#on queerness

[two-bees-poetry]

apocrypha

day three: apocrypha

[sentientsky]

every time i read about queer history, i feel like breaking down in tears. so much community and care and radical, desperate hope stretching back so far. god

[dearweirdme]

Living in South Korea would make it challenging for Taehyung to have a family as a single, non married man. Surrogacy is not legal or illegal, but the parent needs to adopt the child. The same would go, I gather, if you used a surrogate elsewhere and then brought the baby to SK. The surrogate mother is also considered the legal mother. While laws are changing, same sex couples are not able to adopt - and single men who want to adopt are seen as suspicious.

Given how filial Taehyung is, I don’t see him leaving SK and moving someplace else. His family, friends and work are in SK.

Seems like a bit of a conundrum.

Hi anon!

So even when I say this is offensive, you don’t take a moment to consider why that is and your response is to tell me about legislation? I’m aware of legislation… you however, are not taking queer people’s feelings and relationships seriously.

Let’s take this conversation away from Tae for a second, because I think it’s because of him that you find this difficult (wether it’s the need to have him be with a woman, or just that you enjoy the mystery more than his actual feelings I’m not sure).

Imagine for a bit that you’re a gay man. You’ve known since puberty that you are gay. You’ve struggled with coming out, because you know society is harsh and you will lose loved ones when you do. When you fall deeply in love though.. you do. You want to be with your partner in public and your love for each other means that you will sacrifice the relationships with loves ones who don’t accept you. That is how deeply you love each other. Life is hard, but love is strong and the two of you are happy and you want to stay together for the rest of your lives (not different from straight people at all). When the topic of marriage is prompted.. do your thoughts go to your partner, or do your thoughts go to an unknown woman even though you have been very much in love with a man for years and have built a life together?

Sk might be behind in queer legislation, but queer couples do exist. The queer community does fight for legislation to change for the very reason that they are incapable of changing who they are. They see the world change around them, they know that somewhere on the horizon there’s a strong possibility of them obtaining more rights.. because that is what’s happening in the world. When you diminish a queer couple’s feelings of love as though it is something they would consider leaving behind.. as if they would consider being with a partner of the opposite sex because it’s easier.. you do not understand the hardships they have possibly already gone through and you do not understand anything about love.

I’ll do you one better. I have recently watched The Boyfriend on Netflix. It’s a Japanese queer dating show on which we see queer men (two bisexuals and the rest gay) living in a house together for a couple of weeks while trying to find love. Two of them actually start falling in love and do you know what they talk about on one of their dates? Adopting a child. Japan doesn’t allow gay marriage and therefore doesn’t allow queer couples to adopt. Do you think these two men, while on a queer dating show…. on a date with each other… are talking about having a family with a woman?

Do better anon! Seriously, please invest in watching footage of queer couples trying to have a family. Go and watch same sex couples finally being able to marry when their country allows them.

If Tae is queer like we think, and in a relationship with Jk for years.. when prompted about marriage he would think of Jk and starting a family with him. The idea of it having to be a female comes from you and from homophobic society.. it has nothing to do with the reality and feelings of actual queer couples.

[lena-oleanderson]

my laptop's been broken for a Month and i finally got it working again so you're getting all of my most recent sorta-unfinished work in one batch. may or may not be working on another poetry book, edited versions of these may or may not end up in that

[petrichor-moss-and-lightning]

Hieu Minh Nguyen, "Stubborn Ineritance" in This Way To The Sugar

[emmajadepaige]

girl on girl

oh! girl in the corner,

drenched in deep indigo,

violets in your lap,

illuminated by the sparse lights in this establishment.

it might be the suddenly free drinks,

but standing here,

screaming red wine supernova with you,

i am lit like a match,

burning hot under your touch-a

touch-a touch-a touch- me.

your hands on my chest,

stranger in the dimmed room,

it’s our mutual friends birthday,

i can hardly remember your name,

would you kiss me?

where would you kiss me?

anywhere would do.

take my picture with your friend’s camera,

i am showing too much skin because

i know you are watching.

if we were alone maybe i would come closer,

but as we are, i’m trying to impress you

with my poor pool skills.

you go off to the dance floor and i abandon the game

in favour of you.

girl in the corner,

drenched in deep indigo.

crazy eyeliner that suits you perfectly.

i’m so drunk i ask my friend if i can bite her

(she says yes)

can i bite into you?

oh, cannibalism as a metaphor for love,

but this isn’t love (it’s lust (are they really any different?))

and it’s not about eating you whole

(at least not in that way)

i just want your skin under my teeth,

under my tongue.

take my leash and yank it if i nip,

i am girl turned hound under the

moonlight of your skin.

girl in the corner,

drenched in deep indigo,

you are ripe for the picking,

i will pluck you from the tree and take a bite

like the first mother taught me,

creating sin out of discovery.

you leave me drenched

and simultaneously sucked dry.

the next days i think of nothing but you,

and here i am,

writing of nothing but you.

[v333rbatim]

thinking about that one ethel cain ask about religion and queerness and coming to terms with the notion that it was never my queerness vs religion and that it was my queerness vs organised religion. it was my identity vs a congregation of individuals who used the guise of christianity to condemn my existence. my existence isn’t something which can be diminished by something bigger than myself otherwise i wouldn’t exist this way. idk i have more thoughts but i’ve never been good at articulating my thoughts. maybe one day i’ll talk about it more. maybe one day i’ll let myself believe again.

[ca-ravaggio]

for my bilingual, trilingual or polyglot trans/non binary homies, is it just me or is it common to feel comfortable with a certain set of pronouns in your non-native language but not in your native language? /gen

[fr0gg13b413]

my college essay i wrote about queer religious trauma

- @/finchmoment on tiktok

Growing up religious, the realization of your own queerness is also the realization of a betrayal. It will be argued two ways- either you are betraying God, or He is betraying you. Either way, you lose. When you are both the Betrayer of God and the Betrayed by God, you will, inevitably, become the Exiled too.  Is it my fault? When Judas only played the cards he was dealt, is he really to blame? Is there something we could have done, something to change the course of time, to write ourselves out of condemnation? And would we have done it, if there was? I was young when I was eviscerated. Foolish, too.  To this day, I still don't know why I expected things to be any different. I was raised this way, after all. I was raised knowing queer was a synonym for wrong, knowing gay was a synonym for sin. And still, when I realized that I was a synonym for all those things too, my entire world fell away from me. Daughter turned disappointment. Classmate turned outcast. Friend turned disgrace. Human turned abomination. I found myself alone, not for the first time, but for the longest time. Nothing would ever be the same, and I have spent my life since reeling with it. The church will argue that I betrayed God and I won't disagree with them. It's true- that I was His once. That I made promises to Him I couldn't keep. That I swore my life to someone I would later abandon. But it is also true that I am human, and I am small, and by saying I betrayed God you are either handing me supernatural power or shrinking God down and admitting to His weakness, admitting to His fallibility. Maybe those are the same thing.  If at the end of my life I am wrong about my beliefs, I hope He is as merciful and forgiving as they say. Because I tried. Because I spent my childhood trying. Because I need those years to matter. God, I am sorry for growing weary and giving up. I am sorry for pulling away and choosing myself, my little life. Call that betrayal if you will. In The Last Days of Judas Iscariot, Judas asks, "Why... didn't you make me good enough... so that you could've loved me?" I see myself in him, then.  I've never understood how it was fair. Being born this way, having no say in the matter, doomed from the start. If God truly is omniscient, if He truly cares about his creation, then why were my pleas for redemption met with a deafening silence? Why did God make me so unrighteous that He could not bear to be in my presence? Isn't that betrayal? Promising everything, ripping it away? Why did He choose Judas for the role of the traitor? Why did he choose me for the role of the pariah? Why weren’t we good enough? I have been reborn since. Not in the way of a baptism, but in the way of a phoenix. Deconstructing your religion will turn your anger biblical. It will send everyone running and leave you standing alone, spark turned flame, burning yourself and everything familiar to the ground. You will be alone, smoking, until your body returns to the dust from which humanity was made. It will be up to you to recreate yourself, then. To craft your bones from the wreckage. To make a clay to smooth on like skin. In the church, a burning is a death. But wasn't hellfire always my fate? Here's the Truth— the fiery furnace is the ultimate act of faith. Faith not in Him, but in me. I am reborn in these flames. Belonging to no one, owing Him nothing. Yes, I was His once. But I am Mine now.

[chaosandwolves]

hey, i read your hearstopper post and comments on being alone and realizing stuff about oneself while being older. just wanted to pop up to say you seem like a very good person. i hope you feel valid and loved, you are the best. have a good day <3

Hey there

Oh... This is so very sweet of you.

Like, this really made me smile.

Thank you so much for taking the time to send this wonderful message.

I hope you, too, feel valid and loved.

And I hope you'll always have your favorite drink at hand and lots of little wonders in your life

💚🍂

[nattousan]

*doom music starts to play* I actually kindof like scheduling these kinds of appointments now...

but seriously Fellas, don't forget to schedule a pap smear every couple of years just in case. If you still have a cervix you can still get cervical cancer. ilu

this has been a psa

[dearweirdme]

Personally, it never really changed my perspective on whether Taehyung is queer or not based on him wanting children.

What I find weird tho, is people not being able to accept that queer folks can have children too. I'm not talking about the anon especially, but I've heard other shippers using it as gotcha moments, saying things like : " Taehyung wants to be with a woman, he wants to have kids and gets married." Which is extremely silly because it's almost as if you think queer people cannot live the way heterosexual couple live in our society nowadays. I mean technically they won't have the same rights or even be perceived as them, but they still can adopt a life just like the rest surrounding them.

Now for the rest, about Taekook wanting to stay in South Korea or not, I think this is something they have already put some thoughts in it but that isn't in the process of being made. Tae once said he wanted to live somewhere else if I'm not mistaken. But that surely won't happen soon considering the group will be back starting from 2025.

Hi anon!

Sadly queer persons and relationships are still seen as an abnormality in a huge part of the world. It’s laws and society that prevent queer persons from being just like everyone else. Love is love, the ways people form families might just differ.

[lena-oleanderson]

The Failed Sainthoods of My Lesbian Adolescence from Side Wounds

TW: ED talk

fasting - once you start, you get why the saints and monks and whatnot do it. it's that kind of self-flagellation. it makes you feel holy and pure and above it all, it being the animal of your body

but if you want to live, you have to stop. and i wanted to live. more than anything i wanted to live. i've been in recovery from AN for 3 years now, and i've never been happier

[frontmansdefender]

fuck yeah !!!!!!!!!

[orion-archives]

"I want to be a dragon."