#but also like.

[inkskinned]

Genuine question, because I don't know a lot about the topic and you're:

If someone identifies as non-binary and genderfluid, which from what I've gathered means something like "human" instead of male or female, doesn't that imply that women are not humans , like whole complete people with richer inner lives? And why is a dislike for (performative) femininity combined with a preference for things that are stereotypically associated with maleness an indicator that one is genderfluid? Does that mean a woman is only a woman if she loves to do make-up, wants to be a mother, only wears skirts, dresses and high heels, shaves daily, is always kind and never angry, has long hair, hates to get dirty and so on? Because I have never met a woman who's exactly like that in my life, but plenty who liked gaming, sports, being loud, opposed to shaving & make-up, who wore pants every day.

I do not believe this is a genuine question, but I'll answer it as if it was, just in case other people have to deal with this, and would like someone who is patient enough to give them the words. The argument you're making here is something that already stems from a deep logical fallacy in the beginning argument. You assume "If you are neither A nor B, and instead C, you think that A cannot be C."

It is a logical fallacy to say "X implies Y" when it does not do so. By this logic, I also believe men are not human. By this logic, I believe only nb people are human.

Some - but not all - rectangles are squares. Some - but not all - animals are dogs. Some humans are nb.

I have given no information about how I present, nor my interests. I am not going to give you that information, because it's irrelevant. What I need you to understand is that, again, you are making the incorrect logical assumption that "If a person dislikes X and likes Y, they must be Z." For all you know, I dislike performative masculinity and like stereotypically feminine preferences.

You then assume your own statement is correct and move forward with your logic as if I had debated you. This is not a "genuine question" about how nb people work, this is assuming being nb is based on a series of preferences.

As a teacher, I do think it's important to tell you: even if this is coming from a genuinely confused place: you are conducting bad research. You begin with an inherently flawed question, as it biased and assumes a position I must defend against - "why don't you see women as people?" Then you make logical conclusions about my personhood and experiences and ask inflammatory questions as if you were debating me, which I am not interested in doing.

If you were my student, and genuinely curious about how nb people see gender, I'd have no trouble with you asking an out nb content creator. If you're really trying to collect information, ask honestly, without personal bias. Here's some examples of what a genuine question would have looked like: - Do your preferences play into your gender identity? - How has being nb informed how you see femininity and masculinity? - What tools do you use to express your gender?

You are mistaking gender expression and gender roles as being part of my identity.

You are most crucially mistaking being nonbinary as being part of the binary and having to exist "in opposition" to other genders in order for it to "make sense". One of the most freeing things about realizing I was nb is that I don't exist in opposition to anything - and also that all gender works similarly.

Gender is a describing word, and this can be confusing for some people. In general, we tend to learn describing words in binary - short/tall, old/young, kind/mean. Therefore, there are (many) people who think - feminine/masculine must be oppositional. Gender is also a feeling word - and again, these are words that can be taught in opposition to each other. Hungry/sated, happy/sad, feminine/masculine.

But because gender is such a rare type of word - feeling and describing - it exists outside of binary. It exists more like art exists.

Green can exist in opposition to red, but it also just exists as its own color. Blue is a part of green, but it is also a part of yellow - blue is still its own color, and yellow is still its own color, and green is still its own color. One painting titled "still-life with fruit" may be a series of vague colors and boxes. Another may be a hyper-realistic singular plum. They are both how the artist expresses their personal vision of the fruit. They might even be by the same artist! And although we may compare them, they are not opposites.

One song by Hozier is not in opposition to one song by Britney Spears. They are different styles, not oppositional styles. You may choose to see them as oppositional - but that is your personal opinion, and not fact. And some people may feel and experience those songs as being actually incredibly in-line with each other.

This is why we say: gender is a spectrum. That all gender roles are made up. Personality, interests, and experiences may shape how someone sees and feels their gender, but it does not define how they see and feel their gender.

When we question gender roles and gender expression like this, it tends to make people upset. People like me tend to make people upset. So much bigotry is based on the lie that "feminine" and "masculine" are oppositional. Opposition is rigid and important - it keeps white hegemonic structures in power. I don't have time or space in this post to talk about how rigid gender roles/enforced gender expression rules are not just sexist but also racist, classist, ableist, homophobic, and bigoted; but I really recommend you do the research on how disruption of the gender binary might put the patriarchy at risk.

The thing you feel trapped by - that "being a woman" is a complicated series of rules - is exactly the kind of thing a nonbinary person would agree with you about. We have to fight hard to be recognized for what is a basic truth about our identity - of course we don't believe that gender expression is equivalent to gender identity.

And truth be told... I think you kind of knew that. I think you kind of knew all of this. I am going to hope that you are young. I'll tell you this: I was raised by someone who was a far-right extremist catholic asshole. I certainly didn't have the research/knowledge/exposure to interrogate this stuff honestly until I was probably 23.

I am so much happier now. I hope one day you get the same opportunities as I had. I hope you choose to move away from bigotry.

love u anyway. all this in kindness only.

[zootzbootz]

I think g3 monster high is a prime example of "do you dislike this because it's ACTUALLY bad? or because it's different and nostalgia is clouding your judgement?"

we fucking LOVE G3 monster high. it's one of our current fixations and we feel genuinely attached to the story and characters. we've always liked monster high but with previous generations we liked it PURELY for the aesthetics and no fucks were given about the shows and movies to us. so we don't have a connection to it in THAT way, but we still grew up with it. and yeah- we don't like some of the changes either. or feel like some things could have been done better, but like. generally- it's actually good.

anyway . fellow g3 monster high fans pls interact ily veryyyy much

[sugarsnappeases]

when she can kill w a smile and wound w her eyes >>>>

[jorrated]

i have everything in me to be a sonic movie hater, but i think my expectations were simply too low to even evoke emotions in me like anger

[venigni]

P: Daddy, can you pass me the salt?

Venigni: *reaches the salt shaker without hesitation*

Geppeto, unmoved from his seat: ....

This is canon and you can't convince me otherwise.

[a-beautiful-fool]

ow

[johntorrington]

idk how much pop cultural influence persuasion (1995) still has but the fact that the terror got the guy who played captain wentworth to be sir john franklin is making me unwell. they get it.

[king-sassy08]

I love when kpop bands are so obviously inspired by US southwestern culture. It's like so tangential. They just have the jeans and the button ups but with rhinestones and studded and spiked jewelry. The boots are black leather but skinny. It's so obviously influenced by the south. You look at it and see Texas. But it is so obviously not. It is such a different concept of masculinity. It is so much more feminine. It queers the culture in a way that people from here read it as queer, but that others don't. Gender standards, am I right

[hailsatanacab]

so I'm enjoying watching Castaway Diva a lot more than I thought I would and like along with the main questions (who is jung ki-ho, where is he, is he one of the brothers) I'm really thinking......... did she eat her dad

[slenderverse]

still haunted by the conversation i had w two of the new girl employees (16 & 17) who seemed absolutely in awe when i had to explain i have little to no instinctive volume control and tend to be loud without realizing. and they looked at me and one of them goes “Even in high school??” i. yes. even in high school. i got in trouble for it in high school. the other one goes “Well there’s a time and place to be loud.” I Know This. I Know.

[goldrushenthusiast]

is she flirting with me or have I never experienced a female friendship with this amount of care before

[andiwriteordie]

should i update a fic for another fandom that i haven’t touched in *checks watch* 8 months

[spider-man-2o99]

From the letters page of Spider-Man 2099: Special (1995)

Q:

9. What happened to the Parker family? Shouldn't they be mutants or have super powers because of Peter? 10. Why doesn't Spidey 2099 have spider sense?

Until Thor dies of old age, Make Mine Marvel 2099!

A:

9. Ummm..... 10. Because he's got cool fangs and talons instead?

[wishallthatiwant]

cgi werewolves in live action movies/shows is simultaneously the funniest and creepiest thing to ever be made

[punk-rawk-pkmn]

piers posting about people tagging spikemuth meanwhile me and my circle of concert goers whistle hiding the sharpie magnum chisel tip markers behind our backs because we have totally done no such thing ever in our lives. we havent. what are you on about.

[aquickstart]

what if i told you guys that i have white antlers on a flower crown that ive owned since i was like seventeen