#dv time

[hyliagirl42-art]

I am taking way too long making official redesigns of my dreamverse links to show off so have some random doodles. Part one because tumblr doesnt wanna let me do all of them at once

[inkskinned]

love when men cry about body hair bc "it's hygiene" and yet 15% of cis men leave the bathroom without washing their hands at all and an additional 35% only just wet their hands without using soap. that is nearly half of all men. that means statistically you have probably shaken hands with or been in direct contact with one of these people.

love when men say that women "only want money" when it turns out that even in equal-earning homes, women are actually adding caregiver burdens and housework from previous years, whereas men have been expanding leisure time and hobbies. in equal-earning households, men spend an average of 3.5 hours extra in leisure time per week, which is 182 hours per year - a little over a week of paid vacation time that the other partner does not receive. kinda sounds like he wants her money.

love that men have decided women are frail and weak and annoying when we scream in surprise but it turns out it's actually women who are more reliable in an emergency because men need to be convinced to actually take action and respond to the threat. like, actually, for-real: men experience such a strong sense of pride about their pre-supposed abilities that it gets them and their families killed. they are so used to dismissing women that it literally kills them.

love it. told my father this and he said there's lies, damned lies, and statistics. a year ago i tried to get him to evacuate the house during a flash flood. he ignored me and got injured. he has told me, laughing, that he never washes his hands. he has said in the last week that women are just happier when we're cooking or cleaning.

maybe i'm overly nostalgic. but it didn't used to feel so fucking bleak. it used to feel like at least a little shameful to consider women to be sheep. it just feels like the earth is round and we are still having conversations about it being flat - except these conversations are about the most obvious forms of patriarchy. like, we know about this stuff. we've known since well before the 50's.

recently andrew tate tried to justify cheating on his partner as being the "male prerogative." i don't know what the prerogative for the rest of us would be. just sitting at home, watching the slow erosion of our humanity.

[macfrog]

hellooo. i try to keep my blog free from this kind of discussion for a multitude of reasons, but i am quickly finding myself unable to hold my tongue and recently, this has become impossible to ignore.

i am fully aware as a writer that i will unavoidably create characters, situations, and plots that not every reader will agree with or like all of the time. i love this part of it! i love to hear what you think, who you're vibing with, what you hope or even fear might happen. so long as we're respectful about it, open conversation (kindness and constructive criticism!) is one of my favorite parts of reading and writing.

but, please, let me make one thing very, very clear:

if your reaction to a decision that any of my characters make, is to comment telling me that you want to physically assault them over it - remove yourself from my blog. exit the fic, unfollow me, block me if you think it'll stop you from commenting something so repulsive and downright triggering.

i've deleted i think seven comments so far across both tumblr and ao3 which, at best, were plain rude, and at worst, were pretty fucking triggering to read. these comments were all, incidentally, directed at only the women in the fics. zero of my male characters have ever been attacked with such vitriol and hostility. i'm not cool with that. do not come on my blog with that attitude.

i have no problem with anyone disagreeing with something in my fic, but please remember that things like physical violence are not jokes, they're not quirky reactions to silly twists in stories, and they're not fucking welcome on my blog.

[loumands]

I honestly don't know how many more times and in how many more ways i can say this anymore but saying it again anyway. A show that is so intensely focused on exploring the themes of racism and abuse and how those interfere, and whose writers are clearly intelligent and well-educated on the subject, is not going base its entire plot and character dynamics on an abusive relationship between the main characters, have a graphic depiction of domestic violence where a black man is brutally assaulted by his white partner, and then treat the whole thing as a gimmicky plot twist where abuse victims are unreliable narrators about their own abuse and the white abuser is absolved of his sins because it was actually an evil man of color behind it all.

The writers of this show aren't that stupid. Hell, i don't think even bad soap opera writers would write something that offensive and stupid in the 2020s. Armand can be fucked up and non-sanitized without turning him into a pure evil comic book villain and transferring Lestat's negative qualities and actions onto him. We've known since the beginning that ep5 will be revisited and it's exasperating seeing some fans continue to act like it means that the abuse will be at least partially retconned away as if there weren't literally infinite interesting possibilities how they can revisit and explore the events of that night and what happened before and after it that don't require erasing the abuse in any way.

Lestat's abusiveness and Louis' status as his victim has been talked a million times by the writers and actors and there's nothing that indicates that it's not real. I'm still waiting for people to realize that a highly aggressive, entitled and impulsive man (who in the original book canon does many violent things, including hitting his other lover) becoming physically abusive toward his partner when extremely angry and upset is not some inconceivable ooc moment that needs to be rectified to preserve his honor, but literally the most realistic and predictable outcome imaginable

[curiositysavesthecat]

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[stray-away]

tw: Shubble situation.

I want to make it clear that I stand with shubble. if you support Wilbur/LoveJoy in ANY capacity you are not welcome here. Domestic Violence is nothing to joke about. it is nothing to brush over, and people who support Wilbur after this are supporting DV.

Please make sure to show some love to Shubble on her yt and twitch and any other place you can find her!! yes Wilbur needs to be deplatfored but we need to focus on giving her (shubble) support through this. Her strength and courage throughout all of this is amazing and putting her abuse out there on the internet was probably terrifying. make sure if you are making a video on this that you make sure to center it around Shubble. She is the one who needs support. She is the person who went through this. She is the one who spoke up. stop making this about Wilbur. I promise the internet will do what it does best and get him removed. for now Shubble needs the spotlight. please, please give her the time she needs to recover.

also, give people who were close to Wilbur a minute to breathe. they found out at the same time as the rest of us what was going on. they thought they could trust this person and that got rug pulled. they don't need to make a big response, just enough to state they don't support him. they have their own life, they are real people, give them a minute to process wtf just happend. they don't have all the answers and they don't know how to deal with this like the rest of us.

give everyone some time.

much love

Stray

[shirkers2018dirsanditan]

I am an abolitionist I do think that the term "violent crime" as it is actually used is less than useless and that people convicted of so-called "violent offenses" should not be excluded from reform measures. I do believe in the actual total dismantling of the prison system. I do, actually, believe that the way that the label "sex offender" is applied and how the sex offender registry works in reality is a reflection of the injustices and inequities of our system. I don't think that formerly incarcerated people are disqualified for being advocates of their own cause by virtue of the nature of their crime. but there are limits. I don't think we should be overly permissive toward men with a history of rape and domestic violence nor that we should allow them to downplay what they actually did. and I think that abolitionist spaces have a rape and DV apologia problem. I think many activist spaces have long had a problem of protecting predatory men and downplaying violence against women in the movement(s). and I think liberals and moderates and conservatives jump on this to dismiss abolition as a political framework and movement despite the fact that their spaces have the exact same fucking problem. and I think that opponents of abolition are too comfortable with their indifference to the massive amount of sexual violence facilitated by the carceral state and systems of policing

[captain-amadeus]

Wormwood Concept art for artists wanting to draw Wormwood

[fluttermouse]

The things Kendrick and Drake accuse each other of deserve to be talked about seriously, and have been, but no rap superstar was ever going to be taken down by a thinkpiece or a twitter thread. That's just not how the world works.

[hyliagirl42-art]

Color wheel challenge, featuring some of my Links!! If yall have questions about any of them, let me know :3

[storytellering]

danver week, day 2 - son

[milkyspine]

[afabkaidou]

I feel like expecting people who sre close to Wilbur to make a statement about him is dumb as abusers tend to not talk about how they abuse their partner/family/etc. There is such thing as silently leaving a friend who is a horrible person.

Im so glad Shelby has not accepted the "apology" 🩷 and is no longer in that relationship. God, I'm so freaking proud, it's hard to leave someone like that behind, and she did it.

[korn-maze]

🖤💀Woodstock'99 Jon💀🖤

[welcometomybrainagain]

“Please stop, why are you doing this? I love you!” I shouted, I cried, I pleaded as his fist melted into my fire red cheeks as I felt in that moment my soul had been shattered. You. The one I loved. Looked into my eyes, and you..

Laughed.

And another hit.

And another.

A hand around my throat.

Spit in my face.

My body thrown to the floor.

I let go, of everything I was and any future I would ever have. And I cried out to God begging Him to just let me make it out alive. And I did. And I’m thankful. But what is left of me now? But just a body and a lost broken soul trying to find her way home. What happened to the girl from before? Because of you. The one I loved. I will now spend the rest of my life trying to find who I once was before you tainted my very soul. Your betrayal hurt far worse than any punch you ever threw. I hope to re read this when one day I am brand new, a new soul that you have never touched. Never tainted from the evil inside you. You came to me with the kind eyes of an angel, I would have never guessed the devil was you.

[loumands]

I feel this exchange is often overlooked considering how much it tells about louis' thinking; it reveals that Louis views his own story completely differently than the audience and the writers view it (this episode and the episode 5 notably had the same writer). As the audience we recognize that this story is obviously about abuse. Daniel as a character who is a journalist focusing on societal issues recognizes from the beginning that this story is about abuse. But Louis himself as a narrator doesn't consider his story to be about abuse. Even in the 2020s almost 100 years later he outright says that his and Lestat's relationship wasn't abusive and he wasn't an abuse victim, and is even slightly offended when Daniel insists so. This is of course realistic because many abuse victims have difficulty recognizing what is abuse and dealing with complicated feelings toward their abusers. With Louis i think it also has an influence that he was born and grew up in the time period when hitting your wife was only starting to become widely societally disapproved and illegal. Domestic violence/abuse is actually a fairly new concept, with the first known use of the term in a modern context being from the 1970s. Louis has certainly read about the subject later but i think you can hear just from the way he says 'abused' that he isn't used to using the word in this context and definitely not associating it with his own experiences. After s1 aired there was quite a bit speculation that Louis was trying to portray himself as a victim and Lestat as worse than he was or even that abuse wasn't real. Fortunately people seem to have realized that's pretty offensive, but it also never made sense in the first place when you consider Louis' point of view; he wouldn't have tried to 'make' Lestat seem abusive because he doesn't consider anything what Lestat did abuse, and from his perspective he's actually trying to portray Lestat in a more positive and nuanced light