and you just dislike the story it chose to be because it isn't catering to your specific desires and expectations?

[disableddyke]

[reality-detective]

1963 Refrigerator 🤔

[tactfullyinappropriate]

It's like we all collectively forgot as a society that friendship and just connection in general takes effort. Even if you meet someone you immediately click with, it takes hanging out about 20 times (!) to become friends. And guess what, some of those 20 meetings might be awkward or unimpressive.

We all want to reap the benefits (having a friend circle, having a partner, getting married) without doing the work (going to events, interacting with people, learning to handle conflict maturely, dating). Myself included. If I could, I'd never leave the house or go on another mediocre date again... except, that's part of the process.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, the cure to the loneliness epidemic is touching some grass and building tolerance for tedious in-person interactions.