#fear of being misunderstood

[theluckygirlblog]

How to Train Yourself to Be Okay with Being Misunderstood or Disliked

The fear of being misunderstood or disliked holds many people back from living authentically, making bold decisions, and pursuing their biggest goals. But the truth is—if you are doing anything meaningful, you will be misunderstood. Powerful, influential, and successful people are rarely liked by everyone. Why? Because they prioritize their vision over approval. If you struggle with feeling…

[lumoakes]

A lot of people don't quite seem to understand queerplatonic relationships at first glance, because at their core, they are designed to be undefinable. Their existence is inherently critical of the pre-established idea of what relationships and attraction means, which is why people seem to think they don't stand up to scrutiny.

Several people intuitively insist on trying to fit queerplatonic neatly in between "friendship" and "romance" in the relationship hierarchy. As if they're inherently something "more" than a friend but "less" than a romantic relationship. However, from my understanding, this is the exact thing the label of queerplatonic is actively trying to fight against.

I'm not saying that this isn't what some queerplatonic relationships are, in a sense, but it's certainly not all of them. Queerplatonic relationships come in all shapes and sizes, and do so by design. There is nothing you can't do in a queerplatonic relationship and nothing you can't feel. Once you start venturing into the community you will find queerplatonic relationships where people have sex, queerplatonic relationships where there is romantic attraction involved on some level, queerplatonic relationships that are prioritized less than friendships, people who have romantic relationships, but are more actively committed to their queerplatonic partner, and plenty of other variations.

Queerplatonic partners are not inherently a "leveled up" version of friendship. They are not inherently a romantic relationship but without the romance. "Queerplatonic" is a word that exists in defiance of the way mainstream society views relationships and their hierarchies altogether. The point of it is not to lie on a sliding scale between friendship and romance, but rather to acknowledge that the widespread understanding of relationships doesn't include us. We have made the active decision to carve out our own space for this reason. Where we set the expectations, feel the ways we feel, and do the things we do, without anyone telling us it's not correct or enough.

That's why they're important. That's why it is a useful label, especially to aspec people, who have often felt alienated from relationship definitions and specificity in feelings. And I think it's important to acknowledge that.

[existennialmemes]

Mansplaining: thinks the problem is you

Works from the assumption that I know so much more than you, and you could simply never comprehend This Topic on your own, so I must explain it to you, for I am so wise.

Neurodivergent Over-Clarifying: thinks the problem is me

Works from the assumption that I am a trainwreck and am doing a terrible job of expressing myself, so I must continue to explain what I meant, hoping to successfully convey the thought in my head.

[diaryofamadsunwukongfan]

Ya'know, in order for Yang to be Beast in the Blake-Yang-Adam/Beauty-Beast-Gaston theory, she would need to be someone that other characters/society at large fear and

"yOu WeRe NeVeR iNtImIdAtEd By Me" Oh my god that's why that line exists :0

[ghostdrinkssoup]

I had an epiphany about doomed by the narrative vs cosmically linked ship dynamics so now this venn diagram exists. please add more if you think of any I feel genuinely insane

to clarify: cosmically linked means there has to be some force in-universe that ties the characters together, such as time travel, soulmate indicators, AUs, cosmic nonsense, etc. this has to be literal, not metaphorical. fantasy/sci-fi settings also don’t automatically mean the characters are cosmically linked. these tropes often coalesce with doomed by the narrative but not always!

doomed by the narrative means that the characters are inescapably and inevitably tragic. they usually have the same energy as ancient greek myths or shakespearean drama. as such, they cannot have a happy ending together — it’s either downright tragic or ambiguous. there also doesn’t have to be any cosmic nonsense involved for the ship to be doomed

[overdevelopedglasses]

Why is having a squish/friend crush so nerve wracking and difficult but also kind of a breeze bc it's not romantic

[kiisuuumii]

@kiisuuumii (where is april 1st?) [after (my heart is a house, and i'm trying to give you a tour)]

[madwomanxx]

Selene and Helios in my modern au 💜

They deserve appreciation too!

Me yapping about them and design choices for way too long 👇

All based on my headcanons, readings and some myths this is NOT a source of information

It's purely my personal world with its own magic system and original characters

Helios

Design :

I wanted him and Apollo to look different, it was easy style wise, both have very different taste and personality

Colors on the other hand, I started facing a challenge, I made Apollo primarily orange, black, some red and ofc lots of gold, all are inspired by the sun god aspect Phoebus, so what does that leave me with Helios? Who's the personification of the sun, I can't ignore those colors!

That's when it hit me, oceans

LEMME EXPLAIN

His home/palace is in the river Oceanus ( source : theoi, it's very good for quick infos on the gods, you won't find everything there but more in depth reading is not possible, I'm a college student lol!)

His wife is also Perseis an ocean nymph and daughter of the titan Oceanus

So, I decided to make his color palette and clothes beach inspired!

I think it really helps make him look very different from my Apollo : )

Don't ask what those shoes are, it's an attempt at drawing sandals I saw on Pinterest, I suck at drawing feet and shoes I tried 😭!

His hair I went for a sun ray shape

I tried to color his hair in a way that resembles the sun's flames, I'm not that great at coloring but I think I achieved a noticeable effect when he's next to my other god designs

The matching earring is supposed to represent the 3 siblings, moon Selene, sun Helios, dawn Eos, naturally they all share it!

The sun earring is also matching between Helios and Apollo ( I don't currently have a drawing of Apollo wearing it atm, that ear hasn't been drawn XD) I have them in a sort of mentor relationship

The eyebrow earring is just me being random-

The sun flowers on his pants is because one of his lovers turned to one ( he didn't turn her btw) it's a very fun and somewhat sad myth, I recommend reading it, Helios appears very peaceful in it?? JUST READ IT TRUST ME

Also yes, I did give him a tooth gap, yes he looks shorter than Selene

Personality:

The more I read about Helios, and the dialogue of the gods ( I spent days looking for the full thing because unfortunately not all of it is on theoi, I can happily say I succeeded 😎)

I gathered few things, one) his wrath and punishments are towards people he doesn't really know and are very mmm silly?? And are just turning people into animals with the exception of Odysseus

2 of the wrath myths we don't know why he was angry, and a Roman one he turned a huntress into a doe just because she compared the stag she was chasing to Helios in speed... Yeah it's really silly

On the other hand, a Roman myth you have Clytie, who was so jealous that Helios got together with Leucothoe, she spread rumors about her and got the poor girl killed, surprisingly to me, Helios didn't do anything to her, didn't even talk to her, he was deeply sad and just... Left her completely, she kept gazing at the sun not drinking or eating until she slowly transformed into the sunflower ( after I finished drawing I saw some say it's a heliotrope instead?? too late to fix that now lol, I know very little about flowers)

You can definitely say leaving her was the punishment, I mean it's certainly effective, but it's still weirdly civil of him to do

In the dialogue of the gods he has a conversation with Hermes where he has no issue talking badly about Zeus for requesting he makes the night last longer ( might post the full conversation since it isn't on theoi)

There are goofy fables too with Helios

In conclusion : I write Helios as a somewhat relaxed , funny god and a little reckless ( dialogue of the gods+ letting his son drive the chariot)

.. Finally why did I choose to give him a tooth gap and make him shorter? WELL.... to be real with you this is an inside joke between me and my best friend, I was listening to Hadestown, my favorite song how long?

One of the comments pointed out the line: how does the sun even fit in the sky?

And asked if they're fat shaming Helios- I can't explain to you why that comment made me laugh, legit can't

I ofc told my friend, then she started joking about Sol ( Roman god equivalent of Helios) sounding too cute

Thus was born, the joke that Helios is gigantic ( like the sun) but purposefully makes himself look smaller, why? Idk he just does and it's funny when he suddenly becomes big in all his glory ( if I were to design him in ancient times I'd probably do something too similar to @ kyleesarthell on tumblr, so I probably won't do that)

Selene

Design :

I wanted white to pop a lot in her design, I didn't want to go for a night or stars motif ( those I wanted to save for a Nyx design)

For that to happen I needed the majority colors to be on the darker side, I decided to go with dark blue ( saving purple for Nyx) and black

I tried at first to match descriptions of her cheeks and skin in general being blinding white and darker clothes, it didn't really work that well to me, I didn't feel like it shined enough, there was too much of it and the black clothes seemed to grab my eyes more

So I reversed it, I love how they worked here!

I wanted the hair to be relatively straight, I made the hair black and white shines underneath, trying to capture the dark moon dark reflecting the light differently for various shapes

Her eyes are described as black so I went with that ( even more differences from Artemis)

I gave her a jacket because she's sometimes said to wear a shining cloak, this is my way to modernize it a bit

Made her accessories gold not silver because, it fits more with this color palette, silver just wouldn't pop and it works towards my goal of making her and Artemis look different

Her crown is said to be a crescent moon that looks like bull horns, she's associated a lot with bulls and even some say she rides on them ( others say white horses) it's very cool so in my world it's white bulls!!

The gem is supposed to be the Moonstone, some say she wears it, I tried my best

Personality:

I noticed she seems to be bitter, specifically about her love life, a lot of texts she's bitter and talking about how you ( a woman like Medea) now will suffer in love like she does, and just I urge everyone to read those texts because it definitely shocked my previous image of her, this behavior is very frequent and she sure as hell doesn't seem happy with her lover being asleep imo

A surprising amount of texts focus on her love for Endymion, I didn't think it was this major to her, I'll definitely need to read up more on this myth because I'm starting to think him sleeping forever isn't her choice or at least she resents it???

She seems to have a hate love relationship with both Aphrodite and Medea

Aphrodite is definitely more complex ( based on the dialogue of the gods it seemed positive or civil unlike the other text of her mocking Aphrodite in glee while talking to Harmonia, very fascinating text! )

With Medea it seems more hate than love but she did send light at her wedding so... Idk

There's a whole section on theoi about some witches folklore regarding Selene, gist of it witches of Thessalian draw on Selene causing the lunar eclipse/ blood moon by extracting her blood, there's a text with quite the disturbing/sad text describing this, like damn I'd be bitter too if I were her tbh

She's not only bitter in my world btw, she's just the more reserved one is all

Helios is the older brother, he's more goofy and somewhat relaxed

She's the younger sister, more mature and holds grudges more, she can still have fun with her brother at times though and be very sweet to those she loves ( little too obsessive you could say)

Apollo and Artemis are a bit reversed

Artemis is the older one but she's very reactive and emotional, she's generally fun and only appears somewhat cold to mortals she doesn't know, even then it's not exactly cold as much as you can feel that she'll murder you for the slightest hint of disrespect!

Apollo is harder to fully describe but for the sake of this post, he's more mature and calm at times, his revenge is more calculated to maximize the pain ( Achilles is a whole example to me in this) he can have fun too though and is gentle!

[discountbottom]

You know why autistic people love this website, it's cause you can include meta commentary on everything you post in the tags. If I could tack contextual notes and stray observations into everything I said in my day to day life it would eliminate most of my social anxiety I truly believe this

[kiyosbrokenmirror]

Would it be bad if I start posting my shinguji siblings headcannons? I understand why they are kind of a hot topic but I genuinely have so many thoughts on them,,,,,

Of course it will be an exploration of generally speaking difficult and morbid topics, and I do like to analyze Miyadera (She is not an actual character but I do think the way the sister's ghost act has some interesting implications)

^ this goes without saying that I mean their bond in analyzing a fucked up sibling dynamic and not romantically

[abyssalzones]

it's probably been said before (more eloquently no doubt) but I think the concepts of "you should try things outside of your comfort zone, namely pertaining to art and storytelling, before you can really begin to excel at analysis or artistic criticism" and "it's immature highschooler behavior to make fun of people for being passionate about interests that seem childish to you" can coexist in the broader context of conversations about Who Is The Most Correct About 'Media'. without contradicting one another.

[walkingbandtee]

written by me :)

how can I expect anyone to see me, understand me, when they refuse to see the issues that affect me?

background photo found on Pinterest. artist- Scott Ketcham

[ctommyisnt]

Also the transgender subtext in the clockmakers daughter is insane. Her fear of people finding out who she is on the inside even if she feels human. Her father hiding her and her secret because he thinks people will hurt her. Wanting to keep her locked away for her own safety and selfishness. People fearing her and hunting her down upon finding out- completely forgetting their love for her and her never ending love for them.

WILL. BEING LEGALLY FEMALE. AND HAVING A ONE OFF LINE WHERE PEOPLE STILL MOCK HIM FOR IT WHAT THE FUCK

[fandaniel]

i fear that a few people might think fandaniel is my oc or something along those lines. i promise hes a canon character in the mmorpg ffxiv. you will play my mmo my boy

[garashir]

rewatching game of thrones and its crazy they tried to give dany this arc but with sansa in winterfell as if she wasn’t beloved by her people from the start she knows how this goes

[noirsdoll]

I'm honestly fucked up in the head for thinking about it but Reader should honestly abort the baby and divorce Curly while she still has the chance to leave. Let him be with his sex offender bestie while she gains sole custody of their son and move on without him (or hell, if she wants to— she could report Jimmy ass and even fabricate lies about him being creepy around the baby too)

i see where you're coming from, but like, i wish unhappiness on all of them LMAO and i think that's too much of a happy ending... also reader is financially dependent on curly for everything so she cannot leave. and i don't think reader would abort just cuz she really likes children. i think her only redeeming quality is just that she really loves her children and wants the best for them (the #1 reason she's enduring this shitty life)

and like, being a mother has kinda sobered her up from the immaturity she had in part one and two and she's more about playing defense in the dynamic if that makes sense? like she'll still be bitchy and manipulative but abt more trivial things and not things that will change the status quo curly has created by being a bi freak

like reader is more likely to tie their shoelaces together than to sock one of them in the face (while i do think they all deserve that)

also additionally i think some people forget curly is a victim in the situation? he got raped numerous times in the first chapter. but that doesn't excuse him being a shitty dad to his kids (he is very incompetent at anything that isn't like. making money)