#as if my bio doesn’t say nb + they/them too..

[katswifey]

This is my first post on here! Welcome girls, boys and nonbinary babes! This will just be my introduction post for right now!! ⋆｡°✩ basically a small Q+A for ya!

Hello! My name is Kattlyn! I’m just a silly un-skilled writer doing (mostly) bnha writing! I can open requests too later on if y’all like what I write. Before I say too much lemme just state on what I will write vs what I won’t write.

WILL WRITE: !afab reader, !nb reader, !trans reader (mtf or ftm), I’m in between about !amab but I’ll still make some regardless! NSFW is 100% allowed! Just please don’t read my page if you are under 18.

WONT WRITE: [ TW BEFORE YOU READ ] anything TOO gore-ish, like crazy yandere stuff if yk what I mean, nothing against what you like, just personally I don’t feel comfortable writing that sorta stuff is all! Fetishizing any self harm, feet, anyone underage, stuff like that.

Lil more about me then my yap session will end I promise XD !! My sexuality is Lesbian!! I’m bigender, and I use she/her pronouns :3 my pronouns MIGHT change sometimes so look in my bio every so often to make sure ofc! I have a girlfriend, we’ve been together for lil over a year and I love her smm! She knows I’m doin this cuz I’ve been talking abt it with her for a while but unfortunately she doesn’t wanna use tumblr LOL. I love cats! I have three fur babies !! I just also love mha and mostly will write about them ofc <3

That’s all for right now !! Nice to meet you all! Xoxo -Kattlyn 🎀

[withasideofshakespeare]

not sure if images work. i am once again asking for thy trans shakespeare headcanons please & thank you. i will Stop entering your ask box and leaving just not tonight

by the way in response to trans tn response (<3 love it) i raise thee t4t seb and ant (tn) (but also tempest) (reasoning: hits you w transgenderification beam)

ALL of my current Shakespeare trans HCs in one post??? I am going to try...

Hamlet:

Hamlet- he/they, transmasc (afab) (I’ve talked about this theory a few times, and I like it a lot for a variety of reasons! See my other posts.)

Ophelia- she/they, ftnb (projection. PROJECTION!!!)

Horatio- either mtnb he/they OR everybody’s token cis friend (Non-binary Horatio makes for 1. a beautiful t4t couple/throuple if Ophelia is here too and 2. a fun story about Horatio’s gender crisis upon meeting Hamlet. Token cis friend Horatio is just funny. Hamlet and Ophelia discuss their shared genderqueer experience and Horatio gives them a thumbs-up like “I don’t understand this but I love you.”)

Laertes- she/him, genderfluid. (I saw Laertes played by a woman the first time I saw this play and now that experience has combined with all the masc Laerteses I have seen to create genderfluid Laertes.)

Rosencrantz- he/they, mtnb (Their name shortens to “Rose”. There is no way he’s cis.)

Macbeth:

Malcolm- they/he or they/them. I cannot decide which direction they’re trans in. (I am generally very attached to Malcolm. Maybe I’ll write a post about this later because there is way too much to say here.)

Lady Macbeth- she/they (Lady Macbeth would insult you for “having pronouns in your bio” but would also hit you for using their pronouns incorrectly.)

I HC like all the minor characters in Macbeth to be trans in one direction or another (not for any good reason, I just think they should be) so trans Macbeth characters speedrun: Caithness- she/they, transfemme; Angus- she/her, transfemme, Ross- he/him, transmasc.

Twelfth Night:

Sebastian- he/him, ftm (Explains identical twins of different genders and I like the complexity it adds to his relationships- see my other post.)

Viola/Cesario/Vi/Visario- they/them, ftnb (Again, this explains the twin thing and I really like the idea of Vi using their identity as Cesario to explore their gender.)

Antonio- he/him, either ftm or token cis man (Similar to Horatio, you either get a great t4t pairing or a slightly confused cis man pulling a guy out of the ocean and inadvertently getting a lesson about trans people.)

Maria- she/her, mtf (Literally no reason, I just think she is transfemme.)

Much Ado:

I haven’t read this one in a hot minute, but Beatrice is a she/they icon.

A Midsummer Night’s Dream

Puck- they/them (Fairy gender doesn’t work like human gender, but they’re queer even for a fairy.)

Moth- she/they (Fairy gender things. Honestly, this goes for all Titania’s attendants.)

Titania- she/they

Oberon- he/they

Peter Quince- he/they (literally no reason, it just works)

Helena- she/her, transfemme perhaps (maybe he/they Lysander also?)

Romeo & Juliet:

I saw an all-trans/nb production of this play and now pretty much everybody is trans.

Romeo- he/they, ftm (t4t R&J!!!!)

Juliet- she/they, mtf (t4t R&J!!!!)

Mercutio- they/he, probably performs drag shows in his free time (the queerest person in this play, I love them.)

Juliet’s Nurse- she/her, mtf (Transfemme elders deserve love)

And that is all of my trans HCs off the top of my head.

[80sfinalgrl]

....how did a t*rf not realize that this a very non-cis blog.....

LITERALLY LMAO

[chaotic-kitty]

Is it too soon for me to diagnose Nix Hydra with “Can’t make short characteritis?”

So I was looking at Miguel’s wiki bio coz I wanted to see if anyone had updated it since the final chapter dropped, so I could have a little look at what happened it the other ending. And while I was there, his bio said he was 5’11. Now I scrolled through EVERY one of the fictif posts on Insta to find the official bio, I found one but it says nothing about his height, nor can I find reference to it anywhere else. So it probably was mentioned in an Q&A or something. But that got me thinking about nix hydra and character heights. Now I am very aware that there are multiple different teams of writers and artists who all design their characters differently. But saying that, there are a few contradictions regarding height.

For example: in Last Legacy, Elowen (5’7), is described as being “imposingly tall’. Maeve (5’7) in Courting The Crown, who is the same height, is described by Rian as being “small”. Now I get that could be because Rian is tall? But that being said, 5’7 isn’t THAT tall nor is it short.

And there are times where character height doesn’t add up to the way they’re being described. Take Miguel for example, from what I remember he’s made out to be on the higher end of tall…..but he’s only 5’11? Which 5’11 in most places around the world is considered for men as average. The same goes for Jesse. He’s described as being TALL but he’s 5’10 which isn’t that tall either.

Now I get that I’m probably reading too much into this but, there is just something about the height system for these characters that bug me. A large majority of them fall into the above average height for their respective demographics. And yes, it’s not uncommon to have a lot of tall people, but when the majority of your characters fall at the same heights, especially your main characters, it gets to a point where it looks as though you can’t make short characters.

And some characters are taller than they actually feel like. Rian is apparently 6’1….he doesn’t give that vibe. I would’ve put him at around 5’9, same with Theo. Now characters like Saaros & Gwydion? Their tall heights kinda fit when you look at Elfin and Fae lore. And with Sage, Rime, Anisa, ect I guess their tall heights make sense cause they’re Ilephta and we don’t know much about Ilephta’s at all. Though Tulsi is on the shorter end. So idk?

But there is a part of me that looks at these characters, keeping in mind how toxic nix hydra has been with other stereotypes, and can’t help but think how much they’re stereotyping here too.

Nadia is depicted as dominant (which I have my own thoughts on) and her character is tall. You look at Saaros and Vidas, both nb but still very masculine in their appearance…their both tall. Same with the other nb characters. Felix has been stereotyped a certain way too, and he’s the shortest male. You look at all men and the majority of them are TALL. Like heaps tall. And even the women are more on the taller end of the scale. And that’s not even touching on the majority of the side characters. Because looking at just The Arcana, all of those characters seems heaps tall too, besides Mazelinka, Khamgalai & Volta.

I just wish we got more actual range you know? Not just with heights but in general. While there is diversity amongst the characters, I feel like they still write and design characters similarly. Especially as they are a company that’s always going on about diversity.

But anyways, just a few thoughts I had. Like I said, I’m probably reading too much into it or have grabbed the wrong end of the stick. In which case if I have, feel free to gently let me know. This is entirely just my own view on the matter.

Though looking at the way nix hydra goes with height especially when it doesn’t match descriptions….I wonder how tall Tinker Bell is? Coz Bille described them as being tiny, but they also think 5’7 is short and tall at the same time. I’m really interested to see what the writers view as tiny.

Edit: Mainly my point is, I think nix hydra has a problem with how they do heights. Now I do not know the inner workings of the company, so I don’t know how they do things. Each writer probably has their own views on heights and how they relate to one another. But I think that the writers and artists need to all get on the same page with it. And when I look at the character designs (including their personalities ect) and their heights I can’t help but see how they could be stereotyping their characters in a toxic kinda way….again. And if this was just this one thing on its own, it wouldn’t really mean much, but when you look at everything regarding nix hydra and their handling/designing of characters? It doesn’t look that great. It just really bugs me. I would really like to have a few more shorter characters (specifically main characters) that are just short without also having other toxic stereotypes attached.

Character Height List (of the characters I could find):

Muriel- 6’10

LOS- 6’9

Lucan- 6’6

Rainer- 6’6 (with horns)

Orion- 6’5

Julian- 6’4

Leonidas- 6’4

Sergio- 6’4

Howie- 6’3

Nicky- 6’3

Sawyer- 6’3

Ayanna- 6’2

Gwydion- 6’2

Luca- 6’2

Sage- 6’2

Vidas- 6’2

Astrellio- 6’1

Poe- 6’1

Rian- 6’1

Rouge- 6’1

Saaros- 6’1

Eeri- 6’0

Gramme- 6’0

Rime- 6’0

Theo- 6’0

Anisa- 5’11

Escell- 5’11

Miguel- 5’11 (?)

Calysta- 5’10

Chava- 5’10

Jesse- 5’10

Lucio- 5’10

Nadia- 5’10

Valerius- 5’10

Scylla- 5’10

Florian- 5’9

Asra- 5’8

Aurelia- 5’8

Casimir- 5’8

Serena “Hook”- 5’8

Amara- 5’7

Elowen- 5’7

Maeve- 5’7

Elise- 5’6

Felix- 5’6

Val- 5’6

Celia- 5’5

Tess- 5’5

Tulsi- 5’4

Portia- 5’1

Stella (cat)- smol

[anthonycrowleymoved]

what the fuck on earth is there to discourse about with misha’s pronouns.....

sigh. insert the obligatory ‘god i wish that were me’ joke here. anyway. so like. misha collins added his pronouns to his twitter bio. which made me want to parasocialize my relationship with him a little. anyway not relevant. but i was like. happy about this whole thing because it. it normalizes pronoun usage. and i guess people were like ‘misha put your pronouns in your bio because’ and he did because he seems like a nice dude or whatever. but his pronouns are he/him. obviously. we can’t all be gerard way and throw out he/they as acceptable pronouns in a tweet. we can’t all be sexy nbs. anyway. anyway. people are like but he wears dresses sometimes i think he should go by they/them. i think he doesn’t know he’s nb and so i’m just gonna call him by they pronouns. which as an nb person who like, it took a loooong time for me to figure that out it felt so offensive to me first off for like four separate reasons starting with ‘hey respecting people’s pronouns is necessary for cis people too and since he has never given any indication he’s not he’s cis what the hell’ and ending with ‘what the hell why are you trying to say you know more about the person’s gender than the person.’ which like. that whole thing i don’t want to engage in either bc there is also a group like hm we should educate him on this maybe he doesn’t know. here’s a thought. maybe. he is just. a cis guy. maybe he is. please for the love of god he did what you want he put his pronouns in his bio can we please leave this father of two alone i am TIRED your parasocial relationships exhaust me.

[kazdoesrp]

hello everyone! my name is kaz and i’m 27, female, and i go by she/her. my discord is at the bottom of this post! please only 18+ partners apply! i’m making this post in search of roleplay partners that are literate and enjoy writing! the only thing i ask is that you understand i can’t always reply every second of every day. i’m a pretty patient person and communication is best. if you ping me every day asking if i’m still interested, it makes me a little nervous so please don’t do that!

i have some plots i’ve been wanting to find a dedicated partner for. these can be modified in any way and can be thrown into pretty much any fandom. right now i’m suggesting that they be period rps, d&d inspired or in the grishaverse realms... but i’m willing to discuss any of these with anyone!!!

IDEA #1: this is definitely d&d inspired and i have a female character sort of lined up already. so my girl is a little darker than them. finds herself in this small nothing town in the middle of no where on a quest for something. manages to rent out one of the village houses. has a gorgeous black fresian-like horse named goliath who she spends a lot of her time with and it’s just her and this horse. she can’t possibly keep him outside tied up so she boards him at the local stables and that’s where she meets your character ?? just a lil farm boy/girl/nb who could possibly be shy and curious about her. maybe they see her walking around and have been wanting to talk to her to say hello but oh she came to the stables what a perfect way to start a conversation... but she doesn’t say much. maybe some of the older folk in town have talked to her more or the bar keep or even your character’s family members and yeah. they wanna talk to her but she kind of just comes into the stable to spend time with her horse, pays them and mostly ignores them when they even try to talk to her. there’s also moments where her and her horse disappear for days on end ( but she makes sure to leave a note saying she took her horse and to not be worried ). i have it in her bio that she’s looking for her father ( a little rogue one type plot lol. i can send the google doc i have! ) and she always comes back empty handed or tired / hurt / fresh scars / something idk. but eventually the two start talking or someone is being mean to your character and she jumps in and defends them because they’re too sweet to really tell a customer off. idk man. definitely hades x persephone vibes. she’s dark, mysterious, blunt, quiet, intimidating and they’re sunshine, shy, bubbly, awkward, smiley and everything opposite of what she is. i would REALLY LOVE to write this out if someone would want to discuss it a little more! she’s a high elf rogue ( i believe, i need to double check my sheet ) but ........ yes hi. please someone.

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IDEA #2: basically the idea is of a prince and princess who have been betrothed to each other when they were young ( think something like reign with mary and francis ??? ) and they definitely think they’re each other’s soulmates. they probably visited each other every so many years to keep contact and stuff and idk it’s just cute. so things are good until they’re not, right? the prince and his family find themselves fleeing from the castle during an ambush on their kingdom. i’m imagining he either gets taken or is simply heading toward the docks, boards a ship and ... oop it’s a pirate ship? he becomes a pirate and sails the seas and all that good stuff and then eventually returns to try and get his life back. he earns trust and power out on the sea which gives him a bit more free reign to do as he pleases, maybe he gets money somehow, a crew and a ship and uses it to sail back home. maybe he doesn’t and just has crewmates that help him fake his death so he could go home and try and get his life back idk..... so while everyone thought he wasn’t alive anymore, it could be a surprise when he shows up to his betrothed’s castle / kingdom and it’s all wonderful and maybe a bit bittersweet if she was meant to marry someone else ??? also comes the fact that he’s probably not the same like he once was. definitely changed after years around pirates and on the sea and stuff. idk. i would love to discuss ideas with whoever took this! i think it’s a neat / cute idea that could be plotted out and refined a bit more!

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IDEA #3: this could be set in the grishaverse. another idea on the pirate thing is someone who is a pirate. probably has legends about them with how ruthless and terrible they are. there’s stories of “the shadow captain” or something along those lines and he basically has powers like the darkling. i imagine that he and the darkling were at the little palace together and the darkling was nervous of another shadow summoner coming up into power with him and maybe tried to kill him or get him captured / taken somewhere and boy managed to escape and is out on the seas. then obviously years pass and the darkling is really the only shadow summoner so people probably don’t believe shadow captain boy but he has a black kefta and it’s like a thing on the seas where only he’s allowed to wear black / have black sails or something just like the darkling... idk. ANYWAY. your character could be another grisha that was training at the little palace and they knew each other? maybe planned on running away together at some point and obviously things happened with him... maybe she could’ve gotten out and they meet somewhere?? i’m not sure. 

on the same topic of this idea without it being in the grishaverse ... boy is captain of a “”ruthless”” ship. a myth or legend on the seas and like that type of person that parents tell their kids is going to come get them if they don’t eat their broccoli. definitely has a reputation and lot of power and he knows it. is probably a little unhinged, but is calculating and very good at what he does ( idk thomas shelby vibes imo ) AND YEAH ... your character finds themselves on their ship? either by accident or taken on there and is fearful of him or is obviously pissed off at being held captive ( maybe they could be a royal or someone from power or something ??? elizabeth swann vibes ?? ) and yeah they spend time on the ship and “oh it’s him ??? the oh so terrible captain ??? he’s not that bad. he’s kinda cute. he’s gentle when he talks to me and— what am i saying” kind of thing? and he’d be intrigued simply because idk... he might know who she is? i’m really game for discussing this a little more with someone!!!!

my discord is anakin skywalker™#0001 for anyone interested! just a friendly reminder to please message me your name, age, pronouns, any triggers you might have!! thank you for reading this far if you did omg.

[starkovwrts]

GENDER DIVERSITY IN THE RPC...

Alina can have a little °✧° rant °✧°  as a treat !! I’ve been seeing a lot of stuff on my dash lately about representation in regards to transgender and nonbinary characters. As your local trans kid, let me tell you... in my experience, the RPC is fucking awful at it unless the admins of an rp are trans themselves. A lot of people make it impossible or just deeply impossible to play trans characters.

Admins will say that any character can be played as trans !! And yet... demand that you conform to their very specific idea of a character, while giving no face suggestions. They’ll say that you, a trans person, can’t play XYZ character is trans because you’re trying to use a cis fc (I know this is a hot button topic, and is a full conversation for another day, but i’m trans and i’m okay with it, and so many trans people i’ve met are too). That pretty much makes it impossible unless you’re making an OC, because no cis admin will really help you with your goal here.

They’ll say that any character can be played as nonbinary, but the way they talk you can tell they see being NB as just °✧° sparkly cisgender °✧° !! It’s so clear when they’re just putting it down on the bio for diversity points. If you decide to play a character with they/them pronouns, 90% of the time your character is misgendered. People will ignore it, forget it, slip up because your character “looks” like a girl or “looks” like a boy. It’s disappointing, because nonbinary characters are sexy and cool and often times 100% more interesting than people make them seem.

And in fandom or historical roleplays, a lot of the time you’ll get straight up told that you CAN’T play that canon character as trans or nonbinary...because it wasn’t in the book, wasn’t in the tv show, doesn’t fit with the vibe of the world, isn’t historically accurate.

It’s fucking annoying, and exhausting to be trans in this community sometimes. And it doesn’t really seem to be getting better, because... not a lot of people really want to do more than the bare minimum.

[squidproquoclarice]

Can you talk more about Demisexuality and Arthur in Sunrise? Am I right in saying Sadie is too? I’m not fully aware of what the term means but curious about it :)

OK, so for clarity: demisexuality is under the asexuality umbrella.  It’s when you don’t feel sexual attraction except after a strong emotional bond (and even then it’s a maybe).  I hear a lot of “Wanting to sleep with people you care about is just ‘normal’, it’s nothing special,” and that’s not really right. The difference between being demi and being allosexual but preferring emotionally bonded sex is that demis, like other asexuals, really don’t experience sexual attraction based on looks.  In other words, they don’t ever look at someone and just realize, “God, I’d take them home in a minute, they make me horny.”  Not to say they can’t appreciate a good looking person, but it’s like appreciating good looks in someone who isn’t your type.  It’s aesthetic, not sexual. But they can (no guarantee, however) possibly develop that attraction for someone after getting emotionally close to them.  That’s what’s called secondary sexual attraction.  Let’s be clear--demis and other aces can have a sex drive/libido.  They can masturbate.  They can have sex, and enjoy sex.  They can also do none of those things, and that’s valid too.  But sexual attraction =/= sex drive.  Aspec is more about not having a person or people there with whom you want to use libido.   Here’s a quick, simplified comparison: “I’m hungry, and what I really want is a donut” (allo preferring emotionally bonded sex) and “I’m not hungry at all (ace) and “I wasn’t hungry at all, then I saw that donut and now I want it, but that’s the only thing that sounds good (demi)”.  (NB: Any and all errors in explaining any of this are my own.) Turning to the Sunrise portion: I do write Arthur as very clearly demisexual, and I do see Sadie as being likely in that direction as well. Arthur, in contrast to numerous other men in the gang who show sexual interest even in more limited NPC roles (Charles, Javier, John, Sean, Micah, and Dutch for sure, others seem implied), shows pretty much zero interest all the hours we spend with him, despite ready and easy opportunities.  I do think guilt over Eliza plays into it, yes, and there’s probably some element of self-punishment in the idea that he’s seemingly given up on romance, sex, and his dreams of being a husband and father.  But that doesn’t feel like the only reason.  There’s not really the tension of a man who’s chosen to be celibate but still has to fight against attraction and ready opportunities.  The only clear craving we get from him is a very strong need for emotional attachment, for love.  That really seems to point more to him absolutely needing, rather than preferring, that kind of intimacy first.   Sleeping with Eliza certainly happened given Isaac, and the fact they almost definitely weren’t romantically involved doesn’t disprove Arthur as aspec.  It could have been a youthful attempt to conform to the expected image of “manliness” by sleeping with her.  It could have been, like I wrote, a very drunken night where he was pining for Mary after their break-up. For Sadie, her deep attachment to Jake is clear and emphatic.  “We was always sweet on one another,” etc.  From how practical and earthy she is, it’s not hard to argue she and Jake probably had a very fulfilling sex life. Yes, her grief definitely plays into that attachment.  But that depth of feeling and fidelity to him, and how loyalty to those she loves is stressed as much in her char bio as Arthur’s, it also makes it easy to imagine her being demi herself, that she needs that partnership and intimacy to even be interested. Even in the Epilogue years later, we see no signs of her being interested in sex.  Given as generally cool and distant as she is and how we see a fairly firm control of her impulses compared to 1899, she’d probably be capable of casual sex if she was interested at all.  She’s living an unusual life where she’s living by masculine standards rather than feminine restriction, so I highly doubt she’d feel bound as a woman by the gendered double standard of chastity and refrain for that reason.  She could easily argue that it’s not betraying Jake using the old argument that it’s not meaningful, it’s not making love, it’s just scratching an itch.  But we don’t get that at all from her either.  Again, like with Arthur, that implied tension of denial isn’t there. So you end up with these two bi demi dramatic disasters who do the “Haha, yeah we’re saying we’re so married so we can stay together here in a strange place” thing for a long time and keep getting closer and closer as they think admiringly about how much they depend upon and love each other as friends, and pretty much everyone around them believes they’re married because of that love.  But again, zero sexual or romantic tension.  They can share a room.  They can touch and hug.  They can talk jokingly without it being flirting.  And to be clear, in different circumstances, they could very easily have continued like that for life and been queerplatonic partners, and been happy.  I don’t buy the “beyond a certain depth of feeling it has to turn romantic” idea.  Romantic love isn’t better or deeper or more “mature” than platonic.  It’s just a different shading. But as demis, then you hit the point for both of them where that romantic and sexual attraction did happen to switch on.  It’s not obliviousness to existing feelings and slowly overcoming that and realizing they’ve actually felt like that for a while.  It’s more of a full-stop oh shit moment where something exists abruptly that didn’t before.  They realize that they love this person in an additional way, and that the very comfortable enjoyment from being near them now suddenly has this facet of longing and excitement too.  Hits harder too for that feeling towards someone being so rare in both of their lives.  (And being the blessed idiots they are, panic ensues.)

[inmyarmswrappedin]

I honestly think ismail will apologize to fatou he looked genuinly upset/thinking i give it until next week because different to kieu my he is good at expressing himself while kieu my kinda runs away from it until she is forced to (which is think ismail may help too). But both have problems going over their egos

Hi anon 🌞 That’d be interesting! I agree that Ismail is more forthcoming with his feelings, he did tell Nora point blank that he liked her in s5e01. I don’t think Kieu My has ever been that direct, even though during Nora’s season it seemed at times that she was irritated with Nora (like during the dance clip) and at other times was fine with her.

At any rate, I hope Ismail doesn’t give an explanation for Kieu My’s behavior. I think Kieu My should speak for herself. 

[As of right now, I use he/him or they/them pronouns for Ismail interchangeably. The actor used to have “no preferred pronouns” on their ig bio, while now it says, “she/he/they.” So far, the characters have all referred to Ismail as he/him. This isn’t a denial of Ismail’s possible NB identity. I have no preferred pronouns myself. I just find it pointless to be militant about using they/them when these pronouns aren’t canon for Ismail yet.] 

[inevitably-johnlocked]

hi! sorry if this is too personal or rude or if you've answered before, but are you nb? I'm asking because in your bio it says "she/her or they/them or whatever makes you happy". what does the "whatever makes you happy" part mean?

Hey Nonny!

Ah, not rude at all, no worries!

Ah no, I identify as cis female, but because in real life I use Steph in my emails, I have been mistaken as male and I’ve gently corrected people that it’s Stephanie, not Stephan or Stephen, LOL. 

Mainly, it’s because people refer to me as “they” if they don’t know me, and it doesn’t bother me. I’m just laid back. If it makes one happy to call me an asshole, they can do that too... It’s their problem, not mine lol. Heck, call me “dude”, “man” or “bud”, one of my best friends does hahah

No other reason. If it’s unintentionally offensive – I’ve had it there for years – I’ll remove it. It’s the only part of my blog template I’m able to still edit, lol

[isis-astarte-diana]

The New Toy: Part 20

If Missy can’t find a suitable companion, she will make one.

Summary: The TARDIS shows her sentience.

Whumptober Theme: No. 20 ‖ Toto, I Have A Feeling We’re Not In Kansas Any More ‖ Lost

Warnings: Kidnapping. Dark!Missy. MIHOW.

Word Count: 885

NB: One of my favourite ever tropes is the TARDIS stepping in to force people together or keep people apart!

The TARDIS has hidden your bedroom.

It’s not the first time she’s moved things around - you’ve taken to identifying rooms by their doors more than their positions - but the layout typically remains broadly similar. It’s never taken you more than a few minutes to find the place you’re looking for.

You don’t know how long you’ve been wandering these halls tonight, but it’s definitely longer than usual.

Every door you pass is unfamiliar. It’s always dark in the corridors, the dim violet lights doing few favours where they’re set into black walls and floors, but now it feels oppressive. Shadows push at your eyes and ears, ghosting across every bit of bare skin, trailing over your face like cold fingers. Stricken with the sudden alarm that there is something behind you you brace your palm against the wall and look over your shoulder.

The walls have moved.

Where previously the hall had been featureless, straight as a Roman road, now it curves sharply to the left. Your hand flies up to cover your mouth, horror twisting in your chest at the sight. The changeable geometry of the TARDIS has never felt quite this alive before.

You start to walk faster.

It’s almost a jog, but not quite; even alone, even in these foreign depths of the ship, your pride won’t allow you to run from nothing. You’ve endured enough now to stop jumping at shadows.

So you remind yourself, under your breath, in a voice that trembles too much for your comfort.

The back of your neck itches where the tip of Missy’s umbrella had been pressed. You reach up to rub at the scar there, batting at the empty air behind you, pretending even to yourself that it’s a coincidental movement and not an attempt to prove that there is nothing following close at your back.

Cold fingers wrap around your wrist.

You shriek, your back slamming into the wall when you to turn around and see what has hold of you. Missy’s pale face is blue and shadowy in the low light.

“You shouldn’t be down here.”

Her voice is low, her thin brows drawn tight. She cocks her head and eyes you carefully. She’s close - close enough that your shuddering breaths stir the strand of loose hair hanging by her jaw. You steady yourself with your free hand, pressing it to your heaving chest.

“I’m sorry.” In the close quarters your words are too loud. “I got lost.”

“No.” She frowns, and her grip tightens with her expression. “I mean, you shouldn’t be able to be down here. You’re bio-locked out. The implant should be active.”

“Oh.” You duck your head and touch the scar again. “I just- I was going to bed, but- I ended up here.”

“And it doesn’t hurt.” It’s not a question. Tighter, still, either side of the joint in your wrist, her fingers clamp down with aching pressure. You wince. “You should have been knocked unconscious by now.”

“I’m sorry,” you whisper again. “I- I’ll go, I didn’t mean to-”

“No.” She lets go so abruptly that you gasp, rubbing at the area where her hand had been. Her eyes flit down to watch you soothing yourself, and then lift back to your face. Her features don’t twitch. “No. We need to investigate that.”

“I won’t come here again.” You swallow hard, shrinking back from the look in her eyes; curious, faintly irritated, but with a glint of excitement. Like you’re a damaged machine. Something she can take apart and put back together. Something she can fix. “I promise.”

“You can’t promise that.” Missy steps closer, and when you go to move away you are reminded of the wall at your back, smooth and cold and black as onyx. Her chest - the coat is gone; she’s down to her blouse and skirt - almost touches yours. She reaches up, her cool fingers going behind your head to stroke the raised skin at the back of your neck. It’s a light touch that prickles your skin with goosebumps and drags a quiet noise from your throat. Her voice hardens. “I don’t appreciate being lied to.”

“No.” You shake your head as much as the closeness will allow. “No, of course not, Mistress. I would never.”

“Never?” She frowns deeper. Her palm slides against the nape of your neck, and then she squeezes, dull pain radiating from where she grips you by the scruff. You sink your teeth into your bottom lip to stifle a cry. “You can’t promise that, either.”

“I’m sorry.” Tears sting your eyes, and you close them, heart racing. Your hands clench into fists at your sides. “I don’t know what you want me to say.”

“Just tell me-” She cuts off, and her forehead, skin soft and cold, presses against your own. You twitch at the contact but her hold on your neck keeps you pinned between her and the wall. She chuckles to herself, humourless. The breath that carries it ghosts over your face. “Just say something nice.”

When you peek out through your lashes, her eyes are closed. There’s a sardonic half-smile on her lips. She’s taken her makeup off.

Bottom lip quivering, you murmur, “I’m yours, Mistress.”

She makes another low noise, not quite a laugh, not quite a whimper.

“Good girl.”

[aesios]

this is just me thinking out loud based on observations made mostly on twitter but. i genuinely think there has been this weird surge in anti-child behavior and sentiment in online spaces over the past few years. it’s only been kind of recently? i think? that the whole “you HAVE to have your age in your bio/description no matter what” idea has become this rigid law on social media, and not enough people seem to question it. i think that it likely started as a well-intentioned thing, a way to make sure that kids don’t end up being let into adult spaces containing content that’s not appropriate for them, but it’s morphed into this thing where people want to keep kids out of any spaces that happen to have adults. and when i say kids i mean like. teenagers. 16 and under or smth. and i see tons of people that are 18+ in age saying they don’t want minors following them because it makes them uncomfortable? even if they are like a sfw fandom account? and i’m not saying that everyone has to be comfortable interacting online with people much younger than them, but the sudden lines drawn between minors and non-minors is like , weird and unrealistic. it feels shocking to me because when i was 12-15 years old on forums and tumblr (and irl tbh), i had friends of a lot of different ages, some of them 5+ years older than me, and that never… mattered? because we were talking about a shared interest or fandom… not adult personal problems or nsfw topics or anything like that… when i was a kid in school they would show those super outdated films from like the 90s about internet safety and how you shouldn’t talk to strangers online because there are adult predators out there, but it’s so damn weird because on actual social media today it feels like the narrative has shifted to KIDS being the predators… like there is a 12 year old lurking behind this account that just followed you that doesn’t have an age in the description, and that makes them evil because… the idea of being followed by a minor makes you uncomfortable? i think it’s quite harmful because it’s become more about making adults feel comfortable posting whatever they want in their own social media spaces than it is about making sure actual kids online are SAFE from extremely inappropriate or damaging content that they could be exposed to. i think that both of those things are important, but i think one is clearly a lot more important than the other???? and to tie it back to the ‘age in bio’ thing, pushing these ideas that anyone HAS to divulge any personal information on their social media just to participate in a community, and for the comfort of OTHERS rather than themselves, is… pretty backwards. a 22 year old broadcasting their age on twitter is probably gonna have no problem with it, but a 12 year old? 13? 14? i shouldn’t have to tell you that they’re kind of painting a target on themselves with that, especially in conjunction with all the other personal info (that should be irrelevant) that they feel compelled to share on their carrd or whatever. while i’m at it i wanna point out that this goes for pronouns too—if someone wants to put their pronouns on their account, great, but please remember that simply doing that isn’t..activism? and choosing not to do it isn’t disrespect to nb/trans folks. oftentimes the people it hurts the most ARE the nb/trans folks—when i was younger and not really out yet, i had to choose between not putting my correct pronouns on my account, or accidentally coming out to anyone i knew who saw my tumblr. for a lot of people it’s easier to just not put anything, but people now act like that’s somehow offensive (many of whom are literally cis). in the same way, the age-in-bio rule is most likely to endanger the ones that it SHOULD be protecting—kids. i don’t really have a central point with all this, i just think it kinda freaks me out how everyone treats this idea of disclosure online as a necessary and righteous thing, and it worries me how it’s going to affect young people’s safety, mental health, and mindsets about having an online presence going forward.

[steponmepinkjun]

i get where you’re coming from because the game certainly has it’s issues(i just hesitate to say this is one of them) and it’s been said before, but it was kinda a big thing in the earlier days of the game AND fandom that the reason it was never explicitly mentioned that asra is NB is because the world in general doesn’t... think much of it? a world where a character could be NB and that wouldn’t be a big deal and it could just be written in the way any cis character gets. u don’t see julian proclaiming he’s a man every other chapter but it’s pretty common to view that he’s a man. they portrayed it well with both language directed at asra as well as his character overall i think. they figured people would decide it was a dumbledore situation before it ever became that, but people seem to have forgotten is all and it’s become commonplace in the fandom to pretend everything in the game is cishet by default... which is honestly really awkward to see lmao... given it was funded and built upon the fact that it’s LGBT+

And that's a totally valid way to feel about it, too! I can't find fault with either logic. Some people want to see their experiences become highly visible and explicitly celebrated, some people just want their experiences to stop being demonized. I personally wouldn't go so far as to compare it to the whole Dumbledore thing. The bigger issue I was getting at is the way brands and corporations are able to co-opt a cause for brownie points and then drop it once they no longer see it as a profitable image. The way companies will put a rainbow in their Twitter bio for pride month and delete it at exactly the stroke of midnight at months end, that sort of thing. So I can understand why some people in the fandom would feel a bit short cheated by elements of the game. It isn't my soapbox to stand on either way, so I can't claim to have any authority over the finer points of the issue.

[meme-loving-stuck]

ANYWAY while Im on the subject (I was not) I think that like not ONLY is Queer Tumblr absolutely too obsessed with the whole afab and amab thing but so is like, the world at large it is definitely not just a tumblr thing.

Like Im sorry you think people should basically include a full-body nude in their bio along with their pronouns so you can suss out What Flavor Trans They Are, but the fact of the matter is, making that an expectation for EVERYONE in the community and forming your entire first impression of strangers around it is not only cissexist, and invasive, but actually dangerous.

Like. Listen. In the real world? Like the non-internet world? A trans woman or otherwise non-cis person who was assigned male at birth and presents in a feminine way starting all their introductions with "Hi! I was assigned male at birth!" is basically saying "Hi! I was born with a penis!! Any transphobes here want to sexually harrass me at best, or follow me home and assault me at worst?"

No, it doesn't MATTER if you live in the most liberal city on the planet. No, it doesn't matter if these people they were meeting Seemed Cool or were gay themselves. It is like... a known fact that someone outing themselves as trans in any public or IRL setting is not guaranteed to be safe. Like it's fine if you want to be "out and proud" but not everyone does. Not to mention... MANY trans folks don't fucking want to be referred to as their birth sex? This is also basic stuff.

Honestly if I have one more person refer to my nb PARTNER, who I exclusively use they/them for, as my "boyfriend" because I'm openly bi and ~'flamboyant' and have dated men in the past Im going to fucking lose it. I use the word partner. They don't identify fully as a woman, or a man. They are NONBINARY and their birth sex or whether or not I MAY have referred to them as my girlfriend in the past, should NEVER have to enter the conversation, ever.

Just, like. Think about it? You're still obsessing over what people's genitalia are and it's JUST AS CREEPY to hear it coming from trans folks as it is from cis folks.

[lorata]

In a modern AU, do you think Lyme would have ever identified as transgender?

In a modern AU I think Lyme would ID as some form of nonbinary/none gender with left beef, but it would be pulling teeth to get her there. (I couldn’t even SAY “nonbinary” without her making a joke in my head)

Lyme’s gender identity is .... hm. She does not identify with being a woman so much as she really does not identify as male. She also really does not want to be a dude. In THG it was not actually about being a boy, it was about escaping what she saw as a terrifying reality of gender role expectations that came with being female. I’m not sure in a modern AU she’d feel any less pressure in that regard, since we are the Capitol and we also have the internet, which makes things so much worse in some ways. And as I talked about, yeah, THG really stresses the binary, so it’s not like anyone would have presented options.

I feel like poor modern AU bb Lyme in her weird rural hellscape would still have her early dysphoric terror, but if her well-meaning teacher instead of sending her to murder death-camp asked her gently if she was a boy would be like ...... I’m ... not ... sure? and then maybe play around that for a while before deciding no, she didn’t like boys and did not want to be one, but not because she had any loyalty to being a girl, it just didn’t feel any more right. But she would wear the clothes and cut her hair and change her name, and since well-meaning teachers in rural hellscapes can only do so much, that’s probably that for now. 

(New teacher on the playground “Little girl --” “I’M NOT A GIRL” “Sorry, little boy --” “I’M NOT A BOY” Teacher looks at small feral child “I’M A WOLF” Teacher looks helplessly at colleague “Ah no one warned you about Madeline”)

When she’s older anything to do with gender makes her teeth itch, I think. She’s not a man. Male pronouns don’t feel right. She’s used to the female ones in that she’s sort of stopped hearing them, and she can’t think of better ones. But asking her to put them in her bio or on a nametag would cause a mental short -- she’s supposed to identify with them? Use them as a label? Fuck right off. If she had a tumblr she would absolutely love that “I identify as a threat” joke, it would hit a lot deeper than she’d really be able to articulate. She’d want it on her truck except people would be dicks about it so nah. If little kids ask her “are you a boy or a girl” in the grocery store she shark-grins and says “maybe”.

So, to answer your question, yes, any flavour of not cis/NB = trans, but whether she’d use that label for herself is another story. I think she’d push back for a long time because of all that rural hellscape stuff she internalizes as silly, unfortunately? and it would be a long process coming to terms. Like, no, she’s not NB/trans/whatever, she just doesn’t see the point of this bullshit. Eventually someone older and wiser and very, very patient would have to be like, child, what you are describing is in fact a trans experience, and then deal with her as she had a total temper tantrum about it. Also too, idk, the only thing she holds onto about ~female identity~ is the myth of exceptionism she’s dragged with her any time she excels, which, again, a whole ‘nother suitcase to unpack.

(Is that a good enough reason to hold on to it? Is she identifying as female or is she afraid that if she stops putting other women down in a hypercompetitive patriarchal system she won’t be special anymore? Is that, maybe, a bigger problem? Lyme: rrrrrkrjrrralkjf FUCK)

tl;dr I think she’d use female pronouns for convenience if nothing else but since if anyone asked she’d start answering her gender identity as “the void”, yes. Sorry. The answer to your question is “yes”. She still IDs as straight, though? Like, that one fits fine. And if anyone tried to argue with her she’d be like oh sorry I forgot I identify as nunya, nunya fuckin business.

[werevulvi]

Not the anon you replied to but I think the nonbinary argument falls apart for me because no one can be truly sexless nor a hermaphrodite person so this idea that they "should" be is like someone feeling they should be a minotaur or a fairy. It's so disconnected and almost entitled to bend reality that it grates on me, especially when its combined with some flavor of "but it's not a mental illness!".Even from a health pov there is no viable HRT that makes u both. And no gonads+no HRT = bad

Well, that's alright. I might just not see it from the same perspective as you. I don't really view nonbinary as one specific thing, but rather as on a greyscale kinda between male and female. It is not saying that mixing male and female traits on the same body in various ways necessarily "makes" a new gender, or truly sexless. The "gender" is merely personal interpretation.

I still battle this with myself, so it's difficult to talk about, but since I'm the only nonbinary person who's brain I know well enough to speak of... I guess I'll try.

First off though, usually the point with nonbinary isn't to be a specific "third" sex, sexless or to be some mythological hermaphodite. Humans cannot become truly sexless or be both sexes for real, but at the same time females cannot become males or vice versa either. So is it pointless to transition (with hormones and surgery) at all then?

Because at the end of the day, we're all just bio males and bio females, regardless how we feel about it, and regardless if we transition or not. That's what the reality is. But wanting to look different and putting a gendered meaning into that difference, isn't necessarily wrong, bad or illogical to me.

Like I have a teddy tiger which I sometimes refer to as simply "my tiger" even though she's not a real tiger. Because the toy resembles a tiger, and was made to resemble a tiger, it's logical enough to call her a tiger, even though it might sometimes be important to specify that it's made of fabric. Likewise, a nonbinary person might just be a female who looks partially male and partially female, due to hormones and surgery, like myself. To then say that me looking both male and female and liking it "makes" me nonbinary is no more untrue than saying that the soft toy "is" a tiger.

Because I resemble a mix of both sexes, just like the soft toy resembles a tiger. I cannot produce both sperm and eggs so I am not of both sexes for real; and my tiger cannot roar nor scratch, and is not a living creature, thus it is not a real tiger. Often times we call things not only what they are, but also what they resemble. Especially when it comes to art and other creations, but really all sorts of things. Like comparing someone's red hair to fire, or calling my balcony during hot summer days a sauna, even though red hair is not actual flames and my balcony is not an actual sauna. Why? Because it help with communication. Parables are important to describe things or to make a point. I even made another parable to describe a parable, to prove a point with a parable, just now.

Granted that most nonbinary (and binary) trans people do not view themselves as a parable to the gender of the sex they consider themselves to be, but I do.

So, consider the fact that transition doesn't actually change the person's sex, only polishes the surface to either look like the opposite sex, and/or some ambiguous variant of both/neither sex, but it can still make that person feel better about themselves. Is it then pointless for them to do things that make them feel better and find ways to lead a more functional life, regardless of how redundant it might seem to you? Because to me, the point of transitioning is not to become something else (whether that be male, female, sexless or a hermaphrodite), but to reduce dysphoria to improve over all life quality for the dysphoric person. And yes, dysphoria is a mental illness. I wouldn't wanna argue against that. I view my dysphoria as the defect, not my sex. And no, transitioning doesn't help every dysphoric person, but I think it's pretty clear that it helps for some. So then there's just not that much of a difference between... say, transitioning with T and top surgery to live as a self-perceived man - and transitioning with only T to live as a self-perceived half man-half woman. Because neither of those two examples can truly become anything other than a female anyway, so why does it matter? It might not matter to you, but it probably matters to them.

Also, I don't think anyone "should" be of the other sex or some other variant either. I just think people can do whatever they want with their own bodies if it makes them happy, and call themselves whatever they want if they feel that's useful for them somehow.

Both males and females, as well as intersex conditions that look ambiguous exist. Fairies and minotaurs do not. Even if they might be loosely based on bulls and fireflies. I could literally fool people to believe that I'm both male and female by simply saying some stupid shit like "I was born with both a dick and a pussy" because a lot of people have heard that can be a thing, even though they would know it's rare, they likely know it's humanly possible in some way. Getting people to believe I'm a fairy or minotaur would probably be a lot harder, unless they’re 5 years old.

How much or what kind of dysphoria somehow has doesn't really matter, I think. Dysphoria is dysphoria. And yeah, I would at least be willing to possibly extend that non-dysphoric people who seem genuinely more satisfied with themselves post-transition. Because then so what, good for them.

But yeah, I know even I have an easier time accepting certain types of nonbinary more than other types. Someone wanting no genitals, I would personally find very concerning, but someone wanting both a dick and pussy, I wouldn't be nearly as worried about. Someone wanting physical changes that can realistically be acquired through hormones, surgery, etc, would not be as concerning for me as someone wanting... say for example a big beard but not a deeper voice, and start dabbling with testosterone anyway.

You're right that there is no hormone that makes you "both" but it's possible to look androgynous in various ways with the hormones available. Sure, I may pass as male, have a beard and flat chest, but I also have a curvy figure and a pussy. To me, that's kind of a way to look like "both" sexes at once. Not evenly, and not like a hermaphrodite stereotype, but it is a combination of male and female sex characteristics that together makes me look kinda half and half. How I "achieved" that was simply by first going through female puberty (naturally) and then taking testosterone (on standard, "full" dose) for a significant amount of time, and get a mastectomy. Totally doable. Although my personal results depend highly on my genetic as well, of course. For other variants of androgyny, some manage to achieve that with low dose hormones, or going off the hormones after a shorter time on them. Some also go on and off hormones (not sure how healthy that is though.) Not everyone gets their intended results, but I have seen many variants that have looked good to me. I’m not advocating for getting one’s gonads removed and then not take any sort of hrt, or doing hrt without a knowledgable doctor’s supervision.

So really all I can say is I'm generally okay-ish with the concept of nonbinary, but some aspects/variants of it does concern me, make me uncomfortable, make me roll my eyes, or even viscerally upset me. I'm still quicker to critisise nb than I am to defend it, however... I do both critisise and defend it.

Whether I want to admit it or not, I'm practically nonbinary myself, even though I scoff at the concept and can name a hundred things wrong with it. I don't wanna label myself that, though. I hate it.

Let me put it this way: In an ideal world I'd just exist as myself like this, take my testosterone just because I like it (and not because I'm x, y or z gender), dress however I want (without it being questioned to mean I wanna be x, y or z gender), and be openly proud about my bio sex being female (without people telling me they don't believe it), without having to label myself anything at all. Alternatively, I'd also be fine with carrying a label which doesn't exclude ANY of those things I like being/doing with my body, style, name, etc.

But thing is I don't live in an ideal world. I live in Sweden. And in Sweden, we call freaks like me nonbinary. Because women don't wanna take testosterone to look like bearded men in dresses, and (trans) men don't love being female. Only nonbinary people do. So I’m only really nonbinary because I don’t fit any other label, and well, most people I know/come across dislike it too.

At the end of the day my body is just me and I just am like this. It doesn't actually "mean" anything, other than that I had dysphoria and acted on it. I love being female and I love being transitioned. Thus, I feel like I am in some highly abstract and vague sense "a little bit of both" sexes, and I don't think that's a particularly strange conclusion to come to, given my situation. I don't mean it literally. It's just how I relate to my body, and it's how the world relates to me. Sure, far from everyone “reads” me as nonbinary, but the sheer number of people who have told me I should identify that way... is flabbergasting, seriously. It’s like 20+ people who told me that, unprompted. Both people I’ve known, and strangers.

So, as I'm reluctantly trying to slap the uncomfortable nonbinary label on my own ass... perhaps I "shouldn't" invalidate my own kind, while I'm at it. However, the only thing I'd kindly ask of others to "validate" about me is my humanity, and to respect my bodily autonomy. If others think of me as a man or woman, both or neither, I truly do not care. But would I ever truly advocate for the nonbinary community? No, I don't think so. For the most part it’s regressive and goes against my values. I'd rather have gender be done away with, because ultimately I think that's a much better goal... even though it’s a pipedream. We can all dream, right?

So I mean... I'm probably not the best person to come to for some solid argument in support of nonbinary.