#do you guys hear yourselves

[1bringthesun]

so when dazai was in the hospital with that nurse, who’s the right one to blame?

(discussions of s/a, medical unprofessionally, and other bsd-typical things)

asking this question is wrong to begin with. there’s no, “ oh no, but who will we blame for the situation?” are you really still looking for someone to blame in bungou stray dogs, the series of grey morality?

well, i don’t blame you. so im making a post about it!

for convenience, i’m just going to assume they slept together because it makes the most sense, and is also generally what the fandom assumes when they try to point fingers at either two.

to better understand why people think a certain way, let’s break it down and approach this problem from two perspectives!

the nurse was in the wrong:

dazai had just gotten out of surgery for having a bullet wound and is still under the influence of anesthesia. she sees him using his phone and takes it from him. he’s handsome and willing to do things with her, so she sleeps with him, and when they’re done, she’s willing to give it back. not only that, but she has the audacity to ask again if they can do it “just once more.” it’s obvious she has zero care for him as a patient if she’s willing to sleep with someone fresh out of surgery, and also being under the influence, he’s not able to properly consent. regardless, she takes her chance to be with a handsome man, completely neglecting her job to care for his health as a nurse and breaking probably every single aspect of professionalism.

dazai was in the wrong:

an annoying woman is disregarding the gravity of his work and holding him, someone who’s important to the fate of the city, by normal hospital standards, when he’s been shot by a bullet before and knows his own body inhumanly well; another doctor even gave him permission, so who’s she to act like the boss of him? obviously, this bothers him, and he needs his phone, so he decides to take the quickest path to getting it back, and, spoiler alert: it isn’t recovery. he seduces her and puts her job at risk just so he’ll get his phone back, and when she becomes attached to him, he says yeah, sure, they can fool around again… if he feels like it.

they’re both in the wrong:

people blame her of sexually assaulting him, and also blame him of sexually assaulting her. they say he couldn’t have consented, she overly wasn’t interested in the beginning, she was meant to care for her patient, he’s a scumbag and a womanizer, etc.

but don’t you see? the fact that both of them have done awful things in these two panels…

…is the point.

dazai is an asshole for sleeping with a woman he doesn’t give a damn about just so she’ll do what he tells her to, and she’s totally insane for letting a patient who was just in surgery share physical intimacy with her.

she’s an awful nurse, and he’s a bitch! they both suck!!!! why only blame one of them for sucking?

from an outsider’s perspective, the nurse does seem to be more in the wrong. she was meant to be his caretaker for a while and completely neglected that, even going so far as to have relations with a patient still under the effects of drugs.

but… was he? he was speaking completely lucidly, and none of his thoughts or words or actions resembled someone under the influence in the slightest. he made a sour face at her when he realized he couldn’t just do whatever he wanted to do, and her attitude in the beginning was clearly appropriate for the situation. calling dazai a victim in this situation is wrong. he clearly took the initiative to change her position. is that not consent?

he manipulated her for access to a phone, and she used him as means of gratification, and both of that is wrong.

[nikkichesney]

on a post about taylor swift going to football games

are you guys going through something I'm just not or

[beter--cabaldi]

not the subscription service post going around.... do you guys not realise how much cheaper it is having a couple subscriptions than forking over £5-10 every time you wanted a new film/album/etc

[priestfrommidnightmass]

the funniest part about reading succession takes is you read people saying the most insane things and excusing it with the fact that they love each other and it’s like . ok clearly you don’t know what love feels like either goddamn

[cuntylestat]

there have always been a lot of people in the fandom who have been very gender essentialist in their read of louis and lestat but it's really ramping up now

[blorbocedes]

​so true... the guy who boxed on the final 2 laps to get the completely unnecessary fastest lap doesn't care about racing 🤡 just hates the sport and also driving... he's clearly not at all passionate or motivated to get a grand slam in terms of being the best in all practice sessions, quali, sprint, sprint race, actual race, and fastest lap...

[rypirotes]

you guys know calling japanese people pedophiles for not having the very recent-in-western-history antiship/proship wars is blatantly racist, right

[piosplayhouse]

love it when people are so slippery slope pilled that under every discourse about censorship someone will inevitably go "ok but what if someone made birth of a nation 2 and reestablished the kkk" when it could not be more obvious that the original poster's statement was just like. About a teenager's underage bakudeku fic or something

[shizukahaiji]

So unbelievably disheartening how little joseimuke is taken seriously as a genre overseas and it just gets more and more dire by the minute

[varpusvaras]

Leia: is a strong, independent and incredible woman, who fights with all she has against an evil who is so much bigger than her, despite all the personal losses she has had to go through, never losing the sight of what is right and always staying true to herself and her values and morals and for what is best for the greater good

Some of ya'll: She's just like Anakin!

Anakin: Committed mass murder and genocide because of his own personal wants for entirely selfish reasons and continues to serve the tyrannical dictatorship of the Galaxy while angsting about the consequences of his own actions and making it everybody elses problem

Me: what the fuck-

[rigginsstreet]

stranger things fandom never heard the phrase "every saint has a past and every sinner has a future" and it shows

[jerseymuppet]

Okay I usually stay quiet about this kind of stuff but. like yes, you can joke about fobs music being about mikey way but the thing that’s upsetting is some of you aren’t joking. And to take the one of the few black people in the scene and reduce not only him, but his music to make it about a white guy is... sending a message to people like me. A bad one.

[gwandas]

I don’t think anyone participating in the ship war has a right to tell people the Ember and Randall bonus chapter isn’t that serious btw

[applejongho]

almost three weeks into the DUI 🛵 situation and this is me more speaking to the void than anything but genuinely HOW are the majority of fans (maybe just the loud ones??) in undying support of him and saying "he did nothing wrong"? at first I was so fascinated by this whole situation and was like "haha they're delusional" but now it's just........ sad. there's always going to be fans in every fanbase that will bend over backwards to defend anything their fav does (and he very likely not face punishment/leave the group 😋🤪). but the fact that I cannot find a single thing criticizing him even slightly when I search just his name is diabolical. genuinely what has happened to that fandom lmao

[mellotronmkll]

People calling other people on this site losers for not smoking cigarettes is also so funny

[blusical]

ngl gossip blogs are probably the worst thing about hockeyblr