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stevethehairington · 1 year

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do you LOVE stranger things fanart?

do you LOVE gorgeous colors and incredible textures and fantastic lighting?

do you LOVE new and fresh ideas and super creative concepts?

if you answered yes to any (ALL) of the above then you should ABSOLUTELY STOP WHAT YOURE DOING RIGHT NOW AND GO FOLLOW MY BESTIE @artbean for all the beautiful, incredible, wonderful, mindblowing art of all your faves and so much more!!!! ✨️💜✨️💜

#for real tho friends!!!#lex has AMAZING art!!!!#and she is 3 away from 1k!!!#so if u are not already go go go give her THEE most love and smash that follow button #you will not regret it — THAT is a GUARANTEE #👏👏👏#stranger things #lex ✨️🥰#gotta make sure im doing my job as nunber 1 fan and biggest hype man here 👏👏#love you lex 💜💜💜

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andthebeanstalk · 11 months

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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wasyago · 11 months

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the brainrot won

#GUY S i know i haven't posted anything in a while and thats because im working on a big cool project that i really want to finish without-#distractions. but uh. as you can see. ive been distracted 😔. still working on it tho!!!! and im very happy with it turns out its just-#super time and energy consuming so ive tried to limit my intake of other media to not make myself want to draw other stuff #i also haven't read the last two (two already?????) chapters of RnS and im very sad about it and i want to read it but you know that if i-#read it ill want to make fanart and then ill never finish my project :(#SO. sorrey for the lack of art itll be coming when im free to draw!!!!!!!#but also. yes ive watched new life because i dont want to go insane with nothing but this project on my mind and umm. had to take a little-#break to do a couple designs for fun... and to switch it up a bit because for real im going insane i think #ALSO. friend got me into zelda botw and i haven't played a whole lot yet (because project) but ive tried to take some inspiration for-#designs from there. at least for joel and scott. everyone else not so much...#WELL ANYWAYS this is getting long. i should really stop rambling in the tags and just make separate posts for all this but i dont want to #umm. tags.#new life smp #smallishbeans #mythical sausage #geminitay #pearlescentmoon #smajor1995 #inthelittlewood #my art #sketch

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wyvernity · 21 days

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been thinking about the sinnohtrio lately......plus misc other stuff

also, casual ko-fi drop!! get something in this sketchy style starting at $10 woop woop

#finally decided to do a commission test run u_u #pokemon #trainer lyra #trainer kris #trainer dawn #trainer lucas #rival barry #rival silver #ayalumi #hisuian zorua #luxio #timeskip tag #rkgk #anyway it's sinnoh time !!!#still figuring out their designs and lore but this works for now #god's specialest little guys & their very normal bestfriend who they would kill/die for. up to interpretation who is killing/dying #dawn is the platinum protag who meets giratina and becomes champion #distortion world affected her way more than compared to cynthia and cyrus since she's still a developing kid. but hey cool ghost hair!#4-5 yrs later lucas gets blasted to hisui..lost his memory for the three years he's there and when arceus sends him back he's just like Man #the entire time barry is CHILLING PLAYING HAVING FUN #and forever worried abt his friends ): dawn & lucas are soo nonchalant about what happened to them it's a bit concerning to everyone else #design comments umm the only thing that matters is that they still have their og scarves 👍#and i guesss these are spring/summer outfits. winter dawn gets leggings and big coat ok. she already has too much yin energy #btw i use the cleanse tag as the direct opposition to the spell tag even tho that's probably not a real thing LOL)#oh yea barry wears the tower master ribbon 24/7. tower tycoon in training and won't shut up about it (i love him)#character dynamics i will talk abt that in another post if i feel like it... these days i just want to go replay pla aughh

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zeearts · 1 year

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redraw of one of my fav panels, stampede style (now with colours!)! Sorta! I do think due to how Stampede played out vs the manga, Meryl wouldn't be afraid of him, but she'd be afraid for him.

#trigun stampede #trigun #vashmeryl #vash the stampede #meryl stryfe #trimax spoilers #trigun spoilers #the temptation to make him more creature by adding more eyes were real tho #i did one anyway for my friends on the friend discord

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rascal-rose · 8 months

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Asking in advance (plus coming out now since I wasn't certain you'd see my ask)

Was that last post about my "evil peppino as chef saltbaker" ask

congrats! you win! you and everyone and their mother guessed it correctly kgfdgf

I just think its a really neat idea

#pizza tower #peppino spaghetti #evil peppino #pizzahead #tbh it super fits- thanks for the ask this was real fun!#even tho this took way too long fdjbgf #drawing #digital mess #fun fact: I hit my friends with the 'hear me out' with saltbaker once and they immediately started yelling at me dJSDBFGDFG

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khaotunq · 9 months

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Khaotung Thanawat as Ray Pakorn (Only Friends, 2023) OR: most realistic portrayal of "mad in a car and the world's against you"

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jabesa0 · 1 year

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A birthday commission for a friend of mine!

#obey me #obey me shall we date #obm #levi obey me #obey me levithan #leviathan om #originally my friend asked for just a lobster but we ended up with a lobster AND Levi #I like how it turned out tho :p #and I was real quick with it too #had fun with this one

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johnslittlespoon · 19 days

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i've spent my morning going insane over all the new pics hbu

#hands are twitching i'm genuinely tweaking #like are they being fucking real w this one #what am i supposed to do with this #be normal?????#trying to be normal in the caption the tags are for unhinged behaviour #i have not even begun to process all the content #i have so so many thoughts #namely smth my friend and i were discussing that involved table sex but it's fine dw #a new doc IS opened tho #buck x bucky #buckbucky #johnslittlespoon yaps

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chronicbeans · 8 months

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My pal, @bottombrovince, requested I post this to my Tumblr page after I sent it into a groupchat. Blame them.

#Scopophobia Studios #John Doe Game #John Doe #Frost Bite Game #Tate Frost #Tentador Leches #Koolie Sterling #Yandere characters #My IRL friends #Take this terrible meme and go-#Uncanny Valley Series #I simp for objectively terrible men #And I am not ashamed of it.#My friends are scared for me tho-#Thank goodness I only simp for fictional characters #And that I have no interest in real people

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ryllen · 3 months

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I MISSED THE WAY YUU RAISED HER VOICE TBHHH she is very sweet when she does that and gets mad~

#that and yuu has the braincell that makes her realize too quickly that the best way to handle him is not to yell #fbdhshsh THIS IS THE MOST SUGARCOATED COMPLIMENT EVER THO #SWEET FOR RAISING VOICE #OH IF THAT'S THE GAME WE ARE PLAYING SEBEK IS TOTALLY ADORABLE #HE GIVES U DIABETIC EVEN #i know how the first drawing of yuu yelling at sebek is what makes their dynamic attractive to see #but as time goes by u really get used to him and just go yeah yeah #as much as i want to make it interesting i really don't find anymore reason to antagonize him as much as before #this is why pinning phase is the most interesting #and once u get together everything just falls flat #yuu is not really a yeller tbh #it's just sebek really light the fuse when she doesn't really know him yet #she would say her friends in the real world would be surprised to find her yelling at all #but her friends also know she would yell when their situation would direly need her to #it just doesn't happen too often that yuu doesn't even realize it herself

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hopezzy · 1 year

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one of my favorite things about cutie pie is the juxtaposition of how the two pairs of best friends treat each other

kuea and diao are always like: bestie congratulations!!! i love you so much let me give you a kiss my best friend!!! how could i live without you??? lets run off to an island and marry each other instead!!!

and yi and lian are just like: why the fuck are you here, you’re bothering me. did the clown car pop a tire out front?? some of us have fucking jobs you know

#cutie pie the series #cutie pie #cutie pie 2 you #zeenunew #maxnat #tutoryim #liankuea #yidiao #nuersyn #thai bl #thai drama #bl drama #i do wish they were a little less stiff tho sometimes u cant even tell theyre friends #in the books they commiserate with each other a lot more in between teasing and cussing each other out lol #thats real friendship #my posts

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jventureart · 5 months

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i just love them

#cuteness aggression is real #i just want to squish them lovingly #kakagai #gaikaka #kkg #maito gai #might guy #hatake kakashi #kakashi hatake #thanks for looking friends #naruto #nart #jvart #naruto fanart #idk why im suddenly so anxious to post art lmao #but im being brave & posting now :)#ive been holding onto these for like 2 months #i threw in the colored carrying one yesterday tho #and then naturally i fiddled with the other ones lmao

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hedonisticvampyre · 5 months

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I'm not bad at texting back because I have ADHD. I am bad at texting back because I'm a centuries old vampire and technology vexes me. Hope this helps!

#post #vampire #vampirekin #real vampire #funny #adhd #whatever is this anything #true tho i am horrible at texting #sorry to all my friends i love u

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sysig · 4 months

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