#can anyone recommend anything?

[thedreadvampy]

in the nicest possible way. absolutely fuck off every post on this website that's like 'why are you spending your relatively small amount of money on a thing you think is fun instead of Giving It To The Needy how dare you do things I don't like instead of Giving To The Needy here is my cashapp here's my PayPal if you can buy a nice hat you can give strangers money if you can buy yourself a burger you can buy another person dinner if you can pay £10 to blaze a shitty meme you can give me £10 if you can buy a book I don't like for £15 you could instead give £15 to a person I do like if you can lean you can clean stop spending your money Wrong'

giving mutual aid and money to others is a good thing. mutual aid is needed to survive the Bullshit we live in. I have 0 problem with donation posts. HOWEVER. people are allowed little pleasures without being guilted about it. yes, even if other people are in need. yes, even if you don't like the way they spend it.

because like. I know SO many people who are fucking. stone broke and still feel awful about any penny they spend on Unnecessary Selfish Things such as: eat burger when there is food in the house. buy fun £5 socks for no reason but that you want them. bc we've all been fed this stupid fucking message that anything you do for yourself just to make yourself happy above survival level is an Unnecessary Indulgence, and an evil thing to do ipso facto while people are starving who could use your money.

shut the fuck up for real. It's one thing to complain about people spending thousands on Rich People Bullshit while millions starve. but buying a Taylor Swift album or whatever is not the same thing as buying a £1500 t-shirt. even if you HATE the thing someone's spending £10 on criticise that thing separate from criticising someone's Selfishness For Spending Their Money Unaltruistically jesus fucking christ. many people who don't have much have £10 to spend on an occasional indulgence, you're not raging against the selfish capitalist machine you're just. being a bit of a dick.

the problem with someone spending £10 on Harry Potter merch is not that they're spending money on non-essential things for themself. it's that they're lining the pockets of a fascist. would it be preferable for them to give you money? perhaps. would it be preferable for them to buy Different Fandom Merch not from a fascist? also yes. even if you think it's cringe. people are allowed to spend their money on things for their own reasons.

idk it's just. fucking wearing.

[aalghul]

I don’t think it makes sense to assume that Jason was mocking Mia’s past. At all. The thing that got jason painted as violent back in the 80s was his anger against rapists…how does that turn into mocking a victim? and that entire story was written by winick. Do we honestly think winick intended to communicate that? The same writer who made Jason’s first kill a man who was trafficking children? Who had Jason pause in his mission of madness to make sure those kids were found by the right people so they wouldn’t be in further danger?

[ducktracy]

reminder that if you're not watching Crayon Shin-chan then you are living a hollow and empty life. this is not edited. this ripped straight from the movie (Movie 8: Jungle That Invites the Storm, highly recommend for fellow Masaaki Yuasa lovers)

if you need further convincing: these monkeys run an animation sweatshop

[barghest-land]

I highly recommend weed, if you have access to it. I personally like edibles

i don't, it's illegal here; plus i don't think it's a good thing to recommend to someone, because the effect depends on the person and i don't think it's a good idea to prescribe it yourself without the supervision. just as any medicine you never know what someone is already taking and how it goes with weed/edibles, what condition someone has, etc

[oneluckydragon]

A single layer paint that I tried out ft. my girl Echo. I am very normal about her, I swear.

[fireflowersims]

We haven't learned. We haven't learned shit at all.

My country's wealth is directly linked to the exploitation and colonization of other peoples. We call the violent acts commited in Indonesia after ww2 "police actions" as if it wasn't horrific crimes against people who were (justifiably) tired of being occupied and abused by foreign invaders and colonizing dickhats.

Sure, we "lost" the Dutch East Indies. We are not actively colonizing anymore. And yet, we still haven't learned a thing. That "VOC mentality" was never gone, it's still there. It's that mentality of thinking business above everything else, money makes right, who cares how horrifically you abuse people, who cares about the massacre of the Banda islands when you now have all the yummy nutmeg to use and sell. It's not something to be admired, it's something we have to address and resolve, but we're not. We're not doing that, but we have to if we ever want justice of any kind.

We're ruled by dickheads who think that saying "from the river to the sea" is a hatecrime that should be condemned. "Yeah sure, you would've probably said the same thing about the utterance of "Republik Indonesia" less than 100 years ago, no?" is what I say to that. We have not successfully freed ourselves of this damn colonizer mindset!

The only reason the Netherlands ever stopped the "police actions" is because we were threatened with sanctions. Post WW2, it was stop the "police actions" (read: many war crimes) or lose the money from the Marshall Plan needed to rebuild your ruined country. The choice was easy enough.

But noooooo, we can't sanction Israel to get them to, ya know, STOP BOMBING HOSPITALS, SCHOOLS AND CIVILIANS IN GENERAL!!! They're our friends! Fuck no. I know why those asshats ain't sanctioning Israel (at least one of the reasons): they'd lose access to fucking Pegasus; spyware surpreme. Wanna spy on some journalists? Perhaps the opposition? Scary activists? Pegasus is THE spyware for you! Infect ppl's phones and suck up All Teh Data wihout them knowing. Suspected detection of the stuff somehow? Self-destruct, boom. Fantastic stuff if you're into violating ppl's privacy. I don't see this talked about a lot, but Israel is Scary in the cyberwarfare department. And they sell this expertise.

I support Palestine. I hope to see it freed someday. Hopefully soon

To Israel(is): decolonize ur shit. I know, it's hard, it's painful, you'll have to question and unlearn a lot of things. Heck, it may give you an existential and/or moral crisis for a bit. I still get one about nutmeg sometimes. But just like desinfecting a wound, it is ultimately beneficial.

PALESTINIAN PEOPLE DESERVE LIFE AS MUCH AS ANY OTHER PEOPLE

[eric-the-disposable-demon]

"Hey dad can you convince [*insert someone with power here*] to let me join [*insert something i cant join*] please??? They said its impossible and also probably illegal"

My dad, a therapist who got me into a bunch of stuff that I wasn't allowed to join or go to purely by "just having a quick chat with the guy in charge": ...

Me: "well?"

My dad: "dont worry im already writing the text in my head."

Me: "just no gaslighting, manipulation, mansplaining or bringing up their childhood this time yeah?"

dad: "its not gaslighting, manipulation and mansplaining, its methods of therapy and it works every single time so sit down and let me think"

Me: "k thanks love you"

[blinkpen]

i still desperately, desperately want to do an animatic where i take the setup and audio from this scene but put Lamarr and Demersa in it

batman smiling and being met with "eugh, why are you showing me your teeth" is the funniest line ever it kills me every time

[anonymous-tals]

TW for discussion of eating disorders/disordered eating

I watched the Smartless: On The Road documentary thing, whatever you’d call it, and I just have to say that I really appreciate how Will Arnett talked about food and disordered eating in it. As someone who’s struggled with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia in the past, it means a lot and I really respect his view points. What eventually helped me to actually recover was the exact kind of stuff he talked about throughout the show, which can apply to everyone regardless of whether they have an eating disorder or just disordered eating or are just someone who lives in this world under the standards imposed on us. Like, he talks about how it’s not worth it spending your whole life obsessing about food when living in the moment and just enjoying life is what’s important. You can miss out on so much when eating healthily becomes your obsession. I’ve missed out on so much because eating healthily became my obsession. Like, all that matters is that you’re happy, ya know? You’re not gonna be on your death bed being like, “My happiest memory is when I didn’t eat that cookie.” Like, no, if you want the cookie, eat the cookie! Enjoy it! Enjoy LIFE! Literally though, a lot of what he said is pretty much verbatim what I was told in therapy and is now what I spew at others or myself when disordered-eating-type thinking is running amuck.

He also talks about the affect obsessive healthiness(or even just normalized but unhealthy “healthy” habits/rules) and disordered eating can have on one’s kids and how he doesn’t want to ingrain the idea in them, regardless of whether it’s intentional or not, that diets or anything of that sort is something they should be thinking about. Kids are very impressionable and I can speak as a former child that at a young age, even though I was never directly told anything, diet culture rhetoric had been ingrained in me and it led to the issues I have today. I can point to so many moments in my youth that directly showed up in my eating disorder. And I’ve talked to kids who are, like, elementary school age and they already say things about feeling insecure or burning calories. It’s ridiculous. So I really respect that he’s not only worked to improve his own mindset but to be a positive example for his kids because that can be hard when you’re brought up in a world that values these unhealthy things that have been so normalized and ingrained in all of us. It can be hard to work past that but the fact that he is just makes me respect him all the more.

This kind of stuff isn’t talked about enough and it really should be because, like, the world hits you with these expectations early on. It makes me so sad that kids are already thinking this way at such a young age. And, like, I was one of those kids who were thinking about that stuff at a young age! While, thankfully, I’ve gotten past the vast majority my eating disorder issues, I still have lingering habits, a lot of stuff that’s seen as “normal” but still derives from an unhealthy mindset. I always worry how that’s gonna affect those around me and the stuff Will Arnett said has really motivated me to work through those things because I want to set a good example.

Anyway, that’s all. This isn’t, like, what this show is about, obviously, but it meant a lot to hear and I felt it was worth mentioning.

[generallemarc]

Bro wtf is Firefox

Because I'm extremely adhd I have about 70 tabs open in Chrome. Chrome has never once had a problem with that-any freezes have been from either my computer itself beginning to chug from something or from a specific webpage, never the browser itself. It's not that fast, it crashes at least once a week with no warning, and it sometimes just deletes my bookmarks randomly, but by God can it handle tabs. And apparently this is a big deal, because I've had to restart my computer twice now after attempting to re-open all my tabs in Firefox. I did the trick of putting them all into a bookmark folder, importing my data then clicking the option to open all bookmarks in that folder, except that doing that tanks my laptop. If Chrome is so shitty and Firefox is so much better, how is it that this isn't a problem at all for Chrome but makes Firefox explode?

[not-poignant]

Have you ever read the Kushiel’s Dart series? I recently rediscovered it while doing a bookshelf purge and boy, that was a wild series for classic romance. I think that was my first introduction to the concept of kink as a baby romance/fantasy reader. Some of it was well executed, some of it was absolutely not, and I’m sure hasn’t aged particularly well. But it definitely left an impression, and guided my taste in romance. If you enjoyed doctrine of labyrinths, it may be worth a peek just for the novelty of it all.

I have, and honestly it felt kind of outdated when I first started reading it like over a decade ago.

I think because it's so aggressively heterosexual (compared to everything I read these days), it wasn't my thing when I started reading it, and it's just become more and more not my thing over time.

However, the Kushiel's series did shape a lot of folk's understanding of themselves and their wants in relationship to kink, and it's been really fundamental for so many people, so I can understand in that sense why it's such a beloved series. The concept is also pretty interesting, and I thought the world-building was cool too, though I don't remember any of it, lol. I never got through the second book though, after the first I realised that I didn't find it personally gripping enough to keep going.

But like I said, it's aggressively heterosexual, and generally speaking if I have a choice, I never read heterosexual content and try to avoid it, and that very much impacts my enjoyment of these sorts of stories!

Tbh I wouldn't compare Kushiel's Dart and Doctrine of Labyrinths at all, personally. If someone recced DOL to me based off Kushiel's Dart I not only wouldn't read it, I'd probably go out of my way to avoid it. x.x I'm sorry anon, one of the reasons I encourage people not to really send me recs is that I am an extremely particular reader / watcher / viewer etc. and folks are more likely to hear how much I don't love something rather than how much I do.

(I really wouldn't be writing if I wasn't so picky, lol)

(To everyone else who loves or has nostalgia for this series, that's awesome and don't listen to me lol I love the Black Jewels trilogy sdalkfjdsa I can't talk)

[natdafat]

It is time

[theshadowrealmitself]

Was talking to my sister about how I wanted something along the lines of bojack horseman, Rick and Morty, or maybe inside job, but I didn’t wanna (re)watch those shows because I’m not in a good place mentally to watch bjh again, Rick and Morty doesn’t really have a big fandom, and I haven’t seen inside job but it doesn’t look like that one has a big fandom either

So she recommended owlhouse??

I don’t think. That falls in line with that I was asking, so I’m still taking recommendations if anyone has any

[sekhmetpaws]

I was trying to satisfy this very specific itch but couldn't find the right fanfic, so I decided to give a try to one of those viral tik tok dark romances (they think they are so quirky, it's adorable). I haven't tried to consume any straight smut since I was like fourteen.

Guys. Guys. I didn't make it to the smut. I had forgotten that the perfect, super competent male interest with a secret gentle side was part of the fantasy. I don't want to hear about how the STALKER saves little babies and doesn't sleep at night thinking about human traffic, and all his actions are actually justified because he is superior to all other men.

I want my love interests, unhinged and pathetic and cringe fail and pathetic little meow meows thank you very much.

[motherhenna]

Wanted to show off my newly cleaned and organized room because ya girl has ADHD and clinical depression so this shit is a big deal for me lol. I'm guessing this is mostly due to the fact that I accidentally took two doses of my adderall the other day, and turns out 40 mgs is probably what I should have been on all along because wow I’m actually getting shit done now??

Anyway tho, I've found that one of my biggest issues when it comes to keeping things organized is "out of sight, out of mind"--ie, if something isn't visible to me, I often forget it exists. (Yes, I have a Masters Degree but have yet to fully comprehend the concept of object permanence, apparently.) So I've finally decided to do something about this! I'm in the process of labeling all of my drawers, cabinets, and storage containers so I can keep track of my shit. So far the labelled dresser drawers have worked wonders in stopping me from just throwing my clothes on the ground or stuffing them wherever. We'll see if this is sustainable in the long run

[coockie8]

do you ever think about unblocking the person who made the callout about you?

Sometimes, yeah, but then I remember I'm above willingly opening myself up to a brain cell-killing argument with a troglodyte who thinks what a person engages with in fiction indicates in any way, shape, or form what a person's real-world morals are.