#but also glad

[jekyllnahyena]

just me ranting about family shit

I've just realised that the weird tactic my mother has been trying to pull has actually worked in a way.

She been going on and on that I need to out myself to people personally because she hopes that it'll stop me from doing so and sometimes it does, because it's plain exhausting to do and sometimes my personal discomfort is more bearable than dealing with the tension and exhaustion and fear. (my family is very traditional and catholic if u couldn't tell :))

And it's somehow burned that idea into my brain that I gotta do that shit alone and that I can't really expect help from other people, because my parents do their best to ignore it for the most part.

Queue to me callling my sister, because the family is gonna meet this weekend and I realised, that my parents have apparently been completely avoiding so much as talking about me being trans with others, especially my brother in laws fam, whomst is also very, veeeery catholic, and they'll be there. And that one is partly on me, cause I've been avoiding calling her because she has a fresh fucking baby there that takes a lot of time and energy going and I don't wana add to that, which. I should know better at this point.

Because she so very easily just went: 'Hey of course I'll talk to the people for you, I'll do everything to make you more comfortable and if there's a problem, please come to me so I can help :) also, kinda sucks that you didn't call sooner because then I could've made more preperations to comb through people and make sure everybody respects you!' and proceeded to tell my nephew, on the phone, that he has another uncle now.

Did I cry a bit at that? yes, I did.

tears of absolute manliness I'll tell you that

[nerdieforpedro]

Finish your Fics Friday/Saturday

Thank you for the tags, my lovely friends @magpiepills and @ramblers-lets-get-ramblin They keep me in the loop on these things. 👀 I also seem to answer everything a day late. 🤣

rules: send an ask with a WIP title, and I'll add five sentences and ramble vaguely about it (Nerdie will limit herself to her most recent ten because then there's just too many. She is trying to focus with... mixed results. Her mind is not cooperating. The rambling has started already. 🫣)

Zip Tie

The Lake Between Us

A Hunter Meets a Cowboy

Two Hearts by the Ocean

Florida Heat

Roc & Doc

Weddings 101 with Dieter

We're the Leftovers

Drawn to each other

Gentleman in a ten gallon Hat

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[undeadsomulo]

not to sound shady (insincere, and no one cares anyway) but like, there are certain things that i wish didn’t have fandoms? fandom just... ruins things. there is only one genuinely good fandom i was in and that’s because the fandom site was in some really capable hands but....

like i’ve been there done that a lot in my life to a point where i literally don’t give a shit. but it’s nice to have comforts in life, it’s important, it’s how we cope ladee da da.

that being said, i need to desperately learn not to explore the fandoms of comfort things i like because....

that kirby fandom??

damn.

everything about is just like....

[captainjonnitkessler]

>Join a union

>Hear people constantly complaining that the current union leadership is super corrupt, it's all just the same ten guys making all the decisions in secret and nobody else in the union ever gets to know what's going on

>Go to the monthly union meetings that are completely open to all 1200 union members

>The only attendees are the same ten guys every month, giving detailed reports about everything that's going on

[the-nefarious-vampire]

as an aroace, im particularly dangerous, because i wont fuck or marry. i only know how to kill.

[sillyguy-supreme]

white americans when you tell them that the idea of climate change as an impending disaster is a reductive first world perspective because it’s a tangible reality for many in the global south already:

[stil-lindigo]

lead balloon (the tumblr post that saved me)

if this comic resonated with you, it would mean the world to me if you donated to this palestinian family's escape fund.

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no creative notes because this isn't that kind of comic.

I know I don’t owe any of you anything but I still felt compelled to write about my long term absence. And I feel far enough away from the dangerous spot I was in to be able to make this comic. I have a therapist now, and she agreed that making this could be a very cathartic gesture, and the start of properly leaving these thoughts behind me. I am still, at seemingly random times, blindsided by fleeting desires to kill myself. They’re always passing urges, but it’s disarming, and uncomfortable. I worry sometimes that my brain’s spent so long thinking only about suicide that it’s forgotten how to think about anything else. Like, now that I've opened that door for myself, I'll never be able to fully shut it again. But I’m trying my best to encourage my mind in other directions. We'll see how that goes.

I am still donating all proceeds from my store to Palestinian causes. So far, I've donated over $15K, not including donations coming from my own pocket or the fundraising streams which jointly raised around $10K. In the time since I made my initial post about where this money would be going, the focus has shifted from aid organisations to directly donating to escape funds.

If you'd like to do the same, you can look at Operation Olive Branch, which hosts hundreds of Palestinian escape funds or donate to Safebow, which has helped facilitate the safe crossing and securing of important medical procedures for over 150 at-risk palestinians since the beginning of the genocide.

[greykolla-art]

Imagine spending all your energy being cool and mysterious 24/7.

What an idiot have I mentioned I love him?

Idea came from a cool post @nouverx made about Alastor’s possible sleeping habits. 💕

[shesmore-shoebill]

"I had choice paralysis :(" is a KILLER line.

He's such a comedic powerhouse, I'm glad more people are getting exposed to him :'D

[mrtequilasunset]

Listen man, you guys can't be like "you guys need to be normal about asexuality" and then turn around and get weirdly judgemental when you find out someone doesn't have sex by choice. Like that's weird that some of you do that.

[viorhysealberia]

pokemon fans when they have to wait another year for the next big game with no major releases in-between

[millificent]

Every Nico Di Angelo fan focusing more on the background of the episode than the actual plot

[verflares]

just how long is forever? // not long enough, with you

pssst. check this out on inprnt :]

[lichen-soup-scribe]

So, my spouse has been exploring his gender lately; he also just built himself a new laptop. Today he told me that he in an attempt to process some genderfeels through metaphor, he made a post on a trans forum along the lines of: "I'm a lifelong Windows user and I think I'm pretty good at it. I want to find out what Linux has to offer but I'm afraid I wouldn't be any good at it. And how do you choose the right Linux distro, anyway? Do you have to try them all?"

The responses, he said, were a mix of useful advice about feeling out your gender and useful advice about choosing a Linux distro.

I love trans people so much

Edit 4/8, in case you don't see the reblogged additions -- my wife is now going by Eve!

[fox-mulder-gets-pegged]

I just wanna say bc I KNOW you're somewhere on tumblr, to the teenage girl who attended Take Your Kid To Work Day at an office building in Ontario, Canada circa 2013 and had a conversation with a middle aged woman in which you showed her your Black Veil Brides fanart and fanfics and ship content and told her about different fanfic tropes including a/b/o verse bc she happened to know who Panic! at The Disco and Fallout Boy were and thus you felt the need to show her your bandblr ship art, that was my fucking mother and I had to clarify all that to her including looking my mother in the eye and trying to explain a/b/o verse without sounding like a lunatic.

It's been 10 years and I still regularly sent evil energies in your direction. Since you'd be probably two years younger than me and thus legally an adult now, please know if this post reaches you it's on sight.

[hinamie]

I don't want to regret the way I lived