#desi eldest daughter

[sarayu-sunrays]

being the gifted elder daughter be like: *is strong* *works hard* *overworks* *burns out before uni* *wants to move out* *hates mother* *loves mother* *hates father* *loves father* *unfair expectations* *breaks down* *I can make them think I'm fine* *someone help* *has three panic attacks but gets an A*

[eldestdaughtersyndromeforreal]

Being the eldest daughter who's reminded every second that she's exactly like her father and watching that same father slowly spiral into madness as his own rage eats him from the inside knowing that there's a chance that you'll also end up like him has gotta be one of the saddest things to witness in life .

[dilhhindustani]

The feeling of giving 1st vote ughhh chiiiii ewww it disgusts me 🤮😭

[happypopcornprincess]

Our childhood, that our parents remember, all rainbows and sunshine... was eternal hell for us. Because we had no idea when they would snap after a fight with their parents and siblings over some stupid ancestral land and take it out on us. I remember being told to shut up at the dinner table when I would talk about how I'm getting bullied everyday at school because their life problems are bigger than us, and now that I don't talk at all, I'm being rude and 'disconnecting' from my parents.

What my family needs is therapy. Like a full-on group therapy where they develop the sense to at least acknowledge what they put their kids through.

Sincerely,

The firstborns.

[dil-hai-kafkaesque]

third base is when I psychoanalyse my parents with them.

[muskaanayesha]

Peace be upon the daughter who helped her parents grow up. Accepted their cold shoulder, excused their anger, pardoned their mistakes, taught them how to be human. Peace be upon the sister who paid the price of rebellion. Screaming to her fullest, shaking like a leaf but standing tall, never letting the dictatorship go without a fight, paving the path for her siblings to breathe easier. Peace be upon the first child of an immigrant father. Aching to find their own purpose in life, firm in their own beliefs, contradicting generations and generations of cultural values. Peace be upon the girl who shouldered her mother's trauma. Swindled it into her own, morphed herself into an image of the womb she once resided in, immersed herself into troubles that weren't even hers, covered up scars that she couldn't even recognize. Peace be upon the woman who forgot who she was. So determined to be the savior of everyone, to fix her family, to nurture and love everyone around her. So deeply lost that she forgot she's just as worthy of love. Peace be upon you.

[aahanna]

Mom's emotional trauma

+ Dad's anger issue

+ their best features.

= ELDEST CHILD IN THE FAMILY

[filtercoffeeonsteroids]

why do I relate to every line

author: @jing-le-bells

[akshinayak]

"that urge to have a forbidden love story...."

behen tere liye har love story forbidden hai.

[deesi-academia]

business idea: support group for older siblings who do NOT know how to fix the plot

[sarayu-sunrays]

What am I but my ability to be useful?

- Eldest daughters everywhere

[eldestdaughtersyndromeforreal]

There are two devils in me .

[dilhhindustani]

In another universe I'm not the eldest daughter

[happypopcornprincess]

Ngl the system programming tutorial guy I'm studying from on YouTube is kinda cute 😭

[dil-hai-kafkaesque]

Felt cute might exhibit signs of mental illness later.

Picture source: pinterest

[muskaanayesha]

I am the eldest daughter, which is to say that I am a sponge that absorbs all the trauma of the household. Life is spilt milk and I am a kitchen cloth burnt at the edges. I am falling apart at the corners, threads coming away, rips and ripples like I am torn and trembling in an ocean of nothingness. I am the eldest daughter, which is to say that I emphasize with everyone. The love of my life marries someone else, and I find myself hoping that he loves her the same. My brother wishes death upon me and I toss and turn in my sleep over the tears I saw in his eyes. Life is an accidental fire and I am water. I attempt to stop a tragedy I did not start, to go blindly into a catastrophe that I cannot halt. I am the eldest daughter, which is to say that I am silent in my needs. My father asks me what I'd like to eat and I say that I am not hungry. I will chew on my guilt and swallow my pride before I even think of asking for anything. I buy myself a sweet and nothing tastes as bitter as it. Life is a metaphor for debt and I am drowning in the desire to be as insignificant as possible. I demand nothing and nothing demands me.