#comfort cishet

[death-himself]

tommy’s such a fascinating case of allyship and the fact that there might be more cishets like him in the future with queer people being more accepted is hilarious to me

like how the hell does a cishet man get legally married to a gay man, refuse to get a divorce, write fanfic about them being together, then get attacked by terfs who thought he was trans

whether you like tommy or not you have to admit that’s a hilarious way to be an ally, his mom really raised him right

[r0semultiverse]

this recently happened to one of my friends

[uncanny-tranny]

It's very funny being like... a stereotypically (as in, straight masc) masculine queer person. Like it's frustrating because I would love to have cute moments where I share tips with a trans woman or maybe help somebody in that kind of way, but like... why should she or anybody else listen to me when I only got my third pair of jeans recently? 😭

[theworldshouldhaveendedin2012]

the girlies with a parasocial relationship to murph and emily’s marriage were FED this episode

[identitty-dickruption]

my stance on queerness is that… if someone is drawn to the queer community and the queer label, that’s probably for a good reason. as long as someone isn’t actively being queerphobic, I’ll welcome them to any queer party I’m hosting

[sleepy-crypt1d]

it's so disappointing when almost all handsome jack fanart is inaccurate :(( like, people just blatantly ignoring very Important character design details. It happens in fics too, where people will simply ignore basic details about his design.

Specifically, here, im referencing 1. him being brown and 2. him being disfigured and disabled.

If you actually look at his models, you can very much tell he's Not White and barely anyone draws him with his real skin tone!!! everyday i see so many cool pieces of fan merch or fanart and then im like 'oh nope he's a different color nevermind'

and then on top of making him paper white they'll draw him with this small shaky line across his face when, in canon, he was disfigured so heavily he needed to get a prosthetic face. that and HE'S HALF BLIND!!! HE LOST AN EYE!! IT WAS SET ON FIRE????

it's gross seeing people completely ignore his accurate injuries to try and make him the stereotypical Sexy Man with Clear White Skin

i know that most people probably dont know that jack is half blind but if you look at his unmasked face, he very clearly is! whether his mask has a cover up eye, or he's wearing a glass eye, or its cybernetics is never explained but when he takes his mask off his left eye is gone/scarred over! and the vault scar has severely carved into his face!!! you can SEE how deep it digs in!! barely anyone draws him like that :((

his mask isnt just covering some dainty little scrape, it's a prosthetic that aids his disability! that AND HE'S FUCKING BROWN.

EDIT: AND HE HAS GRAY HAIR!!! THAT BITCH IS AGING!!!! SHOW IT YOU COWARDS!!!!

[englishflagcumrag]

is it not fucking bonkers to anyone else that for a while on this website asexuality was like a silly cringe punchline even to people who were ostensibly cool about aspec people as a whole. like even though i think we've abandoned it for the most part, i don't know that the dust has really ever settled. the idea of calling this tendency aphobia even in retrospect feels frivolous and childish to me because that's how talking about aphobia was seen for a very long time even though that is DEFINITIONALLY what that is.

[hensel-x]

listen. listen. we’ve had mullets and shags resurfacing and it was great. i am myself a proud mullet haver, the greatest haircut of them all

but i think its time for emo 2000s hairstiles to make a comeback. it CAN happen with all the major bands being active again and it SHOULD 

in my opinon. 

[apollos-boyfriend]

there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having previously identified with a lot of microlabels only to have realized those weren’t for you and only identifying as one or two things now, but if you list out all the microlabels you used to go by and have the punchline be “oh isn’t it CRAZY i identified as SO MANY things lol 🤪 i was so WEIRD and CRINGE back then 🤣” i am blowing you up with my mind

[armoralor]

I love the same folks that cry over fictional lesbians being “toxic” and “abusive” buddy up with real life people that send actual homophobic hate. We see y’all laughing and having fun with the same losers that have been jumping on queer peoples posts saying we’re ruining Star Wars. You’re welcome to play the purity police and pretend to be the holiest & friendliest bunch on the internet, but we see you.

[magicdyke]

hate when ppl get obsessed w the word queer as if it's not still smth that ppl could be uncomfortable being referred to

[epicdogymoment]

gender and sexuality labels are so fucking hard how am i supposed to know how what i experience (already hard to pin down) compares to what "normal people" experience (completely unknown to me)

[kiseiakhun]

Tbh I feel like Kyle is straight but he acts and talks in such a way that it just sets OFF people's gaydar. They're like oh he definitely likes men for sure. And Kyle tries to like men, out of solidarity. He is an open minded hip youth, sexuality has no borders for him, but it doesn't work. He keeps trying. It eats him up inside.

[suncaptor]

I do think that when you're complaining about people on tumblr saying men dni or cis men dni you do need to add the context of the fact you can literally post a single photo of yourself and have like a dozen straight men with porn blogs in your dms some of them sending sexual messages and photos to you like. immediately.

like someone who's saying that isn't necessarily trying to enforce a gender binary more and when you're trans or genderfluid or transmasc it is like. well I guess I stay away then! and perhaps it's not the most ideal way because of that to set up boundaries. but like it's forming from a certain way this site functions regarding fetishization and sexual harassment, not blatant hatred at the mere concept of masculinity.

[rintoki]

i wish there was more femdom artists for my favourite characters it’s actually so sad how minuscule the demographic for femdom is

[daz4i]

how and why is there discourse about whether or not certain queer identities exist/if people should be allowed(???) to use them. why is "people know their own identity better than you ever could, and they're the only one who get a say on what they are" such a tough concept to grasp

i think if you find yourself offended by the label someone uses (especially if they're a stranger) or think it invalidates your own, it's a good idea to look inside yourself and question why that may be. more often than not, it's a result of insecurity or uncertainty of your own identity (or many other things, but i won't make a whole list here). whatever reason it is, until you resolve it, you shouldn't take it out on people for having an identity you don't understand

many have said it before but it's worth saying over and over. infighting only helps our oppressors. conservatives don't care if you're a cis gay or a xenogender aegosexual aplatonic lesbian, they hate all of us either way. trying to fit in by going for people who are easier targets for them isn't gonna help you, it'll just alienate you from your own community, and you're never gonna please them. the momentary rush you get from hearing you're not like "one of /those/ gay people" is not worth it and is gonna do more harm in the long run, i assure you

also, it is important to me to say this, but having some less than nice kneejerk reaction caused by confusion about an identity you don't understand doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything. as long as you aren't mean to that person, and you take a second to think smth along the lines of "wait a minute, this isn't any of my business" after having said reaction, you're good 👍 a lot of reflexive reactions we have to things are ingrained into us simply by. well. living in a society 🤡 and you're not terrible for having those thoughts. it's your actions that matter, and your second thought (the "wait, why did i just think that?") is more defining of your actual character and morals than your reflex. i know that having thoughts like this, even tho they're unwanted, can very easily make one spiral, so it's important to me that whoever needs to hear this knows this doesn't make you a bad person 🙏 you're good, keep taking actions to be good, accept other people even if you don't understand them, and you're on the right track :)