#femmes to the front

[lambentgrey]

my controversial (?) but hot take is that gideon has no game because 1) she’s hot and doesn’t need game for women to fawn all over her (see: gtn, “as yet unsent”--which, ew, but my point stands) and 2) up until leaving drearburh in gtn, she had one (1) remotely viable romantic option and they both were too concerned with ruining each other’s lives to look at each other in that light, so she had no practice or experience and then pretty much died before she could gain any

swagless gideon nav rights!

[pocketlessdruid]

Sasodei week day 5: portraits

- "This was a stupid idea, and it's taking you way more time than i expected."

- "Then, why do you agreed to it, hm? Also, stop moving."

@sasodeiweek

[rosebudprincess]

in loving memory of the dress that i tried on but chose not to get… you will forever be missed 😔

[carbone14]

Le Capitaine Erich Hartmann après sa 350e victoire aérienne dans la région de Chrudim – Tchécoslovaquie – Front Est - 17 avril 1945

[notreyev]

hey guys. don't draw juno steel and peter nureyev on your paper placemat at a diner. you're going to have to find a child-friendly way to explain to your baby cousins how juno steel lost his eye

[thegodwhocums]

In the rites of Dionysos during classical times, there were indeed cases where men and women celebrated the god in sexually separated groups and with different kinds of rites. But there were also occasions where the sexes acted together, even in maenadism. In the latter case, male participants were few and apparently always feminine-identified. Originally, in the prehistoric past, maenadism may very well have been an all-woman affair, but by the time of the classical era instances of male participants were not unknown. […] The striking feature about male participation in maenadism is that in order to be acceptable men had to lay aside all signs of male privilege and adopt a feminine persona.

Arthur Evans, "The God of Ecstasy: Sex Roles and the Madness of Dionysos," 1988

[untitledgoosegay]

trans femme/nb dedue

is a headcanon i hold close to my heart

he is at minimum strongly gender-nonconforming -- despite the protective shell (literal; it's made of steel plate and chain) he wears, his key interests are cooking, gardening, and sewing. this is not someone who aspires to be the big manly protector. moreover, he never talks about his relationship with his dad; if his bio page didn't mention that he was a blacksmith we would know nothing about the man. dedue only ever talks about his relationships with his mother and sister, and how that shaped his interests and the way he prefers to connect with people even now -- especially now that it serves as a way to preserve their memories. his mother taught him to cook.

in his ideal life, Dedue gets to stay home and make sure the people he loves can come home to good food and warm clothes and beautiful things ... but that life was severed at the root, right at the time where gender and sexuality start becoming increasingly unavoidable; there will always be the question of who Dedue would have been in that other, peaceful world, and it will never be answered

headcanon -- at fourteen Dedue was just starting to run into the mounting pressure to join his father as a blacksmith, and, correspondingly, running into his instinctive reluctance/resistance to do so. at the time Dedue didn't yet understand why, and couldn't verbalize what was wrong, and his dad is -- was -- even quieter by nature than Dedue, so it remained this unspoken but increasing tension. sooner or later it would have had to break, and they might have had a fight about it or it might have resolved more quietly; Dedue knows -- he thinks he's certain -- that his dad loved him, and that ultimately that would have mattered more than having A Son™ ...

... but he'll never get to know.

maybe in that other world he would have grown into a woman. maybe, with a version of masculinity he didn't find abhorrent, he could still have been a man. maybe he would have settled between, or to the side, or never been asked to define himself in that way at all.

but in the world-that-is, the world of the Tragedy, where he's the last surviving Molinaro and right hand to the crown prince of Faerghus, he's not exactly given time or space to think about his gender. in the aftermath, embedded in the heart of Faerghan power, still very much a grieving, terrified child, his preferred presentation is "whatever's safest," and he's trying his hardest not to have an identity at all. he's submerged in Faerghan masculinity -- in the standards of Faerghan masculinity applied to its nobles -- which is inextricable from Knighthood™ and which prizes violence, and that is absolutely not helping. it's hard to make any concrete statements about the version of masculinity Dedue was raised with, but I think it's safe to say it was very different. and Faerghan manhood is absolutely not something Dedue aspires to.

and that state of affairs holds until the timeskip, where he gets five years to finally reconnect with other Duscur people, other survivors, out of Dimitri's shadow and away from the constant crushing threat of Fódlan's nobility -- five years to reconstruct a sense of safety and a sense of self; to live as part of a community, in (relative) peace; to start thinking about who he wants to be, not just what.

& then ... ?

i think, if you asked him, and if he thought you were worth an honest answer, Dedue would say that he's not sure whether or not he's a man, but he did (does) want to be a wife.

in the world-that-is, rejecting manhood & claiming femininity is a private rejection of the world that assumes of him -- & thereby demands -- masculinity-as-violence, and stoicism, and sacrifice. it puts space between him and the outward-facing self he's constructed; it frees more space for the heart he keeps secret, separate and protected. the part of himself that is safe, and untouchable, and unassailably his own. it's a claim to the softness, warmth, and fragility that Faerghus denies not just him but everyone around him, that it refuses to acknowledge is necessary or absent. it asserts that he is not expendable; his duty is not to inflict and endure violence; he can be beautiful, and precious, and worthy and deserving of protection

i don't think he'd ever be 'out' to more than a handful of people -- his partner(s), his absolute closest friends. Maybe more amongst the people who saved him, but not many. Not so much out of fear or repression -- Dedue is just a private person by nature, which is unfortunate, given that he's found himself in an extremely public position. He prides himself on being a cipher to strangers (check his B-support with Sylvain); he prefers to keep very tight control over who knows anything personal about him, especially given how much of his life is in the public eye. He sure as hell does not want a whole continent's worth of people feeling entitled to an explanation of his gender which most of them won't get anyway. Knowing things about Dedue is a privilege and it is not one he grants lightly.

To whatever extent she's a woman -- i don't think she could define it herself; self-knowledge is not one of Dedue's strong suits -- it's reserved for the few people she feels truly safe with

[abimee]

Midwest Museum has been on my mind especially after watching friends w my mom and talking about how unfunny that show was. it rolls around in my head because i really like the concept of a story where someone lives somewhat like shit but this is a life they enjoy and want and like

i guess the position of the main character, which is ''i grew up in a decent house with a rich family and i was never hit but i was traumatized to hell and back by every second of my childhood'' to ''im a poor adult with a minimum wage job and a shitty apartment and i have an alcohol problem and my friends are sort of sucky people but ive never felt so happy in my life and you CANNOT take this away from me''. and all that comes with it

[nerdyqueerr]

New best part of valentines is seeing all the gay ppl on campus walk around in their little themed outfits

[rosebudprincess]

yeah you like me but will you let me yap to you about my extensive fantasy weapon knowledge and even assign you a weapon based on what i think will best fit your build, physical ability and where i think you’d be positioned in battle order?

[bunnyboy-juice]

i am so disappointed in the amt of ppl who will proudly rb posts saying "butch/femme arent aesthetics" then immediately turn around and go "butch is when masculine, femme is when feminine, if butch do/wear feminine thats not butch, if femme do/wear masculine thats not femme"

[foccaccia]

does anyone have recommendations for fictional media that has like. actual lesbians in it. not like supergirl Two White Skinny Girls, One Blonde and One Brunette Kiss media, or "its implied lesbianism!!!" but just regular fucking lesbians

[hayaomiyazaki]

Czech film poster for A Gentle Woman / Une femme douce (1969) dir. Robert Bresson, released in 1970. Art by Olga Poláčková-Vyleťalová.

[aspaspens]

intro post!!

hi! i'm aspen i use she/her pronouns and shit

sum music i like

kimya dawson

days n daze

AJJ

mischief brew

ramshackle glory

apes of the state

joe billy

the chats

minor threat

bikini kill

le tigre

meth wax

mom jeans.

modern baseball

tfb

car seat headrest

elliott smith

other stuff that isn't music i like!!

D&D video games flannels cowboys making shitty art and music shit i dont like!

police

biggots

rich people

politicians

[carbone14]

Infirmière soviétique - Front de l'Est - 1940's

[thats-a-lot-of-cortisol]

Behind every great warrior woman is another woman who is choosing kindness. For now.