#gender!

[pyrusinc]

“Chat... Noir...?” “The one and only.”

a scene from Masks by an_herb and katiekat513. they transed the cat’s gender and have not elaborated on that fact for months, which i respect but unfortunately now i have brainworms and am addicted to the trans adrien agreste | chat noir tag sobbing

[wormsdyke]

gender fluidity but with extremely high viscosity. like it’s liquid but it’s flowing so slow it’s almost imperceptible. absolutely gooey gender

[natroze]

good news: did not get asked by strangers in the wilds of upstate new york why i was a “woman wearing a suit”

bad news: it’s because they thought i was a teenage boy on his way to a graduation party instead of a man approaching 30 on his way to be in a wedding

[chaosisdying]

I'm transing transgenderly rn

[grumblin-gremlin]

Hello my fellow strange peoples, gender still eludes me so let’s laugh at my feeble attempts to understand/describe it, together

-big clump of meat with eyes

-bog witch/witchlike being

-if blue raspberry flavour was a person

-martin

-biblically accurate fuzzy worm on a string

-a crème brûlée which I made by setting fire to my old gender

-a sad, sorry man lying on the floor

-an incredibly gay black hole

Add your own if you want!

(Pls no open judgement I’m still learning)

[littledoggy-girlcollar]

someone ask me about my thoughts on kit’s gender i’m gonna go crazy

[anentitee]

hrt but i slowly become an aberration composed of black poisonous mist

[tailsrevane]

on the one hand i want people to use whatever words help them feel understood, on the other hand every new way we find to tell complete strangers what genitals we had when we were born just feels increasingly dystopian & unnecessary.

this doesn’t mean people who are comfy talking about their surgeries/etc shouldn't talk about them as much as they want btw!!! that shit is important!!! celebrate it!!! i fucking love that i got an orchi, i literally want to get a tattoo of a neutered animal symbol on my thigh to celebrate it. what i think is weird is the like... prevailing expectation that there necessarily should be some mandatory aspect of social identity that informs literally everyone what's in your pants and whether it's always been there. and it feels like it's also there to let people who don't want to acknowledge your authentic, self-professed gender identity what your "real" gender is beneath it.

like, unless you're going to interact with me in a context where i'm naked, it literally does not impact you even slightly what genitals i currently have, and it impacts you EVEN LESS whether they're the same ones i had when i was born.

and like... tagging enbies as like "transmasc" or "transfem" when they've never used those words to describe themselves seems pretty blatantly transphobic? and i've stopped using those terms for myself for the aforementioned reasons and also because... i'm not moving towards either masculinity or femininity? the idea that i'm starting one place & going towards another seems pretty, you know... binary? and i'm *checks notes* nonbinary?

again, use whatever words make you feel comfortable & understood, that matters more than anything else, i'm just bewildered by how much even other queer people try to shove nonbinary people back into the gender binary, and again, even if you aren't nonbinary, hell even if you're cisgender, people feeling entitled to know what genitals you have and whether or not they're factory issued is fucking creepy? please tell me this is making sense.

[greenteacology]

I recently discovered a dining hall/cafe on campus that has an all-gender bathroom and I love it so much. Everyone just uses it normally like, no one cares! It’s such casual inclusivity. Plus it’s one of the restrooms that can be reliably expected to be pretty clean.

[my-midlife-crisis]

[jerrycummblr]

It's really simple. If you're born with a vagina and you naturally have elevated testosterone levels, you're a man. If you have a vagina and you take testosterone, you're a woman. But also if you have a vagina, you'll never be a man. But also if you have higher testosterone then you were never a woman. Woman never yes man a vagina testosterone no was an elevated. Vagina man.

[wormsdyke]

i’ve been trying to figure out how to phrase this for a long time but i think the way i’d describe my gender depends a lot on how chill i am with the person who’s asking and the levels go something like this

1. if i am very chill with them, frequently including other queer genderfuck people

nunya

(mafia voice) faghettaboutit

huh? wuh?

nah

2. if i’m so-so with the person or just don’t really want to talk about it

(softly) don’t dot jpeg

look over there! <- distraction while i run away

who’s asking 🤨

3. if i’m really not messing with the person, they’re being weird about it, or i’m in a particularly bad mood

with all due respect fuck off who the fuck do you think you are asking me something like that. might as well ask me for my social security number while you’re at it. don’t fucking touch me. motherfucker

what are you, a cop?

curb stomp

[wynsvre]

hi this is a comic about me please be nice

[canonkiller]

I just think everyone should take a moment to consider the question "what is your visual shorthand for cruelty?" and then follow it up with a critical "and who taught you that?"

specific examples include but are not limited to

why is an evil timeline character design disabled? (why do the heroes go through equally punishing battles and never lose an arm, a leg, an eye?)

why are the futuristic scifi terrorists uniformly darker skinned? (why are the heroes so much lighter?)

why is the greedy boss fat? (why are the heroes skinny?)

why is the criminal mastermind heavily scarred? (why is the brooding, traumatized hero unscathed?)

why is the predatory creep a bearded person in a dress and makeup? (why are none of the heroes trans women?)

who taught you that this is how things are?

how long do you plan on repeating it?

[mangedog]

this is a way better model... you'll still get transphobic & intersexist drs of course but i prefer this to male / female or even having separate questions for gender & sex.

[we can't see the full form, but i'd suggest having a "something else" option and dominant hormone question too.]

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