#exmo things

[growingupmormon]

Me in high school trying to regulate my emotions being PIMO

[vodkacheesefries]

Was not prepared for the emotionally visceral reaction listening to David Archuleta talk about his mom would give me. These days most stuff about the church just rolls off me because I'm legitimately over it and I don't care but MAN. Wombo combo mommy issues and religious trauma and you have a recipe for disaster I suppose 🫠

Wistful queer exmo rambling under the cut because I gotta get it out somewhere.

Like! His mom just leaves the church because she loves him more than anything the church tells her or could say and it's hard not to draw the conclusion that mine doesn't because if anything, she's doubled down in some ways on Mormonism since three of her kids have left and one of them turned out to be a gender fucky dyke.

And I don't want to sound bitter or ungrateful because I wasn't even expecting her to take my coming out as well as she did, and that was a miracle in and of itself to me and I am so thankful for it; but she is still so Mormon that she believes someday when we're all resurrected this "burden" of being queer will be "lifted" from me. Being queer has never been a burden for me. The church and how it treats people like me and rips apart families as a result of that is the burden. She doesn't quite understand that, even though my sister and I have tried explaining. I don't know if it's because she just doesn't get it yet or if she is choosing not to get it.

Hearing how someone else's Mormon mom just so immediately heard how her child didn't feel welcomed in her church and that was enough for her to say "I'm done" so she left and mine has heard how I feel over and over and over again and hasn't left hurts more than I anticipated.

And I wanna be clear I'm not angry or upset with David or his mom. I'm so happy for them that they have that relationship and that he has her in his corner. It just kinda makes me sad a little bit.

[theblabarmy]

fuck. im going to girls camp in 2 days. i fucking hate this. i fucking hate mormonism and i fucking hate being around those people

[redrockbutch]

A fun fact abt Mormons is that they genuinely believe that the rest of the world goes around talking amongst themselves about the "light" they can see in Mormons and that this is an inherent thing about the church and people get "brighter" when they join bc they learned you can't say people's skin gets whiter, but they love the concept too much to let it go

And the only time I've ever been told anything like that was when a middle aged straight woman told me that I was clearly so much happier and more comfortable living in my body when I wasn't trying to dress feminine lmao

[loveourfuture-c]

Random ask to get to know you better lol: do you like to drink? And if you do, what's your go to drink?

I have actually never drank. I grew up in a religion that forbade alcohol so I just never have. Now that I am finally physically leaving that religion (I’ve been mentally out for awhile) I have thought about drinking, but it still feels illegal almost. It’s weird I know.

However, I feel like I would really like wine. I feel like it would be the alcohol the tastes the best. Idk how accurate that is but I think for my first drink it will probably be some type of wine.

[nobetafortomorrowedie]

It really bothers me when people describe the way I grew up as "sheltered" when in reality I was not being sheltered or protected. I was intentionally confused. I was kept in the dark. My reality was being controlled.

[exmo-diaries]

i wanna clear something up to nevermos real quick: most mormons don’t look at the full picture of their religion. most mormons are not being openly racist or zionistic or homophobic. most mormons don’t practice what they preach. most mormons do their daily readings and prayers and think about their church the way they’re supposed to, but most mormons don’t fully comprehend it. most mormons are cult victims who genuinely want to to what’s best in the way they believe is right. while racism, zionism, homophobia etc. are unavoidable in the scriptures, this doesn’t mean they understand what is being taught. those who do understand it often don’t support those specific parts of the scripture and speak out against them. many outsiders seem to forget mormons are their own individual people.

hate the church, not the person

[anxious-shapeshifter]

I’d sooner welcome oblivion, that blissful nonexistence,

Than spend an eternity

With a god who loathes the human condition.

[midnight-in-eden]

With all the stir around the Mormon church’s latest financial scandal, I gotta say…it seems weird to me when the catalyst for someone leaving the church is money related.

Like, I do get that it’s horrible. People in poverty forgo paying for basic necessities in order to be “full tithe payers.” Finding out that the church has billions of dollars is a slap in the face.

But at the same time, it’s really…telling…when I come across a post that is like, “I knew about the historical issues, the polygamy, black people being barred from the priesthood and the temple, LGBTQ issues, etc, and I had managed to hold onto my faith despite that, but THIS makes me angry. THIS damaged my testimony like nothing before, I will never trust the church again” like?? Dude, really??

[itsraining-somewhereelse]

I might not be a girl or a woman anymore, but I will never forget the way that 8 year old me had to wear a t-shirt under her summer sundress. She was told that it would be her fault if a man saw her shoulders and was tempted to sin.

I have seen little kids out in “immodest” clothing: tank tops with dinos, polkadotted short shorts, unicorn crop tops. You know how many of those children I’ve had sinful thoughts about?

None.

Imagine being such a spineless fucking pedophile that you blame the child for daring to have a body.

Remember when the men said to Christ, “the scantily-clad woman is causing us to have impure thoughts!”

They waited to hear “she must cover her body.”

Instead, Christ replied “if your hand betrays you, cut it off; and if your eyes cause you to sin, gouge them out.”

It’s high time to bring that back.

[fearforthestorm]

the thing they don't tell you about being raised in a high-demand religion is that everyone who you grew up with at some point will either have a faithbreak or they will continue to stay. and both of those are kind of the hardest thing ever to watch someone you cared about go through.

[growingupmormon]

They're really pushing the people of Israel thing this time

[vodkacheesefries]

This is hyper specific but my sister is watching real housewives of SLC and the really angry exmo inside my brain is popping out but the ONLY REASON Lisa Barlow, who is on TV breaking every single rule in Mormonism to have ever existed, is allowed to continue being Mormon and hasn't been excommunicated like Heather Gay is because Lisa has money and they don't want to lose it

[purplehairedheretic]

does anyone else remember the whole "heaven has 3 tiers" thing from the LDS church theology (?) ????? I was thinking about it recently and it only just now struck me how Odd it is. It's like that one odd piece of church lore that even the general authorities don't like to acknowledge exists or something. They only really talk about the "celestial kingdom" but basically use that as a synonym for heaven as a whole. but I saw a seminary poster thing that was talking about it and it's just so ??? odd????? to me?????? like I think I remember being told that there wasn't a hell in Mormonism (like by my parents and Sunday school teachers) ? And I remember my Sunday school teacher asking me if I'd rather have the light of the stars, moon, and sun, and as like a 10 yo I was like "honestly id prefer the moon bc it's not too bright or too dark" (visual sensory issues + hating fluorescent lights coming into play there lol) and the teacher being kind of annoyed with me 😭😭😭 The tier is like:

telestial kingdom: you only get the light of the stars. This is for like actually bad people I guess? Everyone is sad and waiting for Jesus to show up but he doesn't go there I think.

Terrestrial kingdom: Jesus goes here but not god lol! you only get the light of the moon. I think this one is for people who like didn't get baptized or something ???

celestial kingdom: for all the top tier VIP church members I guess. God AND Jesus go here woohoo! the light of the sun and stuff.

Mormon theology is just. so weird man. Like why is Heaven tiered???? it's like one of those donation/Patreon things where the more you donate the more stuff you get or something.

[pens-personal]

Y'know I think people have a tendency to hate on the LDS Church for the things they find weird or cringe about it, rather than the actual morally wrong things it's done. It's always about the Mormon underwear or the temple rituals or the church programs or the belief that everyone who goes to the Celestial Kingdom gets to be god of their own planet eventually. And it's just like. You do know that every religion ever has stuff like that, right? Many religions have standards of modesty, many religions have strange rituals and strange beliefs. These are not inherently harmful in the slightest. Perhaps to some degree they have harmed people (I cried in second grade because I got in trouble for wearing a tank top), but they are not abnormal. The real problems of Mormonism are, y'know, bigotry. Bigotry against black people, native people, LGBTQ+ people, whatever. Like they've absolutely done extremely harmful things but "underwear with funny symbols on it" is not one of those. You might as well hate on like, hijabs or some other religious clothing. Which is kinda an asshole thing to do.

[godsporncollection]

I'm so serious rn, one day you will realize that today is conference, but you don't have to watch it, you don't have to write a report about it, you don't have to talk to your family about your "favorite" part at dinner/FHE/etc, so you just sit there, feeling kinda "???!" about it before you decide to go do something enjoyable with your time.

Or you'll just go "oh, is that today?" and then get back to what you were doing."

Sometimes, you will have Feelings about it, even though you were fine last time. That's okay, too. Recovery isn't linear.

One day, you'll realize it's been A While since you thought about it.